Will lose my home and my car if I continue dating this boy
Q. Hello, So my problem is that my grandmother(with whom I live with) absolutely hates the boy I'm dating. I am 17 years old, he is 18 and as of the moment she doesn't know we're dating. We've been dating for about 6 months now without her knowing ...
A. 4 March 2011: You need to be honest, no matter how hard it is you need to be honest to yourself and everyone else and stop living a lie. You said you are not going to break up with him and that is your choice and nobody elses but yours. But you need to be honest ... (read in full...)
Double boy trouble! Part 1...
Q. This problem is several fold so I guess I'll ask one part at a time rather then all at once 1) I love a boy (pretend his name is Dylan) so I've known him since basically infancy as his family and my friends are rly close and I was always at my fr...
A. 4 March 2011: Just give yourself time. There is no one way to get over someone just give yourself time, and concentrate on building your life with Alex.... (read in full...)
Will my feelings for him return?
Q. A month ago I broke up with my bf of 2 years, we had some issues that we never talked about, and this led to a lot of frustration and irritation my behalf. During this period I lost my feelings for him. We met again a week after the breakup to talk, ...
A. 3 March 2011: I agree, I dont think distance is going to do you any good here I think it will just drive you further away from him. You miss him therefore it shows that you still care for him. But remember sometimes we cant help if we have lost our feelings and ... (read in full...)
How do I resist the urge to look up filth on the internet?
Q. Hi. It's me again. I have a psychological problem or maybe just a bad habit. I keep looking up pornography on the internet (sometimes vision of drunk women being taken advantage of) and I feel guilty about it later on. I once spoke to an expert ...
A. 3 March 2011: If it is really causing you a problem and effecting you phycologically then I think the best think you can do is cut of your internet connection. If you need the internet for work issues or anything important then ring up your internet supplier and ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy to take this long to decide whether or not he wants to date someone he once dated before and has been friends with since?
Q. Ok so back in 2009 I dated a guy-- my first boyfriend, from June 26, 2009 until December 16, 2009. He broke up with me because he was "unsure of his true feelings" I was also the last girlfriend he's had since and I was the longest of his three ...
A. 3 March 2011: I guess his feelings are returning because you have both been close friends for a while now. But he is probably just hesitating because he doesnt want to ruin the friendship. I think you should just give it some time and see how things work out. It ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in being paranoid about my party-loving bf?
Q. I cant decide if I'm being pathetic or not... so I've been with my bf like 3 years, 2 of them a serious relationship, for the past year or so I've become quite paranoid and controlling, but by that all I mean is that I don't like him getting ...
A. 3 March 2011: I think you need to talk to him about it. He has lied to you in the past therefore he has only made your insecurities worse. You need to tell him that and ask him how he feels. If you are feeling this way already then I really dont see this ... (read in full...)
Signals from a co-worker
Q. I really like this guy that i work with but from what i know hes on the shy side.. im confused with signals i think hes sending me.. like i told him that i wanted to get on his last nerve(which was a way to kinda flirt with him) and he said i was ...
A. 3 March 2011: Every man shows different signs when he is attracted to someone therefore its hard to give advise. But I think you should always go with your gut instinct. It sounds like you are both getting along well, so thats a good start. Why dont you ask him ... (read in full...)
My Gf really likes him. I may be the girl who hasn't shown interent in him. Should I reveal my interest?
Q. What should I do about this guy I like? Everyone at my school seems to like this guy that joined last year. He started a bit late because he switched school, and a ton of people have "tried it on" with him. My friend really likes him, in fact I t...
A. 3 March 2011: Wow this guy sounds like a right ladies man. Lucky him having all of these females falling at his feet. Ok first off girly its time you were honest to your best friend. Yes I know that you are trying to protect her feelings but you need to tell her ... (read in full...)
I'm being as understanding as I can but what actions by me will help ensure her will come back to me?
Q. Hi. My girlfriend and i met almost 4 yrs ago. Both just out of a relationships. I had a year to recouperate from my ex wife leaving and cheating on me. She left her ex and came straight to my apartment the same day because she had nowhere else to ...
