I cheated, how can I get him to want me again?
Q. My question is based on me cheating on my husband. Well didn't have sex but went and stayed with another man and he believes I didn't sleep with guy but says I wanted comfort from another man. Is there anyway to make him want me again? It's been ...
A. 4 March 2011: Ok, first things first. Men are different than women in many ways, and this is one of them. Most men would be more upset if their woman fell in love with another man than if it was just sex. I'm not saying they wouldn't care about the sex, it's just ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to say he does not want to hangout with his girlfriend cause he wants "me time"?
Q. Is it normal for a guy to say he does not want to hangout with his girlfriend cause he wants "me time"? I would think its okay but I guess I just wanted to question it just to make sure I feel okay about him not wanting to spend time today.Well ...
A. 4 March 2011: Like Chigirl said, everyone needs some me-time now and then. I am a person who needs it more than others. I live with my fiance and we work different hours, so when we take a long weekend off of work together, sometimes I need to take a few hours ... (read in full...)
Female input needed!
Q. For women only. How would you feel if a guy that you are interested in had 9 inch long penis?...
A. 3 March 2011: I would pass on that. Too long for me. Some women like them long though, so don't fret too much.... (read in full...)
Ejaculation places of interest.
Q. Ejaculation Places of Interest What does it typically mean when: men have a fantasy about cuming on a woman's breasts? Why does my husband suddenly express this same fantasy? After one year of marriage do I have reason for concern? ...
A. 2 March 2011: It's done in porn a lot. Usually a man cums on the women in some sort of way and she smiles like it's the best thing in the world. He may just want to try it and see what it is like. Some men like the idea of it, and once they do it grosses them ... (read in full...)
What do women think of a 28 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend?
Q. Hey i was just wondering what girls think of a 28 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend (yes, a virgin aswell), do you consider it pathetic? I dunno im a sweet guy, i'd dare say attractive, im just a lil shy, i guess it's true what they say: ...
A. 2 March 2011: I don't know what you have for singles clubs in your country, but over here we have something called Events and Adventures (for sure in Minnesota at least). It's a club for singles to go out and do things with a group of other singles. From what I ... (read in full...)
Fake Profile...
Q. Hello all.. Last week, I had went against better judgement and "tested" my boyfriend with a fake profile. (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-fell-for-the-the-fake-profile.html) Although he did message back and forth a bit, he didn't...
A. 24 February 2011: *Sigh* This is why LDRs have a hard time working. One person gets suspicious of the the other, with or without real reasons why, and tries to find out if they are cheating. You obviously have trust issues with him if you re testing him. I'm not ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if boyfriend is watching porn?
Q. Other than the history, how can you find out if porn is being viewed on the internet? or webcams being viewed? boyfriend vows that he hasn't been watching it anymore, but how can I be sure? He lives with me and uses my computers, I have thought ...
A. 19 February 2011: A lot of men will say they don't watch porn when they really do, whether or not you say your're ok with it. So, there is no way you can prove if he watched it before you moved in together. As I said before, if you are not ok with it leave him. Find ... (read in full...)
I get turned on by different types of porn?
Q. Hey guys, basically i am concerned about my mental health as recently i have been thinking about all the porn i have viewed in my lifetime im 19 and started watching it when i was 13, basically i have gone through a variety of it some of which is ...
A. 18 February 2011: You're attracted to the violent/rape videos for the same reason some women have the rape fantasy, that's just what gets you off. Not all people will find this acceptable so don't flaunt it, but don't be ashamed either. ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if boyfriend is watching porn?
Q. Other than the history, how can you find out if porn is being viewed on the internet? or webcams being viewed? boyfriend vows that he hasn't been watching it anymore, but how can I be sure? He lives with me and uses my computers, I have thought ...
A. 18 February 2011: It sounds like you have made a life decision about not viewing porn anymore. If you have made this decision and asked him not to look at it, it seems to me that you would like him to follow your decision. If my assumption if correct, you need to ... (read in full...)
So...does size really matter? Let's put it to rest.
