Why do I only get a boner half of the time we want to have sex?
Q. People I have a biiig problem. Me and my gf have been together for 3 months now and we were both eachtother first time. The sex couldnt be any better ... but lately half of the time when we want to have sex I either don't get a boner from the s...
A. 18 June 2011: Sometimes worrying about it though will be causing your problems. Try and stay relaxed and just see what happens dont put pressure on yourself just take things slowly. ... (read in full...)
Do you think it will be possible to pursue her romantically when I get back?
Q. I've just managed to get out of a potentially awful situation, but it's still a big worry for me so any help would be great. I got the dreaded "I like you a lot as a friend, but there's no spark between us" comment from a girl I've been crushi...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi giving what you have wrote no I dont think that it is impossible to get back to it being flirty. But if I am honest it is probably the best thing you can do is leave for three months because it will clear your head up completely and you can come ... (read in full...)
Would it be a fools hope to think the relationship could be salvaged after 8 years of not being together?
Q. Well I never thought i'd be lowering my standard to ask complete strangers outside of my own circle for an outsiders opinion but current circumstances contact with my own family is irregular and well majority of my closest peers aren't sound for ...
A. 14 June 2011: No I don't think that you would be mad to believe that it can be fixed. You where both very young back then and had a lot of stuff throwing at you to deal with. You also had her mother interfering and trouble from welfare so its no surprise the both ... (read in full...)
How do I stop overthinking everything?
Q. at the moment my ex boyfriend and i are working things out to give it another shot. we were together for about two years and then decided to go on a break and that just turned into a break up. we have been seperated for about 9 months now. i can ...
A. 14 June 2011: It is only natural to over think, if you have been hurt by him and the trust is gone well then it can be hard to come back from that. But I understand from what you wrote that there is nothing else that you want more. Just keep taking things slowly ... (read in full...)
Should I text him in a week and ask for a meet?
Q. The guy I dated all of a sudden told me he got scared and needed time. He said he is very very attracted to me, loves hanging out with me. Honestly i don't get it. We had very good chemistry. We only dated for a month and didn't have sex.. He said ...
A. 14 June 2011: I actually think the best thing for you to do is to let him come to you. He has explained he is not wanting any more at the moment even though he is interested in you. My guess is this is because he is moving away soon plus he is in the middle of ... (read in full...)
Did he like me for who I am, or only for my pictures?
Q. I joined a social site and it's not for dating or anything. I thought it would just be for fun and to see what it's like. I eventually met this guy I like. I realize now I should have told him right away. The girl I used is Beautiful like 10 or 11 ...
A. 14 June 2011: No sweetie it is not a good idea. Even if he did like you more than just looks you have broke his trust now and he is not going to believe any word that you say any more. See that's the worst about social networking sites people can pretend to be ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my gay friend how I feel about him?
Q. i'm in love with my best friend. he's gay. i've tried everything but i just can't get over the feelings i have for him. i want to be with him so badly. my friend thinks he has feelings for me too. he says things that make me think he does. should i ...
A. 14 June 2011: Well hunny if he is completely gay then I really dont see how this would benefit you by telling him. Yes you probably do feel like he has feelings for you because he probably loves you to bits as a friend and wants you to be a big part of his life, ... (read in full...)
How to tell a woman she has hurt me, without hurting her feelings?
Q. I need some advice people! Some may have followed my questions here for a few months, there is a woman I like, we started off great, then she became very very quiet for the last 4 months. I did try to contact her a lot, phone-email-text-letter you ...
A. 14 June 2011: To me it sounds like she just simply does not want to contact you. Am sorry but I really don't think she is interested in keeping up contact. Talk to her if you wish and tell her that you have felt hurt by her rejection but that you also know that ... (read in full...)
Why do I only get a boner half of the time we want to have sex?
