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He seems to think he has a right to look at his ex's mail. What do you think ?
Q. my BF and I were at his ex's house picking up his son and she wasn't home. I felt strange going in but they both asked me to as they didn't see it as a problem. while in her house, my ex proceeded to look through her mail and stuff she had laying ...
A. 26 March 2007: I think you're right. He doesn't have a right to go through her things. However, I'm not sure you have the right to tell him not to. It's her things he's going through and therefore her responsibility to tell him he's not to do that. However if he's ... (read in full...)
Why am I so shy all the time ? Surely now Im 20 I should have grown out of it ?
Q. i find it really hard to except compliments as im very self conscious and quite shy. whenever someone says something like (and this doesnt happen very often) u look really nice or ur really pretty, i go red and just mumble "thanks" and end up ...
A. 26 March 2007: I don't mean this in a hostile way but what do you think you should be saying? What you're saying is perfect because it shows you're not a big headed freak who would just say "I know" anytime anyone complimented her. You're not turning around and ... (read in full...)
My housemate has a new guy, they are all over each other in front of me and its making me uncomfortable!!
Q. Hey Everyone, Just got a small problem and I'll appreciate anyone's advice on the matter, if you can spare a moment or two. My housemate has recently got a boyfriend and even though he's a great guy and I enjoy his company around the house it's g...
A. 26 March 2007: Well you both have rights in this house as flatmates so compromise is the key. You shouldn't have to watch them sucking face but neither should they have to be careful about what they do in her own house (within reason) I'd just be honest(ish) with ... (read in full...)
I cheated and the guilt is killing me!!
Q. I cheated and the guilt is killing me. I was away on business, my fiancee and young baby at home. Me and my ex met up for a drink, literally to say hello and see how eachother was getting on. We had a few too many, and as i hadn't yet booked a hot...
A. 26 March 2007: I guess you have two choices here and some of it depends on how likely it is that this will get back to your fiancee if you don't tell her. If the guilt is so overwhelming that you have to tell her what happened then maybe you should but be sure ... (read in full...)
Last night I saw him at a party and he completely blanked me out...
Q. a few months ago i snogged a family friend at a weekend away. i really like him but the only problem is that i am 17 and he is 27. it was my first true kiss but it felt wrong because i saw him as a friend. the age gap really bothers me. last night i ...
A. 26 March 2007: It sounds like you both had second thoughts after the kiss. You say that it didn't feel right because he was a friend but I think you still wanted him to have enjoyed the kiss so you felt validated. Things might change when you're 18. I think age ... (read in full...)
I dumped her and now find, I want her back. But she will not agree to this. How do I win her back?
Q. I finished with my girlfriend a couple months ago after a argument we had been together a year. After a few weeks of not being in touch I really missed her so decided to get in touch and we met up but she told that I had left it to late and she did ...
A. 26 March 2007: I think you've hurt her too badly for her to want to risk being with you again and however strongly you profess your love for this girl I don't think you're sure that you can be with her without hurting her again. I would say that if you two were ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried my partner is about to stray??
Q. I found a txt on my partner's mobile sent by him to his friend. He said in this txt to pass on a hello to a certain young lady that goes to his friend's gym Should I be worried my partner is wanting to stray? Why is interested or thinking about an...
A. 26 March 2007: Who says he's interested in another woman? I agree it seems this woman is interested in him but that doesn't mean it's reciprocal. Unfortunately you can't stop him thinking about other women, all men do it, even the ones in totally loving committed ... (read in full...)
Do you think I could chang my wifes mindset about sex ?
Q. My wife and I have different attitudes towards sex.... I would do it all the time, when I do it I think of it and when I don't... I think of it even more. She is more settled. We go along together, anyway. Sometimes we quarrel a bit for this, bu...
A. 26 March 2007: Is your wife roughly the same age as you? Pre menopausal women start to lose their sex drive at the same time as they ought to stop having babies. There's a biological connection. If she doesn't enjoy sex she won't want to do it and have babies if ... (read in full...)
