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What's the safest way to cum inside my girlfriend without getting her pregnant?

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Question - (28 December 2009) 10 Answers - (Newest, 28 August 2012)
A male United States age 26-29, *Flow0444 writes:

My girlfriend really wants me to cum inside her, while yes this sounds very hot, Im at the same time very apprehensive to do it because i'm not ready for a kid, she said she is going to get on the pill so we'll wait 7 days before we have sex, but my question is, what's the safest way to cum inside her, without getting her pregnant, and please no answers about how this is stupid and how I should always use a condom cause up to this point I've used a condom every time I've had sex, thank you!

P.S. : I'd really like to hear females opinions on this matter as I feel they would know more than guys?

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A female reader, Ashleymaree United States +, writes (28 August 2012):

My bf cums in me every single time... I'm on the depo shot and I'm still not pregnant.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009):

Tell her to join you at the next Pro-Choice rally in your town.

If she won't support that cause then don't nut inside her, period.

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A female reader, pril United States +, writes (28 December 2009):

There is no safe way. The pill take 30 days to go in effect. And still there is a chase she can get pregnant. So if ur not ready for a baby I wouldn't do it. But if u must and u want to take a chase. Wait 30 days. And use a condom.

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A female reader, old-spinstah United Kingdom +, writes (28 December 2009):

The safest way to have sex without a condom but using the pill as contraception

1) Both of you get a full STD screen before you ditch the condoms

2) Be faithful (or if this isn't the case, use a condom with other partners)

3) She must take the pill properly. Read and save the leaflet in the box. Phone the doctor or a pharmacist if you have questions.

4) Don't completely ditch the condoms - always have them available. If she has to go on antibiotics/gets a stomach upset etc you have a back-up and won't be tempted to take risks.

5) Use another method of contraception as well. Vasectomy may be effective but a bit extreme! A coil or cap are less permenant alternatives.

6) If the pill she starts doesn't suit her, she should go back to the doctor to discuss alternatives rather than just give up.

7) Bear in mind that, even on the pill there is a chance of pregnancy albeit low so if you have reason to suspect pregnancy, don't ignore it and just hope for the best.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009):

there is NO SAFE way to cum inside of her. I have gotten pregnant on birthcontrol 8 times. The birthcontrol pill, gels, foam, sponge, films...i have faithfully and carefully used them all. i have a child named after each one. DONT DO IT!!!!!!!! Wear a condom. Everytime. Tell her to call me and i'll bring the kids over to visit. Lol

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (28 December 2009):

Fatherly Advice agony auntMy question is what is it that she is really wanting? Does she want to be pregnant? Does she want you to be more committed (married) to her? Does she want to be more free and unrestricted? The answer to what she wants is key to what you should do.

Clearly you are not comfortable with her request. I firmly believe that no one should be pushed to do something sexually that they are uncomfortable with. Perhaps when you are older and more financially stable / mature / committed, you will feel more comfortable with risking a pregnancy. I really think that you should tell her that you love her but you are not ready for that now. Then find a way to fill her need, without compromising your position.


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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (28 December 2009):

DoubleM agony auntYep, a vasectomy is safest, but often irreversible and then you can never father a child. If she is properly taking hormonal birth control (the pill) and you use a condom, that's about as safe as it gets. Of course, you are not really cumming inside her, you are cumming into a balloon.

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A male reader, Beingblack United Kingdom +, writes (28 December 2009):

Beingblack agony auntDon't come inside her. Don't.

Wear a condom. Always, always, always. Heard of girls getting pregnant? Heard of STD's? Of course you have.

You better believe it can happen to you.

Don't come inside her. Don't, don't, don't, don't ...... (repeat to fade).

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A female reader, Angzw Zimbabwe +, writes (28 December 2009):

There is no safe way to cum inside a woman and avoid pregnancy. Some might say the first 3 days after her period are safe but one of my children was conceived with this timing method. For the pill to be fully effective you have to take it for 14 days. But I also got pregnant in the pill once. My advice is to use a condom until the pill is fully effective. Also decide what would happen if the pill failed and she became pregnant. Tell her clearly you don't want a baby because as a newbie she might forget every now an then. But if you let one person take full responsibility for contraception then make sure you can trust them not to try and pull a fast one on you.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009):

Well I'm going to give you my advise then since you waht a chicks advise my girlfriend will give you hers.

I say just stick with the condom and god when my girl said what yours said I was going to so I know how you feel i wasn't ready for a kid either so I descided not to. I did give her an alternative to what she what. She didn't really like how the condom felt neither did I for that matteer so I did the whole "pull out" when you feel like you are about to cum pull out of her. Watch out where you aim I went on her chest and even though it was extremely hot she got mad but did do something with it that I really can't say since she is getting pissed off at me right now but what she did was so much hotter.

Hi I'm his girlfriend. Well I really hate the fact he just told you that but if I delete it al he will just rewrite it after i live so at leeast now i know how much he said. So yea the "pull out" does feel so much more amazing then when you guys use a condom but there is still a chance to get pregnant by the precum but is a very low chance. With the whole wanting you to cum inside her if she is on the pill then she is good just make sure she stays on it and doesn't forget. Also the reason girls want that is have a man's liquid inside her feel extremely good that for one i can't describe and two I don't feel comforable describing. I know how it feels because something my boyfriend forgot to mention is he did try it and I didn't get prego since I was on the pill.

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