Q. A good friend of mine let’s call him S is going through a very tough, emasculating time. A girlfriend of his made comments to her friends, stating that while she really enjoyed being with him, and that he was a great guy both emotionally and ...
A. 17 February 2011: Yes, size does matter to an extent. Average or close to it is great. By the way, I say average is 6 inches and I don't know the exact inches for girth, I go by how my fingers overlap when I hold it when it's hard. If they overlap a little, that's ... (read in full...)
He's looking at porn every day, and defensive about it
Q. My boyfriend and I had a huge fight last night about porn. I dont mind he viewing porn but I saw he was viewing porn on everyday basis on his computer. I asked him why does he like porn and he told me , he doesnt know himself. He actually told me ...
A. 11 February 2011: Yes, I did read your post correctly. I understand you admit that at first it didn't bother and now it does. But here's where I see you having the problem (and I'm not saying he doesn't have a problem by looking at it just to look at it, but I think ... (read in full...)
He's looking at porn every day, and defensive about it
Q. My boyfriend and I had a huge fight last night about porn. I dont mind he viewing porn but I saw he was viewing porn on everyday basis on his computer. I asked him why does he like porn and he told me , he doesnt know himself. He actually told me ...
A. 10 February 2011: I agree with two of the previously posted answers. Like miamine, I also think you need to update your post since you obviously have a problem with porn. You say you are ok with it yet you look at his internet history. Even if he leaves these so ... (read in full...)
The what's and why's of watching Porn!
Q. Hi I just need some advice from Women and Men I have been with partner for 10 years we have four children he is 27 and I'm 32!! We have sex every day almost!! We recently got wireless devices which he watches Porn on ok so here goes the questio...
A. 9 February 2011: You are not the only woman to feel this way. As Dirtball said, go to the porn tab. You will see so many discussion about it and most of the same answers from guys: it has nothing to do with you, it's the act they focus on, it's a selfish thing they ... (read in full...)
I did something bad but I found out my girlfriend is cheating on me
Q. I suspected my girlfriend of cheating on me with her ex so I made a fake facebook and added him. I found out that she is cheating on me with him but I feel bad for doing something weird like this. What should I do? I don't know this guy and none of ...
A. 9 February 2011: Well, you should definitely break it off with her. She cheated on you and that is wrong no matter what you did to find out. If she asks how you know you can admit to her how you found out if you want, but I don't think it is something you HAVE to ... (read in full...)
Am I being played by an older man?
Q. Im 19 and I have being seeing someone for the last 3 months. He is 26 and has a really good job and is always busy with work. We live really close to each other like a 5min walk. We met over a social network site, although we live close I didnt know ...
A. 8 February 2011: He's a player. He probably wants to feel the thrill of winning over a girl. Unfortunately, a lot of younger girls are naive when it comes to relationships and older men sometimes take advantage of that. I was played when I was your age, and it hurts ... (read in full...)
Once a regular porn user, always a regular porn user?
Q. I am worried that my boyfriend is lying to me about his use of porn. When we first met we were open about discussing it and I asked to see his collection. It was huge. I was shocked at the amount he had but understood as he had been single for a ...
A. 8 February 2011: Honestly, I wouldn't move in with a guy if I felt the way you are feeling. But, it doesn't mean he will ALWAYS look at porn. There is a chance he will stop, but you need to explain to him that you will not accept his porn use. You also need to tell ... (read in full...)
Sex drive issues, it's all going downhill!
Q. Im 21 and my spouse is 30. we've been together for almost 4 years now. the problem with us is sex. I want it all the time and cant get enough of it and well, he hardly ever wants it. when we first started dating, we had sex a lot, every chance we ...
A. 4 February 2011: First of all, you need to express these issues with him again. Don't let him turn it into an argument. If he starts to yell or seems to be getting p-d off, ask him why. Tell him you feel that he desires you less now and it makes you feel ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure with my b/f about swinger emails, porn ...
Q. Hi.. I have seen on the search history that my boyfriend stays viewing porn. At first it didn't bother, but now he sees it everyday. I also saw he was getting emails from a swingers club but it was dated several months after we started dating.. he ...
