My wife tells me she loves me but is not in love with me?
Q. Hello everyone this is my first time on here and thank everyone for any advice you can give me? Almost 2 months ago my wife of 10 years wakes me in the middle of the night to tell me she loves me but not in love with me, we have been together...
A. 5 July 2011: I guess there is not a whole lot you can do here I am afraid. Off course it was going to come as a huge shock to you. You thought you where happy and you where both together for a very long time. I guess in her head she feels like the love is gone ... (read in full...)
Why is she so mean to me? Is she just jealous because she likes the same guy?
Q. This girl confessed to me of liking the same guy though he doesn't know and considers her as a friend. The guy and I went on dates though we weren't officially gf/bf. We got into a huge fight and aren't on good terms atm. This girl came up to me and ...
A. 5 July 2011: Well I guess if she confessed to you that she likes him then she must have a crush on him. I guess maybe he went to her as a friend after you and him had a fall out and she got really angry because she likes him and doesn't want to see him hurt. But ... (read in full...)
Condom questions....
Q. hi this is a slightly embarrassing question but I would like to know the answer. I'm a virgin and my girlfriend has been wanting to do it for some time and so do I but something ocurred to me, that I'm a little worried about. Say you are having sex ...
A. 5 July 2011: Well usually when a man reaches orgasm he can't keep going as he goes soft. If it is a case that you feel you can keep going just to be safe remove the condom and put on a new one. ... (read in full...)
I believe he is in love with me as well but is unable to cope with the idea
Q. Writing this has taken some time; so, thank you for giving the time to read and try to comment. Your help is much needed and appreciated. It all started a year ago. I started having a thing for this younger guy (both of us guys) and sensed that he ...
A. 5 July 2011: This is a hard one. He is in denial. He says he is not gay but it is clear that he is. I think he doesn't want to allow himself to fall for a guy because he will then need to face the truth that he is gay. You say he is younger than you and I guess ... (read in full...)
Do you think he could like me?
Q. there was a guy i knew from grammar school and now i am 26..i think a few years ago we may have liked each other..we hung out once to catch up but then i think he wound up in a relationship with another girl from the same school. I met someone as ...
A. 5 July 2011: It is really hard to tell what he is thinking. It does sound like he wanted you there, but he seems to be only interested if you bring friends. However this could be a case that he is trying to set up his friend with a friend of yours so he has time ... (read in full...)
Am I being stalked, and if so, should I move?
Q. Last April my girlfriend and I split amicably after 9 years. The last few had been very rocky. I lived with a friend for a while then, bought a flat which I've been doing up in a very small quiet road. Finally finished it and the garden (which ...
A. 5 July 2011: Try not to let this bother you. It is hard to tell if she done it to get close to you or if it is just s coincidence. But you shouldn't have to move or feel uncomfortable either. If you see her just ignore her. If she tries to speak just make it ... (read in full...)
She told me I'm like a brother and I irritate her! Can I salvage this?
Q. I've been talking to this woman for 6 months or so, what I had intended to be a friendship turned into something more. I started talking to her online and for a while it was fun. After 3 months go by I realized that I was falling in love, after that ...
A. 5 July 2011: It seems that she has underlying issues here. She doesn't like to be touched physically and there must be a reason behind this. Maybe something happened her when she was a child and she can't show her emotions any more. She is cut of from the real ... (read in full...)
I am obsessed with thinking I am a rebound and have been diagnosed with depression....please help!
Q. Hello there. Well firstly I’d like to thank you for reading. So I’ve written asking for help on this subject before and I still don’t know what to do. It is driving me insane. I’ve been with my boyfriend for seven months, but recently I keep ...
A. 4 July 2011: You need to stop this behaviour before you lose him. You are punishing him for his past when it is not his fault. OK yes I am sure that he did love her, but she finished with him and he has moved on now. You know you can love more than one person, ... (read in full...)
Korean girlfriend ends things just when I'm ready to tell her I'll go to Korea with her!
