I thought my LDR girlfriend was a virgin. She's not and I can't get over it
Q. It's been four months of my long distance relationship with my girlfriend. couple of weeks ago, she told me she is not a virgin and she had sex with her ex once.This came up as a sunrise and this surprise hurts me. I'm in love with this girl and I'm ...
A. 5 November 2020: I think in this day and age you will be hard pushed to meet someone who does not have some sort of past, or at least been intimate with an ex.
You have only know her four months, and already you are torturing yourself of images of her having s... (read in full...)
Why does he stare at me but not talk?
Q. Hello.. It may seem trivial but i would love some insight into why a man stares and makes constant eye contact with me- however when i returned the eye contact (a bit more subtly) smiled a couple of times- blank, no smile nothing.. To put into co...
A. 4 November 2020: We really don't know anything about this guy, apart from the fact that he works in the gym, and he looks at you?. Does he work behind the counter?. or is he one of the fitness trainers?. I think the only option here is to start of with general... (read in full...)
Why does he stare at me but not talk?
Q. Hello.. It may seem trivial but i would love some insight into why a man stares and makes constant eye contact with me- however when i returned the eye contact (a bit more subtly) smiled a couple of times- blank, no smile nothing.. To put into co...
A. 4 November 2020: He could just be keeping it professional because he is in work. Maybe you are just reading to much into him looking at you. Does he work behind the counter?. Or is he a fitness trainer there?. Why don't you ask his advice on how to train a... (read in full...)
Why does he stare at me but not talk?
Q. Hello.. It may seem trivial but i would love some insight into why a man stares and makes constant eye contact with me- however when i returned the eye contact (a bit more subtly) smiled a couple of times- blank, no smile nothing.. To put into co...
A. 4 November 2020: Could be many reasons, he could fancy you and not know what to say. He could be being professional and not want to approach someone in a place of work. Does he work behind the counter? Or is he one of the fitness trainers there?. You... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is setting up all night outers with her friends. I am not happy about this
Q. Hi need help, Been with my girlfriend for five months, everything is going well and we are very happy together. Some problem has surfaced, my girlfriend is 24 and I'm 28. She is starting to organize nights out with her girlfriends implying sh...
A. 4 November 2020: I think that it all boils down to trust really. If you can trust her staying out all night partying the night away and are willing to wait for her then do so. I do however think this is quite a big ask. I think if your going to have trust issu... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is setting up all night outers with her friends. I am not happy about this
Q. Hi need help, Been with my girlfriend for five months, everything is going well and we are very happy together. Some problem has surfaced, my girlfriend is 24 and I'm 28. She is starting to organize nights out with her girlfriends implying sh...
A. 4 November 2020: It seems that you are both at different stages of your lives, and wanting different things. You have done all the partying scene, while it seems that she is still very much into it. I guess it boils down to trust really, if you trust her, ... (read in full...)
What's a nice way to tell my wife she needs to lose weight?
Q. So I'm in a bit of a dilemma. My wife has put on quite a bit of weight over the past year or so and it's gotten to the point where I don't really find her attractive anymore. What's the nicest way to encourage her to lose weight? I know you'll ...
A. 3 November 2020: She is still the person you fell in love with, she is still the person you married.
Obviously I don't need to tell you that we are in difficult times at present, and as we head into another lock down more difficult times lay ahead.
Maybe y... (read in full...)
Its been 5 months but I'm not ready to give up sex!
Q. My bf and I have been together for nearly 4 years. I love him and he’s a great partner, we work well together and there’s never been any major riffs in our relationship. When the pandemic started he started working more and now it’s been 5’ months ...
A. 2 November 2020: Is it just in the bedroom he has gone cold?. Or has he gone cold with you in all other area's of your life?.
five months is a long time for no intimacy, and I think that your entitled to know the reason why he does not want to sleep with you.
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My husband disrespects me. I think he's lying and spending time with his baby mama
Q. hello ill try to make this as short as possible, my husband and i have been together for three years. when we were dating he cheated and impregnated someone and we broke up. he asked for another chance and i forgave him. i moved to virginia with him ...
