I'm 44 he's 25. He wants to meet in real life. Thoughts??
Q. I'm 44 and he's 25.....we met on fb this past summer after he sent me a request:) My initial impression of him was that he was a good looking guy but a bit insecure and perhaps a bit full of himself( bc of al the selfies and muscle pics on h...
A. 13 March 2021: Way to much drama, i'm sure you don't really need all of this going on at your time of life.
Block him, and the mother and move on with your life. ... (read in full...)
Is he just taking it slow?
Q. I met a guy from a dating site a year ago. I am still on the dating site and so is he and he sent a messsge to say that we tried before but I got nasty with him. I told him I could not remember why and I just thought he wasn’t interested in me. He ...
A. 13 December 2020: I can't see that anything will be different a second time around, and a whole year on.
He said you got nasty with him, but you can't remember why?. sounds like a random thing to come out with to me.
The fact he wants to meet straight away ra... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to say I am straight?
Q. I am a man and I do not consider myself bi or gay but I do like an occassional get together with another man from time to time I like to give him oral nothing in return I prefer to give oral to a straight married man My question is is it wrong to ...
A. 7 December 2020: I think if you were in a relationship withy a woman declaring your straight, then she finds out you have performed oral sex on a man she is not going to think that you are straight.
As Honeypie say's there is no law or authority to tell you what... (read in full...)
Dating a married woman now she suddenly becomes distant, what should I do?
Q. hi, been dating a married woman for a month, but chatted for few years before meeting, know everything about each other, even her husband her family and her husbands family kept hassling her and asking about me (because they keep seeing me ...
A. 7 December 2020: Your correct when you say that the marriage is the hurdle here, and its a big hurdle to climb over as well.
You have received some advice from friends, she's a narccisist, got multiple guys's on the go. The fact is no one really knows do they.
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Why do I think about her sometimes even though it was over 10 years ago.
Q. Hi all! I hope you are all keeping safe and staying healthy. Anyways... Just thinking about in my life. I've been through so much in life. Not just in crushes, but life in general. Just thinking about my high school crush over 10 years ago. She g...
A. 7 December 2020: Is it normal to be still be thinking about a high school crush a decade on?. I would say this is not normal.
Yes we all have fond memories of school/college and people that we dated, or people that we crushed on but feelings were not reciproc... (read in full...)
Is his behaviour is acceptable or controlling in anyway?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a few months and it has been good for the most part however we fight whenever I wear a shirt that is low cut, something that shows my bra (even the smallest amount) or a skirt, which I wear shorts under. I ...
A. 7 December 2020: I would say that he is showing signs of controlling behaviour.
You have only been together for a few months and already he is wanting to control who you talk to, and what you wear.
If its like this now, then what is it going to be like a few... (read in full...)
Is our relationship going to work if she can never trust me?
Q. My girlfriend keeps checking my phone on the sly, almost every other day. I've lost count of the amount of times I've caught her snooping and her looking all embarrassed about it. She says she can't help herself if I leave it lying around, which I ...
A. 7 December 2020: I think that she has entered into a new relationship to soon and is clearly not healed from the last one.
She should have never embarked on a new relationship until she was 100% over the last one. She needed to work on herself and get into a b... (read in full...)
She said she misses me more but has not responded to my last msg , what should I do?
Q. hi guys, been a long time since i posted here ! Just wanted some quick advice Been chatting to a girl online for about a year now, we finally met up a month ago and sparks flew, we were both a little bit shocked that we got along so wel...
A. 7 December 2020: Although you have been chatting for a year, you have only been on two days, so in that respect its still early days.
I don't think you will be doing yourself any favours if you go chasing her and bombarding her with texts and calls.
I think... (read in full...)
What does it mean that I'm thinking about this colleague?
Q. I have a co-worker who is flirty at work. I told him to stop as I'm in a relationship which he mostly has. But I still see him staring at times and he makes little jokes like "if you aren't texting me you shouldn't be on your phone". I laugh it...
