Where is the line between deceit and harmless white lies?
Q. I would appreciate some opinions please, and thank you. There are TWO parts to my problem. I believe I have met my soulmate. I have only felt this way once before, so I know the feeling. I knew it immediately. We have been together nearly a y...
A. 17 February 2013: "I asked him if he had been in touch with her, and he said he hadn't for a long time" That was deliberate a lie that he told you. In my opinion, and that`s all it is, I would say he is dishonest and I would not trust him. I dont think he was lying ... (read in full...)
Would you help your ex raise a child from another woman? He says we can't get back together except as friends
Q. ok, has anyone ever encountered this before? my husband, well ex now once asked if he went and got someone pregnant would i help him raise it? i told him no im too old i have already raised my children. oh we could not have any together because of a ...
A. 14 February 2013: I think your main concern at this moment should be trying to make yourself "unlove" him and try to move on. The only good thing about him wanting to get back with you should be you can have the pleasure of telling him NO. He does not sound like he ... (read in full...)
Online guy seems to have vanished! I'm disappointed did he get the wrong impression?
Q. Hello I'm hoping someone can shed a light please?... Last week I met a guy online. We exchanged loads of messages and seemed to get on really well and have loads in common. I told him my interests ag walking, camping and he hinted that he would ...
A. 13 February 2013: No one knows what he is thinking or why he`s disappeared on you. What I can tell you is when a man is interested in a woman, he will not hesitate or waste time, whether Scorpio, Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Capricorn or whatever. If you left the ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he tell me about this close female friend of his? Why has he saved hundreds of emails? And why is he buying this woman gifts that I don't even know about?
Q. I don't know if I'm overreacting or not... I hope someone can help me clear this up in my head. I have discovered that my husband of less than a year has a close female friend that until the other day, I did not know about. I found out when he left ...
A. 9 February 2013: You are not overreacting. It needs raising and you need answers. Would he tolerate this from you? The fact that it is hidden shows he knows it is not appropriate.... (read in full...)
She sends texts to her male workmate every day. Does it sound like I have a right to be discouraged and want to leave her? She dismisses my fears.
Q. My wife and i have been married 5 years and for the past 2 years, she has been texting her workmate and calling him on a daily. We also live very close to her workplace and he takes her and picks her up. Ive spoken to my wife about my dislike...
A. 9 February 2013: At the moment you dont know if anything is going on or not. I cannot say if anything is going on or not, but she is behaving like there is.... (read in full...)
She has started going on dating sites, in front of me. She tells me there is better than me out there. What should I do?
Q. I have lived with my girlfriend for 5 years. We have both decided against getting married and have no children (she doesnt want any). Everything has been steady and we have always got on. Over the past 6 months she has got into a twice weekly g...
A. 6 February 2013: She is not in touch with reality. I think you are the one who could do far better. I think the dating site is an even bigger kick in the teeth, than her having to tell you her what her equally unrealistic friend says and thinks. I would walk out of ... (read in full...)
Suspicious of my friend's request
Q. Dear cupid i know this sounds stupid but a good friend asked me to return some items to a store for store credit because she lost the receipt . I am starting to think she stole them . Would you take them back can i get into trouble?...
A. 5 February 2013: If you are in doubt DO NOT return them. ... (read in full...)
Gf sending dirty texts to another man
Q. Hi, I've been with my gf for nearly 3 years, it's had it's ups and downs but we've got through them, between us we have 4 children, she has 3 girls I have one boy. The two youngest girls dad left when the youngest was born, and hasn't been around ...
A. 25 January 2013: Big move and well done!... (read in full...)
Gf sending dirty texts to another man
Q. Hi, I've been with my gf for nearly 3 years, it's had it's ups and downs but we've got through them, between us we have 4 children, she has 3 girls I have one boy. The two youngest girls dad left when the youngest was born, and hasn't been around ...
A. 24 January 2013: I cannot blame you. Best of luck.... (read in full...)
Gf sending dirty texts to another man
Q. Hi, I've been with my gf for nearly 3 years, it's had it's ups and downs but we've got through them, between us we have 4 children, she has 3 girls I have one boy. The two youngest girls dad left when the youngest was born, and hasn't been around ...
A. 23 January 2013: You don`t deserve what has been happening. She has`nt been honest with you, and because of this, by confronting her, you still don`t know if she will be honest about everything with you. I dont think it matters what or what has not happened. You ... (read in full...)
I asked my ex to meet up and she totally ignored me. What does that mean?
Q. Me and my ex girlfriend are back in touch in after 3 months. I asked jer to meet up and she completely ignored the question and changed the subject. What does this mean!?!...
