My long distance husband keeps asking for money
Q. My husband and I have been together 4 years. For the most part it's pretty good except for money. He relies on me too much to take care of things financially. I should mention hes been back and forth we don't live together as a married couple ...
A. 14 January 2021: I agree with the other Aunts that have answered here. I was reading your post and the word scam just kept leaping out at me with every line I read.
I would not mind betting that the money that you are sending him is not going towards or paying f... (read in full...)
Should I keep their affair a secret?
Q. My ex-wife had an affair with one of our best friends. It was very physical, and they exchanged a lot of sex talk and intimate photographs of each other which i still have. When i discovered the affair i copied as much as i could as it went alo...
A. 14 January 2021: I can't see how it would benefit you in any way by divulging this secret.
If she was your wife then maybe so, but as she is your ex wife i really don't see the point in saying anything, you would unnecessarily destroy a happy family.
I think... (read in full...)
Does anyone else have experience with anyone with narcissistic rage?
Q. Thank you for any help offered. People are busy so it is appreciated. I have a friend who I have been or now had been friends with for several years. She has been through a bad time of late having lost custody of her daughter due to mental h...
A. 13 January 2021: I think that the worst mistake you made was engaging with her in these debates, giving her ammunition to use against you.
She sounds like a nasty bit of work, i'm surprised you were friends with her to begin with. Its hardly surprising she lost... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's strange actions have made me totally lose interest in him
Q. Okay.... I started dating this guy for a year. He lives at home with his Parents he’s 30 he has a son and he’s going through a divorce. This weekend I went to his house. I saw a lot that I didn’t see before. His mom babies him and he just h...
A. 13 January 2021: I don't think that you are over thinking things, you have witnessed stuff that to be honest are red flags.
Its wonder how he was ever married at all, from your post it is no suprise he is going through a divorce, sounds like his wife ran for the ... (read in full...)
Male compliments female co-worker. Does he feel he can trust her not to take it out of context?
Q. Okay, speaking hypothetically here. You have a male and female who are coworkers. They are friendly but not friends. They don’t hang out outside of work, but they are the ones who turn to each other with work problems and sometimes personal issues. ...
A. 13 January 2021: i'm not sure what kind of answer that you are trying to obtain here, Are you wanted people to say yes he fancy's you, and is attracted to you because he commented on an item of your clothing?. You clearly fancy this guy, and want to know if its ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has too much time on her hands and its driving me crazy
Q. Hi there I wrote before about my girlfriend always wanting to talk on the phone and text. I had a discussion with her and she said she would try not to be so clingy. Unfortunately that didn't go far. Today she said I don't message much a...
A. 11 January 2021: I think you did the right thing, from the limited information that we know about you and your girlfriend, it does not sound like much of a relationship.
She is providing you with statistics on how many times you have called during a certain ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend finally proposed after 15 years and now I'm not sure if I want to marry him
Q. Please could I get some advice on my love life? I'm so torn, basically i've waited years for my boyfriend to propose, in fact i'd more or less given up on the idea and emotionally exited the relationship but now he's suddenly decided he wants...
A. 11 January 2021: I think that the worst thing you, or anyone can do for that matter is stay with someone because your scared of leaving and starting again.
I think this relationship is done, and I think that in your hear of hearts you already know this. By your ... (read in full...)
He proposed I said yes but I don't want to marry him!
Q. My boyfriend of a year proposed. I said yes because his family was right there. I don’t want to marry him and I’m freaking out because I’m not married. He’s just not what I want....I don’t know what to do . He’s also still married to his first wif...
A. 11 January 2021: I feel that all you can be is is brutally honest and tell him you don't want to marry him. Also i don't think that this relationship is for you, your heart is somewhere else, so step up to the plate and finish it.
He is still married, he should n... (read in full...)
I feel like the man who left his wife for me is regretting it. Can anyone tell me what to do?