A. 2 November 2020: In a nutshell, yes I agree with the other aunts here, a divorce would be your best option.
When he cheated and impregnated someone else, right there was the point where you should have washed your hands of him. Your biggest mistake was taking h... (read in full...)
I cut her off. How will I ever know if she was interested?
Q. I recently unfriended a girl I had a strong crush on. I think she had a big crush on me also which makes me confused. We both were in relationships and were up front that we were, just general chit chat at first which led to this conversation. We...
A. 1 November 2020: I guess that now you have deleted her you are never going to know the answer to that question.
You have deleted her, I don't see the point in wondering if she was interested or not. Maybe she was, but all we have to go on is her body language... (read in full...)
I'm tired of playing games. Should I end it with my girlfriend?
Q. I asked my girlfriend to meet up for halloweeen and she said we can’t this year because of COVID-19. It’s Halloween, I am working and she has just told me that she won’t be around evening as she is going out. I’m stuck with work (as she told me ...
A. 1 November 2020: I feel you have kind of answered your own question, you hate playing games, and you need someone more in sync.
You have sacrificed things for her, and now you feel like she is trying to teach you a lesson. Why?.
You say if you did the same... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to pay an escort to date me?
Q. Hello I am a male virgin who has never been on a date or kissed a girl. I have many friends who are women but never had a girlfriend. I'm not particularly handsome and I am chubby. I'm bald also. I basically look like a gorilla. I am socially aw...
A. 1 November 2020: No I don't think that an escort will help. They will make all the right noises, and make you feel special like they are really in to you. But you have to understand that they are doing a job, and the next client they will be doing exactly the same ... (read in full...)
Always the rebound girl, never the girlfriend!
Q. Why am I always the rebound girl and never the girlfriend?! I don't know what it is about me but I always seem to attract or I'm attracted to emotionally unavailable guys and it makes me want to hit my head against the wall. I've never been in a ...
A. 1 November 2020: I think that maybe you should just stop trying so hard to meet someone and concentrate on working on yourself, and also give the dating apps a break also. Its seems like at the moment your relationships are all following the same pattern.
I'm n... (read in full...)
My male colleague distances himself when I told him my feelings. Any advice about moving on, and what I should have done differently?
Q. I am looking for insight on this situation of mine of a relationship that had dissolved. I am seeking a career change because it holds poor memories. I had a friendship with a male colleague for a year which I know he valued. I thought that he recip...
A. 29 October 2020: I always say with these kind of posts that this is kind of outcome is what happens when we indulge in romance within the workplace.
You did not even get as far as having a relationship with him, and still there is awkwardness and bad feeling.... (read in full...)
The stars do align between me and my boyfriend, but there are some concerns with him as my future husband. Your advice?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm writing you to get your advice on my relationship with a man I've been involved with since March of this year. We have been exclusively dating since June and have built a healthy relationship so far. This was a relationship tha...
A. 29 October 2020: you are been together for roughly half a year, you have been in the honeymoon period up to now where everything is perfect, exciting, like a romantic novel.
Now the honeymoon period is over, and now your back to the real world, where not all is p... (read in full...)
I befriended a co-worker who has many issues and I don’t know how to end the friendship!
Q. I need help, I seem to have got myself into a horrible situation. First thing is first I would like to acknowledge my own short coming and my responsibility here. I started a new job with an office of 25-30 women in one big room. I'm not much for...
A. 28 October 2020: I don't think that you did anything wrong here, she asked you for a coffee and you accepted.
I know you said you broke your own rule, and I agree with you to a certain extent, your at work to earn money, not to make friends.
You are not a... (read in full...)
It’s been an emotional roller coaster for me after the breakup! Any insights would be helpful!
Q. A couple of months ago, I broke things off with the first, serious possible partner I’ve ever had. It was fast and intense, with thousands of messages, calls, and video chats. Nothing like any prolonged dating I’d had previously. The first time...
