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*M1218
writes:I am a college student and I am really not attracted to any girls I know personally or for that matter my recent and distant past. I have joined an online dating site, and have considered dating an older woman. I have just turned 23.My question is: Do older women in their late 20's or well in their 30's find it possible to date a younger guy such as myself. I am not really financially independent, as I am a student and not do not have a career of my own. Will such a relationship work out? Reply to this Question
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reader, NM1218 +, writes (3 February 2010):
NM1218 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all who have answered my questions,all of them were really well thought out and made me sure that what I am doing is the right thing and that I should not worry.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 A relationship is built on many things not just age or bank balance. Lots of younger guys like older women just as a lot of younger women like older men. So try it and see. My partner is 15 years younger then me and we get along fine. While my ex husband is my age and our personalities were too different. We never had much in common or got along well. Its personality not age that makes the difference. Some might say an age difference relationship might not work for long but isnt that also true of every other relationship? Try looking for someone a little older than yourself, someone you find attractive and you enjoy talking to and take it from there. All the best.
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (3 February 2010):
 When I was 19, I dated a 36 year old company director. Because of her position, and my colour, (she was blonde and very hot), we didn't actually go out on dates very often, but we did go abroad together a lot, where she could relax and be herself. Otherwise, I was probably just a booty call.
The immense sexual energy of older women is a little scary at first, it takes getting used to. A lot of women under the age of 25 are novices, who don't really know their own bodies yet.
I felt way out of my depth most of the time, until she started pressurising me to give up my own job, move in with her, and father a baby. Not what you need to hear at 19.
But she set a trend for me, and since I was 23, I have always dated older women.
Older women will date younger men who have a certain maturity, or charisma. If you are funny, and can keep up a decent conversation, with well thought out opinions, then things will work out. Talking, and communication, is very important. Money isn't usually a big factor, just whether you can make them feel comfortable enough to handle any sniping or silly comments that people might make. Twenty years ago, it wasn't good to be a cougar. But these days, Mimi Rogers, Demi Moore, Jennifer Aniston et al will all argue otherwise.
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reader, girl from bristol +, writes (3 February 2010):
yes the relationship will work out if you find the right women some women do like younger guys the same as some girls like older men
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (3 February 2010):
 Ae isn't really a factor in a relationship as much as where people are in their life and their mutual maturity levels. As you get older, age doesn't matter as much.
As you said, if you are not financially independent or have a career, unless you are looking for a sugar mamma and she is looking for someone to take care of you probably will outgrow each other.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (3 February 2010):
Ae isn't really a factor in a relationship as much as where people are in their life and their mutual maturity levels. As you get older, age doesn't matter as much.
As you said, if you are not financially independent or have a career, unless you are looking for a sugar mamma and she is looking for someone to take care of you probably will outgrow each other.
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