A night of fun or the real deal?
Q. At the end of the school year I ended up going out on the town with a good female friend of mine. Alcohol was involved, and by the end of the night we were sleeping together and making out. When we woke up the next morning, we were both sober and ...
A. 18 May 2011: It will only lead somewhere if it is what you both want. Nobody on here is a mind reader. So just get in contact with this girl and ask her would she like to hang out, take things slowely and see how it goes. Good Luck.... (read in full...)
39 weeks pregnant--can how I sit affect the baby?
Q. i am 39 weeks pregnant. can how i sit affect my unborn baby? i also sleep on my sides and sometimes it seems as if he is on the side that i'm sleeping on am i hurting him? Thanks a lot for your answers....
A. 18 May 2011: Hi well sitting with your back straight is always the best way. Not that it will harm your baby if you slouch but it can be really bad for your back and posture so always try and sit straight, for your own sake, especially now your body is carrying ... (read in full...)
How do I communicate more with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I would like to ask all the kind agony aunts and uncles on how to improve communication with my boyfriend. He just seems so hung up on work. I understand that he will be busy during work, but what got me was that he seems to prefer anything else ...
A. 18 May 2011: You need to talk to your boyfriend about this. The whole point of communication is to tell him exactly how you are feeling. Taking it out on him through anger and a temper will only cause the both of you to fall out with each other.
So talk to ... (read in full...)
Hate myself for feeling jealous at my gf's success
Q. This is gonna sound like I am a jerk but I am gonna be honest because I need help, if you can help. I am dating this girl, she's real pretty and an aspiring actress. I am a regular guy with an office job. I encourage her but truthfully I am ...
A. 18 May 2011: You only feel like this because you are scared of losing her. Its not her that you have the problem with it is your own self confidence. You need to believe in yourself more. You think just because she is doing better for herself that she is going ... (read in full...)
Don't women like to receive oral sex?
Q. Me and my partner are in love for a long long time. The thing is that my partner gives me wonderful blow jobs but when I go down on her vagina to lick it she gets reluctant. She doesnt want me to lick her down. I wanna know the fact - dont girls ...
A. 18 May 2011: Every girl is different and I guess she just doesnt feel comfortable with you giving her oral sex. This is probably to do with her confidence and she cannot let herself relax. Dont pressure her if she doesnt like it well then find something else to ... (read in full...)
I cant stay with her but I can't be away from her either
Q. Hi i am 29 yr old.. i met a girl over internet 2 year back and became close to her . she confessed me about her past relation ,that time her ex bf had ditched her.we became very good friends and spent more time to get to know each other. gradually i ...
A. 12 May 2011: I agree here. She doesnt want to be with you, her heart lies with her ex boyfriend. She was so cold to cut you out just because her ex boyfriend got back in contact and I have a funny feeling this ex of hers is going to keep hurting her and she will ... (read in full...)
I only want to be mates but I think he wants more!
Q. i'm 17 and a guy i really like 19. i only known him a month and met him twice but talk him a lot. last week i was really upset because a family member is terminally ill. and he said i will give you cuddle when see ya but when i saw him 3 days later ...
A. 12 May 2011: Yes he does like you a lot more than a friend. I think you need to be clear to him that you only want friendship and nothing more. Put him straight and let him know that there is no chance that you and him will get together. Dont go back to his flat ... (read in full...)
Why won't ex partner let me move on?
Q. Why wont he let me move on. My problem is my ex partner we were together for 7yrs and had 2 children together, we only lived together a short time and he moved out in july last yr. The problem was i suspected he had a thing going on with his ex. I ...
A. 12 May 2011: I agree you need to put an end to this relationship completely. It should be over for good. He doesnt make you happy anymore, he lies to you, cheats and is violent this is not good and its not good for the children either. If he can be violent to ... (read in full...)
Am I a potential husband or Mr. right now?
Q. I have a question about what i am going through right now. I am about to graduate high school and move to college about an hour and a half away. I am seeing this girl who i dated 3 years then we broke up because of some problems we had but as of a ...