Q. I met this Korean girl a little over a month ago. We started dating, everything was going great. After a couple of weeks she mentioned that she will have to return to Korea in October because her Visa will expire. I thought it over quite a bit...
A. 4 July 2011: Has she tried to contact you yet? I guess really it is her place to contact you now so I don't think you should contact her. She might be feeling embarrassed with herself at the moment. But there is obviously something on her mind or she wouldn't ... (read in full...)
He thinks a relationship will distract him....should I let it go?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm confused. There's this guy who I have known since high school. He apparently liked me back then, even though I had a boyfriend and I hardly noticed him. Fast forward four years...I ran into him through a mutual friend's party th...
A. 4 July 2011: I think it is a bit to soon for an ultimatum if I am truthful. He is obviously unsure about a relationship at the moment, and that is probably because of how busy he is he knows he hasn't got much time to spend with you which is probably not fair on ... (read in full...)
She's hot and cold, and stares at me and then looks away. I don't understand what's going on!!!
Q. Hi ladies. Just got a quick question here. I went on a couple dates with a woman almost a year ago and still see her around often. We basically have only said hi to each other and keep moving when we see each other. She dumped me by the way. Anyway, ...
A. 4 July 2011: Usually when you catch someone staring at you then yes it could mean that she does like you. But to me it sounds like she is playing mind games with you for some reason. Maybe she gets a kick from messing with peoples heads and she just thinks its a ... (read in full...)
How do I last longer?
Q. Hi There, Okay, I'll make this short. Soon I will be having sex for the first time. But my question is how do I 'last' longer? I know when I masturbate I ejaculate fairly soon. But often it varies. Now sex will be A LOT more different t...
A. 4 July 2011: Everybody is different, and a lot of men find that they last longer when having sex than they do when they are masturbating. Really there is no way in telling how long you will last. Next time you are masturbating do it for 15 minutes without ... (read in full...)
Korean girlfriend ends things just when I'm ready to tell her I'll go to Korea with her!
Q. I met this Korean girl a little over a month ago. We started dating, everything was going great. After a couple of weeks she mentioned that she will have to return to Korea in October because her Visa will expire. I thought it over quite a bit...
A. 4 July 2011: Well she was drunk when she spoke to you about this. I wouldn't be to quick to judge what she was saying if she was drunk as she might wake up now and regret it. Wait until she is sober and talk to each other face to face and see what you both want. ... (read in full...)
Partying with my Girlfriend
Q. Im a high school student and ive been with my girlfriend for 4 mouths and im really in to her shes got a sexy body and loves me like me crazy and says she could see us lasting for a long time and says we should have sex soon (and were both vergins) ...
A. 4 July 2011: Well sometimes even though we are in a relationship it is good to go out and socialise with friends without our other half. It is healthy for you both to be going out on your own and enjoying time with your friends. It just sounds like she goes out ... (read in full...)
I'm hopelessly in love with a guy that doesn't love me back
Q. I'm hopelessly I'm love with this guy. He's one of my closet fit friends, even though I don't see him that much anymore. He's like my brother and I'm like his sister. Iv been in love with him for 2 years but he's realy hot so he has girls typifying ...
A. 4 July 2011: You say you are not in his social circle yet he is one of your closest friends? Does he know how you feel about him? I understand that you feel he might never love you back but you will never know until you tell him how you feel about him. The worst ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? Or is it that he's moved into my city and is trying to get familiar with the surroundings?
Q. Hello Cupid! Several months ago, my female cousin phoned me about her friend whose brother needed a friend/tour guide when he moves to Atlanta in June/July. She said he was offered a job and wanted to attend school here while living with thei...
A. 4 July 2011: Well it does sound like he wants to have the friendship progress anyway. He sounds like a very decent man and does seem to genuinely wants to get to know you, which is a great start. However I don't think at this stage you should rush in to anything ... (read in full...)
Does it bother you if you are aware that your husband is seeing another woman for sex, but he will stay in your marriage and take all other responsibilities?
