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... Send *d206 a private message | | | *d206's profile:Hi, my name is Cat and I'm 22 years old. I live in various cities in the UK since the city where I study and where my family live are different. I'm currently just out of a relationship and enjoying the single life for a while. I don't know that I am qualified to help people but I'd like to try. I've had a lot of experiences in my life and despite being quite young I'm always helping my friends with their problems. I'd like the chance to help all of you too. Feel free to private message me anytime.If you do however, please include some details of your problem as I answer a lot here and can't always remember specific problems. With big hugs, Cat xx |
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If you are under the age of 16, can a girl go on the pill?
Q. i was wondering if your under the age of 16 can you go on the pill. both me and my boyfriend are wanting to go further but i am terrified of getting pregnant!...
A. 14 March 2007: Yes it is possible to go on the pull if you're under 16 but it's at your doctor's discretion and they will probably want to talk to you about sex first. You are very young to be having sex but it's good that you're being responsible about things.
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How do you let someone go when you are still in love?
Q. My boyfriend and I of a year broke up because we both needed space (although he initiated it). We are best friends, truly in love, but needed to know we were capable of also being alone. This was almost a month ago. Now we hang out everyday, are ...
A. 13 March 2007: You realise that they're using you. This way he gets to have the sex etc but not have to bother with the relationship side of things. Pretty sweet agreement for him but surefire proof that he doesn't love or respect you and why should you waste your ... (read in full...)
What's the best way for me to handle this break of a week?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years has all of the sudden become very distant. I believe that his friends are pushing him away. He is a senior in high school and I am a junior. He thinks that he wants to be more independent now and not have a girlfriend. ...
A. 13 March 2007: Avoid him. A break isn't a break if you're contacting him every five minutes. Tell him at the beginning of the week that you're determined to be mature about this and will stay out of contact for the week to give him time to think. If you're too ... (read in full...)
Why do women go for bad guys rather than guys who would love and treat them well?
Q. why does it seem that some women are attracted and stay with the guys who treat them bad , and the real decent guys who would only treat a woman with love and respect get treated with contempt by women ?...
A. 13 March 2007: Wow that's a difficult question but I'm so glad you said some women instead of generalising and throwing us all in together. All I can really tell you is that the nice guy is something perceived as boring and not as much of a project as the mean guy ... (read in full...)
Do I feel more for him than I thought or is it just that I'm missing my friend that I shared some special times with?
Q. Dear Cupid, I will sound like the most fickle person on the face of the planet when I tell you this. And you might say, "Well, paybacks a bitch isnt it?" I've been involved with a person in a friendship/dance relationship. We've ballroom danced t...
A. 13 March 2007: To be honest I think that over the years him liking you has given you a much needed ego boost and made you feel good about yourself and now he's seeing someone else you're missing the special attention he gave you and feeling threatened by this new ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he answer his friend? Was he too embarrassed?
Q. hello. at school 2day me and my bf were hugging each other as usual :P we have been together for 2 and a half months. well his mate came up to us and said 'are you 2 in love?' and we just didnt really say anything. and then he asked my bf if h...
A. 13 March 2007: Two and a half months is a bit early to be feeling love although I suppose a lot of young people think theyre feeling love misplacing it for something else. It could be one of many things... he doesn't feel it, he's not ready to say it, he didn't ... (read in full...)
She has a real problem with her body image but I think she's gorgeous!
Q. Hi there I've been going out with a girl for 4 months now , but have known her and been friends with her for a couple of years. Since we started going out we have both admitted we havent been so happy for quite a while, so things are going wel...
A. 13 March 2007: I think it's important that you know that 80% of all women have a negative body image and it's great that you're so understanding and want to help. There's no quick fix on this. You can ask her to take her bra off, telling her you think she's the ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and still in full time education. Can I still get my prescriptions for free?
Q. hey. I'm 17 and go to college so am still in full education. i live in the UK and was wondering whether i can get prescriptions from my doctor for free. i want to enquire if i can possibly go on the pill so does anyone know if i will have to pay o...
