Does going down on a woman frequently make her more likely to cheat?
Q. I want to ask a question please which I'd like the most honest answers to. There's a couple, male and female, and in this relationship the man is willing to go down on a woman all the time without question while making love and without being as...
A. 15 September 2012: A woman (or a man) will only cheat if they are a cheat. It does not matter how good or how bad you treat them. Reasons for cheating are excuses because the choice of leaving is available to them. imo.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 4 years won't stop going on dating sites. Is it worth trying to sort this out?
Q. Hi, I am new on here and would really like some advice on what to do. I have been with my boyfriend 4 years. He wont stop going on dating sites. I have caught him doing it and seen it with my own eyes 3 times, I have also got to the point where I ...
A. 9 September 2012: You would probably be better ending your relationship before he does.... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I cheated on my Gf last night and never felt guilty about it. Is it something within me?
Q. I really don't know what's wrong with me and i hate what i am doing. I am 27 and i have always been a ladies man, to say. I don't know what my problem is. I have always enjoyed going out and meeting girls in bars and having fun. I am a good ...
A. 29 August 2012: If you was with a woman who is right for you, who you love, then you would nor want to cheat. You wouldnt even think about wanting to meet girls online.... (read in full...)
Have I lost her?
Q. I have recently been dumped by my girlfriend of 6 years. I love her dearly and believe she loved me but we stopped communicating in the right way. We have been falling out over silly things and not speaking for weeks in the end. We once split up...
A. 27 August 2012: Do yourself a big big favor and let her stay lost forever.... (read in full...)
Dating a guy who says he loves me but he is divorced with a child, so will I always be the second choice? Should I continue seeing him?
Q. Hi dearcupid I need some advice before moving further with the man I'm dating. He's really nice and we get on so well, he has already told me he loves me after 6 months. It was a meeting through friends, but not planned or anything. I am worried ...
A. 27 August 2012: He may have got married to her, after being turned down by another woman two years previous to meeting his ex wife. If so, then that makes you "third" best. Who knows? If you had met a dream guy before the guy you are second best for, then you would ... (read in full...)
I met my soul mate online but he just broke up with me via text because his mom told him to!
Q. Dear Cupids I am at my lowest point ever I hope you can understand everything I have to say , and would really like your opinions of how to go about this. I met this guy online ( i know I was also one of the ones that said never ...
A. 26 August 2012: "It wouldnt feel right" because of your kids? What does that tell you?... (read in full...)
Should I confront the man my wife had a one night stand with?
Q. My wife had a one night stand behind my back. She was in school with this guy and he knew she was married. I know where this guy lives, my question is do i go round there and hit the shit out of him?...
A. 25 August 2012: It has been said already, but, it really is true, that "she" is the one that cheated on you, "she" is the one who has no respect for you. He has helped in exposing her true character for you.... (read in full...)
My partner stole from my father and now my mom thinks he stole from her,I should hate him for this right?
Q. My partner admitted to taking £10 from my dads money. He said he borrowed it and was going to put it back that same night but my Dad noticed the money was missing and called me at work. My partner denied taking it at first but yesterday (3 weeks ...
A. 8 August 2012: It sounds like you are deliberately blinding yourself to the fact that he is a thief and a liar. He is also giving you bullshit by saying he was borrowing and going to put it back. I dare say he is able to steal from anyone. If I caught someone I ... (read in full...)
I would like to work things out and be a proper couple, what do you suggest?
Q. Hi everyone I have liked this man for 18 months now it has just been sex but I really like him we haven't spoken for three months yesterday we bumped into one another and got talking he said he would come around to see me but he didn't turn up I ...
A. 3 August 2012: Unfortunately being a proper couple means not being his knock off, and unless this one defies the odds, then knock offs and proper relationships are two totally different things to most guys and should not be misinterpreted.... (read in full...)
I've been lied to again but don't know how to confront her...
Q. I've just found out from my girlfriend's brother in-law that she deceived me again. To cut a long story short, she's lied to me a few times on about where she's been and other different things. I met up with my girlfriends brother in-law to ta...
A. 19 July 2012: If you want to live the rest of your life with peace of mind, you are going to have to get out of that relationship.... (read in full...)
I've been lied to again but don't know how to confront her...
