Questions about size and hair.
Q. Hey, I was wondering if a larger penis was more visually appealing. Does it turn girls on more than a normal sized penis? How about pubic hair, do most girls prefer completely shaved or trimmed? Thanks....
A. 14 May 2011: Well size isn't all that matters but it is important. An average to slightly above average is my ideal size. So about 5-7 inches when hard for me. But I'm not more turned on by size, it can just be a deal breaker if it's too small or too big. As for... (read in full...)
Should I ask my wife if she would like to watch porn together to spice up our sex life?
Q. I have been reading this site and a lot of women seem to question why their husbands like to look at porn or even disapprove of it completely. I think I understand that. It makes you feel inadequate and like he's cheating on you. However, d...
A. 13 May 2011: I don't think it's a bad idea to ask her how she would feel about watching porn together, but it something that could turn into an argument. My first suggestion is to read the askmen article the first poster suggested. It looked pretty helpful from ... (read in full...)
I came home and found my hubby had been going on porn sites, now he says I'm over reacting! Am I??
Q. I came home from vacation and found out my husband was going to porn sites. That didn't bother me as much as him going on live camera sites and was able to chat with these woman. He thinks I am over reacting. I feel so cheated on. I know porn is ...
A. 13 May 2011: First of all, do you know for sure he has been doing the live chat? I thought at one point that my man was doing that, but once I went on the sites and found my own entertainment from it, I noticed that there are a zillion pop ups for live chat. It ... (read in full...)
He seems to be hiding something.........
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years now and for about the last year hes been very secretive about his phone. He never used to care if I messed around with his phone but now all of a sudden he does. I have questioned him about it a few ...
A. 9 May 2011: I would be a bit suspicious as well, but it could be something completely innocent. Did he recently get a phone with internet access? Is your sex life what it used to be? He may be just looking at porn before his shower because he wants a quick ... (read in full...)
How do you prove your serious in a relationship?
Q. How do you prove your serious in a relationship?...
A. 26 April 2011: First of all, why do you need to prove you are serious. Like janniepeg said, this comes into play when there is no trust in a relationship. If your girl is wanting you to prove you are serious there is a chance you will always have to prove it. If ... (read in full...)
G/f gives me bj's just to make me happy
Q. Hello, i have half a problem. Basically my girlfriend didn't give bj's much because she didnt like them. I wanted to boost this number so i read tips on how to make your girlfriend feel more good about giving bj's, and not pressuring her and stuff. ...
A. 22 April 2011: I do agree that women tend to like giving head more when they love you and they get their own pleasure in return. Honestly, I don't like giving head but I love that my fiance gets so much pleasure out of it. He knows I generally don't enjoy it so it ... (read in full...)
Ladies can you tell me why you hate porn or why you think other women hate it?
Q. Why do women hate porn so much? I agree that when it becomes an addiction, their is a problem. However why, when a guy watches porn only occasionally, and has sex at least once every 2 days? I mean, it's not an addiction but only to spend time. ...
A. 19 April 2011: I have been in the shoes of a woman who hated the fact that her man looked at porn. And the main reason there were fights between me and my man was because he never tried to see it from my perspective. He offered to stop looking at it for me, but I ... (read in full...)
Are men aware of what porn does to their sex drive?
Q. With all this so easy to reach pornstuff these days and especially men of all age groups spending lots of time on pornsites, I wonder what happens to their sex drive and joy of having sex with there partners. It makes me sad to read from so many ...
A. 13 April 2011: I agree with Cerberus. It's your husband being inconsiderate and selfish not the porn. If he had masturbated to a naughty video you made for him would you still be upset if he had no desire for sex that day?
And not all men have the problem of a lo... (read in full...)
What do the men look for in a woman? Do they only want sex?
Q. Question for guys Its a pretty simple one but you see i am finding it hard to find a guy who wants me for me . Only want me for sex really im not nasty at all or ugly... Broad question for you all What do guys look for in a woman ?...
