We had a good date, kissed goodnight, but this morning I am blocked!
Q. Hi, hopefully going to be a short question! If not forgive me. So I started talking to this guy a few weeks ago. I know him through my ex but they aren't good friends they jusy know eachother. He asked when he could take me out we chose frida...
A. 20 December 2014: That sounds awful. If there is one thing worse than getting dumped - it is getting dumped and blocked with no further contact - the heartache can be worse not knowing what's going on!! However, if there was another girl on the scene - chances ... (read in full...)
Would pride stop him from giving a second chance?
Q. Hi, a question for the men:- Is a man who is into casual sex with a girl, always interested in having it with that person? If I turned a man down for sex for whatever reason - whether it was because the time wasn't right, or I wasn't sure he was ...
A. 29 November 2014: Thanks - he knows I still like him - but he seems less keen these days - possibly because he's found a stop gap. I don't want to come across desperate either - or it may scare him off completely!! ... (read in full...)
B/f going away for 13 weeks. How can we keep our bond strong?
Q. My guy will be gone for thirteen weeks on a job trip. It's a big opportunity and I'm proud of him :) I know I'll miss him though and I have my fears. I fear he'll fall for someone there and maybe forget me. I don't know what to think, we've been ...
A. 7 July 2011: If you are both truly in love with each other - you will be loyal and faithful as well as counting down the days until you see each other again!
It's only if there is some doubt in the relationship that things could go wrong.
I am in an LDR and a... (read in full...)
How can I save money!
Q. Hi i'm a college student, currently not working. i'm a bad spender when it comes to money, it's like having water in pocket. i need help with saving money, can someone pls give me some ideas on how to save money...
A. 7 November 2010: All you have to do is keep a check of what's in your pocket or account.
If you only have $100 then only spend at most $95!
Or if you have $1000 then only spend at most about $950!! - Always leave a little in your bank or pocket as you never kn... (read in full...)
Does anyone wait till marriage to have sex?
Q. I know that in our culture, sex is made into a large part of life, from what we see in movies, to what hear in music, there's no getting past it! so my question is, does anyone wait until marriage anymore? I firmlybelieve that waiting is the best ...
A. 5 November 2010: For many years I wanted to wait until marriage before I had sex. However even up to my late 30s I never met a man I wanted to be with who shared the same view and now I'm sleeping with a man who doesn't want to even GET married!
Good luck with you... (read in full...)
Is this age difference wrong?
Q. I'm a 23 year old guy in love with a 32 year old woman who loves me back, is that considered wrong or bad? ...
A. 20 September 2010: There is an 8-9 year age gap between me and my guy (I am the older one) and although I don't really see a problem I always wonder if he will want a younger model in years to come!... (read in full...)
What can I wear that will make her think sex?
Q. Ladies, what can a guy do physically or wear to get his wife or girl/friend sexually excited. The reverse is so easy to figure out. A girl can wear longerie, nothing at all, or my fav: sexy panties and a tight wife beater. But what can a guy wear ...
A. 6 August 2010: What a man wears doesn't really bother me and certainly wouldn't turn me on or off to him - unless he was wearing something absolutely hideous!
Mind you - having said that - I always like to see a man in a hat or cap!!... (read in full...)
Why does the creep factor go up the older you get?
Q. Why is it when a young man craves sex, it's just young a man craving sex. But when that young man gets old and craves sex, he suddenly considered a Dirty Old Man, or even a Sex Addict. Someone help me with this. ...
A. 21 July 2010: Sexiness and sexual desire usual go hand in hand with youthfulness and attactiveness (primarily for procreation). That is:- the more attractive you are the more people tend to desire you.
Once men and women are of a certain age - be it 40s 50s ... (read in full...)
Did you ever love someone you couldn't have?
Q. This isn't really for advice, more for opinions. Is there anyone whose ever loved someone before or had feelings for someone, but there was sort of an obstacle to get to that person? Did you ever get to them? Was it worth it to risk the things y...