A. 3 March 2011: No off course it is not selfish of you. Its understandable that you want her to come back, but you need to be prepared in case things dont work out that way. I agree though that the best thing for you both at the moment is to have a break to work ... (read in full...)
He says I'm crazy and insecure and I need help yet he is the one who cant get over his ex...
Q. I don't even know where to start.:( My boyfriend has this ex who he can't let go of. She has been a big problem in our life. She lives far from us but that doesnt seem to matter. When I found out I was pregant he promised me he was done talking ...
A. 3 March 2011: Yes he did break the trust, but its obvious that he didnt want to stop contact with her and that is why he done it in secret. You said that you saw messages between them, was he flirting with her, it might just be a case that he wants to be a friend ... (read in full...)
I miss my home, I miss my mum, I miss being in the countryside, but there are commitments that I have to fulfill in London....
Q. Hi i just dont know what to do! I'm a 21 year old girl from the countryside in a small town, i live with my mum as my dad died when i was 4 and i have no brothers or sisters so me and my mum are very close. i grew up there until i left home to go to...
A. 3 March 2011: Its understandable for you to be missing your home and your mother. Maybe try and go home more to visit. I know that this is hard and costly but if you plan a few trips home even if it is only for a weekend it will give you something to look forward ... (read in full...)
I told him I loved him and he said he loves spending time with me!!!
Q. Please take the time to read I would really appreciate ANY advice... I am in a relationship with a wonderful man who does a lot for me and I've fallen in love with him. We've been together 5 months, get on great and have a good physical connect...
A. 3 March 2011: No sweetie you shouldnt be concerned. Someone telling you 'i love you' is only words its actions that speak for themselves and from what you have said he is treating you really well and showing you that he cares about you. He obviously cares very ... (read in full...)
Why do I miss someone who I was allowing to tear my life to bits?
Q. okay so i broke away from a girl a couple months ago who was a liar, entitled, promiscuous and bloody selfish. finally my life is getting back to normal. but then....why do i still miss her??? i mean, i know in my mind that i am conjuring up an ...
A. 3 March 2011: You obviously loved her and that is why you still miss her. This is completely normal so dont worry. I bet if you look back to when you first broke up with her to now there has been a huge difference and you are coping better. So yes you will soon ... (read in full...)
He gave me hopes of a future together and a lot of love...and now its all zilch. Have I been played?!
Q. Long story short. I met this guy last year in an airport, we connected and didn't see eachother for 8 months but from time to time facebooked. Then in January he found out I was visiting his home town for a friends birthday and suggested he take ...
A. 3 March 2011: I guess he has a fear of commitment, in his heart he wants to change and settle down but in his head he still wants to be young free and single and this is why you are getting mixed messages. Am sorry that you have been so badly affected by this man ... (read in full...)
Double boy trouble! Part 1...
Q. This problem is several fold so I guess I'll ask one part at a time rather then all at once 1) I love a boy (pretend his name is Dylan) so I've known him since basically infancy as his family and my friends are rly close and I was always at my fr...
A. 3 March 2011: I guess you just need to accept now that Dylan has moved on with his life and you need to do the same as well. It sounds to me like you are only with Alex because you cant have Dylan and this is not a good start to any relaitonship it may end in him ... (read in full...)
I wasted my chance of happiness!
Q. I used to date this girl a year ago. I knew she was special from the start but i didnt take her seriously. So ended up not talking to each other for a year. Little did i know that she was actually really in love with me when we were dating and even ...
A. 3 March 2011: Im sorry that you have ended up heart broken. Its a shame you realised to late what you had but I think the best thing you can do now is to move on. She has moved on with her life and she is with somebody else now. I think you need to accept the ... (read in full...)
My secretive boyfriend...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend 2 years. I am 39 he is 29. He takes care of me and my 2 boys financially. he gives us anything we need or want. He is very controlling and smothers me to death. I have depression on and off. I am sometimes happy bu...
