Why isnt my girlfriend keen on moving in together?
Q. ok i've been dateing my girlfriend 6 months were engaged, where trying for a baby, we spend as much time as possible with each over but i wanna move in with her and i asked her the other day if she wouldn't mind looking for somewhere sh...
A. 29 May 2008: well, lots of people don't move in together until just before they marry, so I wouldn't worry about that. What concerns me is that you're "trying for a baby" but you don't ALREADY live together. Put the breaks on the baby until everything is ... (read in full...)
I'm furious with my boyfriend for the way he broke up with me!
Q. I'm so hurt. So, so hurt. My boyfriend and i got back together yesterday. We had a faboulous time! He had broken up with me because of things from the past. But we got back together and spent most of the day together. Then, at night, he got up...
A. 28 May 2008: "What you accept becomes your standard." Do not accept this treatment. From anyone, especially not from him. Walk away from him with your head held high; he's the idiot, not you. ... (read in full...)
Odd period following unprotected sex, pregnancy or STI? I'll go for a test if you think there's a chance!
Q. I slept with a boy a few weeks ago and we didn't use a condom (yes i know it's stupid so please don't lecture me) the thing is now though, i was late on my period by about 2 weeks but now i've come on but it's more like a black colour and literally ...
A. 28 May 2008: "spotting" can sometimes be a darker brown; the blood takes longer to come out and so it's not the usual bright red. And yes, you can "spot" when you're pregnant.
Don't delay. Take a test -- both for pregnancy and for all the STDs. Better s... (read in full...)
Should I pay for this holiday if I don't end up going?
Q. I am considering splitting up with my boyfriend. I don’t want to go into why, but there is a slight problem if we can’t sort out our problems and do split up - we are due to go on holiday in 6 weeks and I don’t know what to do. He paid for the ...
A. 28 May 2008: My sister had a situation like this. She called the company that they had planned to go on holiday with, and got her part of the holiday transferred to another date. Then she and some girlfriends went together. He still had his reservation for ... (read in full...)
What do you think is sly, liking his mate and not breaking up with him, or breaking up?
Q. Dear Cupid I used to like this lad but when i started to go out with him i stoped liking him and started liking his best mate. Everyone says its sly but i think its sly not bracking up with him. What do you think Lots of love Despreat x ...
A. 28 May 2008: You should break up with the bf, because you don't like him the way you used to. You're right there. But I would let some time go before you try to get with his mate. Otherwise your bf could get really hurt. You don't want that kind of rep. ... (read in full...)
What if you tell your partner you'll get married, but you don't really mean it? If you've just said it to get out of child support?
Q. Hi! What if your partner stressing you to get married but you really aren't ready but if you tell your partner that your not ready she/he will threaten to take your child away from you and take you to court for child support but you know you can't ...
A. 28 May 2008: So the child is yours, not his/hers. [I'm going to use the masculine pronouns here for your partner, for ease of typing, without prejudice meant.]
If I understand you correctly, he believes he has a right to half the house, and he basicall... (read in full...)
What if you tell your partner you'll get married, but you don't really mean it? If you've just said it to get out of child support?
Q. Hi! What if your partner stressing you to get married but you really aren't ready but if you tell your partner that your not ready she/he will threaten to take your child away from you and take you to court for child support but you know you can't ...
A. 27 May 2008: Are you saying you NEVER want to marry, or just that you aren't ready now? How old is the child? Are you currently living together?
Whatever you do, DON'T marry just to avoid child support. It's postponing the problem; the relationship won't ma... (read in full...)
Help!!! We've never kissed on the lips! I need advice!
Q. hi,me and my boyfriend are really close and love spending time together and we sit next to eachother in class and really trust eachother. But we've never kissed on the lips and we've been going out for 4 months and we're both quite shy. So how and ...
A. 27 May 2008: TALK to him about it. Communication is a huge part of any relationship. Let him know that you've been thinking about kissing him, and what does he think about that? Admit that you've never really done it before and are concerned that you might ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and am thinking of having sex with my bf but don't want to get caught. What should I do?
Q. i am 15 and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 months i love him more thank anything and i have been thinking about having sex with him but i dont want to get caught what do i do?...
A. 27 May 2008: Well, first, please reconsider. You only get your "first time" once, and in the back of a car or other alternative isn't great for building romance or memories. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do; your body your rules!
Secon... (read in full...)
Should I get a tummy tuck?
Q. I'm a plus size lady that has big tits and ass but the only thing is my stomach is also big. i've lost weight but my stomach didn't go anywhere. i don't have any problems with the guys but i want to get rid of it. should i get a tummy tuck?...
A. 27 May 2008: If you have the money and don't want to spend it on something else, I don't see why not. Talk to your doctor first (not the plastic surgeon, your GP). Make sure there are no health risks or problems that this can cause later. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He uses a wedding ring... is he married?