Whenever I get intimate with my GF I start to feel sick and sometimes have to throw up! I dont know why!!?
Q. Hi, Me and my girlfriend have been going out since mid june now. Whenever we lie down and kiss each other, sometime i'm touching her breasts, I start to feel sick to my stomache. This is very embarasing. Usually i just go to the bathroom, ...
A. 26 March 2007: I think the other poster is right about you being nervous. You're very young to be engaging in any sexual type activity and I'd suggest you're not ready for it yet.
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Im really confused, I snogged a guy while my man was away and now dont know what to do!!?
Q. please dont judge me! ive done nothing but cry the last 2 days i feel so awful and very confused! my fella of a yr works away alot he just gone away in december to the new york he comes back in may in so excited to see him but so confused! iv...
A. 26 March 2007: I think for one kiss you don't beat yourself up. Yes it was wrong but you know that. Do you want to get with this guy again? Do you want more to happen? If yes then maybe you don't love your guy as much as you say you do but I reckon that the kiss ... (read in full...)
Lost my hubby 6 months and now am dating again! Is it too soon?
Q. i am 28 with kids and my hubby died 6months ago i met a great man 2 months ago he is 15 years older than me it feels right but is it 2 soon 2 be in love again?...
A. 26 March 2007: It's not that it's too soon. I'm sure your deceased husband wouldn't want you to sit arou8nd grieving for the rest of your life, especially given that you're still so young but I'd still take your new relationship slowly, for your own sake and your ... (read in full...)
What is that average time that sex usually lasts?
Q. what is that average time sex usaully lasts? just wondering cos i've heard 15-25 mins... Me and my bf have been sleeping together for a while but he can never go longer then 5 minutes. I don't mind cos I know he cant help it..I was just wondering if ...
A. 26 March 2007: I think the 15-25 minutes refers to all the foreplay as well as the actual penetration stage. I must admit that I've never actually timed how long my guy lasts but I'd guess 5 mins give or take is about right.
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Im so suffocated at home, but cant afford to move out! Help!
Q. Recently i've been having a few problems with my parents. They constantly interfere and comment on everything i do. i can't read a book or watch television without some remark. whenever i go out, my mother wants to know exactly where i'm going and ...
A. 26 March 2007: Could you look for a flatshare? It's possible to get some pretty cheap ones on the internet? Or if home is getting you down that much maybe it'd be an idea to take a night job in a bar or a weekend job in a shop to up your income. Tiring, yes but ... (read in full...)
She seems to want to copy me all the time and it's really starting to get on my nerves!
Q. Hi all...I need some help coz I've been getting annoyed with this friend of mine. She and I go to the same university. Recently, she started buying the same perfumes that I had, so I stopped wearing mine because I didn't want us to smell the same. ...
A. 25 March 2007: Can anyone say insecure? That's almost certainly her problem. She dislikes herself so much that she looks at you as a person she admires as someone who has the style and the look that she wants. Equally this is the reason why she's scared about you ... (read in full...)
I worry that if I don't get along with his kids..he will leave me! What should I do?
Q. Hi everybody out there in internetland. I have just met a guy who i have been on a few dates with, the problem is that he has 2 children ages of 8 and 10 from a previous girlfriend, i have tried to explain to him that i am not sure what to say...
A. 24 March 2007: First of all I agree with everything that Irish said above but I would like to add some stuff for when you do meet them. I think the most important thing to remember is that you are the adult in any situation where you meet them. Yes you can choose ... (read in full...)
We are in a long distance relationship and things are good, but what does bother me is he still has a profile on a dating site, should I be worried ??
Q. I moved to another town and met this guy on line, we shared mails for 2 weeks, then we talked on the phone for a week, then we decided te meet up. We fell for eachother right away (we both removed our profile from the site), we had a great ...