A. 30 November 2020: I guess its just a fantasy, and that's precisely where is should remain, an fantasy.
We all have thoughts that pop into our heads, your only human at the end of the day.
When thoughts of this nature do come into our mind, we all have the abi... (read in full...)
Why doesn’t he seem to want to talk on the phone or meet up?
Q. Been talking to this guy for three weeks. Met on a dating app. He canceled our first meet up do to covid but says he wants to see me and we will meet soon. I told him I want to hear his voice but we have yet to talk on the phone and video chat. We ...
A. 30 November 2020: I think that this guy seems rather flaky to me, so on that basis I think that you should continue with your dating search.
You asked to hear his voice, and you got nothing, and you don't get definite answers.
He is holding back, and being ... (read in full...)
He dumped me for no reason and now won't talk to me. Help me fix it.
Q. We dated for 3 weeks. Everything was amazing. We spent a lot of time together and talked for 7 to 8 hours a day about everything. When we were together it was like we has known each other our entire lives. He told his family, friends and son about ...
A. 24 November 2020: He seemed like he was making all the right noises, and from what you have said he did seem into you.
Personally if i was not into someone i would not tell my family, friends or son about them.
I think this is a problem around his son, it just... (read in full...)
I'm feeling guilty for ending a relationship
Q. So I was in a relationship with someone until Friday. After thinking about everything between us I choose to end it after just under one year. I felt in a lot of ways wee weren't really compatible and tbh wee would be better as friends. I tried ex...
A. 23 November 2020: I agree with your friends and family, you did the right thing by ending things.
You felt like you was not compatible, and felt you were better of as friends. So you did the mature thing of being honest with him and ending the relation... (read in full...)
Husband wants sex less and less. How do I help?
Q. For the past few weeks my husband's been wanting sex less and less, but unlike some questions, I know the reason why... my problem is how to help him. I'm 34, and he's 36. He's admitted to me to spending HOURS downloading "big dick porn" and ...
A. 23 November 2020: I do have to question the authenticity of some of the questions that make it through to here.
He clearly has got to stop looking a porn and making himself feel inadequate, then he needs to give his wife some more attention.
I would say for ce... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but can't help being intrigued by a Secret Admirer
Q. Cupids I need help! OK so about a month ago I got a random email from a man who claimed to have known me in the past, telling me that he 'had to get off his chest' that he really fancied me and was crazy about me and that even YEARS later sinc...
A. 23 November 2020: I feel this is a really strange thing to do, and rather creepy if i'm honest.
The fact he is hiding his identity, using a fake email address say's to me that this is a scam. Like he has just found someone at random, collated as much informat... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to undress her
Q. My girlfriend really wants me to undress her, i thought for a moment and then agreed to doing it next time we're at her house. We're going to take turns undressing each other but how fast should I undress her, what do I take off first, and what ...
A. 23 November 2020: I very much doubt that this post is genuine.
If by a slim chance it is, given your age bracket it would be inappropriate for any aunt on here to answer this question in the detail that you require. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is angry that he found a porn site I went to
Q. Ok , so yesterday my bf went through my history and found a porn site that I went on , he got so upset that hes making the biggest deal out of it . He says that it's a broken promise , because I promised I would never play with it again . Is that ...
A. 23 November 2020: Have you visited sites like this before then?. Why does he feel the need to check your internet history?.
There seems to be a lack of trust here. So you visited a porn site, you was not caught arranging dates on a dating app.
How do you kn... (read in full...)
I want to end it for good but how do you pull away from another person who your so physically drawn to?
Q. 25 years ago i met my hb, he was 10 years older than me and always seemed so grown up and sensible and i needed that in my life, i’ll never regret marrying him , about 5 years ago we had a “showdown” talk about our marriage it had kind of gotten in ...
A. 23 November 2020: We all have control over ourselves, our actions, what we say and do, and the thoughts we think.
I think all this could have been avoided if you communicated with your husband, rather than jumping into bed with the first person who shows you some... (read in full...)