A. 12 May 2011: I agree I think the best thing for you to do is just go along with it for now and see how it develops. Work on it and see if you both can over come your issues. But you are going of to college and its a whole new life out there one that will have ... (read in full...)
What does he want and what should I do? I'm confused...
Q. I have a few questions. It's this guy, he's a few years older, we know each other from football practise and he has never ever shown any sign of intrest utill like a month ago. He asked if i wanted to go eat pizza after practise since both of us...
A. 12 May 2011: Ok well it sounds like he does like you, but I think he just feels like you might be a bit to young for him. This is not a bad thing but I think it is the only thing that is holding him back. I think you should just keep going the way you are and ... (read in full...)
I'm still in contact with ex-bf, but gets me so angry with his flakiness and provocations. How should I handle this??
Q. I've been having trouble with my ex. I broke up with him because he stopped spending time with me. Maybe its the fact he was going to school full time, depressed, unhappy with his life..whatever it is, I broke up thinking itd make me feel better ...
A. 12 May 2011: Sounds like this guy is all over the place at the moment. Hunny if he really wanted you back he would be making more of an effort than he is at the moment. It looks like he is looking for attention from you, possibly because he has low self esteem ... (read in full...)
Idk what to do, help! :( guys could give the best advice
Q. I've had a relationship with a guy for about a year and a half now, we have never actually called eachother " boyfriend, girlfriend" but when him and I are on good terms, he doesn't mess with other girls and I don't mess with other guys. We have ...
A. 12 May 2011: Ok what a mess you have gotten yourself in to. Ok well it is quite obvious that he is scared of commitment, there must be some underlying reason why he doesnt want to commit himself in a relationship, obviously he fears of getting hurt or being tied ... (read in full...)
I like a player. What can I do to get him to like me?
Q. Hey ! (: Whenever I used to go out with my group of friends I used to notice a very pretty guy there... so when we all went out he would look at me and smile , at first we didn't speak very much... UNTIL the last Friday. We were at a friends b...
A. 12 May 2011: No he doesnt like you.As you said he is a player therefore he sees girls as sex objects and nothing more. I really dont see the attraction you have to him ezpecially after him saying that about you to his friends, really you want someone who will ... (read in full...)
I want to be there for both friends, but they are making it hard. Any advice is welcome.
Q. I'm worried about what to do about my two friends. The background info is that last time my friend who I will refer to a 'Beth' had a boyfriend my other friend who I will call 'Cyndi' started sleeping with him at the same time. They both fell o...
A. 12 May 2011: Argh you are caught up i a horrible situation and they shouldnt be involving you it is between the both of them not you. Ok well as for this Beth girl she needs to grow up, she cannot tell you who to talk to and who not to. Next time you see her ... (read in full...)
I'm SO confused about my sexuality it's killing me. Is this normal? What on earth do I do?
Q. I'm 21 and I have come to accept that I am gay. I've had a long term girlfriend before and was sexually attracted to her. But now I'm single I barely see girls as sex objects anymore. I am only attracted to guys. Now, I can't see myself having sex ...
A. 12 May 2011: Are you completely sure that you are gay? I mean it sounds to me like you are trying to convince yourself that you are gay and you do not want this girl, but why fight your feelings? At the end of the day you cannot help how you feel and you should ... (read in full...)
I've been hurt and I'm not sure how to proceed with this new relationship..
Q. Hello everyone. I need quick help with my situation. It might be a little long but your time and attention would be most appreciated. Some background information (I have again and again posted on this site about myself and in my profile too and got ...
A. 12 May 2011: No if she rejects you it does not mean that you ae good for nothing, as you said you are now a confident young man you should not be feeling worthless at the end of the day everyone gets rejected in life, it might not be that there is something ... (read in full...)
I've been hurt and I'm not sure how to proceed with this new relationship..
Q. Hello everyone. I need quick help with my situation. It might be a little long but your time and attention would be most appreciated. Some background information (I have again and again posted on this site about myself and in my profile too and got ...
