My boyfriend dotes on me so why am I so paranoid?
Q. I’m so paranoid about my boyfriend leaving me that I’ve been waiting on him hand and foot and being overly sexual with him. Before you all start calling him a pig who treats me like shit, he’s not. He’s the sweetest, kindest, most caring man ...
A. 5 July 2021: There is only one way you are going to change things and its all starts with yourself.
You need to start valuing your self worth, start loving yourself more.
You have been together for 3 years, and in all this time he has never given you a reas... (read in full...)
What would cause someone to act like this?
Q. Hello, I have a confusing problem with a guy at work. I think he greatly dislikes me, although I have no idea why. This guy, was recently hired about 2 months ago. I was friendly to him like I am to everyone, but he avoids me every chance he...
A. 2 July 2021: There is no way of knowing why he is acting like this, and from now on in i don't think it should be a concerning factor for you.
Its a place of work, you are there to do a job, as is he also. If he chooses to ignor you then that's down to him. ... (read in full...)
He acts like a boyfriend but will not commit
Q. I've got myself into a situation and think I need to walk away but it hurts too much. I've fallen in love with this guy. Id class him as a mate. He's picked me up when I've been at rock bottom and we message all day every day. We were supposed to...
A. 30 June 2021: I think that the feelings that you have for him are stronger than the feelings he has for you.
You stopped having sex because you declared your feelings for him, this say's it all really.
I think if he met someone else the visits to you wo... (read in full...)
I don't trust my boyfriends actions on the cell phone
Q. Hi and thank you!! Little background. I have been dating for about 2 years. At times it's been a roller coaster. My boyfriend has been caught on hook up sites, ( he denies it's his, apparently it's his friends) of course I don't buy it. ...
A. 30 June 2021: He has given you reason to distrust him as you have caught him out being on hook up sites.
Trust is one of the most important contributing factors that bind a relationship together, without trust a relationship will head for a downward spiral. ... (read in full...)
Loves to Fly Solo Doesn't Want Partnered Play
Q. Hi. My wife and I have been together for over 37 years. We have a contentious relationship, but used to have a great sex life. In the last 10 years it has been decreasing steadily to a frequency of once per month if I lobby hard. She typically says ...
A. 25 June 2021: When you ask her if she took care of business while you were away, assuming you mean in a sexual way, and she tells you never, how do you come to the conclusion that she masturbates with a toy nightly, 5 times a week?.
Surely you can't tell thi... (read in full...)
Should I act on my feelings for my friend or continue dating the new girl and see what happens?
Q. I’ve got myself into a sticky situation and I don’t know what to do - please help! I have this female friend I have known since we were kids. I’ve always had a slight thing for her. She’s stunning, a genuinely nice person and an all around good ...
A. 23 June 2021: I think in your heart of hearts you know what the correct thing to do would be.
I think you should finish things with the woman that is 6 years younger than you. Your feelings for your friend supersede the feelings you have for her, and the long... (read in full...)
I got drunk and woke up naked in bed with my flatmate
Q. Last night I was drinking with my flatmates and they gave me beer - me: female 31 and them: males 38 and 39 and I just went through a breakup. So I woke up this morning in my flatmates bed naked. I don't find him attractive at all. Infact I was ...
A. 23 June 2021: Just treat this experience as a learning curve, and know for next time not to do this again.
If you have a beer with them again, don't drink so much that you can't remember what you did. I don't know how well you know them, or how long you have... (read in full...)
My wife is having an affair with my father
Q. I have been married to my wife Lisa for 14 years, we met in April 2005 when I was 24 years old and she was 23 and began dating 6 weeks later. We have a 6-year-old son, Simon (not his real name). I recently found out my wife has been cheating on...
A. 23 June 2021: You have heard a lot about this from your wife and her perspective on things, and what she is going to do. But from your post you have not heard anything about this from your Dad, or indeed if its even true.
It would be a foolish move on your Fat... (read in full...)