Q. Started seeing a guy lately and whilst we have been flirting with each other I have noticed he has a wedding ring. I asked him if he was married, and he said he was separated - why then would still wear a ring?...
A. 21 May 2008: Run like your ass was on fire. Seriously.
Separated isn't divorced. And still wearing his ring means he's still in the marriage. Do not get involved with this man. Hold your head high and walk (or run) away proudly.... (read in full...)
I want to find my niece to apologize. I have no expectations, only hope. She was disowned by my sister 11 years ago, and I regret not helping her then.
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, im not sure this is the type of relationship this site caters for but im hoping for some outside advice. My sister and myself were raised strict roman catholic, we both married into catholic families and raised our own fami...
A. 20 May 2008: The hard part will be finding her. You could start by "googling" her (look her name up on Google). She might have a profile of some kind on MySpace or Facebook, or even just on Yahoo! or gmail.
Whether she forgives you is up to her, and she may ... (read in full...)
How can I finally make a clean break from my secret relationship?
Q. I'm 27 years old, and have only really cared about one man my whole life. We worked together and eventually slept together (the first time for me). At first we tried to stay away from each other because we knew it wasn't a good idea to date at work. ...
A. 20 May 2008: Oh hon. I'm so sorry. You won't believe this now, but it really does get better.
Let the people who love you LOVE you. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. Sometimes the heart just wants what it wants, and it over-rides your brain for a wh... (read in full...)
My 3 year old is masturbating, how should I to handle this? Is it normal?
Q. hi i'm a mom, i have a question if a girl 3 year old she is masturbation herself is normal? if it is what can i do for that, to me is not normal cos she just too baby please somebody help me?...
A. 20 May 2008: Absolutely normal. Just let her know that this is something reserved for her "private time."... (read in full...)
He wants naked pictures of me
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 months. Its a long distance relationship. To be honest Ive never met him before yet. He is a friend of mines boyfriends brother. We enjoy talking to each other everynight for more than 4 hours. We just ...
A. 20 May 2008: You don't know him well enough. Don't send him any pictures that you don't want to see plastered on the Internet, just in case. What happens if the relationship ends badly and he wants to "get even?" ... (read in full...)
He called another woman his "sex toy," now he is repentant and swears he hasn't cheated physically. Your advice, please!
Q. me and this guy have been dating on and off for like 5 years i should also probally state there is a huge age differance between us about eighteen years i am in my thirtys .i recently found a message where he is calling another women baby and his ...
A. 20 May 2008: Dear Female anon:
I agree with you -- online cheating is cheating. It's really nice that Uncle Sneaker has such an open relationship with his spouse; it's something to aspire to. But without that kind of understanding up-front, it's cheating... (read in full...)
It was sex and nothing else, but now?
Q. Me and a male friend, whom i have known for a couple of years, both have been single, both want someone special but havent been able to find someone. So, we decided to have mutual sex, and on a regular basis. This is a agreed on sex relationship, ...
A. 16 May 2008: Well, I don't have a man's perspective, but I was in your place once a long time ago.
My FWB and I talked it out. We decided that we were wrong for each other (long term) and didn't want a romantic relationship. (Yes, I was falling for him, and... (read in full...)
I want him to notice me. I need tips on flirting
Q. hi, i like a guy and i need some tips on flirting, is it wrong to flirt with one whose got a girlfriend? how do i get him to notice me even if he has someone? and how do i get to win his heart, we work together....
A. 16 May 2008: It is wrong to flirt with another girl's guy. How would you like it if you had a guy and he was flirting with someone else?
Also, I don't ever recommend flirting with someone you work with. If it goes badly (say he wants to stay with his girl... (read in full...)
We are ready for sex. Recommendations?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are ready for sex.We've talked about different methods of contraception and are thinking about a condom since they're easy to get. I'm just wondering though if intercourse feels better without one-especially semen pouring ...
A. 16 May 2008: Actually, a lubricated condom for your first time could help things along for you -- there's less friction so it might be less first-time painful. And it certainly helps you feel better since there's no worry about getting pregnant or STDs. ... (read in full...)
I've lost interest in my baby's father
Q. I got a great issue goin on for of all I just had my healthy babyboy born on easter and am very happy about that. To continue I have this ex-boy that I can't let go. Reasons for that is cuz when we did go out I had many friends and lifestyl...
A. 16 May 2008: Don't do anything that will ruin the relationship you have with your babydaddy. Right now your hormones are all out of wack because of having a baby. Give yourself some time, and wait until you're getting sleep again before you do anything.
... (read in full...)
We both tested positive for Clamydia, does this mean she cheated?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for one year. We recently got tested and we tested positive for chlamydia. I have never cheated on her and I know it can be symptomless for a while. Funny thing is, I had my symptoms a couple of days after her. I ...