A. 28 October 2020: I think a problem shared is a problem halved, and I think that writing your lenthy post you at least found some relief.
You only broke things off a couple of months ago, this relationship obviously touched your heart which is why you still fe... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend about her teenaged son's attraction to me?
Q. Hi I am 44 and I have been divorced for 6 months. The divorce was hard on me and I have very low self esteem and ended up having to move in with my friend and her son. Over the course of the months I have been staying with my friend I noticed...
A. 27 October 2020: I would not broach the subject with your friend.
I think you should concentrate on finding alternative accommodation as soon as you can.
For the remainder of your time there you should refrain from teasing him and showing your cleavage, and yo... (read in full...)
How do I proceed? I'm in love with my ex who is in a relationship
Q. Hello, my ex and I broke up about six months ago, she recently got in touch with me and we began talking and I confessed that I was still in love and wanted to get back together. She is in a relationship and I told her I wasn’t asking her for ...
A. 27 October 2020: I think that if your in a relationship you don't normally text an ex to see how they are doing.
So she got in touch, and you have said you are still in love with her and want to get back together. She did say she still thinks about you, so natur... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is quite narcissistic! How do I respond to him?
Q. Hello, I feel like my boyfriend is narcissistic and I'm getting tired of his behaviors. Lately, when I talk to him about my day, he interjects with how he's doing. Sometimes, he'll only respond in texts with one word answers like "Okay" or "Cool"...
A. 25 October 2020: His behaviour, his me me me attitude has been like this all the time you have known him, for 8 years. So the likelihood of him changing is rather slim.
It would seem he has confidence and low self esteem, which is why he has to keep asking y... (read in full...)
What is a nice gesture to re-ignite the spark?
Q. How can you re ignite a spark in a relationship. Ladies what would be a nice gesture or action after busy week of work. Can you guys give me ideas? Doesn’t have to be sexual as No point for the whole build up if she can only last 15 minutes in be...
A. 25 October 2020: Maybe at the end of a busy week, you could run her a nice bath, with bubbles, insence, and candles for her to relax in.
While she is relaxing in there you could be preparing a nice romantic dinner, with candle light and wine.
Then finish o... (read in full...)
Is he making me out to be an idiot? I'm not sure he's over his ex
Q. I would like some advice please. I have been dating a guy since June. At first I found out he hadn’t been in a relationship for 6 years since his ex (first relationship) she cheated on him with his best friend... I then find out he is still in ...
A. 23 October 2020: Personally I think that he has got to much going on here with his ex.
It sounds like she has still got some sort of emotional hold over him. She get's upset and peaks off, and he seemed upset that she was angry with him, and he was really bothered... (read in full...)
Was he my friend or was I played?
Q. Can someone please help, as my head is in a mess. I’ve being friends with a guy for the past year. I met him through work and we really got on well. We don’t work together all the time just occasionally. The past couple of months we’ve being mess...
A. 22 October 2020: It sounds like its all got a bit messy. The first mistake was sleeping with him. Before the night out when he come over with his stuff you should have said he can't stay there the night.
I would just put this down to experience, ok you made a m... (read in full...)
What does "I don't see you that way" mean and how to change it?
Q. I'm a male virgin who's never kissed a girl or been on a date. Whenever I work up the courage to ask a girl out, I always get told "You're a sweet guy but I just don't see you that way." What does that mean? I always interpret it that I am too ug...
A. 22 October 2020: No it does not mean that you are ugly, it just means that you are not compatible with the woman in question.
I think you should maybe step back from asking a woman out straight off, and work on your self.
If you asking woman out from a place... (read in full...)
I want to buy a sex doll to be my gf
Q. hi, im Owen. i'm 39 and i live in california. i have a thin 4 inch penis and haven't had sex in 15 years. i am also a premature ejaculator, and because of these things i am intimidated and nervous near women. i don't feel comfortable trying to date ...