A. 12 May 2011: Well I am glad to hear that you are confident and in a good place at the moment. But am afraid there is no way of making someone fall for you. It does sound to me like she does think highly of you though which is a great start. I understand your ... (read in full...)
Why act jealous if she just wants to be friends?
Q. this girl i liked said that she didnt like me.....i am kind of getting over her....but i still have a feeling for her and its hard to get over it but im trying. Things were getting very awkward between us when she found out that i liked her....she ...
A. 12 May 2011: Well I think that she enjoyed the attention you gave her when you liked her. Honestly I dont think she feels the same way about you, but I do think she is put out a bit now that you dont show her the same attention as you used to. If being frien... (read in full...)
How often should I contact my LDR?
Q. Hi I'm in a long distance relationship we have been together for about a month now, but as we are both students and she has heavy studys for uni right now we can't meet up till the summer, but I'm just wondering how often should I text her, as I ...
A. 12 May 2011: Just be straight forward with her, tell her that you know she is busy at the moment and you dont want to be anoying her therefore just ask her straight out how often should you call or text her so that it can fit in with her life style. Am sure that ... (read in full...)
He has urges and wants me to let him go through with them!
Q. My boyfriend and I have a very satisfying sex life and I was surprised when he began asking about threesomes and open relationship. What irks me about this is that this only started when we met a friend through a friend, and she happened to be ...
A. 12 May 2011: How horrible for you. What an awful situation to be in I feel very sorry for you. This guy doesnt seem to care about your feelings at all or about your self confidence. I will give him credit for being open and honest with you though because not ... (read in full...)
My Girl suddenly broke up with me. And I don't even know WHY?
Q. Hey Everybody, i'm Ryan, Im only 16 years old. I'm so upset right now. I know it's a little awkward asking you guys for some help. I don't know what's going on between Us. I've been with this girl for 1 year and 3 months. IN our 6 months...
A. 12 May 2011: No dont fight for her the more you contact her the more you will push her away believe me. She has clearly asked for you to give her space and this is what you must do if there is any chance that this can be saved you need to listen to her and ... (read in full...)
How do we get my husband's 14 year old daughter on the right track?
Q. My husband and his ex wife just found out that theyre 14yr old daughter has been ditching school,smoking weed and having sex w/ a 18 yr old.When all this came to light I finally spoke out letting them know how this lil girl has no manners bad ...
A. 12 May 2011: Well her mother is right she is just being a teenager who is rebelling. Was she spoilt when she was growing up? I guess there is no quick fix to this problem with her but I think the best thing that can be done is for her mother and father to both ... (read in full...)
We broke up but I think we both want to get back together
Q. Okay so my boyfriend and I broke up 3weeks ago, he recently wrote to me expressing how much he missed and loved me but had no intentions of doing anything about it. He's starting a new job and a course so hes busy and that is why he can't be in a ...
A. 12 May 2011: I dont think that you should call him. In fact I think the best thing that you did do was unfriend him. Being friends with an ex is never easy and you want him back so it is just not going to work. He has said clearly to you that even though he ... (read in full...)
Everything has to be perfect for my wife to have sex!
Q. My wife is only open to having sex once between day 5 and 8 of her cycle. Everything has to be perfect. The house has to be empty. We have three teenagers that are in and out of our house constantly so that doesn’t happen very often. It can’t be ...
A. 12 May 2011: If she has been like this for the entire marriage without any change well then things arent going to start changing now. You both need to get to the bottom of her issues. I'm not surprised that you are starting to lose your erections. This is not ... (read in full...)
Something is missing..
Q. What can I say? I was seeing this guy over the past 9months. We have been on and off a couple of times..and all in all we possible saw each others as much as 15times in all that time (we were living 1h away, both with long working times and ...
A. 12 May 2011: Honestly my opinion is that he was never going to end up with you. He wont commit to you therefore he never will be yours. This man is a bit of a player and likes variety in life. He is not going to settle down with one woman because he likes the ... (read in full...)
