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Im sick to death of my husband, Sometimes I love him, others I dont, I want to make it work, maybe I dont, Help!
Q. Hello everyone.. I'm really in trouble here.. I have been married for 4 years with my hubbie for 8 have one child and its just gone down down down hill. I really love my husband but i hate him to. I hate the fact that he promises things and...
A. 16 April 2007: Don't apologise to me! We'll end up in this vicious cycle of saying sorry :) As long as all is cool!
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Im sick to death of my husband, Sometimes I love him, others I dont, I want to make it work, maybe I dont, Help!
Q. Hello everyone.. I'm really in trouble here.. I have been married for 4 years with my hubbie for 8 have one child and its just gone down down down hill. I really love my husband but i hate him to. I hate the fact that he promises things and...
A. 16 April 2007: I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you by suggesting you should do something you already had. I was just trying to imagine what he would say if he had written this problem. Sorry if I caused any offence. It wasn't intended.
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Im sick to death of my husband, Sometimes I love him, others I dont, I want to make it work, maybe I dont, Help!
Q. Hello everyone.. I'm really in trouble here.. I have been married for 4 years with my hubbie for 8 have one child and its just gone down down down hill. I really love my husband but i hate him to. I hate the fact that he promises things and...
A. 16 April 2007: Well... he is in the wrong here, I can tell that from your post, but I'd still ask you to consider your child when you're thinking about this. If you were in a violent or dangerous situation more than likely I'd tell you to get you and your child ... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh to tell my gf to stop doing this thing that makes me very unhappy?
Q. My girlfriend is doing something that is making her happy and while im not happy and she wont quit because she loves doing it but it takes a lot of time out of being together but then she says she loves me more than anything... am i being to harsh ...
A. 15 April 2007: It depends on just what it is she is doing. Is it an illegal thing or something that is morally wrong? If you're referring more to a hobby she's got or maybe a college course or something she is doing then consider why she is doing it and how you ... (read in full...)
Have you ever heard of sex feeling better with an unshaved girl vs. a shaved girl?
Q. Ive been with my girlfriend for 5 years now and she was totally shaved for the first 4. Last year she asked me if I would be alright with her to stop shaving her vagina. At first I was hesitant but I agreed because it is a fetish of hers to be ...
A. 15 April 2007: Well obviously I'm not a guy but I've heard guys sneer quite a lot at girls who don't 'garden' down there because they say it's disgusting. You're not being one of these guys but try to bear in mind having to shave all of your body before you have ... (read in full...)
Our beliefs are so very different, Im scared to lose his frienship, but I really want more than that!!
Q. I'm 15 years old and have never been a very religous person, just raised that way I suppose. But now I'm falling for a guy who is LDS and very religous(I'm talking WAY strict). We havn't officially started dating however we have building up a good ...
A. 14 April 2007: If you start a relationship with him you do risk losing him as a friend since very few relationships that start at your age last forever. It's totally possible to be with someone with different beliefs without them ever being an issue so if you ... (read in full...)
We broke up, her new guy just treats her like his slave, shes too kind for that, I still love her what should I do ?
Q. I have had a girlfriend for eight months, but sadly we broke up not too long ago. I loved her and she loved me. That was clear. We laughed all the time and helped each other through hard times. Then, someone else came into the picture. He guil...
A. 14 April 2007: I agree with Roy. You said she had to leave you because of the puppy eyes and the song and while I don't exactly want to shatter your dreams she left because she wanted to. Puppy eyes and songs wouldn't get a girl to feel forced to leave a guy they ... (read in full...)
Im fighting to get my man back after several mistakes, but how do I prove to him I wont do it again ?
Q. i have been in a relationship for almost three years. i made some mistakes and now i am fighting to get my man back. He has forgiven me but still thinks i could do it again. How do i prove to him that i am not going to do it again?...
A. 14 April 2007: Trust can't be regained in five minutes. It's a long hard road to get someone to be able to trust you again. All you can do in the time it takes him is to do NOTHING he might see as untrustworthy and tell him how you feel about him every day. And ... (read in full...)
My gf is a virgin so if we have sex how will I tell if the hymen is broken?
Q. okay, so i read the question about how to have sex with a virgin without hurting her because my girlfriend is indeed a virgin. my question is, how can i tell when/if the seal is broken?...