Q. If you are the wife... By reading so many questions /dramas caused by husbands' cheating (on wivies' side and the other women's side), it seems that most husbands cheat for 'sex'. If the sexual ife is not as good as it used to be (e.g., you...
A. 4 July 2011: Personally I wouldn't be happy if I had a husband who was seeing other woman for sex. Yes he may still love me and I have no sex drive. But at the end of the day I don't think I would put up with this even if I had no sex drive at all. I would feel ... (read in full...)
How do I get the man I want and let the other one down gently?
Q. i met this man 4 month ago, he stayed with me for the first week we met then we saw each other at least 3 or 4 times a week, but then he kept asking me if we could be sex budddies. i said no i deserved better and he understood. we didnt speak for 6 ...
A. 4 July 2011: OK well this first man first wanted to be your sex buddy, this alone says he is not to keen on having anything serious. Yes people can change but it sounds to me like he wants something casual and is just not ready for a relationship. You told him ... (read in full...)
I feel ashamed for being so weak! Any tips on how to stop this happening again and progress?
Q. excuse the length but it helps to write this. last night i had a long think about where my life is going and a guy ive known for a while and thought he was a friend isnt. i stupidly thought he loved me as i had strong feelings for him and always ...
A. 4 July 2011: Well you have took the first major step in accepting that he is no good for you. So good on you for that alone. I guess love can make the best of us weak. But don't look back in regret just put it down to experience and learn from it. He is the one ... (read in full...)
How can I fix my trust issues?
Q. Hello I'm in LDR with my bf. We're living really far away and could just meet up like twice a year because of professional reasons. We chat, skype constantly everyday but I have a problem of trust. He told me yesterday that he's tired of me aski...
A. 4 July 2011: What is it that is making you have trust issues with him? Has he ever broke your trust before? If I am honest I don't see you getting any better and that is down to the fact that you may only get to see him twice a year, meaning that for the rest of ... (read in full...)
Half of me says I should stay because I love her, the other half says leave because she's a cheater....what should I do?
Q. So i had been with my current girlfriend for 1 and a half years. we met in senior year of high school fell deeply in love it was great i couldnt tell you how strong my love for her was..i was gonna marry her i was completely commited to her. Then ...
A. 4 July 2011: this is a tough one. It is clear that you both love each other. But I am a firm believer that if you really love someone you will not cheat on them no matter how drunk you are. The way she just ditched you in your dorm and went out with her friends ... (read in full...)
How do I end a 7 month relationship?
Q. How do I ditch my boyfriend? We've been together 7 months, but he's recently started acting different and I think there is another girl but dont want to jump to conlcusions. He hasnt been acting like a boyfriend, he never has time for me, he's alw...
A. 4 July 2011: You just need to be straight with him. Meet up with him and tell him that you just don't think the relationship is working and you want to finish it. Just be honest with him and tell him that's the best thing you can do. Also do it to his face not ... (read in full...)
Does playing hard to get work and how can you do it?
Q. hi all can someone please answer this question does a woman playing hard to get with a man she really likes work and how should i go about it? thanks ...
A. 3 July 2011: Well it all really depends on the guy himself and what kind of personality he has. If he is showing a huge interest in you and you are trying to play hard to get it might come across to him like you are not interested and he might give up. It really ... (read in full...)
His ex-girlfriend sends me messages, should I ignore her??
Q. i havent been with my boyfriend for long but i received messages from his ex saying they were still together, he told me shes obsessive and he would never do that to me. i totally trust him but its still in my mind. what do i do? i dont want to push ...
A. 3 July 2011: This is a tricky one. It could just be an ex who is still in love with him and is jealous now so she is trying to rip the both of you apart. If you have no cause for concern and you trust him well then just ignore her message, this will annoy her ... (read in full...)
I still love him, but should I move on??
Q. Hi there, I was with my boyfriend for 5 months, he was my first proper love and the guy i lost my virginity too and we were head over heels in love however, towards the end we argued all the time and due to his confusion on whether he'd want a f...