A. 3 March 2011: If you are having second thoughts then marrying him is not going to help. It does sound like he is great with your children which is very good but are you really happy with him? Does he treat you well. It sounds to me like you want someone who is ... (read in full...)
Is time all I need? How will I ever be sure how I feel about her? I keep doubting my own feelings
Q. It's been just about 2 months since my ex and I broke up, and I've been feeling quite better. I've been noticing, however, that I've been focusing more inward, as of late. I feel as if each day goes by, i focus more and more on myself and look furt...
A. 3 March 2011: Ok yes I think you just need to give yourself more time. It is clear that you do like this girl and that is great, but if you still are having doubts then dont rush in to anything and dont do anything that you feel uncomfortable with. Your heart ... (read in full...)
My parents are concerned but he's a great boyfriend. But I am worried I will get to resent him for being away so long. What should I do?
Q. I'm dating a Marine who is 21 and I'm 22. We've been dating "officially" for about 9 months now but we liked each other throughout high school. He deployed last October for 7 months and will go on his next deployment later this year . It'll be anoth...
A. 3 March 2011: Off course your going to have a hard time coming to terms with it, you love him and you dont want him to leave thats totally understandable. But if you love him you may end up regretting it in the long run. I understand your parents concerns really ... (read in full...)
I caught my boyfriend looking at bikini clad women's pics and viewing porn!! Its driving me mad! Am I over-reacting?
Q. i woke up to find my boyfirend looking and loads of girls facebooks looking at nothing but their picture, expecially ones in bikins etc, he then denied it and said ment nothing, after he admited it he seemed really upset and sorry for what he had ...
A. 3 March 2011: Its perfectly normal behaviour for teenage guys to watch porn. Its just something guys do. It doesnt mean that he doesnt find you attractive or that he doesnt want to be with you its just like a hobby to them and sometimes it helps them along the ... (read in full...)
Did I misread the signs? Is there anything I can do now?
Q. A couple of weeks ago I went to a friends bday party and met this really beautiful, funny, cool girl. We laughed and joked all night. Danced a little bit. It was one of those nights where you meet someone and go "Wow, I really like this person" ...
A. 3 March 2011: Yes that sounds perfect. At least then she will get the clear picture that you are interested and it will be up to her then to let you know what her deal is. So yeah go with that idea it sounds perfect. Goodluck.... (read in full...)
Did I misread the signs? Is there anything I can do now?
Q. A couple of weeks ago I went to a friends bday party and met this really beautiful, funny, cool girl. We laughed and joked all night. Danced a little bit. It was one of those nights where you meet someone and go "Wow, I really like this person" ...
A. 2 March 2011: Ok it is possible that she just wanted to get to know you as a friend. However she did say that she was seeing this guy not that they were actually in a relationship. Therefore if i were you i would ask her what the deal is, tell her that you think ... (read in full...)
She was with another guy during our break
Q. now i have a question me and my gf have been in an up and down relationship for about a year and 7 months now during our break up she had drunken sex with some guy and it hurt me so much cause i still loved her so much and now that we're back ...
A. 2 March 2011: You just need to accept it and move on, there is nothing you can do now that will change the past. As you get older you will meet people who have had all sorts of pasts and have slept with a few different partners but this shouldnt stop you from ... (read in full...)
I'd like to have a relationship with her but I'm afraid of being hurt
Q. I met this girl a month ago and we did a few activities together. I tried to kiss her on our second date but she said she was not ready for a relationship. We hang out and cuddle in the couch for hours. She writes me emails every other day tellin...
A. 2 March 2011: Well if I were you I would tell her exactly how you feel about her. You made a move on the second date, which could have been a bit to soon for her, but it sounds now like you have gotten to know her more. I understand you are scared of getting hurt ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for thinking he has something going on with her?
Q. I am insecure in my marriage because my husband cheated on me before we got married. It was with a coworker of his. The last time we was out hanging out with the guys he spoke about her ta ta's. I shrugged it off because thats how men talk weather ...
