My girlfriend's ex is trying to get back into her life and I'm not sure how to handle it
Q. I've been dating a woman, Megan, who's been divorced for a long time now, at the time she was already divorced for 4 years and was ready for a relationship. We met in March 2015. Our relationship has been pretty good, and is now in the serious s...
A. 12 May 2021: I don't think that you have to worry about her wanting to get back with him, she is happily divorced from him and i would guess the last thing she would want is to entertain him again.
The main reasons they divorced in the first place he is still... (read in full...)
Is relationship sex better than casual sex? What is the difference?
Q. I have never had casual sex in my life. Am I missing something? I have had relationship sex, which has been very satisfying for me, and just seems to get better. I am asking for everyone to weigh in. Is relationship sex better than cas...
A. 12 May 2021: Obviously the answers that you are going to receive are going to be very varied, and will boil down to personal opinion.
I think that that sex in a relationship, or with someone you love or care for carries with it the weight of a strong emotiona... (read in full...)
Should I try to pressure Jack into going to prom so he won't regret it later or just let him and his friends do their thing?
Q. My youngest son, Jack, is graduating from high school this year. He is refusing to go to prom. Instead, him and a group of friends are just meet up and do their own thing (they are talking about going bowling, than having a pool party at their ...
A. 10 May 2021: I don't think that you should pressure him to go the prom. He has made up his mind that he would like to do something with his friends by way of bowling and a pool party, and i think you should accept that this is what he wants to do.
I'm s... (read in full...)
I don’t want to leave my husband for this guy but it shows me what I’m missing in my life
Q. Hello, I am looking for a bit of advice really. To be honest I’m not even sure what I expect from this. I’m currently in my late twenties and have been married to my husband for basically all of my 20s. When we got together he was fun and outgoing ...
A. 10 May 2021: I think that before you give up you should at last try to salvage your marriage. You are only in your 20's, is your husband significantly older than you are?.
I that communication in the key here, sit down and have a chat together and try to get t... (read in full...)
I loved being the mistress but now that he's told his wife about me, I'm not sure I want him because I don't see him as a life partner
Q. Hi, I am really struggling. It is a heart vs mind battle. My heart loves my boyfriend. My mind is telling me he isn't right for me. We had an affair and now he is saying he loves me and sees a future with me. He has told his wife about our relati...
A. 9 May 2021: This is the downside to starting a new relationship based on mistrust and lies.
You are having trust issues even before you have even got together properly.
The excitement you had, the sneaking around, the thrill's will all be over once you ge... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy for me
Q. My LDR boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 7 months. He always forgets our anniversaries, but I'm used to it. For the past two months, we haven't been able to talk properly.. He says he's too busy with school even if i try to get in contact ...
A. 8 May 2021: You are still very young, so i would not invest to much emotional attachment to this relationship.
At you age now its all about schooling, having fun with your friends, and having casual light hearted relationships.
If your boyfriend is you... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex after 5 years no contact? Is 5 years enough for someone to change?
Q. I have an urge to talk to an ex from 12 years ago. We haven't spoke for 5 years and the last time we spoke I ignored her last msg because she was acting crazy. She was important to me and I want to reconcile but I don't want to msg her for fear...
A. 7 May 2021: Five years is a very long time, and a lot could of happened in this time. As Honeypie pointed out, she could of moved on with someone else by now, infact its a strong possibility that she actually has.
Maybe after 6 months, but people don't ge... (read in full...)
I worry about my b/f cheating but what if I am wrong and throw everything away?
Q. My long distance bf is really sweet. He tells me he loves me, talks almost all the time when not at work or sleeping. He's doting and talks about the future. When we will see each other again. But I feel very insecure after getting out of a long ...
A. 7 May 2021: I agree with Fatherly Advice.
I think its a mistake to enter into new relationships when we are not 100% healed from previous relationships.
Only when we truly healed, happy in our own skin, and have a love for ourselves are we ready to move on... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend mute me while talking to me on a whatsapp call?