I just wish he loved me the way that I love him
Q. I know i'm pretty young to be in a long term full on relationship, i also know alot things that everybody i know tells me. But thats not the problem, the problem for me is that my mind is telling me not to be with the guy who cheats on me,and ...
A. 12 May 2011: Off course it is hard to accept that a relationship is over, but sweetie if he was cheating on you and not treating you right well then believe me you are better off without him. You deserve better than that. It takes time to mend a broken heart. ... (read in full...)
I don't know if it's really over or if there's still a chance
Q. my boyfriend and i split up about a week and im finding it so hard. all i seem to be doing is crying and if im not crying im thinking there is still a chance. we have split in the past and have got back together but dont see how we can this time...
A. 12 May 2011: Stop the contact completely. He is not giving you a straight answer and everytime you ask him he ignores the subject completely. This is not a good sign and its not fair of him when he knows that you are still wanting him back. It is time that you ... (read in full...)
I lost my ambition since I met my partner, and don't know what to do anymore! Suggestions?
Q. I would appreciate any advice that you could give me. I am in a dilemma. I am coming towards the end of my first year as a PhD student and I left a job I enjoyed (very people orientated) and I find the research itself a bit boring and I cant get ...
A. 12 May 2011: Personally I would advice you doing whatever it is that makes you happy. I understand that you used to be very ambitious but now things are dying down. If you are not happy studying at the moment and this job sounds like something you really want to ... (read in full...)
Man in a womans body, but where do I start if I want to change gender?
Q. ive known that my gender and my sex didnt match since i was a toddler and now ive come to realize that i could be ftm (female to male transgender).i want to start transitioning asap but i dont know where to start.how do i come out to my family,how ...
A. 12 May 2011: I take it you have really thought this through when you know you want to be a woman, and good for you, its not an easy descision to make at all. But you need to be really prepared for how your family are going to react. Because it will be a huge ... (read in full...)
My husband is buying a flat and puts it in his name. If he dies, who will get it, me or his son?
Q. I have question about the law in Europe ( Germany ). I'm come from Asia but married to a German. My husband wants to buy a flat here in Germany. He said he will put the flat only to his name. But he said he will make also another paper that when he ...
A. 12 May 2011: If your husband writes out a will asking that the flat is left to you, well then it will be, unless his son contests the will which could also happen. If it is really worrying you that much I think you should ask your husband what his reasons are ... (read in full...)
Why does he text me like this if just wants be mates?
Q. 'm 16 and this guy is 18.i have only known him for a week. i met him through one of my other friends and met last monday and i had the mate wi me. we got on okay but he thougt i was very shy.we didnt text for bout 3 days and then he text me and we ...
A. 8 May 2011: It could be hard to tell. Are your sure your mate is telling you the truth? Could it be that she likes him as well and thats why she said that to you. Im unsure if he likes you or not but be careful that he is not just looking for one thing from ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to say during foreplay
Q. Hey, I have this problem when getting it on with my bf. When we make out and initiate foreplay, I get really quiet and don't know what to say. Also I think I'm shy of doing things, despite the fact that I am confident to say what I'd do to him wh...
A. 8 May 2011: Anyone can be confident over texts because you are hiding behind a phone. I guess you just need to build up your confidence. Let him tell you what he wants and the more he praises you I guess the more confident you will get. Just remember practice ... (read in full...)
A confused feeling left after being cheated on
Q. the question is for one of my friends. her husband cheated on her with her best friends, the didn't have sex, just flirting and sex talk, he told her to take more care about her appearance and she started to dress and put make up and he used to c...
A. 8 May 2011: Well i guess he never phyically cheated on her, it was just emotionally so I guess it has left her feeling now that she needs to make more of an effort and please him more sexually. I guess she probably knows deep down that they didnt have much of a ... (read in full...)
What does it mean if I move on quickly from guys?
Q. What does it mean if I move on from guys quickly? Like a guy i really really like, could hurt my feelings and make me feel worthless. But i wont get upset over it, i just think i'm not going to let them get to me. Or if it doesn't work out...