A. 14 July 2010: Yes - I'm still loving someone I can't really have.
This was a guy who was in a relationship and had a child - he did split up with the mother of his child for a while - so there was a glimmer of hope - but she will always be around so I will neve... (read in full...)
Women, what is the difference between the men you welcomed and the ones you rejected?
Q. Ladies, I am a 29 year old man who is trying to get better at meeting women, that is, selecting perfect strangers as candidates for romantic or sexual relationships, and pursuing those relationships. I want to approach a large number of women ...
A. 13 April 2010: There are no rules and regulations - it's all just about chemistry - and how you feel deep inside!!
In the past I have turned down good looking men cause I wasn't ready for a relationship and I have turned down ugly men for the same reason!!
But t... (read in full...)
I told her I like him, but she was all over him at the cinema!
Q. I went to the movies lastnight with my friend and this boy I really like came too. My friend and him were all over each other..... I am so mad what should i do? I mean I think I might love this guy and I talk about this all the time to her but it ...
A. 30 March 2010: Unfortunately - you are young and still very trusting!! - This girl showed you no respect! - If she had wanted to make a move on the guy(which she obviously did)- she should have done so when you weren't around and broke it to you gently later on!! ... (read in full...)
Do you think this guy is married?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I would like you to put your detective hats on and help me out please. The Brief: So I've known this guy for a few months but I have a suspicion that he may be married and would really like your opinion. Facts: Sinc...
A. 19 February 2010: I would say either married or not very interested! - I was involved with a man like this - who could only meet for an hour or two at a time - it turned out he was still with his partner!
Beware of your instincts - they happen for a reason and are ... (read in full...)
Would you keep going back to a bag of nerves?
Q. ok. the guy knows im very nervous with men, he has been my friend for 5 years, always been good to me, he is very sweet he seems unhappy but wont talk to me, has a girlfriend, then one day out of the blue he shows more interest and you tell him no ...
A. 2 February 2010: Hi I suffer from anxiety a lot - not so much nerves - but it makes it difficult to get close to men!
Having said this - when you find a man who really likes you - you will find he will keep on coming back however you are! Sometimes inside you may ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of being on my own. Any Advice?
Q. I think my relationships coming to an end, ive been with her 2 years,and before that was with a girl for 3 years, ive not really been single since i was a teenager and im pretty scared of being on my own now due to this. any advice? ...
A. 28 January 2010: For goodness sake - you are IN YOUR 20s!!!! - You SHOULD be on your own at that age and living it up - life to the full!
You'll have plenty of time to settle down in the future - and maybe then you'll be wishing you were single again!
Use now... (read in full...)
Is height a problem when it comes to a relationship? Should the man be way taller than the woman?
Q. Hi everyone! I'm 5'5 feet tall and my husband is only about an inch taller than me.whenever i stand next to him i feel like i'm bigger than him! or we are the same height.he's thin too.and im average.So even when posing for photographs,i tend to ...
A. 25 January 2010: It's only a problem if you make it a problem! - I'm five foot five - but my boyfriend is only about five foot three - at the most!! - He has never mentioned it and even though I know he is small - I always look on him as cute!! - I couldn't... (read in full...)
I hate university! How do I tell my parents?
Q. Let me just get straight to the point, I hate university, and i'm only there to make my parents happy. They know that. I've tried telling them so many times that i'm literally depressed there. I still live at home and travel up every morning, but I ...
A. 11 January 2010: Do you have long to do at university? - Sometimes, although it seems heavy going, you may only have a few months left to do - and it would be worth sticking at it - if it means coming out with a degree.
Have you considered why you hate it so much?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't act like he loves me!
Q. My boyfriend said he loves me but doesnt act like he loves me! he wont hold my hand when his friends are around but he held his ex-girlfriends hand all the time! should i tell him how i feel or just leave him?...