A. 13 March 2007: Nope. Your prescriptions are free until you're 18 if you're in full time education and free until you're 25 if you're lucky enough to live in Wales. Just to bear in mind for the future... if you continue studying after you're 18 ask for a HC2 form ... (read in full...)
I'm 20, my bf is 40! How can I make my Dad accept this relationship?
Q. am 20years old and my boyfriend is 40. my dad is not happy with this at all, how can imake him change his mind?...
A. 13 March 2007: You can't make him change his mind but at 20 he can't exactly forbid you from seeing your boyfriend either. Just insist on how happy you are and try to get them to spend time together so your dad can get to know and trust him. Apart from that just ... (read in full...)
Help me please, I am confused about my sexuality!
Q. Help Me! I can’t tell whether I’m gay or straight. I’m basically sitting on the fence. This is the most confusing decision I have ever had to make; I don’t know what to do! I have had a sexual attraction to guys for quite a few years now, but onl...
A. 13 March 2007: You're so desperate to pigeonhole yourself as gay or straight when really, it doesn't matter and there's no rush or pressure on you to make that decision. If you're not sure whether you want to be with a girl or a guy give yourself some thinking ... (read in full...)
I'm not particularly good looking, do you think I'm in with a chance?
Q. looks matter alot dont they? i really like this girl and she's quite pretty but has never had a boyfriend because she's really shy and hard to approach. well there's me who has kinda broken the barrier and can talk to her sometimes at school a...
A. 13 March 2007: Believe me, looks are only important before you know someone. I truly believe that looks are what attract us to a person but personality is what keeps us there. Sounds like she's already interested in you so your level of attractiveness shouldn't ... (read in full...)
Was this guy's attention more than just harmless flirting?
Q. I was hanging out with one of my guy friends today in a small group and he was doing little flirtatious things like blowing in my ear, playing with my hair, and making one small sexual gesture to me while also trying to get my attention out of ...
A. 12 March 2007: There's only one way to find out.... ask him.
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Could my sickness and light-headedness mean I'm pregant? Even though I'm on the pill?
Q. I'm on the pill but had sex without a comdom 17 days ago. Is it possible for me to be pregnant, because today while I was shopping I started feeling sick and very light headed as if I were going to faint....
A. 12 March 2007: If you're having sex, whether you use the pill, condoms or whatever there's always a tiny chance you could be pregnant but it is very unlikely. Keep taking your pill but if you don't have a period take a test. If it's positive then stop taing your ... (read in full...)
Is she starting to see me as a friend more than a red-hot lover?
Q. Hi, I have been with my girl for about 5 years now. Our relationship in the beginning was red-hot passion... we both couldn't keep our hands off one another..now, she isn't so interested in sex. She went away for a business trip last weeke...
A. 12 March 2007: Twice a week is average. It's only natural that after five years you're not as hot for each other as you once were. It doesn't mean she doesn't fancy you anymore or that she's seeing someone else, just that you need to do something to keep the spark ... (read in full...)
We live long distance, he comes over... and spends more time playing his online games than he does with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and we see each other only during the weekends. After one week of work, I look forward spending time with him. However, he on the other hand, would play his online games when he’s over at my ...
A. 12 March 2007: Are we talking about one weekend or is this a standard pattern? If it's one weekend try and let it go since we all have weekends where we obsess about one thing. If it's every weekend it sounds like he needs a sharp wake up call. You need to tell ... (read in full...)
she led him on when she fell out with her boyfriend, now they're back together and he's crazy on her. What does she do?
Q. my best friend has been in a relationship with her bf now for about 1 year an 3 months an just recently she has met someone else who was a really good friend to her when her and her bf were having problems an she secretly without her bf knowing had ...
A. 12 March 2007: The best thing to do in this situation is to be honest. Tell her to tell her friend like it is, something like
"I really owe you for all the support you gave me when me and x were having problems and I know that if it weren't for you we probably... (read in full...)