Q. Hello everybody. My boyfriend is coming back to Canada after being overseas working. He called me from the airport as he is on his way home today. We had a nice, long chat. And all was great. Except when he put me on MUTE during the call. I was ...
A. 3 May 2021: I think that you are going to have to give him the benefit of the doubt here, as he could very well of done this by accident.
You seem convinced that he muted you on purpose. Has he ever done this before?. Has he given you a reason to distrust... (read in full...)
What would you do if your partner called you an idiot and other names?
Q. What would you do if your long time partner called you an idiot, stupid, or insane or told you to shut the fuck up or fuck off, or go fuck yourself during arguments? And continually hang up on you? Or hang up when you cry or want to speak? Or hit ...
A. 2 May 2021: Has he cheated on you in the past?.
Have you found evidence that he is cheating?.
You don't trust him, if a relationship does not have trust its going to head in a downward spiral anyway.
On top of everything else, i would say its time to wa... (read in full...)
What would you do if your partner called you an idiot and other names?
Q. What would you do if your long time partner called you an idiot, stupid, or insane or told you to shut the fuck up or fuck off, or go fuck yourself during arguments? And continually hang up on you? Or hang up when you cry or want to speak? Or hit ...
A. 1 May 2021: There are just to many red flags here OP, he has no respect for you what so ever, he has a temper and is abusive.
You say he is your long term partner, so you have been together for a considerable amount of time. Has he been like this for all the ... (read in full...)
I was his mistress. Now that he's left his wife for me, I live in fear. How can I stop the anxiety?
Q. My boyfriend left his wife for me. He says he loves me. If so, why do I always feel so anxious, scared and insecure around him? Even though he's divorced and proclaiming his undying love and devotion to me? Do you think I could ever be happy with ...
A. 29 April 2021: I agree with all the other aunts that have answered your post here.
He cheated on his wife to be with you, so the infancy of this relationship started from distrust. So there is a good chance that when he gets bored he could very well start ge... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend cheating on me, or am I crazy?
Q. Is my boyfriend cheating on me, or am I crazy? F (32) I’ve been with my boyfriend about a month now, so it is early days. I do come from a broken home, so I will mention that I have a lot of trust and abandonment issues. I also seem to go for t...
A. 29 April 2021: I think that there are to many red flags here in this relationship, which is rather worrying considering you have only been with him a month.
You call him perfect in every way, but his actions and the way he acts with his room mate say otherwis... (read in full...)
Troubled relationship with ex. I want him to reach out but don't think he will
Q. Been on and off with an ex for a couple years. Broke up simply due to having different needs but still care for each other very much. Thursday night after a movie with his friends, he got angry at me over something I said regarding driving and ...
A. 29 April 2021: OP you have been off and on, off and on and the relationship has never worked out.
I don't know the extent of what actually happened in the car that night, and what was said. I just think what he did was completely unacceptable asking a female t... (read in full...)
My LDR ex wants to get engaged but I am confused
Q. Dear Aunts and uncles, I am confused and don't know if I am making the right decision. I was in an LDR with my boyfriend in since early 2018. We have been best friends since I was 18 and he was 17- he asked me out since I was 23.We were in a ...
A. 27 April 2021: Personally i think i would be inclined to cut your ex loose, the feelings that you had for him dissipated, your attraction for him cooled off. If he moved down to where you live, or vice versa would you all of a sudden gain your attraction back for ... (read in full...)
My partner lacks compassion and understanding about my medical condition
Q. I have a medical condition that causes me quite a lot of pain but my partner lacks understanding of this and compassion. This is definitely something that would cause me to willingly end the relationship. He says I am moaning about pain and is offe...
A. 27 April 2021: Anyone who is truly in love with someone will be accepting of them no matter what.
I think that he is being really selfish and not understanding whatsoever about your medical condition.
I assume that he know that you had a medical conditio... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to get with his wife that is in love with me
Q. A friend of mine, Victoria (not her real name) has admitted over email she is in love with me, and via WhatsApp. It was out of the blue, the email, sent to my personal, well, work address (me at mydomain.com) since I work freelance; hadn'...
