He's 23, I'm 40, we had a fleeting relationship, but now he's suddenly decided he wants space and has taken off!
Q. Ok in october 2010 I moved into a new neighborhood, directly across the street was a gorgeous younger man. I have been living with someone for 2 1/2 yrs in a "relationship" but he treated me crappy but was helping me pay for college, so I exsist...
A. 3 May 2011: Yes am afraid so. You might think he will think that, but no he will think that you are clingy and you just will not let go off him. Men have different ways of thinking and if you keep contacting him he is just going to get more fed up with you. ... (read in full...)
Was he inconsiderate? Or should I not complain?
Q. My boyfriend of a year (a long distance relationship most of the time - he travels a lot for work and his home is in another town) came over for a weekend. He usually will contribute something towards food and drinks as I do when I visit but this ...
A. 24 February 2011: 10 bottles of wine is a lot to drink in 3 days for one person I must admit. Ok so I understand that you went over your budget but sweetie am sorry but you shouldnt have bought them if you couldnt afford it. Then he wouldnt have had the chance to ... (read in full...)
I love him but I feel like I am being used......
Q. I met my husband in online dating website we were married 5 years and 4 years living together.since, we live together his friend introduce him an online game since then he get really addicted.I thought at first it was okay but then he stopped ...
A. 24 February 2011: With the internet getting bigger and bigger we are hearing that more and more people are getting addicted to it in many ways and forms. It is very sad. There are so many people living cyber lives these days instead of going out and facing the real ... (read in full...)
I've found out my husband has been having affairs for years, so many questions..........
Q. Hi I have a few questions i would like your views on so please take the time and reply ty. A little about my situation. Iv been with my h/b for 32 yrs married for 22yrs every 1 thought we were the perfect couple until 3 yrs ago i found out that...
A. 24 February 2011: You ask how can 'we' move on from this? Aw darling there is no we, you are in a loveless marriage and you need to get out or else you will spend the rest of your life miserable. There are people who you can talk to, people who will help lift your ... (read in full...)
Erection variation.....
Q. I've started to notice that the erections I wake up with are a good bit harder and more rigid than the ones I normally get while masturbating or getting involved with my girlfriend. While the latter variety are TOTALLY fine, there are no ...
A. 24 February 2011: When guys wake up first thing in the morning that is usually when there erections are at the greatest. I guess it is just one of those things and you shouldnt worry about it. Everything sounds like it is in order and you have a good sex life ... (read in full...)
When is a platonic friendship not platonic anymore?
Q. When is a platonic friendship not platonic anymore? any signs or actions that you think is like BIG signs? ...
A. 24 February 2011: Simple its not platnoic anymore once you pass the friendship zone. If two people kiss or make out or get physical then they have crossed the platonic stage.... (read in full...)
Does he care more than he is letting on or does he not?
Q. Hi,I'm hoping out there some of you can help me understand this man i'm seeing better,as he is giving me so many differant signals that i'm not sure what to make of him. we have been having a relationship for many yrs, and he has told me many tim...
A. 24 February 2011: It sounds to me like he does care about you, but that he really doesnt know what he wants at the moment. It sounds like he may be scared of commitment and therefore that is why he said he wanted a break. But after saying that he is calling and ... (read in full...)
Crush on my straight female friend, do you think she could feel the same way?
Q. I have a friend who is totally straight girl, her personality attracts me, she's 18 but act in a cute way as 8 yrs old by the way i'm lesbian. Our friendship is unique because she always tease me or bully me, but recently she's been kind to me ...
A. 24 February 2011: The only person that can answer this question am afraid is your friend. She is the only one that knows the truth. If you feel like she may have a crush on you and that her behaviour has changed towards you then talk to her and tell her how you feel. ... (read in full...)
He's 23, I'm 40, we had a fleeting relationship, but now he's suddenly decided he wants space and has taken off!
Q. Ok in october 2010 I moved into a new neighborhood, directly across the street was a gorgeous younger man. I have been living with someone for 2 1/2 yrs in a "relationship" but he treated me crappy but was helping me pay for college, so I exsist...