Boyfriend furious with me that I don't trust him that nothing is going on with him and a lady who wants him to do work for her
Q. Boyfriend of 10 yrs standing is extremely furious with me because a woman nearby he does work for is always ringing and texting with all sorts of jobs for him. He absolutely assures me nothing is going on and the extra money is welcome. The last ...
A. 23 November 2020: It all sounds rather business related to me, and he is trying to make an extra bit of money during difficult times.
If he was doing the work for a man that was calling you would not even question it, so he is doing the work for a woman.
If h... (read in full...)
I have always been Heterosexual, but last couple of years I have been sort of bi curious, Is this normal as we get older?
Q. I have always been heterosexual but for the last couple of years I am somewhat bi curious, never been with a man, I have been in several 3somes, ffm, and mmf. But never even thought about it. Is this somewhat normal as we get older?...
A. 22 November 2020: While i have nothing against being gay, or bi, personally for me its something i have never thought about doing myself.
I think you are or you are not, i really don't think its something that just happens as we get older. ... (read in full...)
Married man says he isn't going anywhere. What does that mean?
Q. met him at work and we are both attracted to each othe r but he says he has been married for 7 years and have visited just twice,which my gut instinct tells me it a lie but respected that and decided wanted to move away from him but he says he isn't ...
A. 22 November 2020: I think its pointless trying to figure out what he meant. He is married, end of.
He will never leave his wife for you, he will whisper you sweet nothings, enticing you in with lines like how wonderful you are, and that he will soon leave his wife... (read in full...)
He’s done nothing wrong but I’m just not that into it. How can I break up in a good way?
Q. So I need some outsiders help. I’ve been seeing this guy for a while, we met online and couldn’t meet because of lockdown. We finally meet and things have been okay for the 3 months we’ve been physically seeing each other. But that’s just it, they...
A. 19 November 2020: I think that the longer you leave this the harder it is going to be for you, and for him.
You are clearly not into him, it's not your fault, and neither does it make you a bad person for ending it.
Honesty is the best policy, all you have to ... (read in full...)
Men, when you see your crush, how much do you think about her afterwards?
Q. There is a man I see around my building every now and then. I have a crush on him, so I think about him all the time. When a guy sees a girl he has a crush on, does he think about her after seeing her? Does it only last a moment or for quite ...
A. 19 November 2020: I think it varies for each individual, but generally crushes are short lived.
I would say that if you really like someone, like a crush then you would certainly be thinking about her after seeing her.
The duration of the crush could last for a... (read in full...)
I told her that we were done but she still kept texting me
Q. I was seeing this girl for a few weeks and decided she wasn’t for me so text her to say I wasn’t feeling it and could we leave it there She’s text me a few times since but I’ve not replied because As far as I’m concerned I finished it and that was ...
A. 19 November 2020: You did nothing wrong, infact you were nothing but honest and told her you were not feeling it and could you just leave it there.
Normally someone would recieve a message like this and accept that nothing is going to happen and leave it at that.... (read in full...)
I'm the only woman on an overnight crew. I think one of the workers will lie to get me off of this shift
Q. I have a problem in work. I started working in a warehouse a few months ago and have been doing really well. After a week and a half my supervisor gave me the option to work nights for time and a half pay which is a privilege usually given to people ...
A. 15 November 2020: This guy sounds like a bit of work and i think that you need to steer clear of him.
Don't give him the time of day, by giving him the time of day and showing him you are interested in what he is saying you are giving him power.
He is a douch... (read in full...)
How can I get over missing out on teenage love? I'm 27 now
Q. I'm a 27 year old woman and it never really bothered me up until now to think that I never experienced teenage love. I have dated men in my college years, but seem to think what it would have been like to have that naive tender teen love. I wa...
A. 15 November 2020: We all have a past, we all look back on our teens, and wonder would things have been different if i had done this, or done that.
While we all have memories, i think its important now to look forward and not back. Leave the past in past where it... (read in full...)