A. 13 April 2011: I'm not a guy but I went through the same thing at your age. I do agree with previous posters and believe men do think of sex when they first meet a woman. But I also believe that the type of guys you associate with and how you act around them can ... (read in full...)
Why is Hardcore Porn so popular and why do people defend it so fiercely?
Q. Why do men get off on watching women being so obviously humiliated and abused in hardcore porn? For whatever reason the women are made to look as if they are being violated and taken violently for pleasure purposes of those watching.... I just re...
A. 8 April 2011: Person12345, I can see your point of view, but at the same time, I still don't trust all the research. I still liken it to the therapist telling someone they are an alcoholic if they have x amount of drinks per week. I understand you can be MORE ... (read in full...)
Wife doesn't let me cum on her face. Isn't that something almost all girls do?
Q. My wife won't let me cum on her face, ever! As far as I know, almost all girls let their guys cum on their faces, and enjoy it too! but not mine. This really sucks, I feel really unwanted, how do I make her do it?...
A. 7 April 2011: Your thinking of the girls in porn. They get paid to like. Your wife, like most women, do not love when their men cum on their faces. I personally would slap my man if he ever did that to me. My back, leg, stomach all fine but no face.... (read in full...)
Why is Hardcore Porn so popular and why do people defend it so fiercely?
Q. Why do men get off on watching women being so obviously humiliated and abused in hardcore porn? For whatever reason the women are made to look as if they are being violated and taken violently for pleasure purposes of those watching.... I just re...
A. 7 April 2011: I couldn't even finish reading all these posts without getting upset that so many people hide behind research. These studies that"prove" porn is so degrading on women are done by the same type of people who say more than 2 drinks a week for women ... (read in full...)
Found womanly things under his sink, I stormed out and now he won't talk to me.
Q. Why is this guy ignoring me!??? Ok, I have this guy friend who I have been just seeing for 5 years. A couple of days ago, I found a lot of womenly things underneath his bathroom sink. I questioned him about it and asked if he had a girl living w...
A. 7 April 2011: Ok, let me get this straight. You are just seeing this guy, you can date other people and you get mad at him because he might be doing just that? That's why he's mad at you and won't talk to you. You have been his fwb for five years and now you're ... (read in full...)
How pornographic material affects relationships
Q. I want to weigh in on the debate that keeps coming up. My partner used to want me to imagine other girls during sex and I was never comfortable with this. In the end I agreed to try it out to help please her. I was always thinking of her though. I...
A. 1 April 2011: I think you need to talk to her about this and question her on why it is ok for you to imagine other women during sex but it's not ok for you to have a couple of pictures of scantily dressed women. And, be nice about it though. As dirtball brought ... (read in full...)
I keep falling out of love. Is this a pattern, or just a coincidence?
Q. So me and my partner seem to by losing our spark, i hardly feel attracted to him anymore but i'm seeing a trend appearing. My first love i started to feel the spark had gone but found out he had cheated so we broke up. My 2nd serious relationsh...
A. 1 April 2011: I don't know if this is a problem or not, but I have been through it as well. When I was around your age, I couldn't last in a relationship more than 6 months without getting sick of the man. After a while, I just stopped dating. When I asked my mom ... (read in full...)
I get turned on too easily and sometimes say things I don't mean to men
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a question... It's kind of an awkward question, so I'll just get to the chase. Since I am maturing both mentally and bodily, I have also been experiencing sexuality. Yes, I'm still a virgin and so on, but I feel I get turned o...
A. 1 April 2011: It's normal, but as bernard said, you do need to watch what you say. Many men your age will take certain comments as a come on and think you are trying for something. If you do something you may labeled as a slut and if you don't do something you ... (read in full...)
I'm witholding sex from him to show him how angry I am about our sex life and him watching porn!