A. 13 December 2009: I have the same problem with my guy. I never saw him with his ex - but he too rarely shows his emotions or holds hands!
Could it be shyness? - Or maybe it is just his personality! - Some people aren't good at showing their emotions!... (read in full...)
What songs should I listen to after finding out he doesn't like me?
Q. To cut a long story short I have recently found out that the person I like, likes someone else, and to be honest... I'm gutted. But rather than moping around any longer [I like him A LOT] I want to move on. I need some songs that I can listen to ...
A. 24 November 2009: The Corrs (again) - I never really loved you anyway! - It is a really confident, uplifting song!
- Plus anything on The Smiths 1st or 2nd albums! - Their songs are all about unrequited love!... (read in full...)
How does one differentiate between a crush and real love?
Q. Hello :) I read some of the questions posted here and they've left me wondering... What is the difference between a small crush, fancying someone, infatuation and being in love? I know that with each one feelings run deeper. But how exactly do y...
A. 17 November 2009: This is a good question! - Unfortunately not many people really know the answer to this - or there would be a lot less divorces in the world! - They think they are in love when it was only a crush, they think they have a crush when really it was ... (read in full...)
My mum made me have an abortion but now I can't stop thinking about the baby I gave up.
Q. Im 14 years old, 15 in march. This February i had an abortion, my mom made me have an a abortion as i was too young to keep the baby, but i was too scared to tell my mom that i wanted to keep the baby. All i do now is think about what if i kept i...
A. 1 November 2009: This is very difficult - I agree - neither your mum nor any other person should make you have an abortion if you do not agree or are not ready for one. But equally you were very young and daft to be having sex which is also wrong!
All you can do n... (read in full...)
Does it matter if the girl is taller and older than you?
Q. Hi.. I am in love with a girl who is ten months elder than me. Most probably, she is taller than me.. I am 166 cm, where she is 173 cm.. Keeping this barrier in mind, I didn't propose her yet.. I met her before two months and we are working together ...
A. 24 October 2009: Ten months older?!!! - Are you for real? - I know women who are TEN YEARS older than their men and still going strong - so ten months is nothing - I mean basically you are virtually the SAME AGE!! As for 7cm - I am about 6 or 7cm taller than my m... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he is 26. Is this bad?
Q. right well im 15 .. and ive been going out with this lad who is 26 ... but ive been with him for nearly a year .. and where so happy .. he treats me like a princess and buys me what i want and loves me loads ... and evryone says im a very mature 15 ...
A. 22 October 2009: Then if its nothing sexual - you have nothing to worry about! - Good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he is 26. Is this bad?
Q. right well im 15 .. and ive been going out with this lad who is 26 ... but ive been with him for nearly a year .. and where so happy .. he treats me like a princess and buys me what i want and loves me loads ... and evryone says im a very mature 15 ...
A. 21 October 2009: Hi! - I would be VERY careful here! - I know a guy who was 29 and dating a 15 year old girl. They had sex and he ended up going to jail for it because her parents prosecuted!!
In reality - men who are well in their 20's and are dating young te... (read in full...)
How do I get over the tattoo he has dedicated to his ex?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about four years now. Our relationship is not bad. I just can't seem to get over the fact that he has a tatoo dedicated to his ex on his stomach. Its her name and her eyes. It drives me crazy. I wish I could do ...
A. 19 October 2009: Hi! - I have the EXACT same problem!! - My man has his ex's name tattooed across his stomach in BIG letters! - It doesn't bother me too much - but even if he were to remove it - it would leave a massive scar as the writing is SO big!! - So like you ... (read in full...)
Why should I save my virginity when other people don't?
Q. Why should I save my virginity when others people don't ? and why would I wait for the right girls in case the right girl could be a loose one as well. I can't see any points of waiting for me. even my ex-girlfriend when she was with me she siad she...
