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I lied about my age to this 27 year old guy whom I've been seeing. Said I was 20, when I'm actually 18. Now what?
Q. im 18 and im seeing a 27 yr. old, i lied to him about my age and said i was 20, but were really starting to click and hes going to ask me to be his girlfriend soon because hes REALLY into me. I want to tell him before we get any more serious because ...
A. 5 December 2012: :) Glad to hear he wasn't too upset about your age, and now you can have an honest relationship with one another. ... (read in full...)
He says he's given me 3 chances. Says he will not talk to me any more if I don't allow more than kisses and touching next time.What do I say to him?
Q. I like this guy ever since I was little , we grew up together and Finally one day we started texting dirty and he wants me to do stuff to him and I want to but I'm still a virgin and don't know if I could please him and I don't know how to do a ...
A. 29 December 2011: And NO sex before you are legal. The laws are there for a reason, because the law doesn't think you are mentally developed enough to understand the consequences of sex, nor is your brain developed enough to comprehend to full extent what is ... (read in full...)
He says he's given me 3 chances. Says he will not talk to me any more if I don't allow more than kisses and touching next time.What do I say to him?
Q. I like this guy ever since I was little , we grew up together and Finally one day we started texting dirty and he wants me to do stuff to him and I want to but I'm still a virgin and don't know if I could please him and I don't know how to do a ...
A. 29 December 2011: Separate yourself from this bully. You are under age. You are not allowed by law to have sex, and when he pressures you he is pressuring you into doing something illegal. This act alone is enough for you to tell your parents what he is doing, and ... (read in full...)
Never had an orgasm
Q. Hello, out there. I am a 26 year old female. I have never had an orgasm, either clitorally, or vaginally. I have tried on my own for years, and with my husband, but I just can't do it. Has anyone else had this problem, and does anyone have any ...
A. 18 November 2011: You said you don't put pressure on you coming "every time" so the question now is: do you ever orgasm at all? Are there some orgasms here and there (if so accept it for what it is, we don't all come by pushing some buttons, some times it just ain't ... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 17 November 2011: I think it's amazing you can orgasm by using your hands. That doesn't work for me. I even have a hard time with the vibrator, took me weeks to learn how to work it with my one vibrator. I've tried others since, but still haven't learned how to use ... (read in full...)
B/f will not perform oral sex on me but he did for his ex!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 yrs WILL NOT perform oral sex on me. He use to do it to his past girlfriends, especially this one girl who he had been going back and forth with for like 6 years. He even had an old poem on a blog site about how he wished he could...
A. 17 November 2011: Don't feel insecure about it. So what if you have a strong odor and that really is the reason for why he doesn't go down on you. That's you. Thats facts. Thats how it is. Being insecure about it wont make it smell any different, or make the sex any ... (read in full...)
Can sperm pass through fabric?
Q. hi. my boyfriend and i were making out so things got a bit heated which left us with just our underwear on, him withthin cotton underwear on and me with very thin underwear on and thin silky tights. Can sperm pass through all these? ...
A. 17 November 2011: Do you have any books at the library about sperm and sex? If so read them, because knowledge will make you feel more safe. But yes, I am sure. Sperm does not travel through fabric, especially not two sets. When sperm dries it also dies. Fabric will ... (read in full...)
Is it weird going off to university as a virgin?
Q. This is going to seem like a bit of an overreaction probably...and it's probably a silly question. I guess I'm feeling a little insecure about being a virgin. I'm only 17 and in my last year of school, but it's starting to look like I'll be hea...
A. 17 November 2011: Last time I checked sexual experience was NOT one of the things needed to enroll in university. Good grades however are very much needed.
You are mixing two completely different things here. Your educational level has absolutely nothing to do wi... (read in full...)
Can sperm pass through fabric?
Q. hi. my boyfriend and i were making out so things got a bit heated which left us with just our underwear on, him withthin cotton underwear on and me with very thin underwear on and thin silky tights. Can sperm pass through all these? ...
A. 17 November 2011: No. Sperm does not pass through underwear. Sperm dies within minutes when outside of the human body as well. ... (read in full...)
