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writes:so i have boyfriend, we've been going out since last week monday but known each other for years, he's a senior 17 im a sophmore and 16on thursday, we were talking about our futures, i want to make weapons like in the movie ironman and GI joe, my bf wants to join the army then go to college and maybe become a firefighteri dont want to get married until im about 28-30 then have children a year after marriageanyways we broght up the subject on kids, he asked me questions about it and stuffhe then askes me if i want to be his baby mamai thought he was joking because he's never serious and never takes things seriously and since i thought he was playing around i played along with him we were talking about baby names and we both want a boyhe's still a virgin and so am i ( i dont even know if i want to wait until marriege to have sex) should i or should i not???im not sure if i should keep going along and just have a baby with him or tell him the truth and not have kids right now...?i love him to death and i know he'd make an amazing father but as for me i dont know if i could make an amazing mother, i could never be as good as my own mom and thats what scares me
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reader, KorinnElizabethhh +, writes (7 March 2010):
KorinnElizabethhh is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for taking your time and answering my question, it helpedddd a lot :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): You need to wait. Don't do it. At all. Ya'll have only really been dating for a week so what's all this talk about babies? just because you've known each other forever doesn't mean you can just go and get your eggo preggo. This would be a terrible choice if you did so please wait. Also, if you're a virgin wait until ya'll are a lil more experienced so use condoms etc.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (7 March 2010):
 Do not have a baby just because you can! That is just craziness. I agree with Aunty Alexxmo - finish school. Wait until you are 28-30 to get married. Teenage mothers rarely escape the poverty cycle because of the baby they are unable or unwilling to complete their education and without education the best job you can hope to have is working at the 7-11! Understand? DO NOT HAVE SEX WITHOUT USING BIRTH CONTROL WITH GUY. BETTER YET DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM AT ALL. You will regret it. You are way too young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): Oh, and if you have doubts about giving up your virginity, then don't. Baby momma? That is just baby talk. Having a child is not a game. Why don't you both adopt a virtual baby? So you can both play baby momma and baby daddy.You sound sensible otherwise - what with your life plans and all. Don't pay any attention to this. He may make a wonderful father but after about half a decade, at least.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): Tell him you have to be his wife before you'll be his baby momma.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (7 March 2010):
 You are both too young for a baby! You have your whole life to have children, what about finishing school and going to college, things like that are very hard to do with a baby near impossible at times and also the cost of a baby can be huge. Just tell him that you do want to have children with him, but in the future when you both have jobs and are in a position to support a child, he should understand this and if he doesn't i think he needs a lesson in maturity. good luck =]
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