A. 1 March 2011: Oh ok sorry my mistake. Well I guess the only real thing you can do is talk to him and tell him you are worried about this. Dont accuse him just tell him you are feeling slightly insecure, which is understandable because he has cheated on you ... (read in full...)
Should I dump her or take the risk?
Q. Hello helpers, In a nutshell, this is my first serious relationship, and I have been unhappy with certain parts of it for a long time. Yet, I don't feel like it's bad enough to end it, and I'm pessimistic about finding another girl any time so...
A. 1 March 2011: Well what you really need to think about is her acting career, to me it sounds like it is something she loves to do and will probably try her hardest to get a career out of it. Which if thats what she wants good for her. But acting does involve ... (read in full...)
I broke things off with the second man so why do I still feel guilty?
Q. I have been in a relationship with 2 men 1 15 yrs and the father of my daughter and the other for a year, I have finally come to my senses and ended the relationship with the other man, thing is I feel so guilty for breaking his heart. He knew I was ...
A. 1 March 2011: I guess you will always feel guilty. You promised this man things and then broke it off with him, and underlying you will also probably be feeling guilty that you cheated on your partner and the father of your daughter. I guess you know you have ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he will leave college at the end of the semester not knowing how I feel about him! Help!
Q. I really, really like this guy. We've known each other for about three-four years now. He's going to graduate college in the spring, and I'm going to in two years. We've been in theatre classes together this whole time. He's so much fun to b...
A. 1 March 2011: Well if you dont want to lose him by the end of the term when he leaves then you better find the confidence with in you to ask him out alone. Its not as difficult as it seems. Next time you see him ask him would he like to go for a drink with you ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for thinking he has something going on with her?
Q. I am insecure in my marriage because my husband cheated on me before we got married. It was with a coworker of his. The last time we was out hanging out with the guys he spoke about her ta ta's. I shrugged it off because thats how men talk weather ...
A. 1 March 2011: Well yes you do have the right to worry especially if he has already cheated on you with this woman. Im guessing you forgave him in the past though if you went on to marry him. It takes a lot of trust to forgive someone who cheated on you and I ... (read in full...)
I want to start our marriage on the right foot with trust!
Q. I felt hurt when my fiancee told me 2 years ago that if he and his childhood friend were dating, he'd be married by now to her. I didn't say anything considering we were only dating at the time but it has been on my mind now and then. When he ...
A. 1 March 2011: Ok well I do understand why you would have concerns. But he said it back when you both were only dating and he probably cant even remember saying it now. She was obviously very close to him years ago but he has moved away now and he has started a ... (read in full...)
He's Not So Good at Compromising
Q. This is going to make a few people chuckle, I guarantee it :) I adore my boyfriend with my whole heart, and we're definitely heading down the serious road. We're about to graduate, and we've been talking about moving in together after we get more...
A. 28 February 2011: Am afraid there is not actually a lot you can do here to change him. He is who he is and thats the way he has been brought up. As for his small habits well I guess you are just going to have to deal with them when they come. If he leaves food out ... (read in full...)
Should I hook up with him again or not?
Q. Alright, so my friend and I (not particularly close friends) started hooking up right before break ended. I always have had a tiny crush on him, and one thing led to the other and somehow he started to like me. I left, and he kept in contact ...
A. 24 February 2011: Well you need to think about this long and hard. Realistically do you both have any chance of having a future together? If it is just a hook up you want with him well then that is your choice and if its what you want go for it. Dont expect to much ... (read in full...)
Long Distance Relationship. Help?!
Q. My boyfriend and I,We are 17,we've been together since 2008, We are so in Love with each others, But there are so many problems, that might not make us stay together, for example: I am from Jordan, and hes from a diffrent country .. my parents ...
A. 24 February 2011: Ok well you are only 17 therefore you shouldnt be worrying at the moment about marriage. Instead just take things as they come, if it comes to it that you are still with your boyfriend in years to come then you can start wondering how to deal with ... (read in full...)