A. 16 May 2008: Talk to her. Don't put her on the defensive, but tell her you have some questions because of the timing of the symptoms.
Communication is one of the most important things in any relationship, and unless you can somehow clear this up you will... (read in full...)
Did he ever really get over his ex?
Q. hi. i met my boyfriend in march and he had an affair at that point with a girl from another island closeby afetr he had just brokne from his ex girl which he was dating for 9 years..from what he said he wanted to move on thats why he was trying o...
A. 13 May 2008: walk away. you deserve to be the center of some guy's attention, not on the side while he talks to his ex. It may be nothing, but I wouldn't play it that way.... (read in full...)
He dosen't allow me to see my mates and makes me feel guilty!
Q. i am a young female aged 17, i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months and we are very much in love, we see each other every single day, and stay at each others house every night, we are very close, but i work through the day while he goes out ...
A. 13 May 2008: Anyone who loves you doesn't want to cut you off from other people who love you. He's insecure and controlling -- this could lead to abuse. I think you'd be happier in a different relationship. Good luck hon.... (read in full...)
We both tested positive for Clamydia, does this mean she cheated?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for one year. We recently got tested and we tested positive for chlamydia. I have never cheated on her and I know it can be symptomless for a while. Funny thing is, I had my symptoms a couple of days after her. I ...
A. 13 May 2008: There's a section of http://yourstdhelp.com/talking_with_your_partner_about_stds.html that talks about whether the partner "cheated" -- it says that for chlamydia, the symptoms (if there were any) would appear 1-4 months after infection.
I'm w... (read in full...)
What are your thoughts or experiences about relationships between people of different nationalities?
Q. My question is about relationships with people of differing nationalities. I am Australian of english/irish heritage and my boyfriend is Greek but was born/raised in Australia. his brother is married to a women who is half greek and half anglo. ...
A. 13 May 2008: I would go with Daniel's advice. He said what I wanted to say but he said it better wink.... (read in full...)
Please don't tell me to stop caring, because I need answers for closure so I can move on
Q. This is driving me crazy! My bf broke up with ME about 1 month ago. One of his mates has made this break up like hell for me... The friend has been constantly messaging me and passing along things that my ex supposedly says. And he tells my ex anyth...
A. 13 May 2008: this mate of your ex is NOT your mate. He has a cruel streak, and seems to enjoy picking off scabs. You need to cut him off cold turkey so that you can heal.
Don't worry about your ex. You can still feel whatever you feel. But for a while yo... (read in full...)
Can you care about someone so much and it makes you so afraid of losing them, that you'd rather not be with them?
Q. A question to the guys: Can you care about someone so much and it makes you so afraid of losing them, that you'd rather not be with them? This is the line that my boyfriend pulled on me and bailed, after HE implied that we're in the relati...
A. 13 May 2008: This guy sounds very "hot and cold" to me. You need to do what you're comfortable with, and if you wanted it to be slower, at least for now, he should have respected that. If it had been on the other foot, you would have had to wait for him, ... (read in full...)
I hate having sex. My home life is boring. Has love gone?
Q. i have been married for 20 years. I had a fling with a married man because I was so bored of my home life. My daughter has left home 2 years ago, although my fling happened when she lived at home. I spent more of my time with my daughter as we ...
A. 13 May 2008: I don't have a lot of sympathy for you. If you don't want to leave your husband, you need to work to bring back whatever it was you saw in him in the first place. Cheating isn't the answer.
Get into counseling. If he won't go, go by yourself... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my two-faced boyfriend? I've just been dumped...
Q. My boyfriend has just dumped me, for a girl who he said he's hated forever. How do I sort this problem?...
A. 13 May 2008: walk away holding your head high. he's stuck with her now, and they deserve each other. you're better off without him.... (read in full...)
How are the chances of pregnancy in this case?
Q. plz tell me today on 13th, i sex with my girl friend not using any precaution ,she said her date was on 3rd may,plz tell me how many chances she get preganant,and now how we control this pregnancy, ...
A. 13 May 2008: Not sure what you mean by "her date" so I'll start from the beginning.
Count the FIRST day of her period as day 1. In a woman who has a regular 28-day cycle, she will ovulate on day 14. Sperm can live in her body for up to 72 hours, and her egg ... (read in full...)
I'm scared about losing my virginity and keep thinking he will pursue someone else if I make him wait longer... ?
Q. I'm about to lose my virginaty in a few days with my bf who i have been with for 1 year. Im so scared its going to hurt he tells me its going to be fine and it wont hurt and i know it will im so scared and when he fingers me im so tight he can get ...
A. 13 May 2008: Okay, several things here. First of all, you don't HAVE to do anything you don't want to. Do only what you're comfortable with. YOUR BODY YOUR RULES. You're worth the wait, and taking it slowly is worth it for both of you. If he's not willing to ... (read in full...)