A. 24 March 2007: Okay, so it's definitely one of two things. Either he has forgotten it's still up and has occassionally checked it out of curiosity, or he is using it to find some fun for when you're not around. Obviously the first one is acceptable and the second ... (read in full...)
I push females away who try to get close to me! How do I deal with this problem?
Q. I am 25, yet do not feel ready to have a relationship with a girl. I just enjoy flirting and may be touching. But that's it. Anything more is a clear no no and i push away girls who try to encroach in to having more. I think it is difficult for me ...
A. 24 March 2007: You don't have to be more involved with a girl than you want to be but it sounds like your lack of interest is starting to worry you so it might be worth talking to someone professional about it. However it sounds to me more like you're just not ... (read in full...)
I love my bf so much but I'm falling for my male friend! So what do I do?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now, I love him so much and couldnt imagine my life without him, hes amazing, he still makes me feel like we did when we were first together and now so much better!! weve had our rough times and weve ...
A. 24 March 2007: No boy is so deluded that he can't see what's going on. My guess it he's being cool with your friendship because he thinks that being jealous will push you away, while his lack of response to all of these things is making you feel, at least on a ... (read in full...)
What are all these small pimple-like thingys down around my vagina? Help I need advice!
Q. Hey..I have a question that's more health related than relationship related. It may sounds gross, but I need to know... I noticed today that I have something that looks like a tiny version of pimples or whiteheads or something around my vagina. ...
A. 24 March 2007: It could be thrush, it could be genital warts, it could be actual whiteheads. You can get spots all over your body. The best thing you can do is to make an appointment with your doctor since nobody here can give you good advice without seeing them. ... (read in full...)
We've drifted and I heard he liked another girl..should I talk to him?
Q. hey, I like this guy lets call him "bob" alot. and me and Bob have dated in the past but right now i love him alot. but recently we have drifted and i heard a few days ago that he likes another girl. this girl is very pretty and very nice. so...
A. 24 March 2007: If he likes another girl I doubt there's much you can do to change that. Yes you could tell him that you're interested in him which would confuse him and be something that he doesn't need right now, or you can accept his right to be happy. There is ... (read in full...)
He forgot about our date? AmI right when I think he can't be bothered?
Q. A couple of weeks ago I met a really nice guy on a night out. We got on really well, and Ive seen him quite a few times since. Trouble is, I dont actually know if he even likes me! I talk to him a few times a week online, and we've spent time ...
A. 24 March 2007: I reckon you should be straight with him. Tell him you're sick of his lack of interest and that if what he wants is to be left alone you're happy to oblige. It'll at least force him tp be honest about how he really feels about you. It might seem ... (read in full...)
We get on well as friends. When we are in lessons, at college, I catch him looking at me, do you think he likes me?
Q. Hi All I am beginning to fall for a friend of mine. However, I am unsure how he feels about me. When we are together he talks to me a lot, but when he is with his friends, we don't talk at all, he ignores me as if I'm not there. I see him looking ...
A. 22 March 2007: I think he does but I think you need to be careful since he sounds kind of immature like a lot of guys can be at your age if he ignores you when he's with friends. If you like him back try chatting to him. Maybe he's just shy but it seems key to ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with a boyfriend who you adore but who makes no effort with his appearance?
Q. How do you deal with a boyfriend who you adore but who makes no effort with his appearance? I'm seeing someone who is perfect for me in every way, but he doesn't seem to care how he looks and I am finding it difficult to see beyond the bad c...
A. 22 March 2007: He won't appreciate it if you come out and say you want to change him so you need to be subtle about it. When you go out shopping for yourself buy him the occassional shirt or whatever and slowly make him over that way. The hair is slightly harder. ... (read in full...)
Does race affect penis size?
Q. I know this question has probably been answered several times but here goes anyway. Does race effect penis size?...
A. 22 March 2007: Vaginas are elastic and can grow to accomodate whatever size you are.... (read in full...)
Does race affect penis size?