A. 24 February 2011: Yes you really do need to stop that. When somebody asks for space the last thing you should do is text or email them, you are probably driving him further away from you without realising it. Its time to let go.... (read in full...)
Facebook Ruined My Life
Q. Is it just me or is Facebook a total head-wreck? Personally, I see it as one big popularity contest. I mean it is so pointless. Why not go out and meet your friends for real, instead of giving yourself a headache trying to think of the 'coolest' ...
A. 23 February 2011: I dont think facebook is all that bad. I use it to keep in touch with family and friends that i cannot just go and visit. It keeps a lot of people connected especially if they live really far apart, and it is also a good way to reconnect with old ... (read in full...)
I'm hopelessly in love with an alcoholic
Q. My heart is so heavy with guilt. I love an alchohlic he is more rotten the older he gets. Such a waist of life. I can't help him, and so deeply want to. I need help, I quit on him for the saftey of my children and me. But it just doesn't seem ...
A. 23 February 2011: I guess the old saying goes you cannot help who you love. This is a very sad situation to be in for you. As you are watching the man you love ruin his life. Am glad you got out of it though if not for your own sake then for your childrens sake. ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex add me on Facebook?
Q. My ex and I have been separated..he added me on facebook accepted as I was saying thanks for the add he went offline...then I noticed he came back on and then off....like he was creeping me..to see if i was on....well...i know our separation has ...
A. 23 February 2011: Ok you have obviously went through a hard time with this guy and it has took a lot of hard work on your part to get over him. Of course you are going to be curious as to why he added you, but he caused you so much heartache do you really think it is ... (read in full...)
Almost 20 and still having trouble with relationships, is this abnormal?
Q. I'm almost 20 years old and I still have trouble with relationships. All through highschool I wanted to date but for some reason it never worked out! I drive myself nuts over this because the older I get I feel like I should be out more and having ...
A. 23 February 2011: Answer me one question, what exactly is normal? Everybody is different and everyone lives there life in different ways there is no normal way to live your life. You are in control of your own life and therefore you can do whatever it is you want to ... (read in full...)
18 & pregnant: I'm scared of being alone, but I don't think this relationship can be fixed either.....
Q. i have been with my fiance' for over two years now and we just found out were having a baby.we have been on and off for uite some time and i think its because i don't want to loose what we had when we actually had it.... everythin that goes wrong is ...
A. 23 February 2011: If your heart is not in the relationship then there is no point staying together because there is a baby on the way because it will just drive the both of you further apart. You both need to sit down and talk through everything and you need to be ... (read in full...)
Going out with him is so complicated!
Q. i love my boyfriend and he loves me but going out with him is so complicated. what makes it worse is that i work with him so i dont want it to end badly because i love talking to him and hes impossible to avoid at work i work with him on the same ...
A. 23 February 2011: Talk to him and tell him how you feel. If this was before you were both an item then try and not worry about it. But you need to tell him that him trying to make you jelous is very childish and its beginning to anoy you. If your heart is not in the ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my younger friend I am not interested in him?
Q. I've been friends with a junior for a month or so and he's a year younger than me. Recently he told my classmate he likes me and if I ever accepted him I'd be his first girlfriend. But the thing that bugs me is the age gap. While one year might not ...
A. 23 February 2011: Well first off you shouldnt be embarressed that guys are showing interest in you, i know it can be embarressing but enjoy the attention they give to you. Ok well I think the best bet would be to wait and see if this guy actually says anything to you ... (read in full...)
The girl I want is not interested, but the girl who I don't love is begging me to be in a relationship with her! Help!
Q. pls advise me the girl i wanna date is not showing she loves me but the one i dont love is begging me to go into relationship with her! pls am afraid sumbody help...
A. 23 February 2011: Well we shall start with the girl that you want to be with. If she has told you that she does not want to be with you then you just need to accept that she doesnt love you back and you need to move on. If she has made it clear that there is no ... (read in full...)
Am I over thinking this or is he not that serious about us and doesn't see any real future?