I need gift ideas for my boyfriend who is starting a new job!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a couple of months now. He has just got a wonderful new job that he will be starting in 2 weeks time. He will get a company car, will have to wear a suit + tie, be clean shaven etc which is a change for him b...
A. 13 May 2008: Something nice to put his lunch in. A travel coffee mug. Something he can use and think of you while he's using it.... (read in full...)
He's asked me to hang on, but I don't know if he'll ever break up with her!
Q. I am 27 years old, I met this guy 2 months ago, we talk everyday for hours and really like each other. He says he has a girlfriend in another country whom he can't marry for culture reasons and wants me to hang on. I dont know if he will ever break ...
A. 13 May 2008: Move on. If he cheats with you he will cheat ON you. If he wants to call you when he's free, you can invite it. But don't ever be the "side dish" in any relationship. Good luck hon.... (read in full...)
Is marrying my bf the right thing to do??
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years... he's Turkish... I'm going to his country to marry him in March... am i doing the right thing?...
A. 13 May 2008: So... did you marry him?... (read in full...)
Parental Rights
Q. Hello All. Thanks for reading and resonding to my question! :) Here it goes! My girlfriend and I have broken up, and she's 4 months pregnant... with my baby. We were talking about names the other day, and I want to have both last names and she ...
A. 13 May 2008: I took my husband's name and hyphenated it when we were married (like your "katie smith-johnson" example. We've been married for 10 years.
I think it will eventually be okay, but so many people get it wrong that it's a pain. When websites... (read in full...)
I am SO scared to have sex, I was raised to believe it is bad!!! My boyfriend has been waiting for me for years to express our love in that way, help!
Q. I am 24 years old and I am a virgin. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I love him with all of my heart and want to marry him but I am so scared to have sex. I was raised in the church and to think that sex is bad. I am scared that I ...
A. 13 May 2008: Okay, several things here. First of all, you don't HAVE to do anything you don't want to. Do only what you're comfortable with. YOUR BODY YOUR RULES. You're worth the wait, and taking it slowly is worth it for you too. If he's not willing to wait ... (read in full...)
I don't love her as much, what should I do?
Q. What should i do if i don't love my girlfriend as much as i used to? Should i break up with her or just stay with her?...
A. 12 May 2008: Depends on how long until her exams. If they're next week, then by all means wait until they're over. But you have to live your life, and stying with her when the love is gone is a subtle form of lying. You can't keep it up.
She deserves... (read in full...)
Why have I still not got a boyfriend?
Q. hey, Okay... I feel like a pathetic 17 year old- ive never had a bf.. I used to be a bit of an ugly duckling, but I've grown into myself more, gained some confidense ect, that was 2 years ago...why have I still not got a bf? There have been so ...
A. 12 May 2008: Every time I worried that I didn't have a boyfriend I chased them off. It's like they can smell the desperation and they run.
Every time I STOPPED worrying and just went on with my life, suddenly the guys were there. Seriously.
What you need... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes me do things I don't want to do
Q. my bf always wana let me do stuff i dont wanna do like sex and smoke i told him i dont wanna do these things but then we together again and he says he wont do it again but he just does and i realy love him what should i do cause we realy love each ...
A. 12 May 2008: No one who loves and respects you would ever try to get you to do something you don't want to do. If he can't respect your boundaries, he won't respect you. Dump him and move on. Seriously.
Holding to your ethic is the best thing you can ever... (read in full...)
His porn viewing has ruined our relationship!
Q. Hi everybody.I hope you can take sometime to read this, as i am in desperate need of some help. If i may say,i dont want to be told how stupid, immature or pathetic im being. I just need some advice,to really help me out, as my problem is ruini...
A. 12 May 2008: Okay, first my bias: I am a woman who supports her husband watching porn. I know that men like to look, I know that these women have nothing to do with me, and I know that given a choice between me and the fantasy porn-lady, he would choose me ... (read in full...)
Am I bi-sexual? Why was my girlfriend so understanding? Should I confront my friend?
Q. Recently whilst sleeping around my friends, after a night of drinking, I awoke to discover him fondling me. I didn't say anything and just pretended to be asleep. The fondling progressed into him giving me oral sex whilst rubbing himself up against ...
A. 10 May 2008: Oh hon. Sexuality isn't like that. It's not like you are all one thing or another, and labels don't help.
"Our sexual orientation and preference is probably not one discrete and rigid reality. Many believe that our sexuality, and our sexual p... (read in full...)
Is marrying my bf the right thing to do??
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years... he's Turkish... I'm going to his country to marry him in March... am i doing the right thing?...
A. 8 February 2008: Find out how women are treated in Turkey. What rights would you have? Do you speak Turkish? How would you get along? Can you get a job there (are you allowed to get a job there)? Do the research before Turkey becomes your country, too.
No ma... (read in full...)
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