A. 4 February 2011: You have to first decide whether or not you are going to learn to deal with the porn or not. If you decide you don't want him to look at it, then you need to dump him. Most men who say they will stop looking at it will lie about and still use it. ... (read in full...)
I feel so much guilt for doing this!
Q. I have a gf but we haven't had sex in a while she is out of town ... I miss it and sometimes i watch porn and porn videos of gays come out .... so today there is someone that i didnt know and we were talking on the internet and he asked me if i wa...
A. 4 February 2011: You need to tell her. You cheated on her. She may or may not leave you over this. Be honest with her and tell her that you feel guilty. Tell her why you did it, whether it was experimentation or not. And, from now on, stick to porn videos when ... (read in full...)
I want to abstain from sex until I meet someone special, will this mean my vagina will get tighter?
Q. So im 19 years old and in my whole life I had sex 4 times with 4 guys. Ive just want to be with somebody that I could could make love with a special person. But now I want to abstain from sex until im a serious relation or until i finish college ( ...
A. 4 February 2011: It makes very little difference unless you don't have sex for years. I went almost 15 months and it felt close to the first time for me, but I also do kegel exercises on a regular basis. Those help tighten the muscles in that area if you do them ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my cheating husband?
Q. I just found out my husband left my 3 children and I to go out with his friends in a far away town(2-3 hrs away),pick up some girls at a bar, go back to there place and slept with one of them. I had called him the same night and he was trying to ...
A. 4 February 2011: CaringGuy and Dr Cal have wrote it perfectly. He cheated, you heard it, he lied, you found out, he lied again, and then he blamed it on you. Scumbag is right. Don't go back to him. You deserve so much better and hopefully you will get it someday.... (read in full...)
Should I be ok with my girlfriend sleeping in another guy's bed?
Q. My girlfriend went to a sleepover with her guy friend, since he supposedly dosent have a guest room, she has to sleep on the same bed as him, should I be fine with that?...
A. 4 February 2011: OK, you need to elaborate. What were the circumstances as to why she was sleeping in his bed? Where was the sleepover, his house? Is he straight? Does he have a gf? More information is needed to fully understand the situation. ... (read in full...)
I want to move onto the next stage with my boyfriend, how should I let him know?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I love him so much and I know he's someone I'll be with for a very long time. He does everything for me and I really would be lost without him. However, lately I feel that I want to go onto the next...
A. 4 February 2011: Just ask him how he feels about moving in together. Tell him that you love him and would like to be with him more. You can't just give hints and hope he will catch on, that never works. If he gets a little uneasy and expresses concern, hear him out. ... (read in full...)
I don't want girls to run away because my pubic hair is all over the place?
Q. ok im quite embarrassed abart this but my pubic hair is really long around my genitals and on my bottom. every time i look down there or see my bottom in a mirror it looks very messy and horrible to look at. i don't want to get rid of it all i ...
A. 2 February 2011: Just get an electric trimmer with variable lengths. My fiance uses that when he trims down there. I use one myself and find it works great. Start off with the longest length and work your way shorter until you think it is a decent looking trim. And ... (read in full...)
Does ejaculation volume influence the effectiveness of the pill?
Q. Maybe I'm thinking too much into this, but does ejaculation volume influence the effectiveness of the pill at all? My girlfriend and I did it the day after her period ended, and it was a longer, more intense session that had an abnormally large...
A. 2 February 2011: Any amount of your semen will be blocked just the same by your girlfriend's birth control. Just be careful about when you two have sex around her period. Make sure she is back on the pill before stopping other methods. The pill is only effective ... (read in full...)
What is the normal amount of weight to gain during your period?
Q. this may sound silly to some of you out there, but im wondering how much is normal to gain during your period. ive never actually weighed myself this time of the month, but a few weeks ago i noticed i had gained 5 pounds. i was a little shocked and ...