A. 26 April 2021: I think you should take a step back from this situation and wait to see if they actually do get divorced. If they do, then the next step would be wait for all the dust to settle and see if you still have feelings for each other after 6 months or ... (read in full...)
Female Nudity Movies
Q. There is too much female nudity on TV. There was a completely naked girl in a movie I watched with my BF last night AND the night before. Why can they show female genitals? Not ok. It was disgusting. Hate it. No male nudity? I was...
A. 26 April 2021: Before the movie comes on it does give you the appropriate boxes informing the watcher of flashing images, violence, strong language, or nudity.
You say you hated it, it was disgusting, no male nudity. Would you be if there was male nudity t... (read in full...)
My guy and I haven’t had sex in a year
Q. My guy and I haven’t had sex in a year. At least since CoVid started. Since then we’ve goI believe I've met the love of my life, but he recently told me that I give bad head and he doesn't enjoy our sex. Can this be saved? through the stress of ...
A. 26 April 2021: Sounds like the spark has gone out of your relationship.
Maybe try so do something romantic together, romantic meal perhaps, and maybe wear something a bit later on that might get him in the mood, maybe some role play as well.
If you find y... (read in full...)
I don't think submissive means you tolerate abuse
Q. Hello! My bf and I are from different cultures and English isn't his first language. He sometimes misunderstands me and then starts arguing. It's not normal arguments but very degrading ones. He calls me stupid, idiot, low mentality he wil...
A. 26 April 2021: I have to ask you, why are you with this person?.
Why have you got to be submissive?. Why would you have to conform to his authority, he is your partner, not your manager at work.
You don't divulge where he is actually from, but his actions ... (read in full...)
I Feel Like Everything Changed In 2012, I Have No Friends
Q. What are you supposed to do when everyone just watches anime, netflix, and talks about food? Every person i meet now days just does these things or talks about their family how am i supposed to find someone to hang out with or do things with? Can...
A. 25 April 2021: Whats the significance of the year 2012 then?.
The thing about life is everything is always changing, evolving, its called impermanence. People come in to our lives, some are there for ever, some come and go, and some come into our lives, m... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got someone else pregnant but I still love him
Q. Dear Cupid My boyfriend and I started dating from last year May I've really fallen for Him and he has too He spent so much on me and made sure I was happy Just last month, he cried confessing to me that he's impregnated someone mistakenly a...
A. 25 April 2021: I'm just going to cut to the chase OP and say your best bet here would be to finish with him, cut contact, delete him on everything and move on.
Why do i say this?. For one he has lied and cheated on you and crossed the trust barrier.
Trust is ... (read in full...)
I think my LDR girl may be lying but what if I'm wrong?
Q. So, I am in a long distance relationship with someone whom I have never meet in real life! We are supposed to meet each for the first time for christmas in december. We video chat and messages everyday, but she has this habit of randomly ...
A. 25 April 2021: I think its slightly worrying that you are having trust issues even before you have met her in person yet.
Trust in one of the most important factors that keep a relationship going, with no trust relationships are more than likely headed for a do... (read in full...)
Is a man capable of abstaining from sex for four months?
Q. Can a man go without sex for FOUR months? Let's say he is away from his wife or girlfriend for FOUR months. Can he abstain or will he be weak and succumb to his little head? Any action is better than no action? Just wandering, are men are capa...
A. 24 April 2021: I think this all boils down to the type of person a everyone is different.
Its about is the relationship healthy, is his love for the person he is with 100%.
If the relationship is without problems and there are no trust issues then i do... (read in full...)
My insecurities about a woman my boyfriend works with are causing big problems
Q. So I want to start by confessing I am an anxious person and unfortunately due to previous experiences struggle to trust. My boyfriend and I are having big problems in our relationship because of my insecurities but I don't know how to stop. The on...
A. 24 April 2021: I think that this a matter of you having to come to terms with your insecurities and start trusting you boyfriend. I think either start trusting him, or walk away from this relationship.