A. 20 January 2013: I dont know why you even need to ask this question. It means she doesnt want to, or is not going to, for reasons she has not yet mentioned.... (read in full...)
Confused - why didn't my ex recognise me??
Q. Ok, this might sound a bit weird, but I wanted someone else’s perspective on it. I dated a guy for about nine months in 2009; it was a fairly serious relationship, but we split because we lived too far apart to make it work. It was a fairly amicable ...
A. 19 January 2013: Unless he is suffering severely with memory loss (but he probably isnt), then it sounds like he just didnt want to talk to you.... (read in full...)
Can anyone pls explain how someone can be in love and then just lose feelings overnight?
Q. Can anyone pls explain how someone can be in love and then just lose feelings overnight? I joined on line dating. Not to date, not to cheat, but because I was bored because he would rather be out football training, than be home with me. He doesnt ...
A. 18 January 2013: He is angry with you for joining a dating site. This is not an indication of how much he loves you, or whether he does`nt love you anymore. You joined a dating site. Do you not know what people join dating sites for? How else would you expect him to ... (read in full...)
I love 2 men and don't want to hurt either of them
Q. I am in a very weird position. I love two men! I was dating a man in the army who was just about to deploy, he said he really likes me etc etc Then he went away and we decided to talk about taking our relationship further when he comes back. He is ...
A. 15 January 2013: If you loved the first one then the second one would not have happened. You need to work out why you believe you love them in my opinion. If you HAVE to love one of them, then love the one who`s available.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband to evict him? And that I've been flirting with the younger cute male student we sub-let a room to?
Q. Times have been hard lately for my husband and I so we got a room mate to help split the rent of our 3 bedroom 3 bathroom home.I'm 27 and my husband is 29 our new room mate is a 20 year old college student, pretty quit and geeky. I'm a stay at home ...
A. 14 January 2013: Are you sure your husband wont evict YOU instead? I will be honest with you, that if I was in his situation, I would be far more hurt by you, not your room mate. If you are distracted so easily then there are other important things you should be ... (read in full...)
I love my friend and want to stay friends with him despite him having a girlfriend. Why won't he open up to me?
Q. im friends with a guy and last summer we grew close as in a few kisses nothing else. hes been with his girlfriend 5 years. he says shes domineering and threatens suicide. i fell deeply in love with him but he said due to what was going on he couldnt ...
A. 13 January 2013: He has got a girlfriend. If he was as unhappy as you have been led to believe, then he would have left her. He would have left her with or without you in the background. If you are only interested in friendship then what is there to be confused ... (read in full...)
He abused me for years. Then he found a new Gf. Now he is ill he wants me back. What do I say? I said "no" but he's not listening.
Q. I was in love with this guy in my early teens and he was 16 at the time. We were together for many years had two kids and then he winds up being over protective very mentally, verbally,physically abusive toward me. The abuse started after I had ...
A. 13 January 2013: Ask him if his girlfriend knows that he wants you back under his control. Maybe a hint that you may tell her if he does not stop may help. You do not have to entertain or answer to this guy period. Unless it is about your children or extremely ... (read in full...)
My Bf will be so hurt. I cheated over Christmas with a work colleague. What should I do now?
Q. Need some advice,I understand if you judge me, I hate myself for it..... Me and my boyfriend of 2 years went through a miserable period over Christmas, felt really down about it. I had my works Christmas party where I found myself really drunk, ...
A. 12 January 2013: I usually hate cheats. I feel sorry for you though. The reason I feel sorry is because you are not a bad person. You have not blamed him, justified your actions or blamed anyone but yourself. It would be better to tell him. Things like this have a ... (read in full...)
Stepping over the friendship zone into dating. Is it worth the risk?
Q. A very good friend of mine has recently told me he likes me as more than a friend and I think I have feelings for him too but am unsure. We've been very close for a few years, see eachother a couple of times a week, but have never ever overstepped ...
A. 9 January 2013: If you overstep the friends mark, it doesnt work out and it DOES ruin your friendship, then maybe your friendship wasnt as strong as you thought it was. What is wrong with being in a relationship with someone who is a good friend? Why do some people ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is going on online dating sites. Do I have a right to be upset about this?
Q. I am having had a bad time again with my boyfriend. We have been back together after we broke up because of his online dating sites. Over the course of a year, we had argument after argument over his lies and refusal to accept that I had the right ...
A. 9 January 2013: He could argue that meeting a girl when you wasnt together at the time is not your business. The truth is, the circumstances around it was a kick in the teeth. I don`t think he has much respect for you. I would dump him because he`s not someone you ... (read in full...)