A. 2 February 2011: It is completely normal to gain weight during your period. Your body bloats during your period. The amount will vary depending on your body, some gain only a couple while others gain 10+. I gain anywhere from 5-10 lbs during my period. It depends on ... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself from gagging?
Q. Alright so I'm 18, my boyfriend is 20 and we have been dating for just over a year and a half. I have given him my virginity and he has given me his. I absolutely love having sex with him. We don't do it too often but when we do, it's so perfect. He ...
A. 2 February 2011: Honestly, a lot of women don't enjoy oral. It's something they do becasue they love their man and want to please him. And you can't give up after only one try. I used to hate it, but have learned to enjoy it within the past few years. Here are some... (read in full...)
WHY does he want anal???
Q. dear readers, recently by BF has taken to asking me to have anal sex, but i really dont know what to do here? i dont really want to, but at the same time i am a bit curious. i want to know does it really hurt? does it feel better for him? is ...
A. 1 February 2011: It's your body, only you can make the decisions. I have tried it twice. Once to see what it was like, and I did not like it. And again a few years later to see if I would still dislike it, and I will never do it again. For me it didn't hurt all that ... (read in full...)
The constant worrying is driving me insane!
Q. dear readers my boyfriend and i started having sex about 6 months ago and he uses a condom every time, but the thing is im always very concerned that it will break! he doesnt seem to feel the worry i do and probably thinks im being rediculous...
A. 1 February 2011: First of all, condoms are 99.9% effective, the same as the pill. And condoms don't break all that much, they are tested for their durability. Like the other suggestions, you could get the IUD or female condom. You could also add spermicide with the ... (read in full...)
What can I say to him via text to turn him on???
Q. So me and my boyfriend just started sending dirty text messages and I don't know what to say to turn him on and I don't want to sound stupid. So Can you please help? ...
A. 1 February 2011: Dirtball is right. You are a minor and there can be consequences to these actions. Why don't you just try dirty talk when your with him. If he asks why you won't send dirty text messages, just say you want him to hear how turned on you are by ... (read in full...)
Is this pain normal?
Q. Any time my boyfriend fingers me I feel pain; I am a virgin. And after the act I get this burning sensation and it lasts for about 3 days. I want to know if this is normal?...
A. 29 January 2011: Very normal. Your hymen hasn't been broke yet, so he may be hitting that and causing pain. Also, if you are not used to having something inside your vagina, it will need time to get used to being played with. When it is new to you, your muscles may ... (read in full...)
What would be the best position for a virgin to use?
Q. me and my girlfriend are exited to have sex but im still a virgin what would be the best sex position for a virgin to use?...
A. 29 January 2011: First of all, is she a virgin too? If so, I would recommend missionary at first and if she doesn't feel much pain or gets over it quickly, move on to another position and if it hurts her go back to missionary. If it is her first time, it may take a ... (read in full...)
The pain during periods is so intense I feel like I am dying, and to top things off I saw my ex boyfriend with another girl...!
Q. I have tried everything - pain killers, hot water bottle, chocolate, etc. Nothing works! My doctor said that my uterus lining sheds too many nerves, and that's why I get so much pain. Well, I am fed up with it. I'm 17 years old and the last thi...
A. 29 January 2011: Try birth control pills. I don't get as bad of pain as you, but it does get bad. I'd say yours is about a 9 1/2 and mine is more like a 7. On the pill, it is down to a 2 the majority of the time, and 3 every once in a while. I will only go off the ... (read in full...)
Is this really just part of my cycle?
Q. hii.. just a lil question im just needing s few opinions from the outer world to compare with mums answer but ok ill jsut tell u lol.. its part of beeing a teenage girl -at 16- according to mum; whenever i go to the toilet i always find some sor...
A. 29 January 2011: Perfectly normal. It happened a lot more to me when I was younger, about your age. I honestly don't remember when it stopped, I got so used to it I didn't care anymore unless it was an odd odor or color.
Also, if you were your panties or pants too ... (read in full...)
The most difficult question ever: What is Love???
Q. Last night my boyfriend asked my what does love mean to me. I told him it means everything to me .He said i dont understand. I told him its hard to describe love for me. Then he told me how can i love someone if i cant even describe what it is to ...
