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What is it that makes a guy stick around for the long haul?

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Question - (14 April 2012) 7 Answers - (Newest, 17 April 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi,

Just wondering if anyone (males in particular) can answer this for me.

What is it that makes a guy stick around for the long haul or even the forseeable future.

It seems to me, per the advise given be people on this site, that girls that are genuinely nice and just by texting fellas seems to make them run and therefore by ignoring them they will come running back.....

Are we meant to treat them like crap and play games or is there any genuine fellas that meet someone and want to see where it goes without all the games?

When did it all get so complicated!

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A female reader, adamantine Australia +, writes (17 April 2012):

adamantine agony auntWhy don't you try being friends with the guys first? From what I've seen/experienced, the best relationships start with friendship. Get to know him and build it up from there.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2012):

OP that's an impossible question to answer. It's too general and simplistic a view of things. There are too many variables to say something like that and there are many reasons why the guy's you're referring to walk away. You know every time I hear a person speak the way you do and call themselves genuine and nice, I always think to myself that this person either doesn't know what they're doing wrong or they're not really as nice and genuine as they think they are.

If you can give us a specific situation with details maybe we can help you understand why a certain guy or guys didn't pursue you further.

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A male reader, bronzed adonis United Kingdom +, writes (14 April 2012):

bronzed adonis agony auntTry ignoring one then, just to see if he comes running back.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2012):

If a guy is not into you as much as you may have told yourself he is, or further down the line he doesnt like the treatment he`s receiving or feels things are not balanced, then he wont stay around. If a guy is into you he will text you back. It`s simple. It`s not a game.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2012):

Guys who are insecure or have low self esteem can behave in very strange ways. Everything is focused on suppressing their anxiety and shame and this can lead to some weird playing of games with you.

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A female reader, In.love.with.him United States +, writes (14 April 2012):

In.love.with.him agony aunt I think it all depends how you were raised. I've met woman who love their boyfriends that beat them silly and they stick around even though that guy has multiple other girlfriends. Whether it's a fear of leaving or being lonely they are all stuck so you can't fall to pick yourself up. Whether male or female I've seen both that just take what they are given good or bad right or wrong. Once you hit the age of 10 you should have a clear realization of the differences between right and wrong and someone who is in their late teens, 20's, 30's et cetera should by all means know them too whether or not you were raised in a bad environment. But like I said some people are stuck and settle in life rather than picking themselves up and moving along in their own direction of course. I think your question could apply to male and female though if I was a guy and a girl ran from me I'd say hey nice knowing you. lol

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2012):

It's not complicated. When a guy really likes you, he'll pursue you and not play games. The situation you are referring to happens when a girl is too into a guy and chases him when she's not his type or he doesn't feel that spark.

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