Q. I've just found out from my girlfriend's brother in-law that she deceived me again. To cut a long story short, she's lied to me a few times on about where she's been and other different things. I met up with my girlfriends brother in-law to ta...
A. 13 July 2012: You don`t really need it spelling out for you, do you? It sounds more like, when she returned, she wanted things between you to work out, because wherever she was, did not work out. You know she`s a liar, so if she did tell you the truth, you ... (read in full...)
I don't want to date a man with kids. Am I expecting too much?
Q. So I have a son who is 16 months old. And for some reason I don't think dating a man with a kid is an option. I find that men with kids tend to have a lot of baggage; child support, baby mom drama, and no money.. I simply don't want a guy who is ...
A. 2 July 2012: I want to date a supermodel. Luckily I am more realistic, so I will have to accept someone more ordinary, even a single mother perhaps. ... (read in full...)
He cheated throughout our relationship, what do I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 1 year, i guess u could say a bit longer than that but we spent a few months getting to know each other 1st. Through out the course of the year, i suspected he was up to no good, he called me ...
A. 27 June 2012: I`m not sure that you have this the right way round. He was actually cheating with you, not on you. I would forget about forgiving him and concentrate more on his worth. You may have a future with him, but I don`t see it being a happy one.... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 7 June 2012: You may need a reality check on this one. Basically, she is an escort/call girl/hooker, you are a punter. It is her job to make you want to go back to her. the more you visit, the more she gets paid. You need to find a real relationship, someone who ... (read in full...)
What is the average age when a man feels ready to settle down?
Q. Hi this is just a quick question. I was talking to a male friend recently and he mentioned an average age that men feel ready to settle down. I was just wondering what is a mans average age to settle down thanks ...
A. 17 May 2012: It depends how old he is when he meets someone with mutual love and suitability.... (read in full...)
Can I get past someone's looks and fall for them?
Q. after a not so great relationship for four years i am now dating. i have met nice man but in truth he does nothin for me! he is very.sweet kind etc and i no he feels a great deal for me. i no i sound shallow but im wonderng can u get past someon ...
A. 22 April 2012: Unfortunately we cannot choose who we fall for or who we are attracted to. That kinda chooses itself for us. I have a feeling you may have met this man on the rebound.... (read in full...)
My husband has filed for divorce and doesn't want to work things out. Should I just accept it?
Q. My husband of two years is in the process of divorcing me. I really don't want this to happen but he will not communicate with me any more. He said prior to him telling me that he was divorcing me that I was selfish and was always difficult putting ...
A. 21 April 2012: I think by the way you have told it, that you may have to accept that you are not compatible. Let it go.... (read in full...)
I usually have high standards, so why am I into this average looking girl?
Q. Usually I have very high standards (it takes a fair amount of beauty to get a 8-10 mental rating from me), but I have recently met this girl who I would have never looked twice at in the street and I don't know why I am so taken with her...?...
A. 15 April 2012: Maybe you are in shock because you are nowhere near as shallow as you thought you were? Sometimes there is an attraction we don`t understand, it is like a scent. It may even be that she has a charismatic personality. In all, I don`t think you have a ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to keep lots of pics of your ex?
Q. Is it normal to keep pics of your exes? i mean lots of pics, naked, underwear shots, normal pics. Im not sure he is over these ex girlfriends!...
A. 15 April 2012: He probably is over his ex`s. The photos will be there as a memory of the good sex they once shared.... (read in full...)
What is it that makes a guy stick around for the long haul?
Q. Hi, Just wondering if anyone (males in particular) can answer this for me. What is it that makes a guy stick around for the long haul or even the forseeable future. It seems to me, per the advise given be people on this site, that girls ...
A. 14 April 2012: Try ignoring one then, just to see if he comes running back.... (read in full...)
I cheated now he wont he talk to me
Q. hi , a couple of years ago i dated a young man for a few months , he was a good lover , was very nice to me but unfortunatley i was rebounding from my ex who was totally opposite to my new boyfriend (my ex was always on and off with his wife with ...
A. 9 April 2012: It appears that you are more suited to someone who will treat you bad. The guy has no quality that you can relate to or live in harmony with. You would be better off being friends with the ex that dumped you.... (read in full...)
How can I permanently be with my lover?
