Girlfriend shares bed with single guy but swears nothing happened
Q. We were at a single friends home having drinks. I laid down about 2am as my girlfriend carried on a conversation with the single guy,that include admitting she was not that happy.. I was listening. they talked for quite some time. there was a ...
A. 15 April 2021: You say she was intoxicated, which is blind drunk, but she was still able to be having a conversation with this single guy, and able to stress the fact of how unhappy she is. Then made a conscious decision to go and get into bed with him. I think ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend shares bed with single guy but swears nothing happened
Q. We were at a single friends home having drinks. I laid down about 2am as my girlfriend carried on a conversation with the single guy,that include admitting she was not that happy.. I was listening. they talked for quite some time. there was a ...
A. 14 April 2021: So you were at a friends having some drinks, and your girlfriend was having a late night conversation with some some single guy, and she admitted to him she was not happy.
Your other friend was asleep on the couch, so your girlfriend went to ... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with him even though he is cruel
Q. Once upon a time I liked this boy from my primary school when I was 13. I told him how I felt about him on Facebook and his response was that I have problems. But it made me fall in love with him even more. Then one day, he called me an ugly bitch ...
A. 13 April 2021: I think you have got to let this one go. To much time has passed and you really don't know anything about him or his life now.
Accept the fact that he has deleted you, Come on OP, you don't love him.
What should you do?. Accept that he has reje... (read in full...)
Can a relationship that started as an affair have a chance at succeeding in the long run?
Q. I am one of the rare mistresses who gets her married man in the end. He divorced his wife, sold the home, split assets. All the kids are grown and out of the house. And now we are together legitimately. I can walk on the street with him hold...
A. 13 April 2021: A classic case of the grass is always greener on the other side, but when you actually get there you find it's not so green after all.
You are feeling this way because you have entered into a new relationship that is built on lies and mistrust... (read in full...)
My charming boyfriend met a girl he's gotten a little too close too and I'm worried
Q. About a year ago, my bf of 2 years met a girl at a car event he went to. She’s in a relationship and he was in a relationship with me. I would usually come to the same event with him because he usually likes me to experience it too, even though it’s ...
A. 13 April 2021: So he met someone at a car event, which just happens to be a women, and they have hit it off and share a common interest for car's.
I do think that the level of interaction between the pair of them is slightly worrying as the conversa... (read in full...)
Is This Player Just Chasing Me Because I'm Hard To Get?
Q. The guy who likes me is a ladies man and party boy and has slept with loads of girls, so although I think he's hot I am not interested. He has constantly been flattering me for ages to the point his friends make fun of him but Im just not into him ...
A. 12 April 2021: I think that you should pass him by and forget about him.
He is keen on you because he has not yet slept with you yet. You are attractive, your going to med school. So he is enjoying the thrill of the chase with someone that quite frankly is out o... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to Cuckold him, I don't understand why
Q. Hi I am really hoping you ladies and gents can help me! 2 weeks ago my husband asked me to really consider letting him watch another guy have sex with me. This has thrown me hard, I don't understand it. He says he can't explain his reasons behi...
A. 10 April 2021: I think if you give him his freedom to do this, for him to bring all this into reality then its going to be the downfall of your marriage anyway.
He is not going to stop, he is going to keep pushing until he gets a result.
I think you should... (read in full...)
Husband's secret past is worrisome
Q. I've been married to my husband for 3 years now, and found some quite strange pictures of him online by accident; the photos were of him wearing a bikini and leather skirt, and him eating a doughnut. It was a rather old-fashioned website with loa...
A. 10 April 2021: I agree with Honeypie, there is not an awful lot you can do really apart from printing a few off and ask him what these are all about.
It was quite early on in your relationship, so was he partying hard in the beginning of your relation... (read in full...)
I think I am just a replace for my fiance's ex
Q. So me and my fiancé have been together for just under two years, but I’m not convinced he loves me as much as an ex girlfriend he was with for 7 years. Or even at all, I play around scenarios in my head where I wonder if he wishes he could just be ...