Q. I am in my mid thirties. I am seeing a guy with the past year. He is very reluctant to meet my family(my sister lives up the road) I did meet his family at xmas after alot of fighting on my behalf. On one occassion he was dropping me off at my ...
A. 23 February 2011: The best thing you can do is talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel. If you have both been together now a year well then its probably time he met your family. It could be just a case of he is nervous about meeting them. Talk to him about it ... (read in full...)
Pregant and scared of my dad's reaction...
Q. i am 10 weeks pregnant and it has just started to sink in after finding out a few weeks ago. My partner in over joyed and i told my mum the other day who is also pleased at becoming a grandmother. However she did say that my dad will be sad and ...
A. 23 February 2011: Ok you are almost 26 so he needs to accept that you are an adult and you have your own life. Yes you have done a lot for your age and he needs to accept that now you are going to settle down. Try not to worry about this he may be a bit upset at ... (read in full...)
He's 23, I'm 40, we had a fleeting relationship, but now he's suddenly decided he wants space and has taken off!
Q. Ok in october 2010 I moved into a new neighborhood, directly across the street was a gorgeous younger man. I have been living with someone for 2 1/2 yrs in a "relationship" but he treated me crappy but was helping me pay for college, so I exsist...
A. 23 February 2011: The only thing you can do sweetie is to let him go. He has told you straight that he needs space, therefore the only thing you can do is give this to him. Am sure you were an important person in his life but he needs to sort out his head at the ... (read in full...)
Is his heart open for me or is his ex still in it?
Q. New relationship - 2 1/2 mos. - background he was in a 17 yr relationship, she broke up with him due to different interest/finding herself. Its been 2 yrs and he still has photos of her on his phone and computer. Seems to me that would remind him ...
A. 23 February 2011: I think you should give him a chance. Yes it does sound like he didnt want to let go of the relationship, but he had no choice in the matter and he now has to accept that and move on. You say the broke up 2 years ago, so in my opinion that is plenty ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make this situation better?
Q. I could use some advice on how to resolve a problem that I have created in my relationship with my boyfriend. You see, he and I have been together for almost 3 years. For 2.5 of them, we have lived together because in order for us to continue the ...
A. 23 February 2011: The only thing you can do here hunny is to sit down with him and talk to him. Tell him you are worried about him because he is shutting everyone out. Explain to him that you just want to be open and honest with him and that you want him to be the ... (read in full...)
She tells me she loves me, but she hasn't stopped hanging out with this other man! Should I move on?
Q. Dear Cupid, After three years of being with my girlfriend, things have somewhat fallen apart. Throughout our relationship we have faced challenges, most of them from her children going through that 'rebellious' stage and causing us both a lot of...
A. 23 February 2011: Ok well she has made it obvious that she wants to step back from the relationship at the moment. It sounds like she is in a very vunerable place at the moment and therefore you have the right to worry about her new friendship with this man, she lied ... (read in full...)
Work/sports buds or more???
Q. I've had a huge crush on this guy I work with for months. He sometimes says really cute things to me and compliments me (but I don't know if he says this to all girls or just me) and he is so attractive.. I get sooo nervous when I'm around him.. I ...
A. 23 February 2011: Am glad to hear that. Hope it all works out for you. Goodluck :-)... (read in full...)
Is it possible he still has feelings for me?
Q. My ex and I have been spending a lot of time together lately. We dated for a year and broke up back in October. After we broke up, we didn't really speak and we would hook up from time to time but there was never anything more. Now, he talks ...
A. 22 February 2011: Yes it does sound like he does still have feelings for you. Therefore if you want to get back with him, then talk to him about it and ask him does he still like you. Goodluck sweetie.... (read in full...)
How do I kiss her?
Q. Hey im sorta a kissing virgin and i really want to kiss my gurlfriend but i dont know how to tell if she is ready and how to make the move. Can anybody help me...
A. 22 February 2011: Just take it slow first off. Start by doing small kisses until you get more used to it and see how she reacts. Kiss her cheek or forehead and work from that. Then peck her on the mouth and just work your way up to it until you feel comfortable.