I've tried to throw him out but he claims he has no where to go, I have 2 kids to consider here, what do I do?
Q. Hi I have only just found out that my partner of 11 years has been cheating on me and got another woman pregnant, as you can imagine I am totally gutted, he says he wants to stay with me and loves me but I keep finding text messages on his phone. ...
A. 12 March 2007: I think you're doing the right thing by considering your kids in this decision because what happens to them is important. In my opinion you should try and save your marriage before giving it up if only for their sakes. However if you do stay with ... (read in full...)
He's told me he might be moving to Ireland but I've found him to lie a lot. Should I believe him?
Q. i am thirteen i have just found out the boy i like might be moving too ireland and i am very upset about it. He does lie a lot and i dont know what to do about it. Things have been going well between us latley though, should i tell him i feel ...
A. 12 March 2007: Tell him how you feel by all means. The other noter is right. You might always regret it if you don't. However.... be extremely careful if you end up getting into a relationship with this guy because either your heart willbe broken when he moves ... (read in full...)
I love him so much but he only likes me as a friend!
Q. hi, well this year and last year i have been unbleivably in love with a guy called richard and i never actually told him and i thought there was no way anythin was gonna happen between me and him and i tried for 5 months to get over him but it didnt ...
A. 12 March 2007: Unfortunately the person who doesn't want to be in the relationship always gets their own way and you're right that you need to accept it. I would say that however much you feel like you'll never get over it you will. In these situations a lot of it ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend never wants to mess around any more, this other girl I know does... what do I do?
Q. well me and my gf have been dating for a few months. everything was goin great. but latley she never wants to mess around. and last night this girl that is kinda a friend started txting me outta now where. we were just talkin then all of a sudden ...
A. 12 March 2007: Yes. If you want to be with this other girl dump your girlfriend first. Cheating is never right no matter how long its been since you've gotten any. If you don't want to dump your girlfriend then tell the other girl her texts are inappropriate and ... (read in full...)
He says he loves this other girl so why is he keeping in contact with me all the time?
Q. i was with this guy for just over 2years and things were fine between us but last september he met somebody else whos only just 16 and hes almost 21, and he sais he loves her but all hes doing is asking to meet me and keeping on talkin to me and ...
A. 12 March 2007: This may sound harsh but it sounds to me like he wants you as his insurance policy in case things go wrong with his new girlfriend. You're better than that so don't let it happen.
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My boyfriend has broken up with me and now I think I'm pregnant! Help!!!
Q. hi my boyfriend broken up with me about 2 months ago but i think im pregnant. i dont know what to do i took one doctors wee test and one home test both come back negitive i have had my period in 3 months but they was not like my normal period. ...
A. 12 March 2007: Go back to see your doctor and say you're still worried you're pregnant. There are other tests they can do for pregnancy like blood tests and ultrasounds etc. I don't think it's worth telling your ex until you have something to tell him either way ... (read in full...)
Her mum is trying to put her off me, how can I make her think for herself?
Q. Hi there, My girlfriend and I are having problems. I'm 28 and she's 21. We've been together for 4 yrs. Her parents are going through tough times for quite some time for almost 3 years and they have more than 10 years in age difference (been...
A. 12 March 2007: The fact is that there is really only one thing you can do in this situation. Let your girlfriend think for herself. Tell her you love her and want to be with her but that you're going to give her some space to work things out. Right now she's ... (read in full...)
I want to go back to the bar where we met, but I don't want to look like a stalker!
Q. Dear Cupid, I need some help. New to dating scene again. Met a guy a couple of weeks ago who works as a dancer. We all met up at a bar afterwards. I gave him my #, he called a couple of days later looking to go out some time. However, I could...
A. 12 March 2007: I think it depends. Do you want to go back to the bar with the intention of picking him up again or just cos you want to go there with your friends? I think the reason he became short with you is because you rejected him so many times. I know you ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do or say to find out how she feels aside from bluntly asking her how she feels?
