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reader, svf  +, writes (15 March 2011):
 Big penises are PAINFUL and horrible.
In 2007 I was a normal women. Then I had a one night stand as I had been single for 1 year and thought it was time to move on. I wish I had asked him his size first. The man had a penis the same length of yours and thick. I said it was HURTING me, so he just went SLOWER but this dragged the pain out more. I wanted him to stop but he didn't.
He ripped my cervix and caused me internal tearing and damage and I was in so much pain! I have gone through child birth with my daughter, now 8, in 2002, but this pain was worse, feeling all of my body SLOWLY tearing inside. I think my brain shut off because the pain was so bad.
When I got off the bed afterwards (thank god it was only 5 minutes) and went into the kitchen I felt a gush. When I looked down there was blood running down my legs and onto the floor.
I then couldn't have sex without bleeding for the next 3 years until I got an operation to laser my cervix last February 2010. But I still get cramps after sex and bleed slightly.
I am very lucky to be with a partner who is very understanding now and stops when I get tender. And we have a good sex life, so I have gotten over the mental scarring, it's just the physical damage I have to deal with now. I have just found out I am pregnant, 8 weeks, and have to look after this pregnancy very carefully due to the internal damage I suffered.
I HATE big penises and would love to find this guy and shove a giant dildo up his ass and make him bleed and suffer the way he made me.
Because of what his huge cock did to me, I cannot even have a 'normal' size penis inside me without pain now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): if you were to pull down your pants randomly i would be shocked but if it were because of sexual reasons i would find it quite 'interesting' but mostly shocked and a little worried about pain issues
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Hey where'd my response go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): If you volunteered this information spontaneously, I'd probably suspect you have an ego...if I found out on my own, I'd probably be delighted.
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reader, foxy7727 +, writes (4 March 2011):
 I agree that the average size is between 5 and 6 inch. However I've met quite a few that are bigger to much bigger. I don't think its so rare that someone could have a 9 inch penis. Also I completly disagree that most women don't ask what size a guy is. Almost all the women I know ask that question often. I ask it often. But good luck with your girl troubles I think ur looking to far into it. I think it could be many other reasons as to why she's not talking to u.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Oh, and just tell her you are larger than average. Most women don't really care what the exact inch size is, that's mostly a male concern. http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/penissize.htm
Men seem to think that their penis the be-all and end-all in sex, for both partners. While the penis is the seat of YOUR sexual life, she has her own physiology and anatomy, and will have her own preferences and feelings. Remember lesbians manage to have passionate fulfilling sex without a penis in sight.
I have some more links for you:
http://www.malehealth.co.uk/node/18960
http://men.webmd.com/features/6-sex-mistakes-men-make
http://men.webmd.com/guide/sex-fact-fiction
Good luck.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 March 2011):
She ASKED you what size your penis is? Really? Well, I guess you can only tell her and hope for the best. Very peculiar. I certainly would never have asked this question of a man and I can't imagine any of my girlfriends ever asking that question. Are you two dating via the internet or something?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all. I was just wondering because this girl I'm interested in asked me what my size is. Now I don't really know what to tell her since most of you said that it's too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): First of all....I am assuming that you are referring to yourself. If you are,are you sure you are using the inch side of that ruler and not the centimeter side? Seriously...the average penis size(according to many scientific studies)is around 6 inches. So....I am really sceptical that you are 9 inches. But if you are, you should probably look into a career in porn. John Holmes himself admitted that he was around 9 inches even though the media wanted you to believe he was 14 inches. Most women have vaginas that are around 7 inches deep. It's made that way for a reason. Only a small percent of men are the size you may be claiming to be. Be realistic.
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reader, OnlyException  +, writes (3 March 2011):
I wouldn't be able to be with him, the size would completely put me off. Personally, for me, anything over 7 inches is a deal breaker.
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reader, Cutexomami69 +, writes (3 March 2011):
My bf is the same size but thickto! I love it when he teases ms with 5 inches of it and gives me the rest! You should feel lucky but u also gotta know how to use it which most men d0nt!! Lmao!!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 March 2011):
"Oh crap!"
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reader, foxy7727 +, writes (3 March 2011):
I go with the old sang bigger is better. But its also important to know how to use it. 9 inch is big but as long as ur not trying to kill ur partner then u should def be able to please her I think ur lucky to be so big n that area its def better then being to small. to me 5 inch and less is just to little. Even if they kno how to use it most women I've met prefer around 7 inch or 6 if ther great at what they do. If my friend told me her bf had a 9 inch penis I would kno she's def having a great sex life and prob b jelouse my man wasn't as big. Just my opinion but its not a bad thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): What would I say?
I would say to myself "I hope he knows what to do with it, and I hope it lasts." Because, let's face it, some men have the bat... but they don't have the slightest idea of how to swing.
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reader, MintyGirl +, writes (3 March 2011):
 that is too much for me...
but if u do end up having sex with this guy u could always just ask him to put it in alittle.
but if u just have a crush on this guy and doesnt want to take it any further then its no biggy, its interesting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): I guess i would feel pretty good :)
spunky monkey
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (3 March 2011):
 women only my ass.
well. not with a 9 incher.
considered a life in porn?
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (3 March 2011):
 I would pass on that. Too long for me. Some women like them long though, so don't fret too much.
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reader, Aunty Honest +, writes (3 March 2011):
 I'd be a bit intimidated. It is designed to fit so as long as he's gentle you should be ok! You might even love it!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 March 2011):
 My first reaction would be. Oh, he's going to stretch that out. It's going to hit the cervix so he has to be gentle. For woman on top position it's going to be difficult unless I wear 9 inch heals and I have to go slow because obviously I can't be hopping up and down otherwise my uterus would pop.
Women trade up in relationships. The next guy is most likely going to be smaller so the relationship gotta be good till the end.
These are just random thoughts in my head. I know my answer is purely sexual. A man is who he is inside. Still sex counts a lot in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): You can have all the tools you need to accomplish something but it would be useless if you didnt know how to use the tools given to you. I personally dont care the preferences of a mans penis as long as he knows how to please me thats all that counts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): I would give a damn for several reasons.
1) I've had sex with large penises attached to men who had NO idea what they were doing, and the sex was terrible.
2) Often, women, myself included are more aroused and attracted by personality, emotional connection, and foreplay.
3)A lot of guys don't realize how much those things hurt. For some women, a penis over 6" is more painful than pleasurable! Especially young like you are.
Just remember, it's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean. If you have a penis that big, congrats I suppose, some women will be really into that. Just be gentle until you find out if it hurts her or not. If you have a penis that is smaller than that, you are just fine too. Like I said, foreplay.
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reader, Nime +, writes (2 March 2011):
 That would be too long for me, sorry, don't want to be in pain the next day...
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