A. 3 July 2011: If that is how you are feeling well then be honest with him and tell him, the worst that can happen is that he says no and then you can move on knowing that you tried and you have no regrets. It is always hard to try and be friends with an ex more ... (read in full...)
When men start to like me, I start to dislike them, why??
Q. the moment i get close to a guy and realise they like me back, i start to dislike them and they begin to annoy me. i don't know why, it is starting to really aggrivate me, does anyone else get this? or know why? because i liked them before and it's ...
A. 3 July 2011: It sounds like you get a kick out of being the one to chase a guy and then when you realise that he likes you back you feel the fun is gone and then that's why they start to annoy you. Maybe you get a thrill out of not knowing how things will turn ... (read in full...)
I fell for a teacher, he kissed me, sent me roses daily, I got sick, he moved on, what do I do now??
Q. My name is Alex (I'm a girl). I'm a freshman at highschool. When I started school I saw a very cute guy (he must be about 26) who was a teacher at the school (he isn't really my teacher, he doesn't teach at my classroom). We kinda liked each other, ...
A. 3 July 2011: Before I try and give you some advice can I ask what age are you?... (read in full...)
I am lonely and vulnerable, but should I accept what he brings to the relationship??
Q. I was seeing a guy for 2 years and we got on really well. About 3 months before he started texting my best friend's mate after they met briefly once at a party. I confronted him and he assured me they were just friends. He then broke up with me ...
A. 3 July 2011: I am very sorry to hear about your mother, you must be going through a hard time at the moment and who would blame you, you are still grieving and off course you are going to feel lonely that is only normal.
But sweetie you need to stop meeting ... (read in full...)
He's very shy, how do I get his attention or make him like me??
Q. ok so i like this guy im not much of a player or too much of a flurt, but anywayz i like this guy hez a sorta shy guy and idk if he even likes me anymore and i wanna ask him out later later or him ask me out he alwayz looks at me at church so tht ...
A. 3 July 2011: Well there is nothing that you can do to make someone like you. Just always be yourself, if that is never good enough well then he is not the right guy for you.
OK so he is shy therefore it is highly unlikely that he will pluck up the courage ... (read in full...)
He has completely changed, what should I do??
Q. My story is huge but please, please read it I need help so much!! Im a gay male 19. I met my ex at the most unlikely time, I wasn't looking for anything and didn't really want it. I didn't have a physical attraction to begin with. Im...
A. 3 July 2011: The first thing that you need to do is to go back and get another STI check done. I know that it is probably the last thing that you want to do right now, but don't delay it. He was very careless and you could be the one that ends up suffering ... (read in full...)
My fiancee left me, no contact since, do I try to reach out to her??
Q. My fiancé of 2.5 years broke up with me two months ago. I haven't spoken to her since. She's told me to forget her number and to move on but I really love her and we were just about to move in together. I think her responsevwas out of anger so I ...
A. 3 July 2011: 18 is such a tender age to be thinking about marriage. She is still very young, and even though you say she is the one that wanted it, I'm afraid at that age people tend to change there mind all the time. She was only a teenager when you got engaged ... (read in full...)
How can I advise my lecturer that he needs to stop seeing another student?
Q. Please cupid friends how will i advice this my lecturer that is very close to me that he should stop being in a relationship with his student because they don't respect him any more. Please any advice cos he take me like his daughter, so i want to ...
A. 1 July 2011: He can only make up his own mind, and he is a very silly man for getting in to a relationship with a student in the first place. He could lose his career over that and also the respect of his friends. Talk to him and tell him how dangerous this is. ... (read in full...)
Is it illegal to have gay sex at 16?
Q. Ok, i'm a lesbian and recently i started going out with my best friend, we made out once and we've been on several dates now for about 2 months, but now she wants to take it further, i agreed to do it at hers next weekend, but i was sort of drunk ...
A. 1 July 2011: If you are 16 well then you are at the age of consent therefore it is legal. But taking that to one side you need to be ready. Even if it is legal it doesn't make it right if you are not ready. If your girlfriend loves you well then she will not put ... (read in full...)