Q. There's this girl I like (of course! why else would I be here). We're great friends and we can talk about anything. She's always been pretty flirty but I think she's laying it on pretty thick around me lately. She's been able to avoid my more su...
A. 12 March 2007: You're not 12 anymore. Therefore she's not going to not speak to you forever because you ask her out and she doesn't feel the same way. Just ask her outright. You're both too old and wise to let it affect your friendship whatever the answer is.
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I'm seeing this guy but have found out he's HIV positive and I'm terrified to have sex with him. Advice please!
Q. I recently have started dating this guy at work and I like him.We are compatible together .., he makes me laugh and we have a good time together. Ive just recently found out that he is HIV positive. I nearly had sex with him on Friday, we kissed...
A. 12 March 2007: Many couples manage to have great sex despite the fact that one of them in HIV positive but the most important thing here to is to be fully informed of the risks. Make an appointment with the practise nurse at your local doctor and have a chat with ... (read in full...)
Is it true that she will feel tight again and therefore I will feel her break?
Q. Hi i'm really worried. My girlfriend wants to have sex and she said she's virgin. But i'm worried that suppose she had done sex before but she stopped doing it which they are called 'born again virgin', is it true that she will feel tight again...
A. 12 March 2007: Are you for real? Why don't you believe your girlfriend when she tells you she's a virgin? You have some very confused ideas about sex and I strongly advise you to learn more about sex before you start having it.
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I want to give him the gift of my virginity!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend now for 10 months. i love him so so much. we spend most days together. we cant get enough of each other. He's sweet, caring, funny, and responcable. He's almost 16 and im 14.He works on saturdays so we ...
A. 11 March 2007: You sound very mature and sensible and it's obvious from your post that you've given this a lot of careful thought. What I would ask you though is if your boyfriend is so perfect and wonderful why not wait until you're 16? The one part of your post ... (read in full...)
I am falling in love with a guy who takes drugs, I would never go down that line myself but now I've found out he's a dealer too, what should I do?
Q. I am 24 and have recently become involved with a man that uses drugs (cocaine and others) on a regular basis. At first I thought it didn't really have to affect me as we were just dating. I am confident enough in myself not to go down that road and ...
A. 11 March 2007: Of course your boyfriend's health must worry you but I'd also be worried about the effects his job will have on his and your own personal safety. Once you're into dealing drugs it's really hard to get out of the cycle because there is always someone ... (read in full...)
We broke up and I can't get her out of my head and find it so difficult to move on.
Q. Hi everyone, I'm really hurting at the moment, i split from my ex 4 months ago and well i tried 2 move on and forget about her but i just cant, i still love her but she got with someone else a week or 2 after we split up, shes still with this per...
A. 11 March 2007: Sorry but I stand by it that the great majority of people feel exactly the same when they break up. By definition break ups are always going to hurt one person more than the other and the person who wants out will ALWAYS get their own way. Believe ... (read in full...)
Does anyone think I am being paranoid or looking into things too much or am I being reasonable?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and have always had problems with his ex. At the start of our relationship he did the dirty on me and I found out that he was sleeping with his ex, we split up (Not the best start I know). We got back tog...
A. 11 March 2007: I don't think it matters whether you were being paranoid or unreasonable or entirely rational. The only thing that matters is that the trust in this relationship was evidently gone from the very moment he cheated on you the first time. You made a ... (read in full...)
Would a man ever look twice at someone 10 years younger?
Q. Hey, I don't know where else to turn, or ask for an outsider's opinion. I have a crush on a man 10 years my elder. I'm not too fussed about age, but it seems ridiculous. Would a man ever look twice at someone 10 years younger? We get on well ...
A. 11 March 2007: It's not wrong in a legal or moral sense for you to date a man ten years older than you as long as you really are 16 but ten years is a huge gap at your age. When you're 20 and he's 30 it won't be as big since the gap narrows as you get older but ... (read in full...)
We broke up and I can't get her out of my head and find it so difficult to move on.