So nervous on the first date, I think I blew it! How should I proceed?
Q. Hello aunts .... I've posted on here before and the advice helped me greatly .. so here I am again with a situation I could use some help with .... Having been out of a serious relationship since last summer I decided recently to try online datin...
A. 6 January 2013: If a guy is interested enough he will act fast. He will not waste time because he will not risk anyone else getting there before him. He is still online. No one can speak for anyone personally. However, to me , it seems like he`s not very interested ... (read in full...)
Is this as sign that my husband is having an affair?
Q. My husband had a strand of hair wrapped around his penis. It wasn't mine. He says that our daughters hair that gets everywhere including our brushes in our room, has got caught in his clothes and worked its way down there. And that this is a common ...
A. 6 January 2013: I myself, personally do not think that your husband is having an affair based on that alone. I also found hair wrapped around mine and still to this day, have no answer to who`s it was or how it got there. It was at a time when I was single and not ... (read in full...)
She totally destroyed my confidence. How to get her out of my head? How to move on from the hurt?
Q. Hi my girlfriend I had for two years was paranoid about me thinking I was looking at other girls eying them up and kept on saying that someone else comes along I would be off ,I kept on reassuring her and telling her I loved her ,she turned her ...
A. 5 January 2013: Just WTF is there to miss about her? She`s a nasty piece of work. There isnt anything you are conveniently missing out is there? If not, then stay away from her. She`s not worth it.... (read in full...)
My ex is convinced we are meant to be and won't leave me alone!
Q. My ex is convinced we are meant to be and won't leave me alone.I've blocked his numbers on my phone as he was ringing 30 times a day, and he's been blocked on facebook for ages but always keeps asking to be unblocked. He let himself into my flat ...
A. 2 January 2013: Contact the police and if necessary take out a court order. ... (read in full...)
Why can't my ex accept that we're not going to be together anymore?
Q. This guy that I have been knowing for many many many years, we use to see each other. He was a great person when I first met him then when we started going out he took me on ride that I wished I had never got on. This beast was nothing but a woman ...
A. 31 December 2012: It sounds like he has moved on.... (read in full...)
My g/f is always accusing me of cheating and now I find her on dating sites. She tells me to go back to my exs! What do I do?
Q. My girlfriend has been aggressively telling me that i cheat on her. She has been accusing me for months and brings up my sexual history with my ex. I have now found out that she has been on date match sites trying to meet men and saying she is ...
A. 27 December 2012: There is nothing unusual here. It may seem extreme to you but she just sounds like a typical cheat to me. The question is whether you want this treatment for the rest of your life or not?... (read in full...)
I'm second guessing my decision to leave my cheating husband
Q. Hi. I've just separated after being with this guy since I was a teenager. Now in my 30s with 2 kids he's all I ever knew. He claimed cheated on me and when i said im leaving, he claimed to be gutted, said he was seeing a counsellor, and taking a...
A. 21 December 2012: You could say once is forgivable. That`s if you want it to be. Repeated behaviour is different. In most cases the anti depressant and seeing a counselor story is an act. As soon as they get comfortable again, the abuse comes back.... (read in full...)
Why is he still lying? Yet begging to resume our relationship? Will he change or continue to go on dating sites if we get back together?
Q. I dumped my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago for going on dating sites and sex texting with girls. He could not even explain who these girls were, so I assumed they were from dating sites. He is still lying and says he never went on those dating s...
A. 20 December 2012: No he will probably never change. Do not even think about going back to him.... (read in full...)
How can I win him back?
Q. Ok me and my bf were the cutest couple. But one time a got a message from his ex saying I am away on holiday would she like to meet up etc. I was furious. I ended up forgiving him after his begging. We went back to normal. My ex was tryi...
A. 20 December 2012: He got a message from his ex and you was furious. Did he meet up with is ex? Is that why you was furious? or just furious because she had contacted him? It could change the whole scope of your question.... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend only sees me when he has nothing better to do!
Q. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. The problem is it seems like he only sees me when he has nothing better to do. I cannot get him to agree to do anything at the weekends because he wants to wait to see what else is happening, plus ...
A. 19 December 2012: As you have explained it, it does appear you are only there to fill a void. You need to tell him. If he does not improve, you may be better finding someone else.... (read in full...)
Her parents are staying with us over Christmas, but I've found she is having sexual conversations with strangers on the internet! Should I confront her now, or wait until her parents have gone? I'm really disgusted and thinking about leaving...
Q. My girlfriends parents are due from overseas to visit and stay over christmas. It will be the third time I have met them and we get on great. I have now discovered my girlfriend is having relationships and sexual conversations with strangers over ...