A. 16 October 2009: Do it for yourself! - Not for anyone else!! Unfortunately though life isn't like a romantic fairytale!And virgins don't necessarily find virgins! Like you - I stayed a virgin for a long time but when I decided to loose it - it was to a guy wh... (read in full...)
Why is he ignoring me?
Q. I like this guy a lot. We had sex about a week ago which was my first time and now he's ignoring me. When I call he doesn't answer when I text he doesn't text back. If he does he says he's working. I really don't know since he use to do it before he ...
A. 27 September 2009: This is a classic case of a man sweet-talking a woman into bed and once he has - he loses interest!
It sounds like you've been had - and hopefully you are now wise enough to realise NEVER have sex with a man until you know you are in a steady rela... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has just disappeared! It's been a week now, how long should I wait before moving on?
Q. My girlfriend has dropped off the map for a week now and i have sent online messages, texts, and left voice messages, but she did not respond to any of them what so ever. I did however get a response from her cousin that said that she had left the...
A. 9 September 2009: I used to have the same problem with my guy - one minute he would phone all the time - and the next I would be waiting 2 weeks!! - The longest I had to wait was 3 weeks - but usually there is some underlying reason!!
The question you need to ask y... (read in full...)
How does it make you feel when Valentine's Day comes around and you're still without that special someone?
Q. This question is for the single women of the dearcupid community, any age also k. K, so ladies, let me ask this to you, being single is hard sumtimes I know, but what goes on in your mind when your wishing you had someone to hold you in the early ...
A. 17 August 2009: Why is this question coming up in August?? - Its funny, throughout my life, I have rarely dated anyone on or around Valentines day! - So I often have had you're feelings of being lonesome!! - However, once Valentine's day has been and gone you tend... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is financially dependent on me. Will he ever change?
Q. My boyfriend is always broke! We've been together for 4 years, living together for 2 years. I am a recent grad with BS, he doesn't even have a GED. I'm 24, he's 25, but he's been financially dependent on me and it's draining my savings. He's a g...
A. 30 June 2009: Hi - I'm in a similar situation to you - only I don't live with my fella!
My boyfriend is currently out of work but is keen to get a job only he is fussy as to where to work. He depends on me for hand outs, clothes etc - which I don't mind givi... (read in full...)
Is it okay too have sex with a girl you don't really like, when you like someone else?
Q. is it okay too have sex with a girl you dont really like when you like someone else ?...
A. 27 May 2009: Ha! - I like Kelly's answer - full of depth!! - But she is right! - Only have sex with someone you want to become involved with because you can bet the other person will have/or soon will develop feelings for you - so don't mess em around unless t... (read in full...)
If he wants anal then go gay!
Q. What is up with guys wanting to try Anal!! I am tired of every single guy i have dated wanting to try it. I am a girl I have a vag... If he wants anal go gay!!... Please explain how a guy sticking his dick in a butt hole with poop coming out of be ...
A. 14 May 2009: I agree! Why are people so brainwashed by what they see in magazines and on porno channels?!! - I suppose these people think that everyone has a perfect bronzed body and are beautifully made up like in the porno vids too while having sex!!! ... (read in full...)
Am I too short to be loved...???
Q. Hi Will women notice a good looking but only 5'8" guy? Will they find him handsome? Or is it too short for them?... I cant stop thinking about my height for months. I'm almost 20 so i wont grow up anymore, and ive never had a gf before, n...
A. 10 May 2009: Hi - 5ft 8 is a decent enough height for a man! - Don't worry!!
- Most women are less than that height anyway - so they wouldn't see it as a problem.
I myself am seeing a man who is about an inch or so smaller than me (and I'm only 5ft 5!) - bu... (read in full...)
Head over heels in love with a guy who doesn't love me back
Q. I don't know what to do with myself anymore. I've tried eveything possible but i can't help it, i am totally head over heels in love with this guy that clearly doesn't love me back. He could make me the happiest girl in the world if only he loved ...