Stay, make memories and then be heartbroken? Or break it off and avoid even more heartbreak later?
Q. Im 15, and ive been seeing an 18 year old for the last month, 'seeing' someone is basically seeing how it goes, not in a relationship. the only problem with this is, its been a month and he doesn't talk to me as much as i would like.. and he doenst ...
A. 1 July 2011: You have said yourself he doesn't show much interest in you at the minute. Therefore I think the best thing that you can do now is cut your ties before you end up getting really hurt. He didn't seem to take your feelings in to consideration when he ... (read in full...)
How do I prove to him I'm not going to cheat like his exes?
Q. i met this man in march at first it seemed like he wanted us to be a proper couple i went for a night out with my friends i was texting him while i was out but he seemed like he didnt want me texting him so i stopped and the next day he texted me ...
A. 1 July 2011: Am afraid there is no way that you can prove to him that you are a decent girl. These are his demons not yours and he needs to sort them out himself before he moves in to another relationship. It is not your fault that he is insecure all you can do ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my feelings may be reciprocated?
Q. ok so im bi/lesbian and i think i hve good gaydar you'll understand in a second... ok so i think this girl likes me and wondering if you thought it too heres the evidence shes usually sad and moody and think its bout me coz shell be sitting alone an...
A. 1 July 2011: Well it is quite hard to tell if she likes you or not. Sometimes we see things we want to see, but you could be completely right and she may like you. If you like her well then try and get to know her more. Try being friends first. The more you get ... (read in full...)
Did she blow me off or do I still have a chance later on when she's not busy?
Q. question, so I asked out a female friend of mine that I've had a crush on for a few months. I asked her even though I knew she was working and volunteering this weekend, I just did it anyway. I think subconsciously I just wanted to throw the idea ...
A. 1 July 2011: If am honest with you her reply doesn't really show much hope for you. I understand that she is busy but if she was interested she would have said the next time she was free she would let you know. It sounds to me like she is not interested in you ... (read in full...)
What are the best ways to gently break the news to my Bf that I'm not having this baby?
Q. I need advice on how to break the news to my bf that i want a termination of our pregnancy:( We've been together 9 months, and despite being on the contraceptive pill, i've found out i'm 6 wks pregnant. My bf was initially stunned, but having had ...
A. 1 July 2011: There really is no easy way of telling him this. But this is something that you both need to talk about together and soon. Don't delay it any more, the longer you leave it the harder it will be and the more difficult it will be for him as well. Just ... (read in full...)
How do I start? Are there ways to recognise if the signs are right for it to become a relationship or not?
Q. I don't know how to start relationships. After a few dates I always find I want more. This time I went on a date to the cinema and we chatted after. We are now apparently boyfriend and girlfriend but he has only text me once today (we started bf n ...
A. 1 July 2011: How well do you know this guy? You say you have only been on one date and now you are in a relationship? That is very quick. OK well it is hard to tell if he is interested or not this early on. Maybe he doesn't want to rush things. Everyone is ... (read in full...)
How do I move on into a relationship with him?
Q. my junior i got preg.i moved away from home had my baby boy. his father had "feelings" he said for me but was in another realationship with everyone. i wasnt going to deal with that and after everything he put me thru i lost all those feelings..well ...
A. 1 July 2011: The only thing that you can do here is to talk to him and tell him how you feel. If am honest it sounds like he feels the same way as you so am sure he will be very happy to hear that you still love him and want to be with him. So ring him and tell ... (read in full...)
Guy acts strange around me. Does he like me?
Q. There is a guy at work that comes in on his off days to have meetings with me he tries to get close to my friends and family he looks at me often but he never smiles he also is bothered by any other man getting close to me does he like me ...
A. 1 July 2011: It does sound like he is interested in you. But the only way you will know for certain is if you ask him. Off course you are not going to just ask him straight out, but if you like this bloke well then why not flirt a little with him and show him ... (read in full...)
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