Q. My married boyfriend left his wife for me. We were having an affair for 8 years prior. He moved in with me in November. But instead of feeling happy about this new beginning like I am, he acts hot and cold. One day he is loving and attentive and the ...
A. 11 January 2021: Most married men never leave their wives, and like the thrills and excitement of having a mistress on the side slipping of to play when ever they can.
He had this excitement for 8 years, so now he has moved in with you the fun is now over and... (read in full...)
Trouble with a friend who borrows money and won't pay it back
Q. Hello So, my friend seems to have money issues. I don't mind helping out sometimes but recently I found out after I borrowed 200.00 a mutual friend also gave 200.00 so I sort of expected mine back. However, she said shes broke and needs it. A...
A. 10 January 2021: I think you are going to have to put this one down to experience and never do this again.
You have helped her, given her money. And she repays you bt acting insulted that you want it back.
You are not her cash machine, she needs to stop sp... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend of 8 years cheating on me again or am I paranoid?
Q. I've been with boyfriend since 2013. We are now both in our 30s. We moved in together pretty quickly. I found out a year into the relationship that he had been lying to and had been chatting to girls online. I told him I was leaving to start my life ...
A. 8 January 2021: He is a pathological liar, he is completely incapable of telling the truth, he is using lies to cover up lies, and is manipulating you leading you to believe that its all your fault.
I'm not going to beat around the bush OP, the bottom line her... (read in full...)
If I had the money I'd just grab my passport and leave my husband
Q. It's hard for me to admit this, because I have worked hard at my marriage, but I'm not happy. And that's an understatement. My husband has serious anger issues that he doesn't want to deal with. I understand why he is like that, I mean, what I w...
A. 7 January 2021: This pandemic is not easy for anyone. But to be in the pandemic, with a stressed verbally abusive partner is very difficult.
I think that you have come to the realisation that this relationship is over.
Now you have got to start thinking a... (read in full...)
My husband wants to share me with a friend
Q. my husband wants to share me (wife) with a male friend but when he ask me how far my friend can go I shyly tell him "touch my leg" then a little more advanced " rub my thighs" of which he says " you really don't want him to go that far do you?" ...
A. 7 January 2021: No good will come of bringing a third party in to your sexual relationship, it will be the cause of nothing but problems.
You start by saying that your husband wants to share you with his male friend. His reply to you when you say that this oth... (read in full...)
Should I Leave or am I to blame?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I had insecurities in the beginning but I worked on them and haven't has issues like that for at least 2 years. He first became extremely angry (name calling and violence) in the beginning and said that I had ...
A. 7 January 2021: He really is the perfect boyfriend most of the time?. So in between the bouts of anger, violence and making you feel like shit he is the perfect guy.
By your own admission he is angry, shouts, name calls, and is violent. These are major red flag... (read in full...)
Why did my ex lie?
Q. My ex fiancé and I were going to get married long story short . He moved and three years later he showed me the paper work with al my info which he said he shredded. He ended the relationship he was military and moved away to another county. He t...
A. 7 January 2021: If you have been with your new partner for a year why are still thinking about why your ex lied.
I don't know what the paper work was, but i assume that is was things like banking details, and other personal information. I assume that you would ha... (read in full...)
Would it be disrespectful to my dads new wife if I had a photo of my Mother and Father together in a photo frame on display in my house?
Q. Hi Dear cupid. The question I would like to ask is: Would it be disrespectful to my dads new wife if I had a photo of my Mother and Father together in a photo frame on display in my house? (when I move) My mother sadly passed away two year...
A. 5 January 2021: I'm sorry for your loss.
With regards to the picture I don't see it being a problem putting a picture of your parents up. It's going to be your house.
Your dads new wife is surely mature enough to realise that they are your parents, and of ... (read in full...)
Was I selfish for breaking up with him or was it for the best?
Q. Hi everyone! So 6 months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years and I’ve been plagued with guilt since. 2 years ago my bf witnessed/went through something extremely traumatic and was diagnosed with PTSD, during the early days of his diagnosi...