A. 19 December 2012: So you intend letting it all stew up in your brain, at least until after her parents have left? You must be very good at keeping your lid on. She is the one who has messed up your relationship. You have nothing to feel apologetic for. Dump her at y... (read in full...)
Should I leave my husband of 12 years for cheating?
Q. Should I leave my husband of 12 yrs? My husband has cheated on me numerous times only 3 times I have proof of. Back in 2005 he had an affair that lasted for 7 months. I never knew anything was wrong it was a huge slap in the face. The reason for it ...
A. 18 December 2012: You could get over this eventually and move on to find someone who will not lie and cheat. You may find someone who makes you happy. It is time to let him go.... (read in full...)
She wont give up the dating sites and chat rooms, what can I do? I don't want to leave our son....
Q. I have been living with my common law for 6 years and we have a 5 year old boy. For the last 18 months we have constantly argued over her use of dating and adult related chat room type websites. Just as always, I think we are getting back on the ...
A. 17 December 2012: If you do not want to leave, then there is nothing else you can do but live with it and accept you are not as important to her as you wish you was. I think eventually it is going to explode.... (read in full...)
Does he just prefer being married or does he really not know how to behave?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 and half years has been pressuring me to marry him. I have been unsure because we have been making up and breaking up perpetually, over his use of dating sites. He seems to overlook how much it upsets me, even though he doesnt go ...
A. 11 December 2012: He is not a very promising prospect. He has no respect for you or for women in general.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend pressured me to throw out all things from my past but she lied and didn't do the same!
Q. After 6 months I bowed to constant pressure and threw away all my old photos, holiday photos the lot (except the ones of my son). My girlfriend was adamant that they belonged in the past, was nothing to do with "us" and told me she had thrown all ...
A. 9 December 2012: This is a bad sign. It means anything that doesnt involve her is not part of your life. Your life is not even your life, it is hers. I think I would get out of this asap.... (read in full...)
We break up, we make up, but nothing has changed. What do I do about her?
Q. I have been back with my girlfriend only a week after us breaking up. We broke up because I found she had been registering on dating sites. Not only that but had been engaging in explicit conversation and exchanging photos. At first she denied it ...
A. 7 December 2012: Just what is it what you are quite attached to? Being cheated on, lied to or blamed? I have noticed there seems to be more and more of this type of question being asked on here. It also seems that the wounded party gets all the blame from the ... (read in full...)
Why did she want me back, only to end up on the dating sites again?
Q. I had lost count on how many times I had found my girlfriend on dating sites and chat rooms that focus on flrting. She either lied to me about being on them or played it down to them just being harmless internet friends and me being jealous. I ended ...
A. 4 December 2012: A fantastic piece of advice from Honeypie.... (read in full...)
While house-sitting for my girlfriend, I discovered she is not the person she lead me to believe she is.
Q. So I have been with my girlfriend about 4 months and I thought things were going great. We got serious very quickly however and ended up spending almost every day together. Lately I've felt very uncertain about several things I've discover...
A. 3 December 2012: People who cheat, then blame lack of sex or communication as the reason they did it are full of crap. They could have discussed it or ended the relationship/marriage first. To actually lay blame on a person they have just hurt is even more ... (read in full...)
Saw my best friends fiancée on a dating website. Should I tell him?
Q. I have joined a dating site. I have seen a profile of my life long best friends soon to be wife. She is active on it and it says she is single. What do I do? If I told him would it end up where she lies to him and I get classed as a trouble causer? ...
A. 2 December 2012: I think some may tell you to keep out of it for a variety of reasons. If I was in your friends situation, I would want to know. I would be more angry at something like this being held back from me. He deserves to know exactly who he is marrying. It ... (read in full...)
I dumped him because of the dating sites, but he's still on them meeting new people! How do I overcome my anger?
Q. I have broke up from a 2 year relationship. It was my decision. He would not stop visiting datimg sites and always lied to me about it or said he went on them because I nagged him all the time. Now, the same account he said wasnt his is still there ...
A. 30 November 2012: Of course you have got reason to feel pissed. You have got even more reason to be celebrating the fact that he`s gone from your life now. He didnt seem like a very good boyfriend to you so look ahead instead of looking back.... (read in full...)
I fear I've been used by a man I met on a dating site.
Q. I have been such a fool. I joined a dating site and met what seemed like a man in a million. He was a good listener, polite and we clicked. He took me for a meal and we ended up at my home, we talked and he listened to my problems and then we slept ...
A. 29 November 2012: Be very careful with who you meet. You seem a little too trusting for your own good. At the end of the day, he could have been a dangerous psychopath.... (read in full...)
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