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I offended him and now I regret my behavior! What should I do?
Q. dear cupid, soo, back in december, i met this guy at school. i could pretty much tell that he was interested in me right from the start (i'm sorry if that sounded conceited; i really hope it didn't), but i never imagined myself falling for him ...
A. 22 February 2011: Simple ring him up and apologise for your behaviour. Tell him exactly how you felt and why you done it. When we make mistakes the only thing we can do is apologise and try our best to make it up to that person and show them how much we care. So you ... (read in full...)
He doesn't text...so does he think I'm NOT easy?!
Q. Hey well i dont really know what my problem is but i know that im confused and stressed! last year my dad died through alcohol and yes it is hard but he was never there for me i rarely saw him he lived with me till i was about 13 but i didnt real...
A. 22 February 2011: I think this guy was after some girl that he could have sex with and be done with it. But when he realised you were a virgin he was not interested as he probably knew you wouldnt just have sex with him out of no where. Believe me you had a lucky ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is TOO protective and I can't talk to my male friends!!
Q. OMG. This is driving me crazy. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months and I love him dearly. But he is SO protective. I mean PROPER. I have more male friends than female friends and he doesn't like me talking to any of them. Whenever I leave...
A. 22 February 2011: You only have one option here sweetie and that is to tell him exactly how you feel. Explain to him that they are you're friends and that if he doesnt trust you then there is no point being in a relationship with you. Be clear to him and say to him ... (read in full...)
Is he just waiting to get to know me better or what?
Q. This is a usual questions but i just need some help. I will give you a small backdrop of the story. Theres this dude in my class who knows me as the smart girl and one day he suddenly started talking more with me and in the same class just gave me ...
A. 22 February 2011: Well it sounds to me like he does really like you. Why cant you both talk face to face? That is the best form of communication to get to know each other better. If he was able to give you his number then am sure you could both spend more time ... (read in full...)
He knows I like him yet he ignores me! And it lowers my self confidence...help!
Q. So its been 3 months im crushing on this guy whos driving me nuts. It started off in december 2010 as i started seeing me constantly at uni, i couldnt take my eyes off him! I try to grab his attention, talk to him on facebook and try to catch him up ...
A. 22 February 2011: Yeah it does sound to me like you have made it very clear to him, and it also sounds to me that he is liking the attention. I think you should just send him a message and ask him does he want to meet up some time for dinner or a drink and see how he ... (read in full...)
Am I involved in a possible triangle here?
Q. Hi, We're in a group of friends and I'm going out with one of them. I feel like one of my friends might have a thing for my boyfriend but that she will never admit too. Plus he used to like her, but he swears blind he doesn't have any feelings for...
A. 22 February 2011: Well am afraid there is nothing you can do. He wouldnt be going out with you if he didnt want to be, and if your friend likes him well then she probably respects your friendship more therefore she wont do anything that would risk losing you. You ... (read in full...)
Husband agreed to counseling until I made the appointment. Then he backed out...help!
Q. I found out that my husband has been on sex webcams and been getting erotic massages and spent over $200 in 8 days. I confronted him and to my supprise he did not deny it or blame me and agreed to go to counseling. Well I made the appointment and ...
A. 22 February 2011: Am afraid sweetie he needs to be willing to work on things as well. If he is not willing to work it out then you cannot do it all on your own. He obviously panicked when you set the appointment and now feels ashamed and embarressed and doesnt want ... (read in full...)
Work/sports buds or more???
Q. I've had a huge crush on this guy I work with for months. He sometimes says really cute things to me and compliments me (but I don't know if he says this to all girls or just me) and he is so attractive.. I get sooo nervous when I'm around him.. I ...
A. 21 February 2011: Ok well it does sound to me like he is still interested. It was probably just the fact that his friend had made him food and he had those plans and he didnt want to be rude and just abandon his friend after they made the effort off cooking for him. ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's my fault for them "breaking" their friendship?
Q. Dear all, I'm in need of some outside input! I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 years and 4 of them were long distance. I'm not talking city to city long distance, I'm talking halfway around the world long distance. I know...