A. 13 April 2007: You'll be able to feel it if the hymen is still intact but a girl can be a virgin and have broken her hymen through sport or something so you might not feel anything.
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She kisses me, but she doesn' t want to have a relationship! What can I do?
Q. my best friend is a girl and we get on really weel. we havent seen each other for about 2 weeks, so when we met last night it was amazin. we went to a party and she wanted me to walk her home when we got to her house we kissed and it felt so right. ...
A. 13 April 2007: You can have all the honourable intentions in the world about remaining friends after a break up but it's not that easy. I know that you just read that sentence and thought "Yeah but I'm different" but the truth is that breaking up with someone who ... (read in full...)
We split but need to get the 'house selling' issue looked after. Part of me wants to see her, but another part says it's too soon. Any advice?
Q. I have posted a previous question on here which sort of explains my current situation. Basically, I have split from my partner (ex) for nearly 4 months now. We are now living far from each other, her at her parents and myself at mine. We were l...
A. 13 April 2007: Definitely meet her on neutral ground. If you meet in a private place it can encourage you to spill your emotions whereas in a public place you won't and neither of you will have the upper hand. I think you just get it sorted as quickly and amicably ... (read in full...)
I want 'quality'time with him but he is too busy! What should I do?
Q. Hi i've been with my bf for nearly a year and a half, we have always got on well and he also has a 12yo son who stays with us part time. We used to spend loads of time together when his son wasn't with us but now we hardly have any time at all cause ...
A. 13 April 2007: Just a quick observation.... it seems like you're waiting for him to stop decorating or whatever he's up to to spend time with you. Why not take the initiative? Book a table for a meal out and get some dvds so you can just curl up together and watch ... (read in full...)
Period is overdue by 6 days but pregnancy tests are negative! Could I still be pregnant?
Q. My period was due a week ago today but I never came on. I took a pregnancy test when I was four days overdue and again when I was six days overdue although both turned out negative. Is there still a chance I could be pregnant?...
A. 13 April 2007: If you've had unprotected sex there's always a chance. I would give it another week and if your period hasn't shown and tests are still coming up negative see your doctor who can give you a blood test that tend to be more sensitive to the pregnancy ... (read in full...)
We broke up, and I still love him, neither of us has had sex in a while, he wants to meet for that, could it make him realise he wants me ?
Q. Need desperate help. My ex broke up with me early last year said he was bi, and that he was confused and couldn't be in a relationship if he doesn't know what he wants or who he is. He hasn't been with anyone else, and that I know for a fact....
A. 13 April 2007: Absolutely don't do it chick. He's picking on your vulnerable side whereby he knows you still have feelings for him and will have sex with him for that reason alone but for him it's all about the sex. It won't help him sort out his confused mind, ... (read in full...)
Im living with my cousin and Im falling for her, I want to make it happen how do I proceed ?
Q. Hello, I'm a 25 year old male living with my 30 year old female cousin. I'm falling in love with her. It started as a mild attraction but she began flirting with me and one night we cuddled in bed together. I don't know how to proceed. Neither ...
A. 13 April 2007: It's not illegal to date or even marry a cousin. The main problem you would have would be family reaction. If you do decide to have a relationship make sure you take it slow and are honest with your family at every stage of the way. And be aware ... (read in full...)
Is this because I really what to or is it just the old 'forbidden fruit' thing?
Q. I can't stop fanatsising about having sex without a condom! Me and my boyfriend can't do because he has an STD but it's always been the thing that turns me on the most and it's killing me! We've been together for over a year now. I'd never cheat on ...
A. 13 April 2007: I'm sure you do want it but do you want it enough to risk catching your boyfriend's STD? Or breaking up with him to go find someone else who you can have sex with condomless? I guess if the answer to the above two questions is yes then it's quite ... (read in full...)
He told me I was cute! Why would he do that when he already has a GF of 1 year ?
Q. I was with my friend yesterday.. just spending time with him. He has a girlfriend but she knows we're just mates and has no problem. He msned me last night and told me how cute I was etc and that he liked me. Why would he tell me that when he's got ...
A. 11 April 2007: One of two reasons... either he really does like you and is trying to work out if you feel the same or he's messing with your head. You don't say whether you're interested in him or not but if you are and find out it's a mutual thing then dont do ... (read in full...)
I want to be MORE than just friends with him. Do you think he likes me as much as I like him?