Why do cocky, unattainable guys go for me..the weird, purple-haired, fire-spinning girl? Is it because I seem unattainable? And why don't the "nice" guys ever fall for me?
Q. I've never been the "popular girl" or the prettiest or anything like that.... in fact, I'm kind of weird (I'm nerdy, into cartooning and fire spinning and admittedly a bit of a stoner). I'm in ok shape but not a bombshell by any means. I dye my hair ...
A. 17 November 2011: Shy boys almost never go for anyone, if that makes you feel better. You're the one who have to hunt them down. A lot of "nice guys" are in fact not nice as much as just shy. Shy guys are often mistaken for nice as they are always sooo careful not to ... (read in full...)
Questions about relationship breakdowns.....
Q. More often than not relationships dont seem to end because the person stops loving you, but because of other factors. what makes people keep flogging dead relationship because there is love there still. what makes some people recognise that yes they ...
A. 17 November 2011: Better to leave with love still in your heart, but it is harder. It is by far easier to leave someone you can't stand or hate the guts of. But if you leave when there is still love you can hope for a civil break-up, and even if you don't become ... (read in full...)
Never had an orgasm
Q. Hello, out there. I am a 26 year old female. I have never had an orgasm, either clitorally, or vaginally. I have tried on my own for years, and with my husband, but I just can't do it. Has anyone else had this problem, and does anyone have any ...
A. 17 November 2011: Have you ever used a toy? A vibrator? The shower (water pressure works like magic)? Do you have sexual fantasies that turn you on, that you think of when you try to orgasm? So much of the female orgasm comes from your mentality, if you are thinking ... (read in full...)
I lied about my age to this 27 year old guy whom I've been seeing. Said I was 20, when I'm actually 18. Now what?
Q. im 18 and im seeing a 27 yr. old, i lied to him about my age and said i was 20, but were really starting to click and hes going to ask me to be his girlfriend soon because hes REALLY into me. I want to tell him before we get any more serious because ...
A. 17 November 2011: You definitely can't go into a relationship lying to him, now can you? Better to tell him sooner than later, one way or the other he is bound to find out. So if he thinks the age difference is too much, what can you do? You are your age, nothing to ... (read in full...)
B/f will not perform oral sex on me but he did for his ex!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 yrs WILL NOT perform oral sex on me. He use to do it to his past girlfriends, especially this one girl who he had been going back and forth with for like 6 years. He even had an old poem on a blog site about how he wished he could...
A. 17 November 2011: When it comes to smell. After a while of you and him having been intimate you will start to smell the same down there. It's something that happens naturally after a while. ... (read in full...)
B/f will not perform oral sex on me but he did for his ex!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 yrs WILL NOT perform oral sex on me. He use to do it to his past girlfriends, especially this one girl who he had been going back and forth with for like 6 years. He even had an old poem on a blog site about how he wished he could...
A. 16 November 2011: Well... it isn't the end of the world. Yes, it is frustrating, but give it some time and he might change his mind about trying it out on you at least once. But for now don't pressure the matter as he will just feel more "cornered" and "trapped" by ... (read in full...)
When single he masturbated 2-3 times a day, but now that he is with me sex is rare! Why?
Q. My Boyfriend suffers from depression and he pretty much has for most of his life so he says. He is now seeing a dr. to help him out with this but my question is before we dated he told me he was an excessive mastubator so his sex drive always seems ...
A. 16 November 2011: Well, I can't explain to you exactly what goes on as I am not a doctor. But I do know that masturbation and sex are two very different things, and not always related to a high sex drive. Some people with high sex drive use masturbation to take off ... (read in full...)
How do I word something to her that makes her realise that it's not appropriate to cancel dates at the last minute when a lot of prep has gone into them?
Q. I met a girl through internet dating. She was lovely and I'd really like to see her again. We've been texting each other etc and seem to get on ok, but she doesn't seem as keen to chat as before we met up. Having said that, she's been ill and - ...
A. 16 November 2011: She didn't cancel "just before". It was 2 hours. It happens. I get upset when friends cancel on me 1 hour before, or less. Last time a friend called me 5 minutes AFTER we were supposed to meet to tell me he was running late by an hour... Now that is ... (read in full...)