A. 5 January 2021: I don't think that you have done anything wrong, and you was in no way selfish, and yes I think it was for the best.
You was there for him in his time of need, when he was at rock bottom. You were there for him helping him through it and not givi... (read in full...)
My LDR girlfriend's moodiness is getting to me
Q. Hi So I have been with a lady about 1 year. We live in different states and due to covid we havent seen one another in along time. I do still keep in contact when I can. I work full time and she is on disability. She finds things to compl...
A. 4 January 2021: Long distance relationships are not easy at the best of time's, even when your getting on and things are good an LDR is still a huge hurdle.
It's clear the there are difficulties in this relationship, and is coming across as rather one sided. ... (read in full...)
Gf of 2.5 years abruptly moved out - unclear whether I should give up or try to work things out
Q. I am at a loss for what to do with this one. I dated a girl who was 7 years younger than me for over 2.5 years and we lived together for about 7 months. Aside from an issue I have with snoring, things seemed to be going well. 9 days before she moved ...
A. 3 January 2021: I'm sorry to say OP that it sounds like this relationship is over, so i see no point in reaching out to her, and yes i think this is something you have to let go.
All seems a bit random to me, getting home from work and all her bags are packed. ... (read in full...)
Should I keep fighting for us and the man I love or simply let go of him?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years back in July, as for the last 2 years I felt extremely neglected. He had all the time in the world for everyone else apart from me, he put everyone’s needs and emotions first before mine. I tired to ...
A. 3 January 2021: I don't see the point in fighting for your ex, as there is simply nothing to fight for.
He does not sound like a very nice person to me, and will pick you up, put you down and say hurtful things to you, is this really someone you want in your lif... (read in full...)
Do I reach out to my ex when I know he's having a hard time?
Q. I recently discovered that my childhood sweetheart is having a pretty hard time due to losing his job and his relationship breaking down due to all the pressure of the pandemic. Now I’m happily engaged to be married next year, but I am worried...
A. 30 December 2020: He is now someone from your past who is currently having a bad time. I know it sounds harsh but I think you should keep the past in the past where it belongs and put your energies in to your current relationship, and your wedding next year.
I fee... (read in full...)
Why do I end up being the side chick
Q. I am 26 years old and I know there is nothing wrong with me ,but for some reason men who are in a relationship always find there away to me . It’s not that I look desperate or something I am no longer doing online dating etc or looking for a ...
A. 30 December 2020: I think that you have just had a run of bad luck with guys.
I know its hard, makes you feel like you want to give up dating all together. But don't be disheartened, yes you have been messed around, been lied too. But you have to be strong, ... (read in full...)
Do I chose between 2 men that don't have all the qualities I want or wait for the whole package?
Q. Okay, so I am knee deep into online dating right now apart from the matrimonial search my parents are on. Until now I have either fallen in love in accidental ways or intensely dated one person at a time. I don't have enough experience to ob...
A. 30 December 2020: All dating is really a leaning curve. I think you would be better trusting your heart feelings.
Don't be influenced by feelings of lust as this is impermanent and does not last forever.
The first guy is someone who fits what you are looking ... (read in full...)
I’m trapped in a love affair!
Q. What to do if you are trapped in a relationship 3 Well I meat a guy online on a dating side went on a date etc Hit it off pretty well I asked him about his past relationship to make sure that he is really single, and how long he has been single ...
A. 29 December 2020: I agree with Honeypie & youcannotbeserious. This guy is absolutely no good and you should ditch him.
The first thing is he has betrayed your trust and lied to you. If you continue with him do you think you could trust him. I would say certainl... (read in full...)
We broke up and now I'm not invited to the wedding where my daughter is to be the bridesmaid
Q. Hi I broke up with my partner in June and moved out as he wouldn’t we are still on speaking terms and get on better now than we did we have 3 children it was my birthday last week and his family didn’t even get me a birthday card I still get on ...
