Should I accept his use of pornography whilst we are in this long distance relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who is in Australia, I am returning within the month to move in with him. About 5 months ago we discussed pornography, he said that he'd delete anything from his computer...
A. 29 January 2008: Female anon:
By selectively quoting only one side you are giving a very biased view. Your opinion is only that, an opinion, as is mine. And I'm not going to share the bits and pieces of my sex life with you for your voyeuristic tendenci... (read in full...)
Should I accept his use of pornography whilst we are in this long distance relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who is in Australia, I am returning within the month to move in with him. About 5 months ago we discussed pornography, he said that he'd delete anything from his computer...
A. 26 January 2008: Female anon. -- I'm sorry porn didn't "spice up your sex life." And of course you know everything about everyone's sex lives, and have the perfect answers for every couple. Because your opinion is what matters here.
Rubbish. Judgemen... (read in full...)
Is there a happy romance after splitting from the only girl I've ever loved?
Q. 20, is there a happy romance after the only girl I've ever loved? Hi. I've dated who I thought was the love of my life since I was 16. She's the only girl I've ever been out with, and the only girl I have wanted to be with. She has broken up wi...
A. 24 January 2008: Oh hon. You'll get over this and move on. It is such a normal part of learning to love. Four years seems like such a huge percentage of your life right now, but I can promise you that there are others out there. Time will help you get over ... (read in full...)
Should I accept his use of pornography whilst we are in this long distance relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who is in Australia, I am returning within the month to move in with him. About 5 months ago we discussed pornography, he said that he'd delete anything from his computer...
A. 24 January 2008: I think you should allow the porn. I'll even go further, you should continue to allow the porn when the two of you are geographically together, too.
His porn use has NOTHING to do with you. It doesn't say ANYTHING about whether you satisfy ... (read in full...)
Do people usually stay with their first loves??
Q. Hi, Im 15 and have no confidence I do around my friends but not when I meet new people. I always feel like people are commenting on the way I look or that people think im ugly =/. I was wondering if anyone has any ideas on how I can improve my ...
A. 3 December 2007: First of all, people go out with you because they find something in you that they like. If you keep saying that they'll go for someone better, you're basically saying they have bad taste.
What you need is help with your self esteem ... badly. ... (read in full...)
We've been out twice...is he my bf??
Q. hey guys!! Well ive been out with this guy twice and i was wondering is he my boyfriend? Because i dont want to go around saying hes my boyfriend while hes going round telling his mates that were just going out. weve hugged and pecked each othe...
A. 3 December 2007: I wouldn't think so, unless he thinks you are. Usually when someone is your boyfriend/girlfriend, it means that neither of you are seeing anyone else. Otherwise you're just "dating." Why don't you ask him what he thinks? (And BTW, it's a ... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can talk to my mum about losing my virginity without upsetting her??
Q. I'm 16 and wanting to lose my virginity to my 20 yo bf of 4 months. I would prefer i told my mum cause then i have someone to talk to about it but i'm not sure how she would react. I know she would prefer if i waited till i was older but i told her...
A. 28 November 2007: I think it's great that you want to be open with your mom. I think if you go to her with a discussion, willing to listen to her reasons for wanting you to wait (and I mean really listen) then she'll be willing to listen to your reasons to want to ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to sleep with another man and wants my consent
Q. My wife wants to sleep with another man and wants my consent. I have always been faithful to my wife, but we have on a few occasions attended swingers parties and through them hooked up and had sex with other couples. We have been married fou...
A. 27 November 2007: Don't do anything you're not comfortable with. If she wants to do this alone and you think that feels like an affair, then tell her that.
I think you two should see a counselor or a mediator, someone who can help you establish the ground r... (read in full...)
Why do married men look at naked women on the internet?
Q. Why would a married man look at nude women on the internet after being caught once only to do it again?...
A. 16 November 2007: Men like to look. This has nothing to do with you or your relationship. He CHOOSES to be with you. And believe me, even if he could be with one of those women on the Internet, he'd STILL choose to be with you. I think you should let him look at ... (read in full...)
How to I Stop Having Urges to Self-Injure?
Q. I know this isn't a romance question but maybe you can help me anyway. Over the last year I've been having more trouble dealing with my problems in healthy ways, and when I am overwhelmed my knee jerk thought is to hurt myself, to cut myself ...