Is surgery worth loss of sensitivity?
Q. I'm not talking about implants! I know most men are against implants but are for other surgeries(reductions, lifts, nipple reductions etc) From your point of view, do you think better looking breasts are worth the loss of sensitivity? ...
A. 16 November 2011: Why so hostile? No one has been lecturing you.
Have you ever been in a relationship since you say our views are "romantic and delusional"? I've probably been with more men than you, and I've been in 4 relationships with MEN, so I don't think my... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gets a girls number at the bar and lied before, deal breaker?
Q. So I have a major decision to make. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and I just found out he's quite the liar. Back in January, he went out with his friends and told me they were going one place but I found out they went to a b...
A. 16 November 2011: To me this would be determined by his reaction, and not the action itself. How does he react when confronted with this? How does he react when busted in a lie? Does he get angry and blames you (tries to twist it around, classic strategy when ... (read in full...)
She said to me during sex "would you just finish" after only 10 minutes! I always thought lasting longer was better....
Q. hi their. I have confidance issues when it comes to how long i last during sex. I always please my partner though oral and hands before sex as she doesnt orgasm through intercourse. Once she had cum we moved on to the sex. I was prolonging cumming ...
A. 16 November 2011: Why are you not asking her? Why have you not discussed this with her? She is your partner after all, I hope she is a girlfriend and not just a one night stand. Some time we don't want a guy to last for a very long time. After an orgasm we can be ... (read in full...)
Is surgery worth loss of sensitivity?
Q. I'm not talking about implants! I know most men are against implants but are for other surgeries(reductions, lifts, nipple reductions etc) From your point of view, do you think better looking breasts are worth the loss of sensitivity? ...
A. 16 November 2011: Men are against implants because they like natural breasts.. so that also counts for any other plastic surgery performed on breasts.
Besides, who can define what is an attractive breast and what isn't? That's up to each and everyone taste. I... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable around our house with teenaged daughter walking around in just underwear!
Q. Our oldest daughter is now 15 and tends to walk around the house in just her bra and underwear or nothing at all. My husband and I get on her about it all the time, but she doesn't seem to care. Will she grow out of this or will it get worse? Is ...
A. 16 November 2011: Normal. Teenagers rarely listen to their parents or think of anyone else but themselves. They can't help it, it's hormones. Be more direct about it instead of just dropping hints or ask her to get dressed. Tell her to get dressed or else you'll take ... (read in full...)
What are the best ways to incorporate caring for a dog or cat as part of improving one's emotional health?
Q. Pet ownership is cited to have many benefits for humans. Owning a pet can help reduce stress, improve your emotional health and may even promote faster healing. What are the best ways to incorporate caring for a dog or cat as part of improving one'...
A. 16 November 2011: I don't know of any "best ways", the way I see it there is really only one way to incorporate a dog or cat into your life: when you get one you need to take care of it.
If you don't have the opportunity to have a pet yourself, then there are othe... (read in full...)
I am not sure what to make of signals from my ex-teacher. I am gay and he is married?
Q. So, I'm 18 and graduated high school this past spring. I am in college now, but still live in my home town because my college ran out of housing for me. I live relatively close to my high school and visit often to hang out with some of my friends ...
A. 16 November 2011: This is not a date. Your former teacher might feel it is good for you to open up and talk, since you declared your sexuality, and if I am not mistaken people in your country are often quite conservative and homophobic. Which means many might assume ... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 15 November 2011: It's incredibly selfish to want to go through with an act you KNOW your partner is not enjoying, your partner feels uncomfortable with, and your partner genuinely does not want but is being forced into. I don't get why a loving partner would want to ... (read in full...)
My dear friend was in a horrible car accident, but instead of contacting me first, he contacts some chick he's been talking to for 2 weeks?
Q. I'm not sure if this really counts as a relationship or love question, but I really don't know where else to go, and I really need advice. Last night, one of my dear friends was in a car accident. I was informed shortly after the face, absolutely ...
