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Why can't my boyfriend ever cum?

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Question - (13 January 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 13 January 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend has never cum from a blowjob or handjob from me or anyone else. He also has trouble cumming during sex if the girl is on top (I am the only person who's ever made him cum in this position, but it's only happened once). The sex is amazing, he's great at every aspect and I'm fully satisfied but I feel like I'm being a selfish lover because I never do any of the work. I still often make the effort to be on top during sex and give him blowjobs etc as I know he definitely enjoys it, but I find it really frustrating that I can't ake him cum when he has the ability to make me feel so amazing(he assures me it's not me being bad at it, he's had it with every girl he's ever been with). I want to be able to make him feel the way he makes me feel, is there any way I can do this?

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A female reader, Angzw Zimbabwe +, writes (13 January 2010):

For blow job, reassure him you don't want him to cum, you just want him to relax and enjoy it. This takes the pressure off him to get there. Enthusiasm is key... You have to look like you are enjoying it. Don't stop to talk interrupting his enjoyment. Just tuck your teeth away and make it as wet and as slick as possible. I mean, literally drool on it. When you need to come up for air just give him 5 or 6 quick thrusts with your vag or slap it against your tongue for a sexy visual. Let him watch and don't hide behind a curtain of your hair. If you feel him start to cum then don't vary the pressure you are currently giving. And dont stop whatever you do.

If this doesn't work for you then just believe that he really can't.

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A male reader, AvgGuy1 United States +, writes (13 January 2010):

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Honey... don't worry. I too, (usually) can't cum while being stimulated by a partner. I don't know what it is... it's just that way. I've only been able to do so when EXTREMELY relaxed. It's commonly known as 'Performance Anxeity'. This might also be his problem so if you put MORE pressure on him... it will only make the situation worse. Maybe have some alcohol (but don't get drunk) beforehand... or smoke some 420 if you're into that. Best to observe him... masturbating... to see what part of his cock he pays particular attention to... then see if you can replicate that same pressure/attention.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (13 January 2010):

You don't' need to worry. This happens to some guys. Genuinely you're worrying too much. He's satisfied, he's told you that, so just enjoy :).

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A male reader, Nevz Netherlands +, writes (13 January 2010):

How long are you together. If you really like each other. Ask him what really turns him on. Ask him what he might like to try. He is a guy, so don't be surprised if some diguisting is suggested. Just a joke. Just ask about his biggest fantasies.

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