Q. Hello Well, I'm going to admit this on DC because I don't think I can say it out loud. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. He looks at porn pretty much every time I leave the house. I know because the history on his computer is alwa...
A. 30 March 2011: I agree with Battista and dirtball. Communication is going to help this problem. You also need to determine if you even ok with porn at all. If not, like Battista said, you may have to leave this man.
But, holding out, and other games many wome... (read in full...)
My boyfriend masturbates while I'm sleeping!
Q. Recently i have been waking up to my boyfriend masturbating beside me in bed, he obviously thinks im asleep, and if i move he quickly stops and waits, checks to see if im still sleeping then carries on, and at the end im not sure if he is completely ...
A. 30 March 2011: I agree with strontiumdog. Talk to him about it but don't be judgmental. I know it hurts to feel your boyfriend would rather masturbate than have sex with you, but that may not be the case...well, sort of in a way. Sometimes [people] just want to be ... (read in full...)
12 year old looking at porn?
Q. my 12 yeras son is looking on porn on his computer its that normal...
A. 25 March 2011: It's very normal for a kid his age to become more curious about sex. If you guys have an open relationship, I would try talking to him about it. Not too much though. Just let him know that porn does not depict sex as it truly is. Most of the women ... (read in full...)
I am a masturbation addict!
Q. About 2 years ago i was in a very good relationship which lasted 9 months. In that relationship, the sex was absolutely unbelieveable. We could please each other any time, all the time. But when we split up i wasnt having sex so, for the first ti...
A. 25 March 2011: Ok, this is a tricky question because there could many reasons why you find porn more pleasurable over sex. First of all, many times when men masturbate, they give most of there attention to the head. And, as we all know, that is one of the most... (read in full...)
Caught g/f cheating twice and now am having trouble keeping an erection
Q. Age: 43 Sex: Male Race: Black About three ,months ago i started a new relationship, everything was grate, we were having sex twice daily, for the first two months, we were attracted to each other so much that whenever we a alone, we could not sto...
A. 25 March 2011: I could not agree more with Dirtball. You deserve better.... (read in full...)
Should I be angry at my boyfriend for sharing his fantasy??
Q. Last night while I was in bed with my boyfriend making love, he asked me if I had any fantasies lately. I said no but asked him if he did. Earlier on ITR I introduced a little kinkiness to our sex life by talking about fantasies together to turn ...
A. 25 March 2011: You should not be mad at him. You asked about his fantasies and he felt comfortable enough to tell you one of them. I can honestly say not all of my fantasies involve my fiance. And it's ok because they are just fantasies, it's nothing I would act ... (read in full...)
I feel my partner is hiding something from me...
Q. My partner and i have had many breaks but feel he is hiding something from me, last yr we had a split for a few months and he went on fb (which he never does usually) someone told me that they had seen other females on his friends list and told me ...
A. 25 March 2011: I agree with GeeGee, if you were on a break it shouldn't matter what he did unless there were specific ground rules determined beforehand. It's like past relationships, they don't matter anymore they are done and over with.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stopped talking to me and a girl answers his phone every time I call!
Q. Hi aunts! So I need some advice on what to do in this situation. Me and my boyfriend of 2 months broke up 2 days ago. He was at a party and I was going out to. Well I called him and was asking who was ther and stuff nothing mean though. And he said ...
A. 25 March 2011: Yes, you are correct in assuming the relationship is over. He clearly does not want to be with you anymore. But, it is for the best because he is an a**hole. Any man that treats his gf that way is a jerk. Unfortunately, you were dating one of those ... (read in full...)
Too available for my girlfriend? or She's too clingy?
Q. My girlfriend expects to talk for hours every single day. I've run out of things to talk about and uses that against me. We only see each other about 4-5 days a month on weekends due to the fact she works in another city. I'm not in school right now ...
A. 23 March 2011: "Is it wrong of me to have nothing to talk about besides how was our day?" No, there is nothing wrong with that. When you talk to a person so often, you can run out of things to talk about. "Am I a bad person to not want to talk to my girlfriend... (read in full...)