I am 15 years younger than my partner. Am I still not young enough for him?
Q. I am 53 and my partner is 68. He looks at younger women. I realize I too, am a younger woman to him but it does bother me. As good as I look for my age (I have been told I look at least 10 years younger), it still doesn't stop him. Today wh...
A. 23 June 2021: I think that maybe you are letting your insecurities get the better of you.
You have not provided examples of previous experiences of him giving you reasons for you to distrust him, or constantly oggling women in a lusting fashion.
He walk... (read in full...)
Did he give me a fake number on purpose ?
Q. So I was talking with this guy on the elevator he already knows me we live in the same building too. First I asked him if he has a PS4 he said he didn't so I asked if I can get his number he said yeah. So I made him write it since I left my phone at ...
A. 23 June 2021: I think it would be a bit daft of him to give you a fake number as you both live in the same place, and he knows he is going to be frequently seeing you.
Being that you both live close to each other you are going to be bumping into him again fo... (read in full...)
Is it normal to suddenly develop attraction to someone out of the blue like this?
Q. I've had a friend who I've known for a long time (10+ years) but recently I've started to feel sexually aroused whenever we talk. It could be about any mundane topic, but every time she speaks I just feel my heart beating a little faster. My min...
A. 22 June 2021: I think this has a lot to do with age and maturity, and how our thoughts and feelings change as we grow older.
When you first met her you would have been in the age bracket of 12-15. At this age you would not have been having these feelings... (read in full...)
I am really in love with my male teacher. should I date him?
Q. i am really in love with my male teacher. should i date him?...
A. 18 June 2021: You teacher could get into an awful lot of trouble, and even be the end of his teaching career if he was found to be dating you.
You don't love you teacher, this is a crush that you think is love. Crushes don't last forever. Just let this fiz... (read in full...)
Can't stop thinking about my assistant after love confession
Q. I can’t stop thinking about my assistant at work after he told me he loved me. The problem is though I’m a married woman. I work in the offices for a manufacturing company and basically deal with all the admin work. I’ve been there for 14 yea...
A. 18 June 2021: You are happily married to your husband who is a wonderful man.
Don't throw it all away on a silly short lived crush that will fade away over time.
I don't think that you should have apologised for what you said, you needed to nip it in the bu... (read in full...)
Why does my friend act this way? Is she trying to make me jealous?
Q. When you’re day-drinking with a friend and she gazes over at you and asks “why did you have a crush on ____ instead of me?” looking like she’s going to cry (when you in fact have been madly in love with this friend for years and there’s no way they ...
A. 14 June 2021: Why don't you have a conversation with her when there is no alcohol involved.
You obviously really like her, and she asked you why did you have a crush on such and such instead of her?.
I know its fun, and yes we all like a drink for time t... (read in full...)
I'm shocked at how blinded I was by online man I gave money to
Q. Hi and thank you!! So I'm dating a man who unfortunately is consumed with money ots money this, money that. Huge turn off to me. Sure we all need it but it doesn't consume me. Seems hes always broke always needing something. I need groce...
A. 14 June 2021: There are so many cases like this in life in general, and here on DC.
I know it's not probably the words you want to hear, but i feel you are being scammed.
You are sending a grown man money?. You are sending money and all you get back from hi... (read in full...)
I am furious at my boyfriend's female friend!
Q. So I have been with my partner 3 years now. Over that time he has had a friend of the opposite sex. That he had known for years but not seen in person in a long time, think social like 3x in the time he has known her, long before he met me. My gut f...
A. 14 June 2021: I think that you should just both put this down to a learing curve now and move on.
He did the right thing by showing you the correspondence between them both, so fair play to him for that.
I would advise not contacting her, as Honeypie pointed... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still communicating with the women he cheated on me with
Q. Hello and thanks So my bf and I have been together about 3 years. In the beginning he was cheating and I found out and he apologized and I had to regain my trust in him. Unfortunately he was an Instagram account and hes got the woman he cheated...