A. 14 November 2011: You're in love with him and are jealous that this other girl is his potential love interest, and not you. You are upset because if you were in an accident you'd think of him first, while he didn't think of you first. You came second. And you wanted ... (read in full...)
He says he's given me 3 chances. Says he will not talk to me any more if I don't allow more than kisses and touching next time.What do I say to him?
Q. I like this guy ever since I was little , we grew up together and Finally one day we started texting dirty and he wants me to do stuff to him and I want to but I'm still a virgin and don't know if I could please him and I don't know how to do a ...
A. 14 November 2011: You liked him since you were little. He starts texting dirty with you. Dirty texts does NOT mean he likes you. Dirty texts means you are good enough for free porn. Its using you, it's lack of respect, and it is rude.
You like him, he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Whenever I manage to save up a bit of money, my boyfriend expects me to treat him to a big dinner
Q. Just wanted to ask, is it fair that my boyfriend expects me to pay for dinner sometimes (for the both of us) when he's the one with a pretty good, stable part time job (24hr) and I'm unemployed (because my college schedule is loaded)? I'm not tryi...
A. 14 November 2011: Its your money. You do with it as he pleases. He pays for his food, you pay for yours. If he feels generous enough to treat you to dinner, he'll do so NOT as a business transaction, but out of generosity. Which means he can't expect things in ... (read in full...)
My fiance told me he had sex with some girl his friends knew a month before we met. Should I be concerned?
Q. My fiance is away for a while visiting his grandma in his hometown, and we were talking on video chat from facebook, and we started talking about when the last time we had sex with other people before we met. Before, he told me when we were dating ...
A. 14 November 2011:
I think you should believe what he says.. he had sex with some girl a few months before he met you, and I don't see how that changes anything. Could have slipped his mind when you spoke about it the very first time, or that you perhaps misunder... (read in full...)
Next month I'm meeting my Boyfriend's family for Christmas. But he'd rather I didn't give them presents. How will it look if I arrive empty handed?
Q. I have a dilemma of etiquette on my hands! Next month, I'll be meeting my boyfriend's family for the first time; his parents, grandmother and three siblings. My boyfriend has a rather acerbic relationship with his siblings - an older brother and ...
A. 14 November 2011: Bring them something inexpensive but thoughtful. Like chocolates, candy or something nice for them, maybe for the family together, to enjoy. Or if they have small children, bring something just for the children. Just make sure it is something ... (read in full...)
I am 14 and my boyfriend is 15 and we both REALLY want a baby!
Q. I am 14 and my boyfriend is 15 and we both REALLY want a baby!!! What do we do?!?! We talk about getting married and having kids all the time!! What do I do? P.S. We haven't had sex if that's what you are thinking.....
A. 14 November 2011: Wait until you are old enough, and wait until not all you want is a BABY, but toddlers and children and eventually broody teenagers who will want to follow in their parents footsteps and have children at 15. And you'll be the desperate mom coming on ... (read in full...)
Attracted to students as a teacher. Help!
Q. I'm a secondary school teacher 11-18 and always find myself attracted to students. I'm 28 and married. I find myself attracted to the older students and sometimes thinking what the younger students will grow up to look like. I have never acted on ...
A. 13 November 2011: Finding someone attractive is ok. Acting on it is what's not okay. So as things are, you're not doing anything wrong. It's normal to look at others even while in a relationship. As they saying goes, you can look at the meny as long as you dine at ... (read in full...)
She kept it from me that she is HIV positive!
Q. Am a guy who in April meet a girl, i fell in love with her so much that even though she sometimes acted childsh i would readly forgive. unfortunately she kept something important a secreat her HIV status, of which she is HIV positive. our ...
A. 13 November 2011: It is possible to have a relationship with her and not get infected, or at least minimize the chances, as long as you stay protected and cautious. Having a family together with biological children will be difficult, or cost money, but there is ... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 13 November 2011: Ah, I think you did a fair deal with him though: if you can't orgasm then he's not allowed to either.
Of course it's not the same for him to to get an orgasm from having his scrotum stimulated... pffsh yeah right. That's what he says, because ... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 13 November 2011: He needs to stop seeing the orgasm as a goal. The goal is for you to enjoy yourself, and he DOES make you feel great in bed, does he is good enough. Having an orgasm might be the peak for the man, but it isn't like that for women, especially not ... (read in full...)