A. 10 April 2021: I think its wrong to be in a relationship with someone and be constantly talking about an ex, i think this is a red flag.
If he had a child with her then maybe i could understand keeping up associations with her and her family. But he has not got ... (read in full...)
Lack of care, or being over sensitive?
Q. Trying to cut a long story short. I have had various problems with my Heath since giving birth to my second child 7 months ago. Over the past few weeks I have been suffering with pain down below and this evening it was so bad I couldn’t move from ...
A. 10 April 2021: I don't think that you were being dramatic whatsoever.
He knew it was likely that would have to go to hospital, he know's also there are young children to be looked after. But instead he chose to have a drink, and as a consequence you ended up... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to Cuckold him, I don't understand why
Q. Hi I am really hoping you ladies and gents can help me! 2 weeks ago my husband asked me to really consider letting him watch another guy have sex with me. This has thrown me hard, I don't understand it. He says he can't explain his reasons behi...
A. 8 April 2021: Like Honeypie & youcannotbeserious pointed out, you really do only have to look back over previous posts of bringing a third party into the marriage/relationship and look at the outcome.
I can tell you that the outcome is never good, infact t... (read in full...)
Do I let my teenaged son know I seen him making out with his friend? Do I tell his dad?
Q. I have a son who is 14 year old son, Chris. He broke his leg and is on crutches. He is getting around okay on the crutches but I was worried about leaving him home alone, afraid that he would fall down, especially in the bathroom. Chris asked if...
A. 8 April 2021: Like the other aunts have said, i would not even broach this subject with your son, or mention it to his Dad.
I feel if you mention it it will just be awkward and embarrassing, so some things are just best left alone.
He is 14, curious, and... (read in full...)
I've made my husband feel guilty but he doesn't need to.
Q. This is going to sound like a strange one. About 2 weeks ago I walked in on my husband and his best friend watching one of our home made videos and performing sexual acts on each other. My first reaction was to act angrily, but really I wasn't...
A. 8 April 2021: Your first reaction was to act angrily, well of course it was as this would be the reaction of 99% of the population as well.
I thank that most people would have packed his bags for him and told him to leave.
He has shared something very i... (read in full...)
He left me once and asked for my forgiveness. Can I trust him not to leave me again?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for five years. We became engaged in September of 2020 and then moved in together in December 2020. I was over the moon and life couldn't be better UNTIL he decided, seemingly out of the blue, to move out after ...
A. 7 April 2021: Can you trust this man?.
I would say absolutely not. He bolted on you not even giving you a second thought, not a thought for your feelings, all he was interested in was him, and what he wanted. This is not what someone does when you love someone.... (read in full...)
how we can a couple work if neither likes the other's family?
Q. I have a few issues but they all sort of tie in together. First of all, how we can a couple work if neither likes the other's family? I don't really know exactly what he thinks of my family but I know he has problems with at least a few members. I ...
A. 7 April 2021: I don't think this is about the dislike for each other family's but more about your relationship with him.
You have described every reason why this relationship is not working. So you need to be strong, step up to the plate and tell him it's ove... (read in full...)
The Guy Who Likes Me Abused His Ex Girlfriend, how didn't I spot it?
Q. I'm in complete shock rn, I went through a breakup recently and there's another guy who likes me a lot (he's told me). He's good looking, a few years older, has a reputation for being a player and a few of my other friends know him. He comes off as ...
A. 7 April 2021: Yes these are huge red flags OP, and your totally right to steer well clear.
Its good that you have friends that have told you this information, other wise you might have unsuspectingly entered into a relationship with him and gone through ... (read in full...)
After one date he starts asking about sexy pictures. I like him but the vibe has changed
Q. Happy Easter fellow agony aunts! So, I am in need of some advice of this guy that I have been speaking/ seeing... so here we go! I have been speaking to this guy for pushing on 4 weeks now, we met on “tinder” and if I’m being honest, at first...
A. 6 April 2021: I think that you know in your heart of hearts what this guy is, as all the other Aunts have told you, he is a player.