A. 22 October 2020: well i think that after the initial payment of buying a silicon love doll, i think she will be a relatively cheap date after that.
She won't answer you back, and you can watch as much football, and drink as much beer as you want. Yep, its a win wi... (read in full...)
Is this just a friendship? I don't feel sparks
Q. So I've (34M) recently started dating with really cool person (37F) and got to the boy/girlfriend point. She is great - everything I think I could want in a girlfriend. We get on well, have a similar intelligence, personality, find her attractive, ...
A. 22 October 2020: You start of by describing the perfect relationship, saying she is all you could ever want in a relationship, she's attractive, intelligent, and have similar outlooks on a shared future together.
Wow OP, some people search their whole live's t... (read in full...)
He says he just wants to leave things as they are. Does that mean he's not interested?
Q. Guy I’ve been seeing has just broke it off saying he’s just not ready for a relationship at the moment and wants to leave things as they are for now. Does this mean he’s not interested at all? He’s had a lot on with work and his mum being ill but ...
A. 22 October 2020: I know its hard, but you are going to have to accept the fact that he simply is not interested in a relationship with you.
At least he was honest and gave you an explanation, and did not just vanish on you.
Ok you have sent a text, he has not... (read in full...)
Girlfriend upset because I like instagram photos of fitness women
Q. Hi, This may seem small but hear me out. Been with my gf for 6 months now. The other day she asks me why I like all these Instagram posts of fitness girls/insta models etc etc. She says I like alot of them and it upsets her. We follo...
A. 20 October 2020: This is a case of pot and kettle, its ok for her to look at ripped fit guy's, but when its reversed she has a problem with this.
You are taking a mature approach to this, you are not to concerned that she likes these pictures. What is rather m... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom that I think my stepdad is cheating on her?
Q. I am a 19 year old male living with my mom and my step dad. I have a growing suspicion that my stepdad is cheating on my mom, or at the least watching porn behind her back, and here are some reasons why I think this: First, I have seen him take ...
A. 19 October 2020: Your Mum is a grown women, and if he is cheating then she will have to find out for herself.
If he is watching porn then that's his business, there is not an awful lot you can do about that, again i'm sure that she is aware of this.
He shou... (read in full...)
I cheated got my ex pregnant. Should I attend the birth of the baby?
Q. I cheated on my girlfriend months ago with my ex partner. My ex and I have a child together. My ex is pregnant and says its mine. If it is I will take full responsibility. My girlfriend has forgiven me. Under the circumstances should I attend ...
A. 19 October 2020: I think you are so lucky that your girlfriend even forgave you.
She has not just only forgiven you for being unfaithful, but also for getting your ex pregnant. She must be one in a million, because most people would have run for the hills. ... (read in full...)
Why can a guy cheat and it's ok but not ok if his gf does it!???
Q. Maybe somebody here can tell me why a guy who cheats on you when the opportunity comes up cheats on you but gaslights the hell out of you every time? Why does he do this to you? Why does he profess his love for you and try so hard to hold onto you? ...
A. 19 October 2020: First off cheating is wrong no matter who cheats. A true loving relationship is built of love and trust.
He is doing what he does because you are letting him. He screws you over, then you take him back.
Once the trust barrier has been broken ... (read in full...)
My long term boyfriend ghosted me, had a fling and now has come back telling me he loves me. Should I believe him?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. Long story short. My boyfriend of 5 yrs left me back in July. We were having some problems at the time except we always used to work them out. But that day, he just gave up on me and ghosted me. I couldn't even get him to talk ...
A. 17 October 2020: If he cheated once, he is capable of cheating again. I i don't think that you should let him back into your life to find out.
He has lied to you, been unfaithful to you, left you in the lurch, and has been an awful person, and i think that you... (read in full...)
New GF enjoys strip clubs and looking at other men whilst in a relationship
Q. My new gf of 6 months told me that her and her friends have been to a few male strip clubs and that she enjoys them and would continue to do so. She also said that she enjoys looking at other men and does it even more so when she's in a relation...