A. 26 December 2020: I think that you are going to have to be accepting of the fact that you are not in his family circle anymore. The fact that the did not get you a birthday card is irrelevant, you are not with their Son any longer so they really don't have to.
... (read in full...)
Why does My Mum’s boyfriend blatantly lie all the time?
Q. My Mum’s new boyfriend talks so much BS I can’t tell if he’s just joking around or being deadly serious about it. Anyone who is familiar with the Inbetweeners, he’s basically Jay but in his early fifties. He reckons he’s done so much in his life or ...
A. 26 December 2020: He seems harmless enough, some people just want to be the center of attention. If you have done something, he sounds like one of those people who has also done that, but better than you did it.
You Mum seems to be happy with him, by your own admi... (read in full...)
Should I feel like a slut?
Q. Should I feel like a slut?? Ok backstory, I (16/F) I met this guy (16/M) that was attractive and I wanted to get to know him. For a good week we would see each other every day and play basketball and exchange glances. At one point it was night and...
A. 26 December 2020: The good thing about life is as we grow and mature we have the benefit of hindsight. We have all done silly things when we were young, but with hindsight we can look back, recognise that we made a mistake, learn from these mistakes and know not to ... (read in full...)
How to rebuild our friendship? She misunderstood concern for being pesky
Q. Hello I am writing to get your help to resurrect my friendship with a work colleague who works for me. Basically we got to know each other since she had some problems at work and I helped her resolve it. She also had some issues with her present...
A. 26 December 2020: She may very well have told you that you caring and considerate, but when you repeatedly called recieving no response, then texting you have now in her eyes violated her privacy and come across as stalkerish.
If i call someone, a friend, colleagu... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend need to talk to this older guy?
Q. My girlfriend talks to this older guy. She is 24 and he is late 40s. When I found out, she said I don’t need to know what i don’t need to worry about - she is very loyal to me. I did not like the fact she spoke to him daily. I became increasingly ...
A. 26 December 2020: So she is talking to a guy considerable older than herself that she met through gaming.
All sounds a bit dodgy to me, as to why a man in his late 40's want to correspond with a 24 year old girl via gaming. They have obviously exchanged details ... (read in full...)
My always broke boyfriend asked for money and when I offered him some he said it wasn't nearly enough
Q. Hello So I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and hes always broke. Always some scenario happening. I have grown tired of it. His most recent request is hes broke can I help him. I offered 80.00 and he declined. He said it's not enoug...
A. 23 December 2020: I don't think that he is miraculously going to change and start being good with money.
You offered him £80, he rudely and ungratefully declined this offer, saying he needs £500. This is a lot of money OP, and this should serve as a major red flag... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves to travel but I don't. How do we get past this?
Q. My boyfriend has a longtime passion for travel. He has flown to many places all over the world before we met. I, on the other hand, don't need to travel to be happy. And I don't share his passion. I am also terrified of flying. He is now planning ...
A. 23 December 2020: Its seems like you are both looking for different things from this relationship.
Your not keen an travelling and he is, yes i agree its going to be a hurdle in your relationship.
I think if you changed what you wanted to suit him and went on ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for her to act like this when she has a partner?
Q. My partner and I are both 40. We’ve been together for about 5 months. She’s a fairly recent divorcee who I was friends with for 10 years before we got together. I adore her, but she flirts with other men and it does my head in. She was abused...
A. 22 December 2020: I think there is a big disparity between some harmless banter and flirting and having no intention of taking things further, to purposely flirting around guys with the intention of being unfaithful.
I think you need to elaborate further as to he... (read in full...)
I'm not interested in having my husband's baby. He won't accept no as an answer
Q. Hello all happy holidays I just got engaged and now my husband to be is talking babies already.I did mention I don't have the desire of becoming pregnant again even for him.Im feeling like he is not trying to hear anything I say he wants to adopt ...
