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writes:My friend split up from her partner of 18 years. Within a few she was dating someone else. I strongly suspect she was cheating and left her partner for the new guy. It been less then three years and she has married the guy she was cheating with. Is it possible for someone to move on so quickly without and thourghts about the previous long term relationship. Do these kind of relationships ever work out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): The faster someone moves to the next, the faster they need forgetting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): Yes it is. Some people dont care as long as they aint all on their own. That reason falsifies what they believe is love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): within a few what? if someone moves on real fast,then maybe who they left was the wrong one for them. the one they move on from will also realize that they have been with someone they should not have been with for so many years.
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reader, bluecow +, writes (10 December 2011):
 within a few what? Hours? Days? weeks? months? years?
If it was indeed hours or even days, then yes she may have had feelings for this person before her 18yr relationship officially split. She may have already accepted the inevitable breakdown of her old relationship before things became official.
However, I would say its more likely that she has just simply met a lovely new man. Being over 30 sohuld mean that she knows what she wants from a relationship and that experience allows her to evaluate a relationship with a view to future.
3 years is plenty of time to find a new partner and marry. It doesnt mean she has forgotton her past relationship, it just means she was able to accept it being over and has recovered reasonably quickly from that grief.
Some people take years to get over relationship breakdown, and others can separate those emotions within a few days. If she was less invested in the relationship towards the end, then it follows she would find it easier to move on.
It took 4 years before I was ready to date again after my last breakup, however the whole thing came as a big shock. My best friend was the opposite. The last few years of her relationship were rough and her investment had weakened as she was already aware that things werent likely to work out. When they split she was with a new guy about 4 months after the breakup.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): It's usually the person who is dumped who is on the rebound. The person breaking up has typically detached from the relationship long before it was over. Your friend was probably ready to move on long before the offical break up and getting married almost 3 years later is plenty of time to move on. It doesn't mean she was cheating.
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