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*onelyGal85
writes:My husband and I have been married for a couple of months now and already our relationship is in the pits. I feel so neglected. We have a child together but I don't know if I can stay with him anymore. He is always on the phone with his friends, he doesn't greet me when he comes home, he doesn't want me and him to go out,he never has time for me etc,etc,etc. It's like everything changed after we got married. I am just tired of him treating me like this. He barely has time for his daughter either. I need help what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, goodbutnotgifted  +, writes (15 March 2007):
 First off were all 30+ and offering advice because we have seen this sort of thing or have seen what works from others in the situation but not at 18-21, so here's to making it work. Its obvious you guys need to talk AskEve is a genious. I think you would benifit from a social activity for the three of you that he can attend or not, that way he is involved as he feels necessary and in time the activity could become something more involved for him until it simply becomes family time. Young guys are all about status and hes not single anymore hes married. It may be the worst but what if he got the ring to be able to say "the wife" or "my ol lady"? Just need to help him find his own value in the family let alone a position, unfortunatly guys are slow adapters and often could use a reason. He obviously has a knot in his values system if his budies are winning out over you. But youth is youth, I wish you the best of luck try to start with something he liek to talk about, then gradualy lead into the relationship. so as to not be blocked out or ignored.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (15 March 2007):
 You need to talk to him and let him know exactly how you're feeling. It may be that he's feeling a bit left out because you're having to spend a lot of time with your daughter. Tell him you miss him and feel invisible! Let him know you feel unloved and unwanted and need reassurance by his actions as well as his words that he'll try harder with you.
You can maybe try and give him more of YOUR attention too, once your daughter is in bed. Remember, relationships need to be worked at and it takes TWO to make a successful relationship.
Eve
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reader, cd206 +, writes (14 March 2007):
 Marriage changes everything. Suddenly each others' faults are suddenly magnified. Your marriage will not survive unless you talk to him and tell him how you want things to change. Quite possibly he has things he wants to change too but unless you can communicate with each other you might as well file for the divorce now.
CD
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