A. 29 January 2011: Love is not something that can be easily described. It is something that affects our emotions, and one person can feel it differently from another. I think what he wants to hear from you is how you feel when you love someone. Does it mean that you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would rather masturbate then have sex with me!
Q. Please i need some answers mainly from men... Iv been with my boyfriend for 10months now and from the start we had sex quite a lot, not as much as id like to because he worked a lot running his own business. anyway we moved into a new house a few ...
A. 29 January 2011: Just becasue your madly in love doesn't mean he is. If he wasn't having much sex with you, but sleeping with his ex wife, he is not satisfied with what you bring to the bed. Most men cheat because they want something their woman won't do. Sometimes ... (read in full...)
If he really loved me would a 20 minute drive matter?
Q. I'm 15 years old, and I like this guy who just turned 17. He lives in my moms town, 20 minutes away. We both liked each other for almost 3 years, and just recently he told me he loved me, which considering he didn't even tell me that when we dated ...
A. 29 January 2011: First of all, you weren't completely honest with this situation when you posted. You were complaining about him not driving 20 minutes to see you, but you had a different guy in your life. Why would he put effort into something that may never be?
S... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get a sore jaw after giving bf oral?
Q. is it normal to very quickly get a sore jaw after giving my bf oral and will it go away in time? its often too painful to continue for any length of time...
A. 28 January 2011: Totally normal. My jaw gets sore if I continue just the sucking for too long. Like dirtball said, "the more you practice, the more your muscles will adjust". Maybe only do oral as foreplay for a while. Try some of the things dirtball and Blonde68 ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend seems disinterested in sex. Advice?
Q. I am at a loss as of what to do. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years, and some on and off time 2 years before that. Recently I have been looking at buying an engagement ring and proposing to her, but this process ...
A. 28 January 2011: I am going to go with my initial reaction...she is selfish! She only wants to please herself and if it means having sex with you than she'll do it. Once every two weeks is horrible. I feel sorry for you, I really do. You should be getting it at ... (read in full...)
All my friends are losing their virginity will I be left out
Q. Dear Cupid I'm 16 years old and I'm still a virgin, all of my friends are loosing their virginity and soon I feel like I'm going to be the only one left, I think that I'm ready for sex but I'm scared at the same time and very self conscious about my...
A. 28 January 2011: When you say "I think that I'm ready for sex but I'm scared at the same time and very self conscious about my body" has two reasons why you should wait in it. First, you THINK you are ready for sex and you are SCARED. Don't do it if you think you ... (read in full...)
But I love him
Q. Dear Cupid, I was dating my boyfriend for 11 months and we got into an argument and he said he needed space, but would date me again in two months. A month has passed and this space has been agonizing me. He said he still loves me and wants to be ...
A. 28 January 2011: He doesn't want to be with you. Sorry if it hurts to hear that, but it's true. He initially said he needed space and now he's telling you that you are not the one. He obviously feels that he would rather be with someone else and probably is right ... (read in full...)
If he really loved me would a 20 minute drive matter?
Q. I'm 15 years old, and I like this guy who just turned 17. He lives in my moms town, 20 minutes away. We both liked each other for almost 3 years, and just recently he told me he loved me, which considering he didn't even tell me that when we dated ...
A. 20 January 2011: Move on from him, he doesn't like enough for a 20 minute drive and that spells heartbreak for you. If someone really loved another person, 20 minutes wouldn't be a long drive.
Honestly, he probably has other "priorities" on the weekends that keep... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would rather masturbate then have sex with me!
Q. Please i need some answers mainly from men... Iv been with my boyfriend for 10months now and from the start we had sex quite a lot, not as much as id like to because he worked a lot running his own business. anyway we moved into a new house a few ...
A. 3 December 2010: Tell him how you feel about it. Tell him what you said, he seems to being having more sex with himself then with you. If you are worried, he should be made aware of it. It's probably the extra stress. He may feel that when he does himself, it's all ... (read in full...)
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