He made you feel comfortable on that first date being kind pleasant and nice, but this was just to lure you in.
If i honestly... (read in full...)
MY boyfriend's new job leaves no time for us. I'm worried our relationship won't last
Q. Recently my boyfriend got a new job driving lorries and it seems like hes constantly working and i never see him anymore. He works mon to fri has to be up at 4am then works til 5pm but often til 9pm. Weekends hes on call midnight saturda...
A. 6 April 2021: What would you prefer, him working hard earning decent money, or no job at all sitting on the sofa all day playing video games.
He has only just started the job, so obviously trying to make a good impression. These hours won't last forever,... (read in full...)
I want to move on but I know it will forever change the relationship between my ex and I
Q. Hello, I realise that people will think these concerns are crazy, but here I go... I’ve been separated for 2.5 years, I’ve had 2 dates within that time and I really had to build myself up to go on them. Both were fine dates but I always find an ...
A. 5 April 2021: I think that if you want to move on and get to know someone else then you have to got to stop worrying what your ex thinks.
Did he think about your feelings when he got with someone else?, someone he has been with for nearly two years. No, you ... (read in full...)
Is it asking too much for my girlfriend to notice when I make changes in myself?
Q. Am I asking for too much for my gf to notice my hair. I have not been looking after myself, as depressed and lockdown. I went and got major makeover and she has not mentioned it even once. I am so tempted to take pics and send to others and I will ...
A. 5 April 2021: As you say in the end of your post you barely talk, so maybe you have indeed missed the signs.
You know your relationship better than we do here at DC, but i would say a couple that have stopped complimenting each other, and have also stopped ... (read in full...)
What to do in regards to an ex friend and her repeatedly calling my land line phone?
Q. Hi and thank you to everyone who takes the time to respond to my question. A couple of months back I posted on here about a so called " friend' with whom I had a falling out. She sent me a text that she had contacted the school board that I am ...
A. 5 April 2021: She sounds like she has got a problem, and i don't think you should go down the line of tit for tat as tempting as it may be. I think if you do it will be like trying to extinguish a fire using paraffin.
I think your best option would be too get ... (read in full...)
How do we get in touch with women in 2021
Q. Hello all :-) Asking you guys again since you were so helpful to me last time I needed advice and someone to talk to. (See: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-i-leave-a-10-year-relationship-or.html) Basically, I'm trying to return to the ...
A. 5 April 2021: Not sure of what country you are in, but getting out and meeting someone in the conventional way has been rather difficult for the best part of a year now due to COVID restrictions and implementations impeding us from getting out.
For this rea... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend says he wants his future to be with me but he is buying another house with his wife
Q. My married boyfriend is vowing that he no longer wants to stay married to his wife. She does not know this though. He tells me he is working on their marriage for her benefit and to appease her, although it is not what he wants. He is going through ...
A. 5 April 2021: OP this is a classic case of you being the mistress, seeing a married guy who say's he will leave his wife but never will.
I think you words you need to drum into yourself here are HE NEVER WILL leave his wife for you.
We see these situations... (read in full...)
Girlfriend hiding messages
Q. Hey! So my girlfriend have been hiding texts from me. She doesnt mind responding to peoples snaps when Im sitting next to her, but with this one guy, she is waiting until I stand to go do something. I confronted her and she said that she hadnt sp...
A. 5 April 2021: Trust in one of the most important contributing factors that bind a relationship together. If there is no trust in a relationship than in all honesty it does not stand a chance.
The fact that you are on here asking the question is a strong c... (read in full...)
I fear my husband will cheat on my while overseas
Q. My husband of 10 years is currently residing in Spain because of his work. His tenure is 4 months and he is returning in May. I have been suffering extreme anxiety worrying if he is having his sexual needs met there without me. 4 months is a long t...
A. 29 March 2021: I think that when he cheated on you early on in the marriage, you say you worked through it, which he was probably very happy about because most people would have given him his marching orders. The working through it was of a benefit to him, but I ... (read in full...)