A. 14 June 2021: Leopards don't normally change their spots OP. You are right to feel the way you are feeling.
He cheated on you, he betrayed you, and you forgave him. Although you think you have got over it, you really haven't. Because he has cheated in the past... (read in full...)
My husband can't get his ex out of our lives and wants me to play matchmaker
Q. I've been married to my husband for 7 years now, met him in March 2014 when he was 36. No kids, we live an OK existence, not mega-rich but not in major financial struggles even with covid. A bit wealtheir than middle-class, but not living in a ...
A. 14 June 2021: I think it would be totally wrong to keep him in your life and play matchmaker for him.
Would you play matchmaker if it was a woman which was the ex?. I think not, as a female ex still in your lives would be wrong, so really it should not be diffe... (read in full...)
He seemed like a nice guy we met and he's acting strangely and I'm scared
Q. I met a guy online and we communicated for 6 months. I just got out of a relationship and the guy seemed perfect for me. We had all the same hobbies and interests and we started to really like each other. He's 29 and I'm 33. He was so kind and nice ...
A. 8 June 2021: All the niceness in the beginning was just a smokescreen, he was hiding behind a mask. He lured you in by being nice, a false sense of security, then once he had you his true colours came out.
OP there are way to many red flags here with this guy... (read in full...)
I am very angry at my boyfriend for staring at some random woman's ass!! I am having a hard time getting over this
Q. I am so ANGRY right now! My boyfriend and I have issues with trust. We went for our first couple's counselling appointment today. While in the waiting room, this blonde woman came out to get a drink of water at the cooler. I think she was one of the ...
A. 29 May 2021: I think you are still carrying insecurities because he cheated in a previous relationship.
I don't think you entirely trust him as its always in the back of your mind, if he cheated in a previous relationship, is he capable of doing it in this one... (read in full...)
Does aomeone have any suggestions as to how to help my sister?
Q. Does aomeone have any suggestions as to how to help my sister? I would appreciate it. My sister is in the process of divorce from her husband because she found out he sheeted on her for about 10 years with many differentt women They been ...
A. 29 May 2021: Its a good thing that she is away from the marriage and living with you while things get sorted.
All you can do is be there for her and advise her and be her support when she is feeling down.
It's not ideal sleeping with random people off of a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is very clingy
Q. My new bf is really clingy. I'm 33 and he's 29 and I adore him but he is always needing to be touching me somehow, or hugging or kissing and k find it really overwhelming. I tell him and he gets upset or offended as if I don't like him when I say ...
A. 26 May 2021: You have expressed how you feel by trying to communicate with him, you have said you would like a little bit of space but it seems to fall on deaf ears.
his insecurities are what are making him offended, upset, and being needy.
I feel you ha... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't come over unless sex is a part of the night
Q. i have been with my boyfriend whos 42 for a few years now but he wont come over to take me out unless sex is involved. i just want to go out for a walk together but he wont come over unless i stay somewhere with him the night. i feel like this is ...
A. 24 May 2021: Has he been only wanting you for sex for the whole time you have been together?.
If you feel like this is all he wants and other areas of your relationship are not progressing then i do wonder why you keep him around.
If he went for a walk ... (read in full...)
My sweet boyfriend has turned into a really unpleasant man
Q. Hello thanks for your comments and advice in advance! So me and my bf have been together 3 years. At the beginning he was so sweet, caring, loving and thoughtful. This last year has been like a nightmare. Thankfully I didn't accept his propo...
A. 24 May 2021: He has turned into a very unpleasant person, and by the sounds of things not someone that you want in your life.
The right time to have walked away would have been when he was unfaithful. Because he comes back with his tail between his legs and... (read in full...)
Is his behavior normal? Or suspicious?
Q. Pretty much looking for opinions please. Would you think someone would go to the pub (till 1am), go home on their own and stay awake for a further 4 hours? This is after consuming a lot of vodka and have work at 9am. For a bit of backgrou...