Q. I know this question has probably been answered several times but here goes anyway. Does race effect penis size?...
A. 22 March 2007: Yes it can do, asian men are thought to have the smallest penises and african men the largest. I think everyone else is somewhere in the middle.
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Been with him 4 years and we even looked at rings! Now he is saying he not sure about our relationship. help!
Q. I moved in with my boyfriend past July. recently we celebrated our 4 year anniversary and even went to look at engagement rings. Now, a month later, he told me that he is not sure whether he wants to be in a relationship, period, but that he still ...
A. 19 March 2007: First of all stop worrying about the rent issue. There is always a way round these types of issues and it's the wrong thing to be focusing on right now. Sounds like his head is just faffed up by the idea of having to make a serious life long ... (read in full...)
She lied to me about her faith! Should I end this relationship?
Q. I recently found out that my girlfriend of 6 months has been lying to me about her faith. She is a practicing Wiccan, and she's always led me to believe that she's a Christian. What makes me most upset isn't her different faith, but the very fact ...
A. 19 March 2007: Have you tried thinking about why she lied to you? Wicca is so misunderstood in so many societies. You hear wicca and you think witchcraft and evil whereas really as far as I know wicca is about worshiping the natural world. I think maybe she was ... (read in full...)
Why does he not call me as much any more?
Q. hey, I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year 3 months now. It's a really good relationship, I know he loves me and he hates being apart from me and I really love him. He called me every night almost before christmas, it annoyed my parents a lot some ...
A. 15 March 2007: I think it's natural as time passes to not have the same "we can fill a whole day talking to each other" thing. You've told him all your best stories and he's told you all of his. The relationship should be secure enough now to not need this ... (read in full...)
My husband of 2 months doesn't seem to have time for me any more, what can I do about it?
Q. My husband and I have been married for a couple of months now and already our relationship is in the pits. I feel so neglected. We have a child together but I don't know if I can stay with him anymore. He is always on the phone with his friends, he ...
A. 14 March 2007: Marriage changes everything. Suddenly each others' faults are suddenly magnified. Your marriage will not survive unless you talk to him and tell him how you want things to change. Quite possibly he has things he wants to change too but unless you ... (read in full...)
Should i push it or give him more time??
Q. I have started seeing my tutor at college, I am a mature student so there isnt a big age gap. The problem is i think i have fallen for him but i dont know if he feels the same way. We see each other once a week, usually on a saturday night and spend ...
A. 14 March 2007: Girls fall quicker than guys. I think you're reading too much into it. Relax and enjoy your relationship for a little longer before stressing about whether it's going anywhere and whether you have a true future based on love. It's a bit early for ... (read in full...)
Is it fair that my ex is making him choose between the two of us?
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend's best friend are in love, and my ex boyfriend is stopping the relationship. I've been split up from my ex boyfriend for a year and a half and hes even had a girlfriend for nearly a year, he tells his best friend that hes ...
A. 14 March 2007: Is your ex making him choose between you though? Or is that just what you anticipate happening? You never know! He might be fine with it by the time the issue comes up. Ultimately if your boyfriend was asking for advice about who to choose here I ... (read in full...)
Does my neighbour only see me as a friend? He never DID get back to me about that cinema date!
Q. I really fancy my next door neighbour, he approaches me whenever i see him, always offers to do jobs for me and even asked me to the cinema once. I have since asked him when we are going and he said he would get back to me about it. He never did but ...
A. 14 March 2007: Take the lead. Tell him you're going to the cinema to see whatever tomorrow and would he like to come with you. I think girls often get the idea that the guy has to make the first move but if you take control of the situation, not only will he find ... (read in full...)
How can I break up with my boyfriend and how can I be sure I'm making the right decision?
Q. hi, i need your help. im at uni and i think i want to break up with my boyfriend on a year..my life has changed and he doesnt seem to accept that. how do i do it and how can i be sure im making the right decision?...
