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anonymous
writes:i find it really hard to except compliments as im very self conscious and quite shy. whenever someone says something like (and this doesnt happen very often) u look really nice or ur really pretty, i go red and just mumble "thanks" and end up looking like an idiot. im 20 so shouldnt i have grown out of this by now?!
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reader, hwicnhlp  +, writes (27 March 2007):
Oh my, I was the same way. I am now 26. I was like that up until about a year ago. After i started working on my self-image and started to become more confident in my self it happened less and less. My advice to you is try to become more confident in your self. Good luck
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 I was taught that you should Never take the compliment lightly or disagree, it may seem like a fishing expedition to getting the giver to add more compliments! Therfore, never say - "I got it on sale" - "I've had this for years" - "I'm not happy with my haircut...". Instead either compliment the giver back, or thank them for noticing. "How kind of you", "How sweet of you to notice", "I just bought this today, so I'm glad you like it" and my favorite "A lady always appreciates a compliment from such an attractive gentleman!", but only use that one if your intention was to flirt! I always had fun meeting other people who have on the same shoes or coat by starting up a conversation "What fabulous taste you have!". Usually the receiver of the compliment and I have a good laugh! You are still young, I'm sure the blushing will diminish with practice. I do still blush at the age of 50+, so don't become too self-conscious about it - it just shows that you're human and we all do it! Anyone with good manners should continue the conversation and steer it in another direction while you regain your composure. If they point out your discomfort, well, that's not polite, even if it is an attempt to "kid" you out of it. The whole point of manners is to make other people comfortable around each other. It would be a breach of etiquette to stare or laugh, but it is also rude to correct someone else's manners! Simply be content that you acted properly in the situation, and the other person did not. The more social settings that you practice in, the easier it will become. Hope this helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2007): Were you bullied in the past? If so that would explain for your shyness. As for accepting compliments considering you aren't used to getting them you aren't sure how to react to them. Also for being shy some people never grow out of it and it stays with them until they die.
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reader, home_land  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 hello
i think you are normal girl at least in my world and beeing shy is some thing very spical about a real girl and dont change youre nature for the others let then know and learn from you becouse there is to many things out there and we do got nouthing to do with our nature.
good luck
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reader, cd206 +, writes (26 March 2007):
 I don't mean this in a hostile way but what do you think you should be saying? What you're saying is perfect because it shows you're not a big headed freak who would just say "I know" anytime anyone complimented her. You're not turning around and being self deprecating and saying no i'm not pretty, or don't be silly i look hideous today etc. It sounds to me like you're uncomfortable with the compliments but there's nothing wrong with the way you're dealing with them.
CD
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