I'm in my mid 30's married and just not interested in sex anymore
Q. This may seem strange coming from a male but i just dont really care about sex anymore. Its not that i dont like it, but i just dont have a NEED for it like i used to when i was younger. Im in my mid 30's now and while thats not old i am feeling ...
A. 14 November 2020: Yes it is quite early on in your like for a disinterest in sex.
It seems you and your wife are at the opposite ends of the spectrum with regards to your sexual desires.
I think it would be a good idea to go along to your GP and seek some advice... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ignored me when I was having a panic attack
Q. I just had an anxiety attack. I was trying to reach my boyfriend. He knew I was having this panic attack and ignored me. He read all my messages and was online and ignored me as I frantically typed message after message trying to reach him. I told ...
A. 13 November 2020: Do these panic attacks happen frequently?. I would go along and see your GP and tell them what happened, and maybe they can steer you down the correct path to help you for when this next happens.
I had what i thought was a panic attack about te... (read in full...)
This has never happened to me before, Is my female boss being friendly or wanting something more from me ?
Q. I don't know if it's harassment, her being friendly or she's wanting something more and I'm very confused about it and haven't laid a finger on her. I'm male and in my ninth week at a new job in a warehouse and within the first week my female b...
A. 12 November 2020: She is a boss/manager and should be setting an example to fellow co-workers. She is being unprofessional and being very inappropriate.
If it was reversed and a male manager was doing this to a female worker he would be deemed as a pervert and be o... (read in full...)
I'm 44 he's 25. He wants to meet in real life. Thoughts??
Q. I'm 44 and he's 25.....we met on fb this past summer after he sent me a request:) My initial impression of him was that he was a good looking guy but a bit insecure and perhaps a bit full of himself( bc of al the selfies and muscle pics on h...
A. 12 November 2020: You have not even met yet, so you only know him through online chat and some sexting.
I would not read to much in to it, infact i would be inclined to take it all with a pinch of salt.
He is at a different stage in life to where your at, a... (read in full...)
How do I get the full story out of my boyfriend?
Q. I looked at my boyfriend's phone when he got a notification. He was asleep after a night out, and left his phone on the sofa. Curiosity got to me so I read the message. There were 2 from girls. One of them said "Morning xx", the 2nd said "okay Da...
A. 12 November 2020: Like we said in previous reply's he could just make up any kind of story, and your supposed to buy that all all is ok.
Firstly a good morning text at 6am with kisses is rather iffy. Your boyfriend is obviously the first person on her mind when she... (read in full...)
I'm against the idea of my girlfriend wanting to have a three day disco party in our house!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 years and recently she's told me she wants to have a three-day disco party in our house with music non-stop and all money donated to COVID-19 causes. She claims "it's all for a good cause". In fact, her ki...
A. 11 November 2020: I don't think that I could manage a one day house party now days, let alone a three day house party.
Also throwing any kind of party is the present covid conditions is just absurd.
Why is she suggesting your place. Are you remote with park... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I had a fight and he told me to go and have sex with other men!
Q. My boyfriend and I got into this huge fight the other day. I accused him of flirting with someone. I had my reasons. Without getting into all the details, it ended with him telling me to go away. He told me to go fuck myself and to go and fuck ...
A. 11 November 2020: How long have you been together with him?.
I think his texts were very nasty and hurtful, and disrespectful. This is not something that you say to someone that you are supposed to be in love with.
You know him better than we do, that's why I... (read in full...)
I really care for my boyfriend but his lack of communication is making me wonder if I want to be with him
Q. Hi lovely Cupids, I hope you're all doing well right now. I have a relationship question I need a bit of help with. Me and my boyfriend have been together just over 2 years now. We met through my bestfriend as we needed a room filling in our ho...
A. 10 November 2020: I know its hard, but it sounds like to me that this relationship has run it's course.
I think that your fighting a losing battle because he is not willing to help himself. We can give people all the love and support there is, but at the end of t... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of leaving but have no money and nowhere to go
Q. Hello, So myself and my partner have been together for 7 years and have a 18 month old son. We’ve been through some difficult times and he has cheated on me before (around 5 years ago) however I decided to give him another chance. Since having o...