A. 8 May 2011: Everybody is different and no it doesnt mean that you are cold hearted. I think you have some block up though that you never let yourself truly fall for someone as then you wont get hurt in the process. Did you have a happy upbringing and are your ... (read in full...)
Need advice to cope with emotions during a 'break'...
Q. Me and my bf are on a break for a while (a month) and I am really struggling with it. It's only been a week, but we are still talking and texting and he tells me that he loves me still. Things have been tough for a while and although i thnik it's a ...
A. 8 May 2011: Ok well first off I do think that taking a break can really help relationships, especially if there is a needy person because it makes them value there partner more. But Hunny the break is not going to work if you are both still in contact with each ... (read in full...)
How do I gently dissuade this guy from forming any stronger feelings for me?
Q. I need some help please. There is a guy that I am quite friendly with, (to be perfectly honest it is more of a pity based friendship on my part - I feel sorry for him) and he has dropped several hints that he LIKES me and has even mentione...
A. 8 May 2011: The only thing that you can do is be completely honest with him and tell him nothing is ever going to happen between the both of you and that he is your friend but he will never be anything more than that. I know it can be a hard thing to do but you ... (read in full...)
I love my best friend but he likes my sister...and its mutual! What can I do to get over him?
Q. Hi. I have this friend, he's my best "guy friend", who means a lot to me. We have always gotten along perfectly. A year ago, I realized I liked him as more than a friend, and I thought, and still think about him every single day. Recently though, I ...
A. 8 May 2011: I honestly think the best thing you can do is be honest with yourself. You wont be able to get over him if you see him all the time and if he is your friend. So I honestly think that the best thing you can do is to tell him the truth and also tell ... (read in full...)
Late replies......
Q. My ex boyfriend and I got back into contact recently.When he came back on holidays, we hanged out twice. Once just the two of us and the other time with a friend.My feelings for him is still raw. I dont think he still loves me.We just hanged out as ...
A. 8 May 2011: I know it is hard but you just need to accept that it is over, tell yourself over and over again that you are never going to get back with him, no buts or maybes you just need to keep telling yourself it is not going to happen. Once you have ... (read in full...)
Is he really having doubts about everything?
Q. Hello, I just have a quick wee question; one time during an argument, my bf said to me that he has doubts with us as he feels like whatever he does, it never makes me happy ... after the argument i questioned this and asked if he meant it, he said ...
A. 6 May 2011: I think most people have doubts in relationships from time to time, it is just there mind wandering off and asking themselves if they are in the right relationship. Obviously when you both argue or disagree on things there will be doubts and also if ... (read in full...)
She keeps running from me to her ex!
Q. This is a long story but i need peoples feedback because i don't know what to do :( Right so i met this girl out one night and we kissed, she was completely drunk but the next week I saw her again and we started talking and she seemed really ni...
A. 5 May 2011: I'm sorry but she was never interested in you. You where the rebound guy. She got with you and then as soon as her ex clicked his fingers she went running, and dropped you as soon as he said he wanted to get back with her, this shows that she still ... (read in full...)
I don't get treated to anything at all!
Q. My man doesn't take me out! We've been together a good five months, and he's never taken me for a meal, or anything of the sort. We've been for a few picnics and days out, but usually accompanied my his friends! I feel like I can't ask him to...
A. 5 May 2011: The only thing that you can do is show him what you want. Sometimes hinting to men about what you want falls on deaf ears, so why dont you suggest something. Instead of doing the same things all the time with his friends why dont you suggest to him ... (read in full...)
Late replies......
Q. My ex boyfriend and I got back into contact recently.When he came back on holidays, we hanged out twice. Once just the two of us and the other time with a friend.My feelings for him is still raw. I dont think he still loves me.We just hanged out as ...
A. 4 May 2011: Maybe he knows that you still have feelings for him and he is ignoring you because he just doesnt feel the same way. It is probably him trying to be kind to you in his own way so that you dont think he is leading you on. Sweetie you really need to ... (read in full...)
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