A. 24 May 2021: I have to wonder why you are still with him to be honest, there seem to be a lot of red flags surrounding this guy.
He must still be under the influence of alcohol when he gets up for work at 9. I do hope that he does not drive a car to work.
... (read in full...)
He's the one who has cheated yet he doesn't trust me
Q. Hello, dear cupid, I want to know something about my boyfriend's behaviour. I've been dating him since the past five years it's a long distance relationship,we met in a youth conference, he asked my number and after that we started chatting and ...
A. 24 May 2021: OP, you should of ditched this guy after the 5th time he cheated on you, this was your time to step up to the plate and get rid.
He is cheating on you left right and center, and is covering this up and calling you a cheater, and all the other ho... (read in full...)
Wife cant stop teasing me
Q. Six months ago my wife started commenting about some 'well hung' guys at her gym she goes to 3 - 4x a week. I wasn't worried about it and since she seemed to be always horny when she came home which lead to great sex, I haven't said anything. ...
A. 24 May 2021: Why is it ok for her to come home and mention well hung guys at the gym?. then by doing so giving you a complex and then going out to get a penis pump.
Its no different to you going to the gym, or where ever and saying there were these woman tr... (read in full...)
Wife won't wear sexy lingerie for me yet I found a whole drawer full of it. She won't explain
Q. My Wife and I have been married for 32 years now. I have always wanted her to buy and ware super sexy sheer thong lingerie and G-string. But she always refused and said that she would never buy such things let alone ware them. Occasionally I would ...
A. 20 May 2021: Being unfaithful and cheating on your partner is not something to be accepted as normal human behaviour, far from it.
Just because people have cheated on you in the past does not mean that subsequent relationships are going to be the same.
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Boyfriend doesn't want me to get a dog. Is this petty? Or controlling?
Q. Hi guys and gals So for the past 5 years I have been in a relationship with a man who has massive anxiety issues, ocd , depression and has control issues to which be has admitted. Before I start I should mention, we are not engaged , we do ...
A. 19 May 2021: I'm sorry to say OP but this relationship does not sound very healthy at all.
I know he has had his problems, to which he has admitted to you. But in all honesty OP, five years into this relationship and you only see him for 4 hours on a Friday. ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend right? Am I a jerk?
Q. I have had an on and off relationship with my girlfriend for the past 3 years almost. We have been living together for 2 years and she does a lot around the house and is helpful. The problem is that she can be very moody and quick to anger over sma...
A. 19 May 2021: I think it was a thoughtful gesture of you, but if she was literally working outside in the garden why did you send a text. If i'm doing gardening work like weeding or mowing the lawn i would leave my phone inside as well, or on the garden table.
... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend cheated on me - Why does it turn me on?
Q. I found out my girlfriend cheated on me last week. I should be angry and upset with her. Heartbroken even. But I’m not. In fact the thought of it turns me on to the point where I wish I could’ve watched them do it. It happened about 6 weeks ag...
A. 19 May 2021: I think this is a coping mechanism, and this is not going to last forever. when you are tired of reliving this fantasy of her being unfaithful you will be left with then the reality of what she has really done, and is really capable of.
She o... (read in full...)
Is the issue myself or does the world just think I'm not worth it?
Q. Hey, 23 soon to be 24 in about 3 weeks, lady wondering why on this moss and water covered rock why no males my age seem interested in me. From looking online, to putting myself on dating sites and just existing sometimes offline, no one seems to ...
A. 18 May 2021: Apart from stating the obvious, as WiseOwlE pointed out we have been in a pandemic for the past year now, so from a dating/relationship point of view the last year can be written off.
I think that you really need to stop feeling sorry for your... (read in full...)
Why Is This Couple Rude To Me Every Time I See Them?
Q. I live in a small town where everyone bumps into each other often. Twice recently, a random miserable couple I do not know has been extremely rude about me loudly for no reason as I have been minding my own business! About a month ago, I was walki...