Q. Ok, Im 14 and so is the guy i like. I started talking to him a few days ago, and we already went shopping (not just us 2, but my other friends were there aswel). We just messed about today, talked and basically had fun. I am a tiny bit over...
A. 10 April 2007: Sounds like he likes you but there's only one way to know for sure.... ask him before someone else does.
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Help! I feel I'm losing him and I don't know what to do any more.
Q. hi guys i wrote before about my fella and his mum... u gave so much good advice and im so greatful. my problem is his mum hates me shes done everything to break us us. shes lied and said people have told her im cheating, then shes shown a letter i...
A. 10 April 2007: The first thing I would say is try not to voice any kind of opinion about his mum. Even though she sounds like a complete battleaxe she is his mother and she will always be there, whereas girlfriends are more temporary. Tel him you feel like you're ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to have feelings for my best friend's boyfriend.
Q. i think i'm falling in love with my best friend's boyfriend. he's someone i've been friends with for a while and i see him almost daily, and i've been really close with his girlfriend since we were tiny. now i know he's "off limits" and i would ne...
A. 10 April 2007: I've been in this situation more times than I care to remember and the only thing I could really tell you about it is that eventually I decided that I loved my friend more than I cared anbout myself and it gradually became easier to ignore her ... (read in full...)
I want him to actually take me out somewhere, like a date? Should I ask him?
Q. Well Ive Been with this guy for 6 months now, i really love him and i always see him and go to his house. all we do it kiss, and do other stuff. we havent had sex yet. But we dont do anything else, can he take me out or something?? we're always in ...
A. 10 April 2007: Why not just take him out on a date? We girls don't always have to wait for the guy to do the asking you know.
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I'm 15 and I like this hockey player who is 20! Is this wrong?
Q. Ok, I met this guy at these hockey games I always attend. He was a player on the ice but he was a goalie. When he wasn't in net he would have to sit on the bench and my friends and I always sat behind the players bench. Well this guy named John (the ...
A. 10 April 2007: It's not wrong to like each other and it's not even illegal to date but it would be frowned upon (most likely by your family) and it would of course be illegal to have sex. Does he know you're only 15? I only ask because older guys who go out with ... (read in full...)
How do I get my life on course and start feeling better...?
Q. I'm such a mess. I've had depression since september when I started college, had to drop two of my A levels because I fell too far behind, I got cheated on by the love of my life who broke up with me in October, but we still have sex whenever he ...
A. 10 April 2007: If your medication isn't working for you tell your doctor. Different people need different anti depressants because there are different types of depression. Don't give up on the counselling. I get the impression you had already decided it wasn't ... (read in full...)
I'm in too deep...
Q. ive fallen really bad , i care so much he said he loved me ! but he has a girlfriend! i love him so much , i know you will tell me he isnt worth it but i'm in too deep!...
A. 10 April 2007: If he loved you why hasn't he finished with his girlfriend? Words are easy, actions are the hard part. I would ask you to consider his girlfriend before acting on your feelings. Imagine you were in her position and she was in yours. How would you ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether I've actually been sexually harrassed!
Q. I want to know whether I've been sexually harrassed. I don't think it counts because I sort of gave consent, I'm annoyed with myself because I didn't have the confidence to tell the guy that I didn't want him to touch me, so I don't think it counts. ...
A. 10 April 2007: It's not embarassing to have enough respect for yourself to just say no when you're uncomfortable. I don't think you can blame anyone for sexually harassing you if you didn't say no because men are not mind readers and are a lot less emotionally ... (read in full...)
I've only JUST passed my driving test but my girlfriend talks as if I've been driving for years!
Q. I have recently passed my driving test! wooohooo! And have been out every day driving since I passed. Now my girlfriend thinks I'm really good at driving. I haven't been really far yet and have stayed local to get used to my new car. However s...
A. 10 April 2007: I don't think she's putting you down, just making an observation. There's one quick and easy statement to get her off your back when she starts going on about what her brother will do that you won't. Say "Yes but I'm not your brother and if I was ... (read in full...)
I found a used condom underneath my boyfriend's matress and it's not been with ME!!!
Q. I found a used condom underneath my boyfriends matress which he claims was ours, however im not that stupid! however this has now lead me to believe that he has been cheating, can anyone find any other answer to this?...
A. 10 April 2007: What's your reason for thinking it's not yours? Relationships don't survive without trust and I just wonder what your reason for not trusting your boyfriend here is?