A. 7 May 2009: Like you - I am head over heels in love with a guy that I know is using me too - but more for money than sex!
- I don't know what it is with these men - but "treat em mean keep em keen" obviously seems to work!!
- One day we will get our sight ba... (read in full...)
We passed 100,000 questions published on DearCupid
Q. Today is another milestone in DearCupid history: Over 100,000 questions (100,020 as I write this) have been published! Wow. Thanks to the aunts, the moderators and everyone who shares their problem. As always any ideas on how to improve the s...
A. 7 May 2009: Grrreat!!... (read in full...)
We're both married, how do I get him to leave his wife for me?
Q. i have been seeing this guy for about 1 year and the thing is hes married and before you start to judge me please just hear me out! i really love him. and he loves me too! anyways i am just the type of person that believes that if you want something ...
A. 27 April 2009: I must firstly say that I DO NOT believe in affairs with married partners - but why do people always say the husband will never leave the wife?? Statistics show that 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce which means that 50% of husbands/wives must lea... (read in full...)
Glad he's a good dad, but was I the rebound girl?
Q. I can't help but to feel jealous when my boyfriend talks about his baby mother. He tells me he can't stand her and they will never be together again. He will never mess with a younger girl again; But he says he loves her cause she takes care of ...
A. 14 April 2009: Hi! - I am in the same situation as you! - I'm with a guy who has a child to a woman who he says he doesn't get along with and is always arguing with him!
The trouble is there will always be that bond and even when guys say they aren't in love wit... (read in full...)
He's going to marry someone else. I can't stop crying.
Q. Can't stop crying... I'm feeling so low today. I keep thinking about my ex and his girlfriend. I'm thinking about how happy they are, I'm seeing them in bed. They've just come back from holiday, so I'm seeing them holding hands. Kissing, lying ...
A. 31 March 2009: I know this is from last year - but I would like to say that I am 39 too - and heartbroken from a man who wants his ex! - I think the late 30s is a bad time to have your heart broken!!... (read in full...)
What do I do? I just got my first period!
Q. Please help i'm at home with just my dad and little sister and i just started my PERIOD for the first time what do i do? I don't have any pads or any of that here and i don't feel right going to tell my dad! and my mom is at work...
A. 27 March 2009: To the girl who just got her period! - Hope your mum is back soon and you can tell her all about it!
But like Gina says - just use lots of toilet paper for now!!
Don't panic!!... (read in full...)
Will having anal sex ruin you or stretch you out in "that area"??
Q. Just curious... will having anal sex ruin you or stretch you out in "that area"?? How long does it generally take to work up to being able to actually have anal sex without it hurting so much?...
A. 24 March 2009: Yeah - I agree with the others! - Our body parts all have a specific function and the vagina was made for intercourse NOT the anus - hence the reason why it hurts so much and rips/bleeds etc while having sex!!
If your man is wanting anal sex - go... (read in full...)
Single forever..any guy I fancy always fancies someone else!
Q. being single forever,never had a boyfriend don,t know how to get one,any guy i fancy ,fancies someone else. the only guy i thought like me didn,t,always on my own hopeless with guys.30 years old,i hate dating websites,i am shy,quiet,i play hard to ...
A. 11 March 2009: If you feel you are fat and ugly - try and alter your appearance a bit - even little things can boost your confidence - like going to the hairdressers, getting your nails done etc etc.
The slightest improvement will make you feel better!
Try... (read in full...)
Do men have a forgiving nature?
Q. do guys have forgiven nature or not.guy said i was rotten to him years ago and he still mad me for it.and i said sorry and i didn,t mean to hurt his feelings.but i really didn,t .but i though he was making fun of me,i didn,t even know he liked me ...
A. 4 March 2009: Obviously - you cannot tar men with all the same brush!
- But I must admit, speaking from experience, the only two people I have ever fallen out with and who refuse to speak to me now are ... MEN!! - So yes I think men do hold grudges and some... (read in full...)
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