Trust is one of the most important contributing factors ... (read in full...)
My husband who is away does not seem as sexually interested in me. Is it my imagination or are his needs being met without me?
Q. My husband and I are having a major problem right now and it is my hope that the aunts and uncles here could serve as mediators to our ongoing argument. My husband will be reading this if posted. He is in South America for 3 months. We have ...
A. 24 April 2021: I think this all boils down to trust, and trust is one of the most important contributing factors that bind a relationship together, without trust a relationship is more often than not headed for a downward spiral.
I assume he is out in South Af... (read in full...)
What will be the fallout/possible outcomes of my husband divorcing me for another woman?
Q. I've used some affair jargon in this post, and also, names have been changed. OW = other woman AP = affair partner BS = betrayed spouse HW = homewrecker STBXH = soon to be ex-husband WS = wayward spouse If you see these in this post, that ...
A. 24 April 2021: Most people think that the grass is always greener on the other side, and your husband will come to the harsh realisation that this is not the case, and no doubt further down the line he will come to realise this, by which time it will be too late. ... (read in full...)
Husband's ongoing affair with big name woman in our town. I don't know how to handle everything
Q. I've been married for 3 years, then later found out my husband had been for our whole engagement (a 3-year-long one) and marriage sleeping with another woman. But the identity of this other woman is a local news anchor, she's a big name in town...
A. 21 April 2021: Like the other aunts say, you need to take action now, get the ball rolling with the divorce attorney sooner rather than later, and don't mention to him what is going on.
She is a big name in town, a local news anchor, and had sex with him behi... (read in full...)
My husband and mother in law are making fun of me
Q. my husband is making fun of me all the time in front of others; when I said that huts also he is repeating, and my mother in law is also taking it as an advantage and making fun of my skin tone, really hurts as I am susceptible to those things ...
A. 21 April 2021: You don't really elaborate much of what is actually going on in this situation.
Seems a bit like play ground stuff to me, I think you should ever roll with it and let the comments just roll over you, or get out altogether.
I assume you knew ... (read in full...)
My husband admitted to seeking out male friends for me
Q. I've been married to my husband for 8 years; life's been good so far. We met when doing a Christmas promotional thing in the store I worked in at the time. Or so I thought. On Monday my husband admitted to me he'd been online posing a...
A. 19 April 2021: I think he has completely taken leave of his senses. If he is posing as you on dating apps, i fail to see how anything could ever come of it. The guys he is chatting to are think they are chatting to a lady, and would not be on there to meet your ... (read in full...)
How do I come clean about my age?
Q. Hi all. I need an advice. I'm a 41 years old woman. Recently I met a guy. When he approached me I thought he was my at least exact age or maybe 2 or 3 yrs young. When we met I told him that im 37 then he said his 37 too. Then 5 months down the l...
A. 19 April 2021: This is why its so important to start a new relationship based on truth and honesty.
when you start something on a lie then you have got to continue that lie forever more, and this is hard work, energy draining.
My advice would be to star... (read in full...)
Do you think my husband is cheating?
Q. My husband went and got another phone app on his phone. He told me it is to save money. But our current phone plan is only $25 a month. The new one is $20 a month and he went so far as to go through the trouble of switching to an app you can load on ...
A. 19 April 2021: I agree his phone activites are rather suspicious, but we have no real concrete evidence that he is doing anything wrong.
Trust is one of the biggest factors that bind a relationship togther, without trust a relationship will naturally break do... (read in full...)
I feel insecure about not acting like an 'Influencer'
Q. Lots of my peers (I'm in my twenties) wear lots of "Instagram makeup," the on trend style (which is very revealing - think low cut tops, hotpants etc), have social media accounts where they post pictures of themselves in bikinis, show off how big ...
A. 19 April 2021: I think its great that you are not like most of the people succumbing to the pressure of social media, and generally following the crowd making your self up to be something your not.
You are strong enough to be your own person, happy in your own... (read in full...)