Why are people so judgmental?
Q. Why are people so judgemental? On here there are a lot of aunts and uncles, who seem to think that because a young questioner asks a question about love and relationships, they need to discourage this young person from being grown up and thInking ...
A. 22 March 2011: Honestly, I don't think a lot of the agony aunts are judging. Like Caring Guy said, you can't answer a question the same way for a 16 yr old and 30 yr old. Take Jmtmj's example about pregnancy. A 16/17 year old who gets pregnant is more likely to ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend spreading sexual rumers about me.
Q. I've recently dumped my Ex boyfriend. I was with him for 3 months and come to relise he's a bit of a bully and that something I don't want. He's been spreading rumers that he's fin*gered me. Everyone is pretty shocked and a lot of people have lost ...
A. 22 March 2011: I like CaringGuy's first idea. But, I would confront your ex first. Ask him to stop spreading rumors. If he continues, tell people about his "rash and the puss". I know it seems childish, but if you can't beat em join em!... (read in full...)
I don't think I can fulfill what my girlfriend wants from me!
Q. My girlfriend said that I am selfish and a heartless person, because I don’t think about her first. She began to list all things that caused her to be upset. 1. Week 1: Saturday to Friday - I go to work full time from 8 to 5pm and take one class o...
A. 22 March 2011: Ok, you said this is a first relationship for both of you so consider this a learning experience. You DO have a drama queen and you ARE way too good for her. She may be naive when it comes to relationships, so maybe she doesn't know she is doing ... (read in full...)
Is role playing common among couples?
Q. We have been married for 8 years now. For past few years and more so in recent 1-2 years, whenever we have sex, we role play and act like different individuals, everytime we have sex , we play different roles. Sometimes I think is it because he ...
A. 14 March 2011: First of all, you have been married for 8 years. So add that to however long before then you started having sex. Even after 3 or 4 years you need to keep things interesting and spice it up. So at 8+ years, yeah, role playing is a good thing. I don't ... (read in full...)
Condom before or after foreplay?
Q. Just a quick question: when engaging with your partner, should men put a condom on before foreplay or after? ...
A. 14 March 2011: It depends on what you are doing as foreplay. Just remember, any amount of semen (pre-cum or not) can get a women pregnant. All you have to do is be close enough to her vagina and they can get in there. I would say if you are doing oral or mutual ... (read in full...)
Is great sex a "must have" in a potential husband?
Q. I've noticed many posts on dearcupid by men suffering from retroactive jealousy. One aspect of it that bothers me is insecurity with respect to whether or not the sex is as good with me as it was with prior men. She's made comments at time...
A. 14 March 2011: First things first, sex is not going to be great all the time. Your girlfriend could have been with other men that were great in bed a few times and the other times were nothing to talk about. I think, in general, if you are satisfying her the ... (read in full...)
If you have sex, how do you feel, if you cannot make her finish?
Q. If you're a guy, how does it make you feel if you cannot make her finish during sex? ...
A. 11 March 2011: I agree with C. Grant, but also want to add that Tisha-1 has good hard facts. There are many women who have a hard time reaching an orgasm during intercourse, and if they do, it is there job to tell their man so he can help her in any way he can.
S... (read in full...)
Do you think doggy style is romantic?
Q. honestly ,do you think doggy style is romantic or it`s just for fun ,animalistic passion . would you have doggy style with a woman that you`re in deep love with ,if she `s the sweet n nice type ,if not which position would u choose ? think u g...
A. 11 March 2011: Generally, doggy style isn't romantic. To me, that position is more about the "fun, animalistic" side of the relationship. I do have to say, it is fun when both people are facing a set of mirrors!
If that is all a man wants though, then he is more... (read in full...)
Is what I've seen in porn true?