Q. People I have a biiig problem. Me and my gf have been together for 3 months now and we were both eachtother first time. The sex couldnt be any better ... but lately half of the time when we want to have sex I either don't get a boner from the s...
A. 14 June 2011: Are you under any stress with other parts of your life or are you tired or drained? There could be lots of different reasons. Are you worrying about it? This could also effect it. Do you have a healthy life style? If it keeps going and becomes a ... (read in full...)
Have I hooked up with too many guys?
Q. I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...
A. 14 June 2011: There is obviously an underlying reason why you are asking this question. At the end of the day everybody is different and everyone has different life styles. I wouldn't try and judge yourself or allow anybody else to judge yourself. Just make sure ... (read in full...)
I love him so much, but his heart is somewhere else...Help
Q. I met this man 7 months ago at my job. and we have been seeing each other since mid december. We are in a relationship as well. Everything went great, going out to dinners, spending time at his place, watching movies, the simple things..I live with ...
A. 10 June 2011: Off course your going to be upset this is a huge thing to deal with. If am honest with you after 7 months of being together if he is not over his ex well then I think maybe it would be best for you both to have a break so he can sort out his head. ... (read in full...)
He went to a concert with a girl he used to have a crush on, and then lied about it! If she is just a friend, why would he lie?
Q. First of all thank you for your advise. I've dated my bf for 2 years and he proposed. Due to work I ended up traveling abroad for work for 6 months. Meanwhile there were 3 huge concerts on our hometown, he went to all of them and told me he was g...
A. 10 June 2011: Yes I think that you should confront him. It could be true that she is only a friend and he lies to you because he feels you might get anoyed. But it doesnt make up for him lying to you. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. It is very hard to ... (read in full...)
Is this normal?
Q. Im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m me and my boyfriend were fooling around last night, im a virgin and im about as innocent as they get...meaning before last night i hadnt even had a guy finger me or anything. The furtherest id ever been before...
A. 10 June 2011: Yes it can be normal to feel the urge to pee when you are not used to being touched down there, it will go away eventually once you are more relaxed. Just ask your boyfriend to put plenty of lubricant on his finger and make sure that you relax. ... (read in full...)
What does this dream mean please?
Q. What do you think this means? i was so in love:)? All my life every guy that I get involve with breaks my heart and leaves me. But am a nice girl with a good heart. Loyal, honest, caring, loving. Friendly, cheerful. My recent ex bf ch...
A. 9 June 2011: Sweetie you have been hurt from your ex and him being horrible to you in your dream is just letting out your feelings, you are disappointed in him for betraying your trust. As for the part where some handsome guy comes in, well this is what you want ... (read in full...)
He never wanted to be more than friends with me, and now he has a girlfriend I feel jealous and sad.
Q. I have this friend who was flirting with me for quite a long time, during which he has two girlfriends in different times and all end up breaking up. Complicated as it is, clearly we are attracted to each other. Recently we went out once and I asked ...
A. 8 June 2011: I guess as hard as it is you need to accept that he likes you as a person and a friend but doesnt look at you as a potential girlfriend. Please dont take that the wrong way and think there is something wrong with you, its just you are obviously not ... (read in full...)
I still miss my ex and I am supposed to be meeting my new LDR boyfriend soon!
Q. It’s been 9 months and i still miss my long distance boyfriend… .i miss everything we had..i miss how it used to be..how he was my best friend and love in the same person..i miss the emotional closeness we had, i miss the care and understanding..i...
A. 8 June 2011: Ok well hunny if you are still missing your last boyfriend that badly well then it is clear you are not over him, and in that case I dont think it is a new idea meeting this new guy and being in another relationship. I really think you need to take ... (read in full...)
Should I check he doesn't have regrets?
Q. Me and my bf broke up about 3 weeks ago, to cut a long story short he didnt know what he wanted and i gave him 4 days to think about things and he still didnt know what he wanted. He was just generally confused, he lacks confidence at times and i ...
