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*ptonGirl
writes:i`m so annoyed we played truth or dare in art ( me and some friends) and i told them something which is quite personal which i didn`t want to get round school. i told them that my ex boyfriend simon has seen me naked. which is true and now i found out that one of my friends chloe has been telling people and i`m worried that its gonna get around school. she lies a lot but i`m worried help what should i do
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 I just heard on a girlie show the other day that a majority of girls cannot keep a secret.
I hope you don't believe everything you see on TV??!!? I'm a woman and I'm nothing like that. I'm not going to give examples of what I mean, for obvious reasons. But once a friend tells me a secret, you'd have to sexually torture me to get me to spill.
Still, there are people that judge me... just because I'm female they distrust me.
Well, I sense that Chloe promised she WOULDN'T blab, and she did anyway? Chloe already has a reputation as a liar. Hopefully people are smart enough to realize that Chloe is unreliable.
What a rotten friend. I'm not trying to be mean, but why did you trust her, when she's known to tell lies? You have to be VERY careful about who you trust with secrets.
I agree with Auntie E., you shouldn't be naked in front of boys.
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reader, Kim194 +, writes (14 March 2010):
you could always tell her how upset you would be if it got spread around, if she's your friend she will listen. If she does spread it around, you can always deny it, make out that she's lying :) xx
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reader, jamielea kellow +, writes (13 March 2010):
 well, you can't really do much but she doesn't sound like a very good friend. You can't really trust anyone with things like that. I know that people always say to you 'i know how you feel'. But i do know it has happened to me before i was actually playing truth or dare too and i said that i have not ever kissed anyone and then my best friend in the whole world told loads of people!! Where ever i went i could not get away from anyone pointing and laughing and in class i kept hearing people whispering my name!!!! So yes i know how you feel!! I am sorry that i can't say much. I hope this works. Jamie-lea.
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 Dear UptonGirl - 1) Cross Chloe off your list of friends. Friends to not betray a confidence. 2) You already have your answer - you said yourself that Chloe"lies a lot" let this issue ride and treat it like another one of her lies, it will eventually die off. If you protest too much you will only bring more attention to yourself and your secret. 3) Don't play truth or dare anymore with the likes of Chloe. 4) Don't let any more boys see you naked. I am surprised that Simon didn't report the incident himself.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 March 2010):
There is nothing you can do. This is why you should never tell someone secrets you don't want anyone else to know. Never trust your friend with a secret again, and be brave. If it does get around, it will die down.
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