Q. Ive been married for 22 years and got 3 kids (grown up now tho), ive been having an affair for the past 7 years with a man i love very very much, he is married and has 1 grown up daughter. We want to be together but we havent a clue what to do or ...
A. 8 April 2012: Have you ever heard the song by Paul Simon called 50 ways to leave your lover? In your situation it`s not too difficult to leave. The biggest hunch here is does your lover really want to be with you permanently? There`s only one way to find that ... (read in full...)
Is my LDR committed or am I falling for him too much?
Q. I'm in a long-distance relationship. I'm in the US, he's in the UK. We've been together for over 10 months and in the course of that time we've only shown each other a photo, and as of recently started texting each other. We met online, and have ...
A. 7 April 2012: You mentioned you have shown each other a photo. You know what he looks like then? There is not much you can really be sure about here. Myself, I wouldnt be shocked if I found out he`s twice the age he says he is, or something even worse. It is not ... (read in full...)
Seeing married man on the fly, does he have feelings for me?
Q. I have really good friend who is married , he's been with this girl 10 years , they split up befour annd we were secretly seeing each other for a few weeks . Over the past few weeks we have been kissing at the weekends when we have a drink in us but ...
A. 1 April 2012: No he wont have feelings for you. He wont have feelings for anyone but himself.... (read in full...)
After six weeks I asked him the status of our relationship and he backed off!
Q. I asked this guy the status of our relationship- we've been seeing each other for 6 weeks. He gave me an honest answer that he has too much work atm resulting in lack of free time, his ex is still at the back of his mind and he has family issues so ...
A. 1 April 2012: I wouldnt get your hopes up with this guy really. If you want a real relationship with potential, you may be better looking elsewhere. ... (read in full...)
Do you think I should lie and tell my family that I have a job, or should I just tell them the truth?
Q. I'm nervous about going to a family party this weekend. I'm unemployed, and my family members have really good jobs, and they seem posh ( i'm not saying that in a bad way ). They live in different parts of the country .I am from a very small town ...
A. 29 March 2012: It`s better to be unemployed than an unemployed liar. The truth always comes out in the end. You are in a shit situation being unemployed, but it does not make you a lesser person. Have faith in yourself and be proud of who you are.... (read in full...)
What is the meaning behind my ex sending me a text "good luck with your life"?
Q. My ex just sent me a message saying "good luck with your life".We broke up two months ago, why is he contacting me?.When we broke up another time before that, he got intouch after a couple of months then too and he sent a message saying he hoped my ...
A. 29 March 2012: Ignore it, otherwise your life with him will become a cycle. ... (read in full...)
He has a new girlfriend only 3 weeks after we broke up, will he really be ok when I meet someone else? I cant believe this after he used to say I was the love of his life!
Q. My ex and my baby's daddy has a new girlfriend, he keeps telling me that it will not bother him when i meet someone else, is this true? we were together four years have two children together. he says i was the love of his life his world but only ...
A. 26 March 2012: Some people are like that. They just need to be in a relationship no matter what. Should the latest love of his life decide she doesnt want him any more, I would think twice about ever going back with him. You know just what he`s like now.... (read in full...)
My wife wants the woman I cheated with to tell her about things before she can let it go!
Q. hi there i had an affair 11 years ago and my wife found out 14 months ago .The affair lasted 2 a half years and my wife was devastated i have tried every thing possible to win her back.we have been on holidays i buy her flowers all the time and ...
A. 19 March 2012: You actually have shown your wife how much you love her by having an affair.... (read in full...)
Insecurity issues -- she cheated and said he was her best ever
Q. Hello everyone Now I have a big insecurity issue to deal with and it usually end up with me feeling unwanted by my fiancé Long story short We got into a fight we broke up I tried getting back then found out that a guy that used to ONLY give h...
A. 19 March 2012: Dump her.Tell her you`v found someone else who`s a tighter fit. ... (read in full...)
How could he move on so quick?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of five and a half years called it quit a month and two weeks ago. One month after we separated he post pics on Facebook of him and his new girlfriend. My heart hurt in a place I never felt before. I don't know whether to move ...
A. 18 March 2012:
Rather than sit there wondering how he could move on so quickly, why not accept what it has really taught you about him?... (read in full...)
Rather than dealing with our problems, at the first sign of trouble she goes straight onto dating sites!