A. 5 June 2011: No its not up to you to check to see if he has made the right choice. Give him the space he needs. Don't contact him allow him time to get his head straight and let him contact you. I know it is probably a hard time for you but try and stay patient ... (read in full...)
How to kiss a shorter guy?
Q. How do you kiss a guy shorter than you without making it akward. He is 5ft 5" and I am 5ft 11"....
A. 5 June 2011: Try sitting down instead of standing up, it shouldn't be awkward at all. ... (read in full...)
What does 'mxm' mean?
Q. does any 1 have an idea what a guy means by 'mxm' cause my bf wount tell me and i realy realy wantto know ...
A. 5 June 2011: I think he pretty much just meant yeah whatever! ... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain to me why she would follow and watch me like that?
Q. Okay so I broke up with my girlfriend a few weeks ago, haven't seen or talked to her since, I find it better this way, easier to move on. But last night I was out with friends, and one of them told me she was sitting right outside. I do not feel ...
A. 4 June 2011: Well you may not believe it is coincidence but how would she know exactly what places you are going to, does she have a connection to you where she would know where you are going to?
Anyway taking that to one side and assuming that she is followin... (read in full...)
Is this a trust issue or just PMS?
Q. I need help my girlfriend always thinks wrong. Today i woke up and called her but she wasn't picking up so I kept calling then she finally answered and she was mad because she thought I was talking to another girl because I called her late. Now she ...
A. 4 June 2011: If she only behaves like this around her period well then yes I guess it is PMT. I guess the only thing that you can do is reassure her that you are not talking to other girls and just keep reassuring her. However when she is not PMTing you should ... (read in full...)
She's fine, but I'd kinda rather be single
Q. Hey guys need some help here, me and my gf have been together for about 2 months but I dont know if I should stay with her. I mean I like being in a relationship but I also miss being single. There is nothing wrong with her and she is my first real ...
A. 4 June 2011: Well kiddo if you want to be single well then you should be single. I guess its a part of growing up, finding yourself and experimenting with relationships. Just be honest with her and tell her that you don't want to hurt her and that you still like ... (read in full...)
I want a guy with drive and ambition -- and he's not looking like that guy
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years (on and off). I have never cheated on him, nor i never would. I would never lie to him either. We met in high school when I was 15 and he was 17. When I first met him, he seemed like the character that would ...
A. 4 June 2011: You know what honey, the one huge side effect of smoking weed is paranoia and this is so obvious what your boyfriend has. He is paranoid that you are getting of with your male friends he is probably paranoid that you are going to leave him and that ... (read in full...)
What does 'mxm' mean?
Q. does any 1 have an idea what a guy means by 'mxm' cause my bf wount tell me and i realy realy wantto know ...
A. 4 June 2011: Yes this is used in text messages but it is not actually all that common, when someone says MXM on a message it usually means the clicking of a persons tongue to show attitude. To explain it a little bit better if you say to your boyfriend for ... (read in full...)
I'm scared they're going to think I'm a slut or easy!
Q. I feel like a slut because in drama class these guys I was sitting next to were feeling on my boobs I kinda like it but I kept on her my friend voice in my head telling me to stop so I said do go in there like my shirt but if one did it the other ...
A. 4 June 2011: Hunny you need to respect your body more. Yes you may like the fell of someone touching your boobs, that is normal, but a guy has to work a little harder than that to touch you up. Actually when someone touches you intimately without your permission ... (read in full...)
Come on, sister, get your own life!
Q. i've been married for a long time now and have 1 huge complaint about my husbands sister. Honestly, she calls him at least 10-12 times everyday and I find it extremely annoying and would love to tell her so; i have dropped hints by the tone in my ...
A. 4 June 2011: A word off warning for you, they are blood. Brother and sister relationships can be very strong and he obviously doesn't see any trouble with her ringing him so much so he doesn't see what the big deal is. Obviously it is effecting you and yes she ... (read in full...)