I want to become a nurse but my husband isn't supportive
Q. I think my relationship is dying but I don’t know how to save it. My partner and I have been having relationship issues for almost 18 months and it’s not helping my mental health as I have PND (being in a pandemic with several lockdowns also h...
A. 29 March 2021: It sounds like from what you say that this relationship has run its course, and has been like this for some time.
I'm not going to delve in to who is right and who is wrong, but I think you need to be accepting of the fact that it's over and does... (read in full...)
My girlfriend refuses to get treatment for mental illness and her behaviour and attitude is really getting to me
Q. Hi and thanks My gf and I have been together over a year. She is very moody which is getting to me. She will be sweet and loving, then aloof and rude. She does suffer from mental illness and chooses not to be treated. I try ot encourage...
A. 29 March 2021: You have advised her to seek help, and she is choosing not to.
You can offer support, you can offer advice, but at the end of the day the only person that help her get over that first step is her.
Now her unwillingness to seek help is now... (read in full...)
My husband wants a professional sexologist watch us have sex s that she could give us pointers on how to improve our sex life!
Q. My husband wants to bring a third party into our relationship, but no, this isn't what you think. It's not about a threesome; he wants to bring a professional sexologist to watch us having sex and give pointers on how to improve our sex life, he...
A. 29 March 2021: I can't actually say I have ever heard of anything like this before so this is a new one for me.
I think that a couples sex life is something that you work on together as a couple, experimenting, trying new positions, exploring each other li... (read in full...)
My partner has a problem with me keeping a single, small picture of my late husband in my apartment
Q. Dear cupid and everyone, i just wanna ask something. Is it really that bad to honor your late husband with just one Single little picture of him in your own apartment just for a respect? Beside you and your new Partner are not living in your a...
A. 29 March 2021: I don't think there is anything wring with this, and he needs to get over this and stop being so narrow minded.
The small picture of your late husband is in an apartment that neither of you even reside at, but you only go there a couple of times... (read in full...)
Why does my husband look at other women?
Q. when I was on holiday with my husband last year I noticed him looking over at a table where two couples were sitting having a meal. it was our last night on holiday and he said he was looking at the food one of the women were having as she was ...
A. 28 March 2021: Its not ideal, and it is wrong the way he is looking at women, especially in front of you.
I think communication is key here, you need to sit down and have a chat and tell him how uncomfortable it makes you feel the way he looks at other woman.
... (read in full...)
How often does the average married couple have sex?
Q. This is a pretty simple question I guess. How often does the average married couple have sex? ...
A. 26 March 2021: Its a pretty impossible question to answer, there are many factors to consider to get even close to obtaining an answer, such as age, health, feelings towards one another, chemistry etc.
A young couple been married five minutes might be at it li... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with my stepbrother's baby. How do we tell our parents?
Q. Dear cupid, I am in desperate need of some advice. My boyfriend and I are pregnant. Now here's the problem. My boyfriend is my step brother. Even worse we live directly above our parents. Its a separate apartment. Now we've had feelings...
A. 26 March 2021: You are both of an age now where you are not youngsters anymore, and your parents are more advanced in years also.
I think honesty is the best policy, and the best thing that you can do is tell them you are pregnant, and I would do this sooner r... (read in full...)
Will men in general settle for having average, lacklustre or even bad sex over NO sex at all?
Q. I know this is a generalization. But would you say it is reasonable to assume that many or most or at least some men would take average, mediocre or even bad sex over having no sex at all? For example, if they are on a business trip or away from ...
A. 25 March 2021: Your asking would a guy in a committed relationship, if they were away on a business trip, away from their wives, girlfriends, would they have a fling with someone else just to get any sex at all?.
You could come up with all sorts of relation... (read in full...)
I'm hopelessly in love with my teacher
Q. I have a slight problem...I really like my teacher! I know there are lots of these questions about but I really need an answer! Well ever since I've known him I've had feelings for him. It started off just a small crush but over the past three y...
A. 25 March 2021: I think its good that you are mature enough to understand that nothing will ever happen between the two of you, and that you don't want to risk him losing his job or his family.