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Am I too young to be broody??
Q. Hi, im almost 21 and i have been with my fiance who is 22 for nearly six years now. We are both very happy, and have just got a mortgage together, but their is one problem........IM BROODY!!! We both work and i have a really good job, but their are ...
A. 7 April 2007: There's no rush! You have twenty years of childbearing in you AT LEAST! If your mum is affecting your decision now then wait just a bit longer. Eventually you'll get to a stage where you don't care what your mum thinks and then you'll be ready. ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for him sometimes and even have feelings of jealousy for this other woman.
Q. This sounds very silly when I try to sort it out in my head but I am seriously struggling with the issue. I met my boy friend's boss a few months ago and since that time have been around him socially several times. I find him very attractive and if ...
A. 7 April 2007: You tell yourself that what you have with your boyfriend is worth so much more. Has it crossed your mind why bossman is still single at his age? It's because he can't hold down a serious relationship and is only interested in sex. You and your ... (read in full...)
I'm just not sure how I feel about him any more, my feelings are changing about him and about myself.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for around six months now, he treats me great and I know he does care about me quite alot. This which makes it harder for me to be feeling how i do, because I don't feel as much for him as he does for me. we had a...
A. 7 April 2007: If you are undecided don't do anything until you're 100% sure. These pages are crammed with letters from girls who dumped their boyfriends only to decide they want them back and it's not fair to do that to someone. If you decide you're definitely ... (read in full...)
I know my boyfriend has been physical with a man as he's bi-curious, he says he wants to be with me but is that only to make ME happy?
Q. my bf recently admitted that he has been physical with a man which didn't shock me because i knew he was bi curious. we discussed as to whether he wants to be with me and me alone as a woman or whether he wants to be with a man. he chose me as we ...
A. 7 April 2007: I can understand why you're feeling a bit insecure. I think you're feeling exactly the same as you would have if he had seen another woman. The truth of the matter is though, he chose you. Therefore he has chosen to reject the side of his ... (read in full...)
My husband is 25 years older than I am and the stress between us regarding the age difference is beginning to show.
Q. I am 41 and my husband is 66. We met 13 years ago and have been married for 5 years. We also have an eight year old daughter between us. The problem is we have been having marrital problems and we seem to argue and disagree about almost ...
A. 7 April 2007: I don't know if the above is the basis for a divorce either because you don't mention any real effort on either of your parts to resolve the problem. That doesn't mean there haven't been any, just none that you've told us about.
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It is possible that I miscarried without even knowing I was pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone; ok straight to the point, i usually have very light periods at the begining of each month (start between the 1st-3rd). Last month I had sex with my boyfirend, and then not again until yesterday. I had not started my period for april , ...
A. 7 April 2007: It's always possible if you're having sex. It's really important that you see the doctor as soon as possible to confirm because if you did have a miscarriage you need to have an ultrasound to check that everything is gone from your womb. Otherwise ... (read in full...)
Very uncomfortable with this female friend of his--she still sends him sexy pics! What can I do?
Q. I recently got married to a man I love very much. Our relationship is good and he makes me feel better about myself than any other man has. We've been together a year. He has a female friend that he talks to and texts on his phone though that he ...
A. 7 April 2007: I know you said it came down to two options, ultimatum or leaving him, but I think you owe it to your marriage to sit down and talk about it honestly. I know you said he avoids the conversation and makes you feel stupid for bringing it up but you ... (read in full...)
I switched the time I take my pill, Am I still protected ?
Q. I used to take my contraceptive pill in the evening. But At the end of the cycle I Was on, after my break i decided it would suit me better to take it in the morning when I woke-up. Is this still Protecting me as i switched from one to the other? B...
A. 7 April 2007: Yeah I know what you meant but it still depends on the brand of your pill. And the twelve hour rule still applies because if on the first day you start taking your pill again your body expects it at 7am for example and you don't take it until 10pm ... (read in full...)
Im worried that whilst they are good friends she will want more!!?
Q. hey ok a year and a hlf ago, my boyfriend went to this girls prom with her, he used to be best friends with her brother who died tragically a few years ago. she had asked him to go with her coz her boyfrend at the time didnt want to go - he was m...
A. 5 April 2007: I think you need to trust your boyfriend. It sounds to me like he feels slightly responsible for this girl because she was his best mate's little sister and she's a link to him and he feels a responsibility to fill the void left by her brother's ... (read in full...)