Hold in my emotions or let them out?
Q. Lets say something happened to you, something that frustrates you, eats you inside, fills you with anger and makes you so upset... Do you think it is better to keep how you really feel to yourself. So that you can deal with it in your time, or le...
A. 4 June 2011: Nope your wrong. Am afraid your friend is right and you should listen to them. I know exactly where you are coming from though, yes pretend everything is ok that you are ok and eventually you will forget about this thing that has happened and how it ... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't use facebook or her phone. How does she do it?
Q. I find it very strange that my best friend doesn't have facebook and hardly uses her mobile!? She's 18 so it's werid enough she doesn't have facebook, but the other day i realized she isn't a fan of using her phone either!?? It just is VERY rare of ...
A. 4 June 2011: Well believe it or not it is actually quite common not to like facebook, i personally know a handful of teenagers who actually hate facebook and just dont want to have an account, same with there phone. Dont worry that there is anything wrong with ... (read in full...)
I'm really fond of her. How do I go about this without losing our friendship?
Q. I am 18 and interested in a girl who has joined our friendship group [the same age]. She is quite flirty, especially the second time we all went out together, where she was keen to dance get quite close. Nothing has happened, although I pecked her ...
A. 4 June 2011: Exactly, plus the longer you leave it the more you will be stressed and worried and there is really no point to that at all. So go for it and let us no how you get on. Good Luck!!... (read in full...)
I'm trying to move on from this girl, by seeing her friend. She found out and now she won't talk to me!
Q. I need to know if I am being a jerk her or not. So I been and exchange student for a year and after I came back home I started to have feeling for my female best friend. She had a boyfriend of 1 year at that time. I wanted to surpress my f...
A. 4 June 2011: Yes she has a boyfriend but my guess is she loved the attention that she got from you. She enjoyed the excitement of you touching her and someone else other than her boyfriend wanting her. She teased you a little bit by saying she wanted to have sex ... (read in full...)
I read that sex without a condom increases risk of cervical cancer. Is this true?
Q. My boyfriend and I have sex without a condom. We were both virgins when we met and I'm on the Pill so there's no risk of STD's or pregnancy. However, I was reading my pamphlet for the Pill and at one point it said sex without a condom increases the ...
A. 4 June 2011: I agree with Cerberus here. Unless you both have never had any sexual contact with anybody else then you could still have a slight chance of getting an STI. Lots of people get STI's from oral sex. Honestly if you dont want to use condoms in a ... (read in full...)
My friends children are spoiled and misbehave all the time! How can I get her to see that this isn't normal?
Q. Parents out there please help!!! I need some advice so I can help my friend with her children who are a nightmare! I don't have children myself so I apologise in advance if I offend anyone . My friend has 2 children- a 10 year old girl a...
A. 4 June 2011: This is a really touchy subject. I know that you are only trying to look out for your friend by telling her that her children are spoilt and need to be disciplined but you have already hinted this to her and in her life it is completely normal for ... (read in full...)
Help! I've lost my motivation in life. How can I get it back?
Q. hey, my life is falling apart and i nothing is helping. i only have a part time job and although i am greatful that i got a job, i never have enough money. due to this im losing all my friends as they go out and do things and i cant because i n...
A. 4 June 2011: You need to take control of your own life, nobody else will do that for you. You are full of negative excuses as to why you are stuck moping around the house. But sweetie if you want something so bad you can make it happen. The sky is your limit and ... (read in full...)
Found a lump in my right breast, but I'm too scared to go to the doctor!
Q. i know this might seem a bit weird, but iv noticed a lumb in my right breast, at first i just ignored it as i thought it may just be beacuse i lost weight and they are changing, but know i am a bit worried. i am to scared and ashamed to tell ...
A. 4 June 2011: I completely understand why you are scared, it is only natural to try and hide something and pretend that it doesnt exist. Its so much easier if you try to forget about it. But hunny you really need to get this checked out. I know it might not be ... (read in full...)