Q. Hi, Aunts there i have a question in my mind, it may sound silly, but still i just want to know the opinion from different people. I've heard that the intercourse can last for more than half an our before men cum. is that true? i mean, don’t...
A. 10 March 2011: Yes, men can last that long. But they can also blow their load within minutes. Porn isn't usually shot in one take, sometimes it's 5 or more times with blowjobs in between to keep the man hard. And the finish isn't always truly at the end. Maybe he ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to marry me because I never let him win??
Q. I'm in shock and lost for words right now. My boyfriend/fiance of about 6 years off and on finally told me last night that the reason he has been so hesitant on marrying me is because he has worked his whole life on his business, and if he ever got ...
A. 10 March 2011: If he doesn't want to sign a prenuptial but is afraid of divorce and losing his money, I think he may be lying. I'm not saying he would be lying to hurt you, but maybe he's more afraid of commitment. I would discuss this with him and see exactly why ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants us to stay in different rooms for a month!
Q. my girlfriend turned round to me as i was about to get into bed last night and said she wanted us to stay in different rooms and not have sex for a month so she can work herself out and that it wont be a problem if i love her. Someone tell me how i ...
A. 10 March 2011: I agree with dirtball. You need to discuss this with her. If it a relationship issue, you need to work it out now before it escalates and she completely withdraws from you.... (read in full...)
Its been 2 years since it happened, but my husband talks like my affair happened just yesterday
Q. I was transfered 2 work from a different twon for 6months leaving my husband i got involved with a man whom we even had sex, my husband got 2 find out everthng.its being 2yearz bt he talks lyk it jst happend,i hav no say n the house now its 2much ...
A. 10 March 2011: You cheated. It's that simple. He is obviously the type who cannot forgive or forget that happened. And honestly, he has every right to remind you of it. You decided your marriage was worth losing when you slept with the other man. Look at it from ... (read in full...)
I cant sleep with my boyfriend's snoring!
Q. Hey readers, I don't know what to do - whenever I spend the night with my bf, his snoring and loud breathing keeps me awake so I can't get to sleep til, like, 5am! I don't know what to do about it. We've been together 6 months, and he knows he ...
A. 10 March 2011: My fiance snores and smacks his lips in his sleep at least 2 nights a week. He does it more when he's tired, sick, or drunk. I use earplugs and those work great. I have a little trinket box on the night stand where I put them so there is easy access ... (read in full...)
How do I get my model girlfriend to listen to me?
Q. hey everyone, my girlfriend is a model and shes doin nightwear stuff like dresses for party and stuff like that. and sometimes she has to do photos with guys. im a model too but i hate it when my gf is doing stuff with other male models. i only do ...
A. 4 March 2011: You seem to either be insecure in yourself or have trust issues with your gf. Whichever it is, you need to work on overcoming it. If you don't, you stand a possibility of her leaving you.... (read in full...)
Just out of curiousity....
Q. Can a woman who had a full blown hysterectomy, orgasm? She had the misfortune in her mid 30s. She's now in her early 50s and I'm not sure if she can or she can't. ...
A. 4 March 2011: Yes, she can. First of all, the two first responses are right and wrong depending on the woman. When a woman has an orgasm, the uterus and cervix play a part in it. If she has neither, there may be problems. If her nerves were damaged in the ... (read in full...)
I cheated, how can I get him to want me again?
Q. My question is based on me cheating on my husband. Well didn't have sex but went and stayed with another man and he believes I didn't sleep with guy but says I wanted comfort from another man. Is there anyway to make him want me again? It's been ...
A. 4 March 2011: Ok, first things first. Men are different than women in many ways, and this is one of them. Most men would be more upset if their woman fell in love with another man than if it was just sex. I'm not saying they wouldn't care about the sex, it's just ... (read in full...)
| *harliesdevil73's friends
These are mutual friends, so *harliesdevil73 has
added them and they have added *harliesdevil73!
|