Q. I have been in a relationship for 3 years now. It appears that every time there is a problem or I am not up to scratch, that instead of telling me what I have done or not done, she goes on date sites and talks to men. For the last year I have been ...
A. 15 March 2012: She is with you only because no one else wants her. Face it!!!... (read in full...)
Why did she have to go to some random guy at a party to make her feel special?
Q. ok people i need some help im going to try to keep this as simple as i can but no promises. soooooo me and my gf are dating for almost 2 yrs and we have had our good days and bad days just like everyone, this just so happens to be the bad days....
A. 14 March 2012: She is that way inclined and will probably do it again. You are young enough to get over this and find another girl who`s more balanced and secure.... (read in full...)
My g/f has had 35 plus partners and I know 4 of them!
Q. my girlfriend of 10years has had about 35previous partners an i can't stop thinking about it and 4of them i know. i have these feelings of anger alot i still even think theres more an she is lying an theres a chance she cheated with 2 or 3 aswell im ...
A. 9 March 2012: You either accept it or get out of it. You have no other choice. There is something I would like to point out to you. If you read dear cupid regularly, you will see guys like yourself writing in because they have found out they are being cheated on. ... (read in full...)
Do ALL guys watch porn?
Q. I know this is a bit obvious to ask but really and truly do all/most guys watch porn? (And I don't mean constantly just even every once in awhile) Of course there are some individuals who don't of course, but if you're dating a nice, quiet, shy, ...
A. 24 February 2012: Yes we probably do. So do a lot of women and couples. A lot more than you would think they do. I do not believe watching porn has anything to do with being single or attached. If you object to your boyfriend watching porn then discuss it and tell ... (read in full...)
What is the most romantic way to win over an ex who is dating someone else?
Q. 5 days ago I dumped my girlfriend that I have had for 6 months. I wanted to be single and I honestly think about my ex a lot. I love her still but she is with another man. It stinks, to say the least. So after the break up I see my ex's tumblr f...
A. 24 February 2012: So after only 5 days after dumping her she`s with someone? I don`t think she was any more committed than you were. It will never work.... (read in full...)
He put pictures up on Facebook of his ex wives, am I right to be upset by this or am I over-reacting?
Q. My boyfriend has recently put a couple of photos of his ex wives on his phone, and his FB timeline. I was a bit shocked when I saw them. His explanation was that they were a part of his past and he wanted them there. I found this odd, I too have ex ...
A. 23 February 2012: Its not exactly the accepted way of doing things if he was serious about you. Yes, you`v got good reason to be pissed off.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend will ruin my life if I leave her. How do I get out of this?
Q. My girlfriend is completely obsessed with me. If I leave her she will ruin my life. I think the only way to make her fall out of love with me is to tell her that im convinced that im seriousely gay even though im not. What can I do that will make ...
A. 22 February 2012: If you are living under such pretence then your life is ruined already. She will only ruin it if you allow her. You could take out a court restriction order or stoop to her level and ruin her life too. Does she know something that could land you in ... (read in full...)
I don't want to die without trying anal sex, so is it cheating if I hire a prostitute as my wife refuses to do this?
Q. Just something that I've been thinking about: My wife and I have been together for years. Like any other couple, we have boundaries and red flags in sex. Anal sex is a red flag for her. But I can't get it off of my mind! I don't want to die wit...
A. 22 February 2012: Yes, of course it is cheating, daft question. It looks like you wont be going up the poop shoot unless you cheat mate. Don`t cheat on her. Respect her boundaries. There are lots of things you wont have tried before dying so think of something else ... (read in full...)
Men and fidelity.....
Q. do men always secretly want to have sex with other women when they are in a relationship/married...to be specific when they are in love with their partner. are the faithful men faithful because they are obliged to? is it that men have to control ...
A. 22 February 2012: Men and women are exactly the same. I have had married women coming on to me and seen friends girlfriends with other guys too.... (read in full...)
I hate the girl I love, so why do I love her?
Q. I am crazy about a girl but I also kind of hate. I have been single for 1 and a half years but I really like this 1 girl but in a way I hate her. She is a slag, she is cheating on her current boy friend she is can be mean and she never is single ...
A. 22 February 2012: Maybe you hate her because you cant have what you believe everyone else is getting. Come on mate, this is not healthy for you. Forget her and look at other women.... (read in full...)
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