A. 20 February 2011: Ok yeah its really obvious she had feelings for him and that is why she flew of the handle, but also when it comes to your boyfriend he should have made it clear to him that the friendship was pure platonic. It sounds to me like he never mentioned ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my crush to go out with me?
Q. Allright so I've had a crush on this girl since we were in 8th grade. I'm in 9th grade now and I want to ask her out so bad! She's really pretty to me, funny, and I love her laugh.We have had small conversations every now and then like hey hows it ...
A. 20 February 2011: Sounds like a perfect plan to me, go for it, you have nothing to lose. Goodluck.... (read in full...)
Recently broke up with boyfriend, and have feelings for my ex boyfriend!
Q. Hey guys.. im in a bit of a situation. I have recently broken up with my boyfriend john, I'm 17 nearly 18 and hes 21. I broke up with him because i felt he was getting way to serious and too much. He was just the perfect guy you couldnt fault him ...
A. 20 February 2011: Well hopefully you and ali can work on things and you can both be happy together again :-).... (read in full...)
He's sooo perfect. I think it's love at first sight. But does he like me?
Q. Last night I went to my school dance with my best friend (who is 2 years older than me and goes to the other middle school in town). We were dancing around and having the time of our lives when it happened. Her friend (lets call him Ty, two years ...
A. 19 February 2011: I think you should go for it, life is to short and yes it does sound like he does like you. Therefore talk to him over facebook and ask him for his number. Just keep it casual and say maybe i could get your number and we could meet up some time. At ... (read in full...)
How do I get over all my securities? My guy says this could ruin our relationship if I can't
Q. how do i get over my insecurities? My insecurities hold me back from a lot of things as far as my relationship with my boyfriend. i feel embarrassed at times when we make love and when we partake in other intimate activities. he constantly tells me...
A. 19 February 2011: Well you need to start believing that you are beautiful to him. Every girl has there own insecurities. But you need to work out what yours are and start working on those. Doing things that make you feel good always help. Like have a healthy eating ... (read in full...)
My gf always thinks I am checking out other girls when I am not. How do I calm her down?
Q. I have another question. It's about my girlfriend's insecurity. Now what happens is that she says she catches me looking at other girls when I don't. I will admit that i do get bored and my eyes start to wander but i never check out a girl. ...
A. 19 February 2011: Am afraid that you cant. These are her insecuities not yours and it is up to her to work them out. A lot of girls has this insecurity that there boyfriend is looking at other girls. But she needs to realise that even if you were it is her you want ... (read in full...)
Work/sports buds or more???
Q. I've had a huge crush on this guy I work with for months. He sometimes says really cute things to me and compliments me (but I don't know if he says this to all girls or just me) and he is so attractive.. I get sooo nervous when I'm around him.. I ...
A. 19 February 2011: Well this is a tricky one. Its a good sign that you are both meeting outside of work so thats a positive and if you are both beginning to flirt that is also a good sign. But it sounds like it is still early days, and if you dont want anything to be ... (read in full...)
My foots out the door and I'm ready for a divorce.
Q. I've now been married for a year and 2 months. People always say the first years the hardest when we spent half that year not living together... three months last year i went to my parents for that time.. caeuse we were somewhat rocky.. and i needed ...
A. 19 February 2011: Well hunny it sounds to me like you have made up your mind, therefore I think you should go ahead with the divorcee. If he is making you feel small and is not meeting you in the middle then he is not worth the pain. It sounds to me like he doesnt ... (read in full...)
Recently broke up with boyfriend, and have feelings for my ex boyfriend!
Q. Hey guys.. im in a bit of a situation. I have recently broken up with my boyfriend john, I'm 17 nearly 18 and hes 21. I broke up with him because i felt he was getting way to serious and too much. He was just the perfect guy you couldnt fault him ...
A. 10 February 2011: You cant help who you want to be with. It sounds to me like John was a rebound and when he started getting really close you backed away and then realised that you still werent over your ex ali.
But i think you should give it some time before y... (read in full...)
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