Is this normal behaviour after a breakup?
Q. It's now been about 3 week since my ex boyfriend broke up with me. We would talk occasionally through emails or texts the first week it ended but the past 2 weeks I've texted him almost everyday and he hasn't responded to any of my texts. I know I ...
A. 24 February 2011: It can be normal behaviour yes, but it is not the right track to go down. You need to accept that he is no longer your boyfriend and that he is no longer in your life. The more you keep texting him the further you are going to push him away. You ... (read in full...)
How can I get this absurd feeling out of my head?
Q. Hi To everyone, I am a 31 year old male from the UK, I have never had an issue like this before and it is seriously impacting on multiple aspects of my life. Work and social life have suffered due to what I can only put down to anxiety or jealo...
A. 24 February 2011: Ok well am sure that your insecurities have set in because of what your ex wife has done to you. Cheating is such a horrible thing and leaves so many people damaged. But that is in your past now and that is where it has to be left. Your girlfriend ... (read in full...)
I cant see a way out of this fog so would really appreciate if someone, somewhere can pull me out of it!
Q. Hello Cupids :) This is complicated so thank you in advance to those who get to the end! I've been with my boyfriend just over a year now, I am 24, he is 31 and I really should feel lucky to be with him, but instead I am ruining this relationshi...
A. 24 February 2011: I dont see how a break away from him is going to help you here. You have these insecurities and you need to deal with them or else you will never find someone to settle down with you as you are going to push them away from you. Sometimes the saying ... (read in full...)
Is it more important to have time to spend with people you love than achieve your life goals?
Q. Currently i'm working very hard for my AS levels and i know that my life from now on is going to be very difficult and tiring because, wait for it, i want to be a doctor. I want to go to med school and eventually become a consultant. But even now...
A. 24 February 2011: Off course it is worth it. You want to be a doctor and that is a great achievement. Sure it is hard work but once you get the career you are working for you will get all of the benefits in return. In saying that yes it is important to spend time ... (read in full...)
He's not into sex as much as I'd maybe like him to be... is his behaviour normal?
Q. I am 30 and my boyfriend is in his mid fourties. At my age I obviously have a bigger sex drive than he does. I want sex pretty much all the time right now. I will also add that I have noticed an increase in my sex drive over the past year. I am the ...
A. 24 February 2011: Ok no you are not being irrational at all. But the age gap does make a big different. He is at the middle age mark now and his sex drive has probably slowed down. I wouldnt take this personal at all and am sure it has nothing to do with you. Its ... (read in full...)
What is my next step with this woman...???
Q. I'm not sure if I am confused or not. I have no experience at all with women, I am 26, the lady I am interested in is 32. She has had 2 relationships, 1 lasted 11 years, the other she says less than 1 year. We do have a very open friendship, we d...
A. 24 February 2011: I dont think you should be worrying that there is something wrong with you as am sure there is not, everything you have said as told me that you treat this woman very good. My guess is that she has been hurt so much in the past that she has built up ... (read in full...)
How do I face up to my ex girlfriend?
Q. I always get the hots for my former girlfriend,but I am afraid to meet her ,so I began to get away from her .for example ,I am annoyed to attend the reunion of my high school classmates just in order not to meet with her . I don't know how I sh...
A. 24 February 2011: Well she was once your girlfriend therefore at some stage you must have loved spending time with her. You dont give to much information on how you two broke up or was it on good terms. But my advice would be just treat her like you would treat ... (read in full...)
Was he inconsiderate? Or should I not complain?
Q. My boyfriend of a year (a long distance relationship most of the time - he travels a lot for work and his home is in another town) came over for a weekend. He usually will contribute something towards food and drinks as I do when I visit but this ...
A. 24 February 2011: 10 bottles of wine is a lot to drink in 3 days for one person I must admit. Ok so I understand that you went over your budget but sweetie am sorry but you shouldnt have bought them if you couldnt afford it. Then he wouldnt have had the chance to ... (read in full...)
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