I love my guy but we fight a lot and he doesn't seem to care. What should I do?
Q. HI....its wid great pain i type this..my guy and me are in love since a yr and quarter and for recent months we are in frequent fights about him being so careless to me.i talked a lot several times to him but nothin changed.problem is he seems ...
A. 4 June 2011: Well it is healthy for a guy to spend time with his friends just as much as his girlfriend. You are still young and you have gone past the honeymoon stage of your relationship. I guess he just likes relaxing with his friends but he still needs to ... (read in full...)
I'm really fond of her. How do I go about this without losing our friendship?
Q. I am 18 and interested in a girl who has joined our friendship group [the same age]. She is quite flirty, especially the second time we all went out together, where she was keen to dance get quite close. Nothing has happened, although I pecked her ...
A. 4 June 2011: Well I agree to a certain point with Dear Mandy, some people are really just natural flirts and don't mean for people to pick up the wrong signals. But I don't think you should wait a few weeks, I don't see the point in waiting around. At the end of ... (read in full...)
Do you think I can tell her I love her?
Q. I love a girl in the university, but there are a lot of friends around and she is known to has a lot of lovers .. Some time ago i spoke to her for the first time and asked her to re-dye her hair red as it was before and after about a week almost d...
A. 3 June 2011: No I honestly don't think it is a good idea to tell this girl that you love her. It will probably scare her and it will make her run a mile, probably the complete opposite of what you want. You need to try and take things slower. Ask her out on a ... (read in full...)
How do I start a conversation with a girl on facebook that I've not met properly but have a huge crush on her?
Q. There's this girl that I've not properly met but i added her on facebook after a party over a year ago.. I started talking to her on it a few months ago rarely and I really like her. I've got a massive crush on her but because I've never actually ...
A. 3 June 2011: I'm sorry but I don't understand your question you are asking how to talk to this girl on-line but then you are saying you both get on really well on-line. You are kind of contradicting yourself there a little bit.
I guess if you want to keep in ... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly shift his attention to this girl in our group?
Q. This gentleman and his wife are my close friends. We hang out together along with a few other friends. But there is a girl in our social group that he does not seems to have a lot in common with. He ignores her and does not engage in her ...
A. 3 June 2011: I agree only he knows the answer to this nobody else can answer your question. Yes there is obviously a reason why he has changed his attitude towards her, so why not just ask him and see what he says. That's the only way your question will be ... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly shift his attention to this girl in our group?
Q. This gentleman and his wife are my close friends. We hang out together along with a few other friends. But there is a girl in our social group that he does not seems to have a lot in common with. He ignores her and does not engage in her ...
A. 3 June 2011: There could be 1000 different explanations as to why his behaviour has changed towards this girl, but really does it matter to you why he is more friendly to her now? I mean should it effect you that he is now showing her more attention?... (read in full...)
I want to have sex and my husband has no sex drive
Q. I have been married for just under 10 years (Age 40.) We have 2 kids, 5 and 1 years. When we were dating and before kids I was always sexually satisfied even though my husband has ALWAYS had a hard time maintaining an erection. If he's the slightest ...
A. 3 June 2011: Off course you must be frustrated, a big part of a healthy marriage or relationship is the physical side to it. I really don't know what to advice you hear because it sounds like he is not going to listen to you either way. There is obviously an ... (read in full...)
How long does it take to find someone new after a breakup?
Q. I'm in my 20's and just ended a long term relationship with my live in boyfriend. I'm so heart broken. He was my first love. Will I ever find love again? How long does it usually take to find someone new? ...
A. 3 June 2011: Well there is no set time to find someone new. Everybody is different. But really at the moment you should not be thinking about someone else instead you need to give yourself time to accept the break up and heal your heart. Believe me you cannot ... (read in full...)
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