If you told him these are the sorts of scenarios that could possibly... (read in full...)
Girlfriend texting guy she never mentioned before
Q. Hey there. So my girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months now, and I need some advise. She is texting some guy on a regular basis (I see the snaps coming in on her phone when we're together sometimes), and that in it self doesn't bother m...
A. 25 March 2021: This was not just the odd text, but frequent texting on a regular basis.
I think for me the fact that she is texting an old FWB she was seeing before she met you is a huge red flag.
She never divulged this information until asked, and then ... (read in full...)
I'm unsure what to do about a female stalking me. The cops won't do anything!
Q. I'm a delivery driver, and been doing the job for 14 years now, got it at the end of the last recession, but it's a stable job. I've got a problem which is causing me a lot of stress; a female nurse is stalking me, and the cops won't do a thing...
A. 23 March 2021: Well technically she has not done anything wrong apart from flirting with you in the car park, and sending you some nice gifts.
Sure there are lot of guys who would not mind being in your position, a nurse, still in her scrubs flirting with you... (read in full...)
Casual Nudity with Mother In Law
Q. This past summer, my wife, kids, and I went on vacation with my in-laws. We shared a lovely condo on the beach. Since we were at the beach, I went shirtless most of the time and typically just wore my swim shorts or athletic shorts with no underwear ...
A. 23 March 2021: I think if i was at that condo and i was going to get a drink of water knowing that a female family member was still up, it would just be an instant reaction to put on a robe, or a pair of pants or boxer shorts at the very least.
I think you enjo... (read in full...)
My uncle stepped in after my father passed away. Would it be appropriate to ask him to walk me down the aisle when I marry?
Q. When I was 10 years old, my father passed away. My uncle (my dad's brother) stepped up to the plate and helped my mom, my brother and I out. My uncle was single with no kids of his own and he always spent time with my brother and I, even before my ...
A. 23 March 2021: I think that is a lovely thing to do, and totally appropriate.
I bet you uncle would be absolutely made up that he will be walking you down the aisle.
So go ahead and ask him, and good luck. ... (read in full...)
Did the tarot reader tap into a spirit?
Q. Hi all, a bit of a strange question but I have my own tarot cards and split with my boyfriend a few weeks ago, I've taken to asking the cards the present and future and I keep picking negative cards. So I asked a friend what she thought of Tarot...
A. 23 March 2021: I think you are going to have to take this with a pinch of salt.
I'm sure that there some genuine mediums out there that do indeed communicate with the spirit world. Unfortunately lurking amongst all the genuine one's are a lot of fakes that cla... (read in full...)
Girlfriend texting guy she never mentioned before
Q. Hey there. So my girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months now, and I need some advise. She is texting some guy on a regular basis (I see the snaps coming in on her phone when we're together sometimes), and that in it self doesn't bother m...
A. 23 March 2021: You have not asked her, so it could very well be one of her other guy friends, in which case is all good.
Communication is key here, just ask her who that is she keeps texting and see what her response is, thats all you can do really. ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure whether to end this relationship or keep dating or what!
Q. For over a year, I have been "dating" a woman who I met at a folk dancing club, the only time I have met anyone in open play, although that was the goal of attending Her life has been a ripping yarn, indeed she has written 3 unpublished nove...
A. 22 March 2021: Wow op, you really do know a lot about her life. Is this what she has divulged to you since you have known her. Or has she just done an unpublished autobiography that you have just finished reading.
I don't know her, but I would not necessar... (read in full...)
Should I just bite the bullet and invite an old friend out for coffee and see how it goes?
Q. Hi, I'm in my mid forties and have had a crush on a childhood boy/ man now, for years. We've never had a full conversation before besides saying "hi". From what I've observed, he seemed to be the quiet type when it comes to girls/ ladies. Our ...
A. 21 March 2021: She probably never knew that you had a crush on her son, neither was she playing match maker. You are a close friend of the family as she was more than likely just being polite.
I would not really read to much into him friend requesting you on f... (read in full...)
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