I keep striking out with the ladies, need help! is being 40 pounds overweight a factor? What needs to be done?
Q. so in my interaction with the ladies, I've heard this line WAY too much: "you're such a great guy, a girl would be real lucky to be with someone as nice and real as you are." All the while I'm thinking, "if i'm such a great guy, then why don't y...
A. 13 November 2011: You focus a lot on you being nice, and sort of insisting that what you are right now, the entirety of you, is enough to get a girl, yet you aren't getting any. So you fixate on "being nice" as if that's somehow the problem. You mention nothing else ... (read in full...)
She went from a stripper to an online web-cam model. Am I being unreasonable being uncomfortable about her new job?
Q. My brother and I were eating at a restaurant and I spotted a beautiful girl. I gestured to my brother to look at her and she noticed that. As my brother and I walked out to my car, she came outside and my brother urged me to approach her, which I ...
A. 13 November 2011: As long as it is until she finds something else then it's ok.
Have a talk and make sure this is just "in the meantime" and not something she wants to do for the rest of her life.
She's having you around for these shows of her and chats with o... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 13 November 2011: Good luck to your boyfriend... he probably will not find a woman who "responds to him like he responds to you". Because women don't have penises.
Maybe he needs to educate himself on the topic, because this is just stupid and ignorant. If he re... (read in full...)
Where are all the nice guys hiding?
Q. I live in Ireland and I can't find any nice guys! All the guys i meet just seem to use me. I feel as though I,ll never be loved for who I am or what I like doing. Like I,m a night person ( Not like clubbing but other stuff ) I,ve not met a guy who ...
A. 13 November 2011: Students maybe? Hard working, loyal, committed, sounds like you might want to search for someone with a look at their career as well. If a man is flipping between jobs then maybe he has a problem staying committed, and if he's just taking easy jobs ... (read in full...)
A guy my age? Or one much older and working? The guy my age is really nice and sweet and very gentlemanly
Q. I really like this guy but recently started talking to him less because he works and i play basketball and the piano. Okay to get more to the point i like this guy but he is much older than i and we started talking less and this new guy i met like...
A. 13 November 2011: How much older is the older man?
Stick to getting to know the guy your age, that wont harm you. If you have lost connection with the older man then just leave it be as it is, things happen for a reason. A girl your age is usually more compatib... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 13 November 2011: Don't worry about the cost of the LadyComp. After all, your boyfriend will be the one paying for it since it is HE who wants to stop using condoms... Tell him there is the option, now all he needs to do is buy it!... (read in full...)
Broke up with my boyfriend, then reconciled, and the man I met during the break up thinks I was just cheating
Q. I need some serious mature advice. I do not want "do what you feel is right" kind of advice .. because honestly I do not know what is right no more. Okay, I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half but we broke up for 2 weeks due to compl...
A. 12 November 2011: You've been with your bf for a year and a half and you are still thinking about this drama?
Or, maybe you just didn't write it correctly? You are now back with an ex, and you've been dating for a week. You don't have strong intense feelings... (read in full...)
I think my bubbly and too friendly personality is keeping me from having a boyfriend!
Q. im 15, ive always been into boys, im not ugly infact i sometimes get called beautiful, but because of my personality and im too bubbaly and friendly as people say, that is why i havent got a boyfriend, i never have had one and i hate being single, ...
A. 12 November 2011: Waited for this long? At your age, yes, time does drag on and a year last foreeeever. Bur realistically, you haven't waited long at all. It takes time, and a whole lot of filtering through people, to find someone you like who likes you back.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend saw that I wrote "I love S" on my hand. He isn't "S"... what do I do?
Q. okay so i'm in love with two people. my boyfriend and this guy called S. i've loved S for nearly 2 years now and he loves me too, but we've never been together offically. so yeah i wrote i love you "S" on my hand and my boyfriend saw it. what should ...