A. 21 December 2020: I think you need to think long and hard as to whether getting married is the right decision, or postpone it to give yourself some more thinking space.
You both want completely different things out of life, he wants more kids and you don't. I... (read in full...)
I feel like I lost a lover even though we never met in person
Q. Hello I've matched with a guy on tinder and asked for his WhatsApp number and we started chatting we both agreed on first getting to know each other better, we have a few things in common both introverted and both the boring type eg.dont have a ...
A. 21 December 2020: I know its not the advice that you want to hear, but this guy was pulling your chain all along.
There were red flags very early on in your correspondence with him that would have made most people walk away at that point.
You asked him questi... (read in full...)
I'm unsure of who is the father due to the doctor's calculations
Q. I had sex with my ex boyfriend in August cut off ties right after. Took time to myself and in October began seeing someone. October 13, I had 4 days of heavy cramping and then a heavy period for couple days. Right after that, the new guy I was ...
A. 20 December 2020: Well done for making a stand and having the strenth to be your abusive drug addict ex.
The math does steer toward your ex being the baby's father which is going to present some difficulties if you don't step up and be honest.
I think if your as... (read in full...)
In this relationship, is talking - and maybe flirting - with other men cheating?
Q. have an ethical dilema......is it cheating if I am in a relationship that is more like a friendship( he sleeps in one room, I sleep in the other, he has no intention to marry me because I won't give him kids, I cook for him and take care of him ...
A. 20 December 2020: This does not sound like much of a relationship to me, more a friendship bordering on being together for convenience.
I think you both need to sit down and have a talk about what your relationship status actually is.
Sounds like to me it wo... (read in full...)
Why am I so fixated on him?
Q. I need help. I am a 35 year old woman who has a ridiculous crush on someone who is totally uninterested in me and I cannot for the life of me stop thinking about him. We met over a year ago and had a bit of friendly banter. A few months later he ...
A. 18 December 2020: You can't stop thinking all the time because you have not met anyone else to take your mind off of him.
I know its hard to meet people at the moment due to the current pandemic situation, but even if you started chatting to someone new with the... (read in full...)
I believe he is a scammer. Your opinion?
Q. Hello and thank you ! A man contacted me on Instagram. We've been chatting a couple of months. Seems nice and sweet but I've been very cautious. We're from different countries, different cultures and an age gap. He says he works but whe...
A. 18 December 2020: Yes a scammer for sure, asking to come over to marry him, asking for rent money, these are all major red flags.
Delete him and move on. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend still in touch with ex her friend with benefits
Q. Hey there. So I have been seeing this girl for 7 months now (in a relationship for 4 months). Around 2 months into seeing her she mentioned she had a Friend with Benefits that she stopped seeing when we started dating. Im completely fine with tha...
A. 14 December 2020: This is someone she has been intimate with, and has a past of a sexual nature.
You were led to believe that contact was cut when you started dating, but you somehow find out that she is still in contact with him. She writes to him, so whether ... (read in full...)
I cringe when my boyfriend touches me
Q. Me and my bf have been together for 7 years. I'd say 3 of those have been really happy. The last four years have been trying due to family problems on my side. It's been very stressful. I ended up having panic attacks and severe anxiety. I went to ...
A. 13 December 2020: You are either attracted to someone or you aren't. It should flow naturally, and not be forced.
You can't make yourself feel attracted to him again. From what you have said in your post some of his actions have been some major red flags.
He d... (read in full...)
Is he just taking it slow?
Q. I met a guy from a dating site a year ago. I am still on the dating site and so is he and he sent a messsge to say that we tried before but I got nasty with him. I told him I could not remember why and I just thought he wasn’t interested in me. He ...
A. 13 December 2020: I can't see that anything will be different a second time around, and a whole year on.
He said you got nasty with him, but you can't remember why?. sounds like a random thing to come out with to me.
The fact he wants to meet straight away ra... (read in full...)
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