A. 17 October 2020: No this is certainly not normal behaviour, If your in a relationship, and your really into each other then going to strip clubs would be the last thing on your mind.
Can i ask, is she considerably younger than yourself?.
Not that it makes an... (read in full...)
Old friend has been talking behind my back and is ignoring me. I don't know why and it's making me feel sick with anxiety
Q. I recently met up with an old uni friend who I hadn't seen for over a year. He took a picture of us together and sent it to a group chat. It turns out that 3 out of a group of 4 of us from uni had set up a group but I hadn't been invited to it. He ...
A. 17 October 2020: Just carry on being yourself, you have done absolutely nothing wrong whatsoever.
You have initiated contact, even congratulated him on his new place. He has decided to ignor you, so the problem lies with him.
I'm sure they are not talking abou... (read in full...)
I need to know if people are capable of change when it comes to cheating?
Q. I need to know if people are capable of change when it comes to cheating? I broke up with my partner of 10 years and father to my child 18 months ago. We had a good relationship. There were a couple of niggles - he was slightly stricter bringi...
A. 15 October 2020: I think the real issue here is can you honestly trust him again?.
I believe that trust is the most important contributing factors that bind a relationship together, once the trust barrier has been broken its hard to come back from.
You say... (read in full...)
I went to a stripclub my girlfriend broke up with me because of it
Q. I need advice. My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me after she found out me and my guy friends went to a stripclub and got lap dances. I mentioned to her that they were pressuring me into going but told her that i did not really care to go. But ...
A. 13 October 2020: You made a conscience choice to go to this strip club, as it would seem you were more worried about upsetting your friends than your girlfriend of five years.
Telling her that you were pressured to go makes you sound weak, like you were dragged ... (read in full...)
Should I buy a condo with my partner?
Q. Hello, I have a question about cohabiting. If I purchase a condo under my name and decide that my boyfriend would live with me later on, would it be wiser to just have him sign with me as opposed to just myself? I am planning to propose to him next ...
A. 13 October 2020: Yep i agree with the other Aunts. Buy it yourself so that you own it, and don't put his name on it. ... (read in full...)
Advice needed on how not to overthink and possibly ruin the start of a relationship!
Q. Hi everyone I apologise in advance if this gets too long. I will try to keep it brief. As a bit of context, I don't seem to have much luck with dating. It's not so much that I never meet anyone, it's just that I often seem to be the plan B. I...
A. 13 October 2020: Like you say its still early day's and your both in the getting to know you stage.
I know its easy to over think thinks, wondering why she has not called after 5pm, then no text the next day. You could say to yourself, well its 2020, everyone... (read in full...)
Why has this breakup suddenly hit me? Shouldn’t I be okay now?
Q. I was with my ex for 9years. We broke up a year ago. When we first broke up it didn't feel real and I was actually OK.. my friends said i was too OK. I went on 3 holidays in a row..went on loads of dates and went out partying most nights. I was fine ...
A. 13 October 2020: I think after a break up we go through different levels of emotions. At first you felt anger, hatred, now you don't hate him or feel angry which means you have come to terms with the break up and are ready to move on.
Stop setting yourself... (read in full...)
Is it ok to share nude and erotic photos with best friend?
Q. Is it ok to share nude and erotic photos with best friend?...
A. 9 October 2020: There is not really a lot to go on in this post.
Are the pictures of yourself, or someone you know?.
Or are the pictures just randoms downloaded from the internet?.
Either way, I would say its a stupid idea. ... (read in full...)
How do I explain to my 6 year old that her daddy and I are through?
Q. Hello: Well, where do I start. I have been with my fiancé for 8 years, we have a 6 year old together. Since we were young I’ve always had problems with him always doing things behind my back, cheating, lying. Well our daughter got diagnosed with L...
A. 7 October 2020: I think you have done the right thing ending your eight year relationship with your partner.
There have been trust issue's from the early part of the relationship with him doing things behind your back, lying, cheating etc.
I think that trust... (read in full...)
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