Q. Hi everyone, I'm really hurting at the moment, i split from my ex 4 months ago and well i tried 2 move on and forget about her but i just cant, i still love her but she got with someone else a week or 2 after we split up, shes still with this per...
A. 11 March 2007: The people who tell you that you have to move on are right. She's moved on and she's not coming back. We all feel like you do when someone we love breaks up with us. What separates us is the way we decide to react to the breakup. We could all fall ... (read in full...)
What were these dreams about and why did I have them?
Q. hey! im 16 and i had a really disturbing dream last night. it was a sexual one and in my dream i was in a room and i was naked. my grandpa was in the room aswell and i was getting turned on and was moving closer to him. then i sat right next to ...
A. 11 March 2007: I don't think you should read too much into them. You're 16 or 17. Your mind and body are obsessed with sex right now and that seems to have crossed over into your subconscious. Have you had sex already? I think that maybe if you haven't you have ... (read in full...)
I fancy this girl, how do I know if she feels the same way?
Q. i fancy this girl, how do i know if she likes me? i talk on msn with her, i always start the conversation first. shall i not talk to her a few days and see if she tries talkin? it's way too difficult to talk at school because she is surrounded by...
A. 11 March 2007: Was she interested in going out in a four last time before something came up? If she was then she probably will be again. The easter holidays are coming up. Why not make a plan for then?
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What does my dream mean?
Q. hi i went out with this boy that i had an absolutely huge crush on last year! im still not completly over him but im with someone else now :) i had a dream last night about him though that he came on msn and i was just about to talk to him on m...
A. 11 March 2007: I think sometimes these things happen in our dreams as a way of saying goodbye to something that once meant an awful lot to us. When someone in my family dies I have a dream about them about a year later when they come to visit me but something gets ... (read in full...)
I asked her to get engaged but family members didn't approve so we dropped the whole idea. What do I do now?
Q. I was quite close to getting engaged to a girl i liked but it didn't go well with our family members and we had to drop the whole idea. But as i was looking forward to it with quite curiosity and positivity, i am now in a state of intense feelings ...
A. 11 March 2007: It doesn't matter how your family members feel about this engagement. Do you want to marry this girl and does she want to marry you? If the answer to both these questions is yes then I don't understand what the problem is.
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I can't get the thought of sleeping with her out of my mind... Help!
Q. I feel like a married woman in my family (Extended) is attracted to me. I keep thinking about laying down with her even when i am not at her place. Also she lives in a joint family with my cousin (his husband) and 6 other people including my ...
A. 11 March 2007: She is married. She made a choice about the man she wanted to spend the rest of her life with. She didn't pick you. You have to move on or risk tearing your family apart.
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Did he really mean it when he text me to say I love you?
Q. I've recently had feelings for a boy at my school who I've been friends with for 2-3 years. He text me on Friday saying 'i love u' but i wasnt sure if he was joking or not because on Fridays he does football with his mates, so I text my friend and ...
A. 11 March 2007: Whoa! Slow down! You're worrying about a relationship that hasn't even started yet ending! Your age isn't specified on your post but would it be fair to assume that you're pretty inexperienced with guys? People always play games at the start of a ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my feces had blood on it?
Q. I went to the toilet and when i did a (NUMBER 2) some blood came out about the same size as my fingernail. it only happened once so can this happen? ...
A. 11 March 2007: What probably happened is that you have a small hemarhoid or you were a bit constipated so that when you passed feces you scratched yourself inside and bled a little. If it only happens once or twice it's nothing to worry about but if there is more ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with him wanting more and 'casual time'?
Q. Can I work through him falling out of love with his wife and turning our friendship into something more? We have been friends for 1.5 years. He has been miserable with his marriage (he has no kids with her but she has kids from a previous relation...
A. 11 March 2007: What I would do is try and put yourself in his wife's position just for a second. How would you feel if your husband was having casual time with another woman even if there was nothing sexual about it? I think you need to stick to your guns about ... (read in full...)
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