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writes:How to begin...Im 25 and living at home with my parents. Im going to school (graduating in May) so i havent moved out bc my parents are helping pay for school and i pay no rent or anything. Bc of this tho, my mother whom is very strict will barely let me out! This goes for my sister as well. The problem i have is that where i worked at, which is where my mom is currently working, my boss wants to go out with me. I tried it in the past but the guy is just not for me. yet my mom does not understand that and does not allow me to go out to meet guys/have fun and especially not date other guys unless its my boss, forcing me to go out behind her back. I dont like lying to her but her obsession with me dating my boss is not normal. Since she doesnt like me going out i barely get to meet other guys and with my mom it has gotten to the point to which we are always arguing bc my boss invites me to go out and i say no bc i do not want to bring his hopes up. I no longer trust my mother, i can no longer talk to her about anything, and it has gotten to the point to which i wish i had a different mother. What to do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): Why in the hell, at your age, do you even need permission?
Just say 'I'm going out, be back later, I'll call if something happens' and then leave.
Grow Up.
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reader, krustyklown +, writes (12 February 2011):
 I agree with talking to your mother, its extremely unfortunate that she is acting that way, but in the big scheme of things paying no rent and having help paying for school is an immense help. If you are graduating in May, maybe just hunkering down and putting love life on hold is the best and only thing you can do while possibly salvaging a relationship with your mom. Its only a few more months, then you get the HELL out of there and go to the bars :p
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 You seriously need to have an adult conversation with your mother and tell her that you have your own mind.. Is your father like this too?? Could you not talk to him?
People will try and control us if we allow them too... I had a similar suitation when I was younger and I allowed a very close loved one to make decisions for me, even choose my clothes, despite me not liking them. Then suddenly, almost like overnight, I became stronger and found the strength to say NO... its my life, and this is how I will live it.
At the end of the day m'dear, and I say it all the time... people only get away with what we allow them to get away with. You must stand up to your mother... she is controlling you and it is unacceptable.
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reader, Esme7655 +, writes (12 February 2011):
Your mom sounds like a bitch and you need to grow up! You're educated, you seem smart, Where are your friends? Tell your boss he's a nice guy, but you don't think it would be appropriate to date/go out or whatever it is Mom wants.
Save your money, get your own place, a roommate, etc., demand some respect for yourself. You can do it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): Look, you are 25 years old! You need to be an adult and start standing up to your mother.
Either find a way of paying your own schooling or move out. You can't let her tell you what to do at your age. Its ridiculous.
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