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writes:What should i do if i don't love my girlfriend as much as i used to? Should i break up with her or just stay with her? Reply to this Question
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reader, A Cappella  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 Depends on how long until her exams. If they're next week, then by all means wait until they're over. But you have to live your life, and stying with her when the love is gone is a subtle form of lying. You can't keep it up.
She deserves to be with someone who loves her. If that person isn't you, the kindest thing in the long run that you can do is to break up with her, so that she can find that person.
Don't do anything in the short run to make her think that you'll be there forever, and when her exams are over break it off gently but firmly. Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 May 2008):
 Well if you can wait until her exams are over that would be a thoughtful thing to do. I wouldn't keep telling her lies about how much you love her however. Maybe even cut down on the together time as well. Just as soon as exams are over you need to tell her. Be very gentle and kind but don't leave any doubts in her mind that you want to break up for good. It is kinder that way in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): Gently break it off as soon as you can, because otherwise she'll find out and be upset you basically lied to her, saying 'I love you' all that time. But be GENTLE, and insist that you still like her a lot and want to be friends. Be there for her, she'll need you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to but her exams are coming up soon should i wait until after or tell her now. If i dont tell her now i will see her at least 3 times by the exams and talked alot more all the time saying i love you when i dont
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 May 2008):
At your age I shouldn't think you'd even want to be tied down. Be kind but firm and call it off. Enjoy your freedom.
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reader, uncle_baj +, writes (12 May 2008):
 i had the same problem,but i worked hard at getting those feelings back,by that i mean try and remember what made u fall for her,have u stopped appreciating her? do u see a future? theres many questions but if u do still love her then theres something to be worked on,good luck
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reader, growing  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 Has she done something wrong??
That you don't love her the way you used to. Think about her feelings too.if she too is so casual towards this relationship then what are you still thinking??
break up with her.
But if she loves you and was always honest and loyal to you then why you want to dump her??
If you don't love her then no need to think about her just tell her as soon as possible as without love you can't carry any relationship for long.
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (12 May 2008):
 Well I would break up with her because if you dont do this soon then it will break her heart so much worse down the road in time. Let her know your feelings now because the sooner you tell her the sooner you could possibly even fix the relationship. Dont keep her hanging on to fall more in love with you because trust me if you dont want to hurt her breaking up/letting her know sooner will help her.
take care && Good luck
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