My mum was cool when we were just friends, now we are dating shes freaked out!!!
Q. Help! I have a boy friend now who has been my best friend ever since 2nd grade, My mom has been totally cool with him when we were just friends but when he asked me out and I told her she started freaking out. I thought she'd be cool with it because ...
A. 5 April 2007: I'm sure you don't feel young but I'm guessing your mum looks at you and sees a little girl. It sounds to me like she's scared about you growing up and her being left alone. Talk to her. Tell her how happy your bf makes you and how you are being ... (read in full...)
Does he like me in a fanycing kinda way ?
Q. Dear Readers, I have this guy problem. i know, I know, my question will have all the answers written on it in red ( at least to you) and you problbably won't even bother with writing an answer. But still, I will continue. There's this boy at ...
A. 5 April 2007: Just ask him. That's the only way to know for sure. You're both old and mature enough now that it shouldn't matter even if you've misread things.
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Do you think theres a way to get the just married good sex back again!?
Q. Me and my wife have always had a good relationship and have excellent sex, we are very close and share the best life together. How ever we were talking in bed last night and she suddenly asked me if i could remember how excellent the sex was on our ...
A. 5 April 2007: I think it's likely that it was mostly down to the adrenaline of being married but maybe it was because it was new. Maybe you should try some new stuff in bed that you haven't done before. New usually equals exciting which equals good sex. The most ... (read in full...)
I switched the time I take my pill, Am I still protected ?
Q. I used to take my contraceptive pill in the evening. But At the end of the cycle I Was on, after my break i decided it would suit me better to take it in the morning when I woke-up. Is this still Protecting me as i switched from one to the other? B...
A. 5 April 2007: This really depends on what type of pill you're on and which brand. The general rule is that you're not protected for a week following one time of taking your pill twelve hours late but every pill is different. I recommend reading the instructions ... (read in full...)
Out of the blue I get a message with a picture of his baby!!!? I'm so lost!!
Q. Hi. yesterday my fiancee sent me an sms of a baby and when i called him back he said that the baby was his. he was having a relationship with another girl for the past year while he was with me. he said even though the girl (20) wanted to abort the ...
A. 5 April 2007: I think he could have found a more sensitive way of telling you about the baby but I guess that ship has sailed now. Be glad he at least told you. He could have continued to keep the news from you. His life has completely changed now and there is ... (read in full...)
My bf is going away next week, and I know Im going to have a panic attack! How do I deal with this ?
Q. Hi Im wondering if anyone has any advice My bf and i have been going out for about 9 months A few months ago he moved closer to me because of work Im very attached to him He is my first 'proper' bf (im in my 20s, hes in his 30s) He wa...
A. 5 April 2007: If he will be away longer in the summer then see this one as a practise run. You can do it. I suffer with panic attacks myself and it seems to me the best way to get through them is to sit down and breathe deeply and tell yourself there's nothing to ... (read in full...)
How can I look less nervous without having a face transplant? Any suggestions?
Q. A friend of mine commented that I always look nervous, although I don't necessarily feel that way. I wonder if this is putting guys off, because although I am told I am a wonderful person, men never approach me. How can I look less nervous without ...
A. 4 April 2007: Why not smile more? Smiling actually tenses all your face muscles which shouldn't make you feel like you're putting on an act, while it'll also make you look relaxed.
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Am I too young to be broody??
Q. Hi, im almost 21 and i have been with my fiance who is 22 for nearly six years now. We are both very happy, and have just got a mortgage together, but their is one problem........IM BROODY!!! We both work and i have a really good job, but their are ...
A. 4 March 2007: Don't let your parents get you down petal! They're just pushing the point home and quite likely theyre right in that you don't know quite how much hard work babies are but that's not to say you won't be able to cope. You said it yourself. You have a ... (read in full...)
Am I too young to be broody??
Q. Hi, im almost 21 and i have been with my fiance who is 22 for nearly six years now. We are both very happy, and have just got a mortgage together, but their is one problem........IM BROODY!!! We both work and i have a really good job, but their are ...
A. 1 March 2007: My first question would be have you spoken to your partner about the way you feel? I don't think you're too young to be broody at all but guys tend to be ready a little later than us ladies. If you both want to have a baby now maybe talk to your ... (read in full...)
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