I am having a relationship with a woman 1/2 my age. She has sex with other men. I don't mind but my family does
Q. Im a 75 year old man who would like some honest advice...my entire family is upset with me..for over a year now Ive been having a relationship with a 36 year old woman..we spend alot of time together, traveling the world, going to restaurants, ...
A. 18 April 2021: I can quite see where your children are coming from, anyone looking at this relationship from the outside is slightly worrying.
My parents are still happily married in their 70's. But if it was a scenario where my father was dating someone ... (read in full...)
We broke up but still talk and I'm confused
Q. I don’t know what to think anymore. My gf broke up few months ago but we talk daily and still love each other. However due to pandemic it has been hard to move forward. However I have just realised she does talk to me but barely answers. It’s so...
A. 18 April 2021: I think if you all of a sudden stopped sending messages you would never hear from her again.
It would probably be easier all round if she simply did not reply to you, or cut you off. I can't see the point of replying back to you with short on... (read in full...)
Girlfriend shares bed with single guy but swears nothing happened
Q. We were at a single friends home having drinks. I laid down about 2am as my girlfriend carried on a conversation with the single guy,that include admitting she was not that happy.. I was listening. they talked for quite some time. there was a ...
A. 15 April 2021: You say she was intoxicated, which is blind drunk, but she was still able to be having a conversation with this single guy, and able to stress the fact of how unhappy she is. Then made a conscious decision to go and get into bed with him. I think ... (read in full...)
My husband has changed. He's turned into a Christmas freak and watching gay porn
Q. OK, so I'll cut a long story short, but I'm worried over finances. For the past year, my husband's been obsessive over Christmas, spending large amounts on extravagant gifts, and buying large amounts of sweets and crisps and encouraging our kids to ...
A. 14 April 2021: * This is no way to LIVE * sorry for typo. ... (read in full...)
My husband has changed. He's turned into a Christmas freak and watching gay porn
Q. OK, so I'll cut a long story short, but I'm worried over finances. For the past year, my husband's been obsessive over Christmas, spending large amounts on extravagant gifts, and buying large amounts of sweets and crisps and encouraging our kids to ...
A. 14 April 2021: It reminds me of the Christmas song " I wish it could be Christmas every day " While i do love that song at Christmas time in reality it would be a nightmare because it would cost a fortune, and of course there would be nothing to look forward too. ... (read in full...)
We had a falling out I extended an olive branch to my close friend but he didn't respond. Now what?
Q. Ok, folks. I need your advice on this one. Here's the story. I had a friend and we were a part of a larger group of friends and we were all part of a local sports club. He and I were really good pals, in fact I would class him as one of my closes...
A. 14 April 2021: I think that you have done all you can, you have offered an olive branch, and he has chosen not to respond. Maybe he needs more time, maybe he will never respond at all.
revealing all the stuff you did to Mr Gossip was a big mistake, so let this... (read in full...)
I found out on my birthday my husband has been having casual, meaningless sex with another woman!!! How can I ever trust him again?/
Q. Can ANYONE here tell me HOW and WHY A MAN can go behind his wife or girlfriend's back to GET A BLOW JOB or HAVE MEANINGLESS CASUAL SEX here and there and CLAIM to LOVE his wife or girlfriend??? And PRETEND to be committed to his primary ...
A. 14 April 2021: I think that going out and sleeping with someone else just to get back at him is a really bad idea.
At the end of the day you married the wrong man, you married a liar and a cheat.
I agree with honeypie, as many woman as men cheat these days... (read in full...)
Girlfriend shares bed with single guy but swears nothing happened
Q. We were at a single friends home having drinks. I laid down about 2am as my girlfriend carried on a conversation with the single guy,that include admitting she was not that happy.. I was listening. they talked for quite some time. there was a ...
A. 14 April 2021: So you were at a friends having some drinks, and your girlfriend was having a late night conversation with some some single guy, and she admitted to him she was not happy.
Your other friend was asleep on the couch, so your girlfriend went to ... (read in full...)
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