A. 17 May 2021: I would just stop worrying about what they think and get on with you life.
The more they are your point of focus, the more you keep dwelling on them and what they think of you the more power you give the situation, and they will be constant... (read in full...)
Advice on how to deal with people with different communication style.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've struggled for a long time with people who have a different communication style. Just to help you understand my own communication style, I often respond to messages, and try and do it quickly so as not to inconvenience others, I feel ...
A. 16 May 2021: OP if you leave a post here on DC asking for advice you are going to have to be accepting of the fact that you are going to get varied answers some of which you agree with and some you don't.
All the Aunts on this site are answering question... (read in full...)
Advice on how to deal with people with different communication style.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've struggled for a long time with people who have a different communication style. Just to help you understand my own communication style, I often respond to messages, and try and do it quickly so as not to inconvenience others, I feel ...
A. 16 May 2021: I think that everyone is different, no one is the same and it would be a strange world if we was.
While i'm sure we would all like to respond to correspondence quickly and right after we received it sometimes this is not always possible. Whether ... (read in full...)
He's broken up with me 5 times in 2 years. Should I continue to see him?
Q. Hi I need some advice about a relationship I am a widow, my husband died 8 years ago and two years ago I met a lovely man and fell in love. But he has finished our relationship 5 times so far and caused me a lot of heartache. The last time it ...
A. 14 May 2021: If you had of said he finished with you once then came back with his tail between his legs then i would have said give him the benefit of the doubt.
To finish with you five times leaving you in turmoil and heartache my advice would be to not let ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to talk to an ex while dating other girls
Q. Hello, I have a question about whether it's okay to talk to an ex while dating other girls (but not boyfriend and girlfriend). Here is the story: I had just recently broken up with my ex whom I had been dating for a few years. We broke up due to ...
A. 14 May 2021: I think that the beginnings of any relationship will not work if either one of you was still in contact with an ex and sending them i love you's.
For what ever reason the girl at work wants to refrain from becoming boyfriend and girlfrie... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my cheating husband and divorce?
Q. I've been married for 18 years now, and our anniversary is coming up on November 7th this year. I found out a big revelation from my husband last night; he'd been using prostitutes in the run-up to our wedding and actually slept with one particu...
A. 13 May 2021: I'm just trying to get my head around how your husband actually slept with her at your actual wedding while you were having your pictures taken with your bridesmaids?.
Was she a guest at your wedding or something?. Or was she lurking around i... (read in full...)
How do you cope with the feelings of not letting go?
Q. How do you cope with the feelings of not letting go? My ex and I broke up almost 3 1/2 years ago. However, we were together 6 years. I've had ups and downs over these 3.5 years. I never felt like I had closure from the relationship end. (He did the ...
A. 13 May 2021: I think that after a break up we should never move onto another relationship until the past is completely behind us, and we are at one with ourselves.
I think that starting a new relationship with someone else while your still hanging on to a pas... (read in full...)
Should I leave my Indian husband for my Black lover
Q. I am a twenty five year old married Indian woman with no children. About two years ago I met Bryan (not his real name) a married Blackman at his sister's birthday party. My husband was away for the weekend. I could see that Bryan was attracted to...
A. 12 May 2021: While affairs all may all seem fun and exciting in the beginning no good will ever come of them, people will get hurt, and the end result is bleak.
Have a scroll through previous posts on here at DC regarding cheating, affairs, mistress's etc, and... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's ex is trying to get back into her life and I'm not sure how to handle it
Q. I've been dating a woman, Megan, who's been divorced for a long time now, at the time she was already divorced for 4 years and was ready for a relationship. We met in March 2015. Our relationship has been pretty good, and is now in the serious s...
A. 12 May 2021: I don't think that you have to worry about her wanting to get back with him, she is happily divorced from him and i would guess the last thing she would want is to entertain him again.
The main reasons they divorced in the first place he is still... (read in full...)
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