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anonymous
writes:I'm nervous about going to a family party this weekend. I'm unemployed, and my family members have really good jobs, and they seem posh ( i'm not saying that in a bad way ). They live in different parts of the country .I am from a very small town where there are lots of people who are unemployed. They live in better areas than the area i live in too . Well, i think they are better. It's my dad's side of the family who will be at the party, and they are very different to my mum's side of the family!. Do you think i should lie and tell my family that i have a job if they ask if i have one at the moment, or should i tell them the truth ?. I feel ashamed because i am unemployed,and feel worthless compared to them because they have good jobs. Also, they might ask me if i am in a relationship, which i am, but i don't like discussing my personal life with my family that much, so should i tell them i have a boyfriend or not?. My boyfriend cant go to the party with me, as he doesnt have an invitation. We met after the invitations were sent out. Also, i'm not used to getting dressed up, and i'm going to be wearing a dress, tights and high heels, so i'm worried that i will feel self conscious. I have to be dressed up as it is an anniversary party. How can i stop feeling nervous?.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2012): Don't lie. If you lie you will only trip yourself up by having to invent a whole load of other lies ... then imagine how embarassed you'll be.These people are members of your family - they're not getting together to look at you and judge you. The party isn't about you - you won't be the centre of attention, the people who are celebrating their anniversary will be.As for what you'll wear ... I say exactly the same as in the previous paragraph. All these people are not gathering to look at you and judge you - you will not be the centre of attention.One last thing - most every woman going to the party will be fretting over what she's going to wear - we all do it!Please try to relax, have a good time and get to know some new members of your family.Good luck.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (29 March 2012):
 tell the truth and if they have good jobs they might help with getting you one. look your best and network for a job there May as well use the situation to your advantage.nearly 3 million unemployed so your not alone in the UK
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (29 March 2012):
 You're focusing on your ego and forgetting a golden opportunity here. I know it sucks to be unemployed, and everyone else on here has it right in saying that in this economic climate, you're very far from alone. Most people have friends or relatives in your same situation.
Here's the thing -- because this climate is icy when it comes to jobs, who you know could make the difference when it comes to opportunity and jobs. By telling the truth, you could come into contact with someone who might know or will know in the future a job opportunity for you. Rather than focus on how much better you think everyone is than you, think about how they will support you, and who knows? Maybe armed with info that you're on the job market, they may have connections you haven't thought of.
Yes, they live in different parts of the country, but what does that matter? Always tell the truth, especially when it comes to employment. Family is the greatest support we have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2012): What about your job description? your boss? Good pay? Promotion prospects? Paid holidays? Do you pay into a pension? You got an awful lot of lying to do because of one lie. Try telling the truth. It will be far less stressful. Not only that, but people tend not to trust liars.
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reader, dr.2.be +, writes (29 March 2012):
 Just tell them the truth. Everyone knows that the economy is bad now and jobs are hard to find. I doubt anyone will judge you, they are family and love you. Like Honeypie said, maybe somebody could hook you up with a job.
And have fun dressing up nice!! I find that no matter how bad I am feeling about myself, if I dress up nice I feel more confident and better. Stay positive!
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (29 March 2012):
 It`s better to be unemployed than an unemployed liar. The truth always comes out in the end. You are in a shit situation being unemployed, but it does not make you a lesser person. Have faith in yourself and be proud of who you are.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (29 March 2012):
 Be honest, they are your family. Besides maybe someone can help you out finding a job?
Maybe you don't have a job right now but you can go to the party looking great!
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