A. 9 November 2020: It does sound like to me that you have made your mind up that this relationship has run its course.
I think that maybe you should have left him after he cheated on you the first time around, as i think that the trust had already been broken. ... (read in full...)
How can a male virgin gain experience?
Q. I was wondering if women prefer men with experience, how can a male virgin gain some experience? Should he pay for it? Lie about it?...
A. 9 November 2020: Personally i would not advise paying for it, or lying about it.
I think that the best option is to just be honest, tell them that you have had little experience, i'm sure they will value your honesty.
When your with someone new just be yourself... (read in full...)
How do I know if I have a crush?
Q. How do I know I have a crush on my paternal aunt?...
A. 9 November 2020: Crushes are normally short lived and fade away naturally over time.
I would advise keeping this to yourself within the walls of your own mind.
You are over 40 years old, i really don't think you need anyone to tell you how you would know if it... (read in full...)
He came out to me as a trans woman and I'm straight
Q. So I (a girl) have been dating a guy, J, for quite a few months now, and last month J came out to me as a trans woman. Since then, J has been acting more and more feminine. I am straight and have never felt attraction towards women, and the more ...
A. 9 November 2020: You even said yourself that the more feminine J gets the less attracted you feel.
He is not the person you started dating, not the person you started generating feelings for.
Not that you have an issue with trans of course, but the fact her... (read in full...)
We're dating he says he loves me but he's still hung up on his ex
Q. I've been dating a guy for 6 months and I feel like I love him. About a month ago, he told me that he still loves his ex girlfriend (lasted 3 years and ended when she meet someone else while working abroad). I have split up with him a couple of ...
A. 9 November 2020: He is dating you while still having feelings for an ex girlfriend. OP you should not be in this relationship with him. He is using you because you are convenient for right now. But he will drop you like a hat if this ex started showing some ... (read in full...)
How do I get the full story out of my boyfriend?
Q. I looked at my boyfriend's phone when he got a notification. He was asleep after a night out, and left his phone on the sofa. Curiosity got to me so I read the message. There were 2 from girls. One of them said "Morning xx", the 2nd said "okay Da...
A. 9 November 2020: It all sounds a little suspicious to me, especially the second notification that he got.
I don't think its a porn cam girl, Its sounds like he has got an emotional attachment to someone. Asking to help with the gas and electric is rather specific... (read in full...)
My FWB has stopped having casual sex with me but we are constantly in touch
Q. So im really confused. Before lockdown I was in FWB with this guy. However lately we are not sleeping toegther. Last time we just cuddled. He was fine but later messaged saying this is how feelings develop and wasnt ok with it because he cant commit ...
A. 5 November 2020: I think that this relationship has entered the friend zone. The feelings of wanting more are on your part, and i think he can sense this.
He has felt the need to highlight the fact that he is not your boyfriend and you are going to have to accep... (read in full...)
I do great till the girl sees my photo and then I'm always ghosted. It has to be my looks
Q. Has anyone got any stories to share to make me feel better. I know there is no solution but here goes. When I was in school I was always picked on for my looks. It formed a personality where I am embarrassed when others would say it in front of m...
A. 5 November 2020: You say that when you were at school you were picked on for your looks, then you say there was no bullying. If you were picked on for your looks then i would say that this was a form of bullying.
I think you are placing to much emphasis on looks... (read in full...)
I thought my LDR girlfriend was a virgin. She's not and I can't get over it
Q. It's been four months of my long distance relationship with my girlfriend. couple of weeks ago, she told me she is not a virgin and she had sex with her ex once.This came up as a sunrise and this surprise hurts me. I'm in love with this girl and I'm ...
A. 5 November 2020: I think in this day and age you will be hard pushed to meet someone who does not have some sort of past, or at least been intimate with an ex.
You have only know her four months, and already you are torturing yourself of images of her having s... (read in full...)
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