A. 12 November 2011: Make up your mind. If you love S, and have the intention of writing his initial letter on your body, and do other things to broadcast or show off your deep and year long dedication to S, then you need to break it off with your boyfriend because that ... (read in full...)
Where can we go to get him a girl and what can I do to help him stop being so negative?
Q. My friend is 21 years old and he constantly moans that he can't get a girlfriend and that every girl he's been with only lasts a month!He keeps asking me whats wrong with him and I lie to him saying I don't know but the fact is He's a very needy and ...
A. 12 November 2011: Let him sail his own ship. You can't get him a girlfriend, it's not your job, and you can't do it even if you wanted to. HE needs to get himself a girl, after all, as he is the one the girl will have to stick with. Not you. You can't help him not be ... (read in full...)
My right breast has been itchy, is this normal?
Q. I'm 16 and for some reason my right breast mainly my nipple just randomly got itchy. I looked it up on google and it took me to breast cancers. Of course I got scared, and asked my mom. She said I was to young for it. [my grandma die from it so ...
A. 12 November 2011: Dry skin, breast could still be growing, allergies towards the washing powder (which will make what you wear or sleep in itch, and you could be more sensitive in some spots than others), uncomfortable bra/wrong bra size (this is most likely it as ... (read in full...)
I don't want to end up getting attached to someone who I'm going to end up having to take care of like a baby when I'm older.
Q. Hello everyone, To make it kinda short and sweet, I'll just get right to the point. I've been dating this guy who's two years older than me for about four years now. I'm 18, he's 20. Being a Senior this year at high school, it defiantly go...
A. 12 November 2011: I'm not saying the 20-year old freeloader is wrong. If his parents put up with it, and he's happy with it, then live and let live. But as the OP isn't particularly interested in a freeloader then.. well it leaves her little choice. Women always try ... (read in full...)
Could losing your virginity kick start your period?
Q. Hello all, I lost my virginity a few days ago to my boyfriend of 2 years (yes, we used protection), and it all went quite well. I felt no pain and had no bleeding the actual night we had sex, but the day after (yesterday) I had a fair amount o...
A. 12 November 2011: It probably was triggered by you having sex for the first time, yes. Hormones do crazy things to your body. Just like when if you are stressed you can get your period, it wouldn't surprise me that the sudden change to your body (having something ... (read in full...)
I don't want to end up getting attached to someone who I'm going to end up having to take care of like a baby when I'm older.
Q. Hello everyone, To make it kinda short and sweet, I'll just get right to the point. I've been dating this guy who's two years older than me for about four years now. I'm 18, he's 20. Being a Senior this year at high school, it defiantly go...
A. 11 November 2011: He's 20 and mooching off his parents, I assume, since he has no job and thereby can't possibly have any independence.
Dump. If he hasn't got his act together by now most likely he wont get it together later in life either, and if he does, yo... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 8 November 2011: I am on your side in this, condoms are a pain or discomfort, but if hormonal birth controls are an even greater discomfort then it isn't worth it. But have you talked to your doctor about alternatives during this time period? Haven't your doctor ... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 7 November 2011: Talk to your doctor about your options, that's the very best thing to do. Far better than risking pregnancy only to have abortions, who knows how many abortions you'd end up with that way... ... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 6 November 2011: The experiences I've heard of about the baby comp is that it's a bit of a hit or miss. It's an "educated guess" as the weather reporters call it, haha. It is safer than the pull out method, and theoretically safe (safe days do exist), but sometimes ... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 6 November 2011: Pull-out method?
I know of a couple of couples who actually don't use contraception, just pull out. They're in long term relationships, of age, living together, and if a baby came along it wouldn't be a problem. They aren't actively trying f... (read in full...)
Could losing your virginity kick start your period?
Q. Hello all, I lost my virginity a few days ago to my boyfriend of 2 years (yes, we used protection), and it all went quite well. I felt no pain and had no bleeding the actual night we had sex, but the day after (yesterday) I had a fair amount o...
A. 2 November 2011: Cramps in your belly can happen after having sex for the first times. I don't think your period can come from losing your virginity directly, but your period and your general health are deeply connected. If you are stressed for example, you can get ... (read in full...)
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