A. 14 March 2007: You can never be 100% sure when you make any decision that will affect your life to such a huge extent but you do need to stand by that decision once you've made it. Even if you break up with him and then decide you've made a terrible mistake it ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I'm too young and I'm worried in case I get pregnant. What will I do?
Q. Right, ok, i'm 13, and I've done everything with a guy but sex, i've recently met this great guy, who i really like, he is a year older than me, and hasn't been that far with a girl. We have both talked about having sex,and we have both have said ...
A. 14 March 2007: Sex is a nice idea at 13 because you think it will bring you closer to a guy and ensure that you're together forever but the reality is nearly always different. Girls who start having sex earlier are more likely to gain a reputation as a slut, break ... (read in full...)
Has anyone got any tips on conversation topics?
Q. hi! has anyone got any tips on how conversation topics? i like this girl in my year but i never really know what to say to her. i can easily speak to her over the internet but in person i seem to be a bit shy. sometimes we can get a good ...
A. 14 March 2007: I think Eve's post is absolutely fantastic but it's also important to have some things to talk about that are a little less intense and more personal. After all, you can't just walk up to someone and ask them where in the world they would most like ... (read in full...)
Is this love or lust?
Q. I think ive fallen in love but im not sure if im truely in love. i know people who've answered other questions have said "if ur in love then u just know" but i thought i was in love with my last boyfriend but then afterwards i realised i wasnt so i ...
A. 14 March 2007: I think for it to be love there must be a relationship. I know that probably sounds silly because you already have the relationship of being friends but that's not enough. Being in a relationship builds intimacy and an even stronger connection ... (read in full...)
Can someone's looks change as they get older? Say between 13-16???
Q. dear readers i would like to know can some-ones looks change as they get older e.g. from 13-16 ?? as i am noticing changes in my looks, sometimes good looking sometimes bad :(:( tld by girls and do the good looking ones sometimes turn no...
A. 14 March 2007: Yes, peoples' faces and bodies change from 13-16. Guys are going through the early stages of puberty and girls the later stages so you go from being a child to becoming an adult in that time. Of course you're going to change and some of those ... (read in full...)
Do you think this relationship is worth pursuing?
Q. Ok. So this is my issue. About 8 months ago, me and my boyfriend broke up after being together for seven years, we stayed friends and were room mates up until two months ago. And it actually went really well but thats only because we a had a slow ...
A. 14 March 2007: It sounds worth pursuing but if you're feeling worried about it let work guy make the next move towards being together and make it for a social occassion like a meal out or going to the cinema rather than feeling like you should be rushed into bed. ... (read in full...)
I want my mum and dad to like him, he's going to talk to my dad and I'm scared and nervous!
Q. Hey everybody! well..I'm so lost I don't know what to do!I have a boyfriend that is going to be 22 in july, I'm about to be 18 and I want to marry him, and I will as soon as I'm legal to get married. My parents don't like him all started because of ...
A. 14 March 2007: Okay... first thing I want to ask you is who told you that what that woman said to your parents wasn't true. Was it the boyfriend? I'm not trying to imply that he was lying, just that the truth might have been bent slightly so you don't get hurt. I ... (read in full...)
I had an argument with my aunt, now my family are all against me!
Q. Okay, So this weekend was a big family blow out... We went to my aunts house for her b-day... And right as my aunt was opening her presents, my other aunt, (danielle) Well, she and I was having a disagreement, and I was just trying to tell h...
A. 14 March 2007: Jeez, there are evidently too many women in your family, It sounds like school! I don't know what you can do except apologise to your aunt again, keep a copy of the email you send her in case your family want to see it ( don't go out of your way to ... (read in full...)
If you are under the age of 16, can a girl go on the pill?
Q. i was wondering if your under the age of 16 can you go on the pill. both me and my boyfriend are wanting to go further but i am terrified of getting pregnant!...
A. 14 March 2007: Yes it is possible to go on the pull if you're under 16 but it's at your doctor's discretion and they will probably want to talk to you about sex first. You are very young to be having sex but it's good that you're being responsible about things.
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