A. 9 November 2007: I found this link: http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Cutting-Yourself
Good luck hon. Please take care of yourself.... (read in full...)
Is it OK for a women to watch porn on her own?
Q. I was hoping some girls out there could help me with a little problem that is almost ruining my relationship. Is it wrong for a women to watch porn on her own? My boyfriend, of 3 years came by my flat one night after work, and i was horny so i put ...
A. 9 November 2007: "What's good for the goose is good for the gander." Seriously, his double standard is ridiculous. If it's okay for him, it's okay for you. Period.... (read in full...)
My sister keeps stealing my underwear!!
Q. Hi everyone My problem is my younger sister. She is 16 at the minute and turns 17 on the 1st of january. The problem is is that she won't stop stealing from me. She steals money, clothes, makeup, shaving razors, beauty products..basica...
A. 7 November 2007: You're not crazy; you have a legitimate complaint. I can't believe your Mom is doing nothing about it -- no wonder your sister does this (she gets away with it!)
When my step-sister began stealing stuff from my sister, she bought a safe and star... (read in full...)
What is your definition of age gap?
Q. hey!!im wondering peoples opinions on age gap to be honest it doesnt bother me too much im 18 and i love this 28 yr old just wonderin if some people think this is weird or pervy?? i work with him and we meet up a bit but i dunno wat to do shud i k...
A. 7 November 2007: Once everyone is "legal" I think the age difference depends on the people involved (maturity levels, etc.) Also, I think it makes a difference how old the younger person is -- ten years is nothing when it's 40-50.
When you're 18, though, ... (read in full...)
Is it wise to have children right away?
Q. Is 25 and married 2 years to early to have kids. My husband and I are deployed military and will be separated 22 months not counting the the 2 WK R and R we both get. We will be married approximately 2 years when we get home? Is it wise to have kids ...
A. 7 November 2007: I would wait until you're both home and you've had a chance to get to know one another again -- and by that, have a chance to "date" your husband and have fun as a couple.
You've got YEARS to have kids (I was 37 and 39 when I had mine). What you... (read in full...)
He's on porn sites 5-6 times a week yet we make love on 2 or three... what's going on?
Q. My husband is on porn sights 5-6 days per week, but we only make love 2-3 times per week. Is this something I should be worried about?...
A. 5 November 2007: I agree with Asexy. Porn is fine as long as he doesn't watch it on YOUR computer or prefer it to real sex. Do you feel like you have sex "enough"? If so, there's probably no problem. Good luck... (read in full...)
Is she being fair to treat me like this? - says she hasn't been happy but doesn't want to talk about it.
Q. Ok, first a bit of background to this. I met my gf earlier this year. We hit it off straight away and fell in love quite quickly. We have just moved in together (about a month ago) and eveything has been going fantastically well. She stayed rou...
A. 5 November 2007: I agree that she's treating you unfairly. She can't expect you to read her mind -- if she's been unhappy and she hasn't told you that she's been unhappy (or how you can help you fix it) then her expectations aren't realistic. Can you GO to where ... (read in full...)
How can I support her best now her dad has died?
Q. hey guys i need some advice on how to be more supportive and helpful to my gf during this tough time. Shes had a hard time this past year and now her dad has passed away. it wasn't expected and he wasn't ill. It has affected me as well because i've ...
A. 5 November 2007: Let her cry. Don't be embarrased or turn away when she does; she needs to be emotional right now. Hold her if she wants, give her space if she wants. The best thing you can do is to let her know that you're there for her, and that whatever... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, but I'm worried about making a fool of myself
Q. I need help. i really like this boy in school and i have had recent boyfriends before but I feel that he is different. He makes me laugh when everything else seems gloomy, he thinks thinks outside the box when i have problems, and he is really sweet ...
A. 2 November 2007: Listen to him. Laugh at his jokes. Smile at him a lot. Don't pretend you know anything you don't. Look him in the eyes and smile, especially when he's talking.... (read in full...)
I spent her Grandma's money, now she's furious, how can I get her to trust me again
Q. I have a problem in my relationship.Me and my girl friend has been living together for little over a year now and i lost my job about three weeks ago and had no luck so far but i am sure something will come up.We were over at her grandmas and she ...
A. 2 November 2007: You should have been upfront with your girl from the get go.
Although I think since you did an odd job for her gram it wasn't bad that you accepted the money, you should (1) told your girl immediately so she didn't get the cashier's checks, ... (read in full...)
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