He doesn't trust me and I don't know what to do about it?
Q. Ok, so I feel like I have a little dilemma here. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now. We have known who each other was for over 10 years now, but ran into each other again last year and started dating. We are both divorced, ...
A. 26 June 2011: It is really unfair of him to treat you like this as you are left hanging around not knowing what is going to happen or where your future is going. I believe that he may need space to sort out his head but it is unfair of him dropping by every now ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex (who is now just my friend) that I still have feelings for him?
Q. Should I tell my ex (who is now my friend) that I still have feelings for him? So my long distance ( a few hours drive) boyfriend of 7 months, broke up with me about 2 months ago. He really had no reason, except that “he’s not ready for a girl...
A. 26 June 2011: If am honest with you it does sound to me like he wants you as a friend and nothing more. But I guess it is worth a try to be honest with him and tell him exactly how you feel. Next time you see him just tell him you want to talk to him about ... (read in full...)
Is he being genuine?
Q. Earlier asked question I am 23 years old and have a 23 months old daughter with a lad i was with for nearly 4 years. Sadly my grandad died of cancer 11 weeks ago and i have been grieving for him a lot. Me and my boyfriend split up on the same day...
A. 23 June 2011: It does sound like he is being genuine. OK so yes he has made a few mistakes but hey everybody does and it sounds like he regrets saying the things he did. I think things will be a lot easier for you when you settle in to your own home and start an ... (read in full...)
Mystery text: how do I convince her I'm telling the truth?
Q. Please I need help my gf thinks I'm cheating when I'm not it happened today she is at Florida and I am texting her then she receives text under my name but saying something I never ever texted even in a different way of spelling which is not my ...
A. 23 June 2011: If it shows that it is from your number well then it must have been sent. Did you leave your phone unattended at any minute at all? Could someone else have sent it from your phone. If you had your phone the whole day and you know that it really ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for me to fix this?
Q. To keep it short: my fiancé and I broke up about a month ago after an argument. We have spoken once in person since. One nighti sent her a text saying " I just want you to know, no matter how you may feel, I thought about you and it made me ...
A. 23 June 2011: No please don't contact her. I no exactly how you feel believe me and off course you want to keep trying until you are blue in the face but this will only push her further away and make her angry at you and she will never want to know. It is her ... (read in full...)
Told my boyfriend I'm pregnant, is he exited?
Q. Hi i posted a question here yesterday about should i tell my boyfriend im pregnant i did today just to re-cap im 10 weeks pregnant have a 4 year old son he takes care of my son as if it was his own child. I didn't plan on having this baby at all and ...
A. 23 June 2011: Yes he has been brilliant with your first child and he is not even his own son, that shows a lot on its own. Obviously you have issues from your past and now they are starting to show again because you are pregnant. I completely understand that but ... (read in full...)
I hate her, she loves... Now what do I do?
Q. Hi I used to like this girl but after a cuple of incidents i fell out with her and began to resent her and hate her it was like having your heart crushed and squeshed everytime I saw her most of my friens were beging to whisper that i was becom...
A. 23 June 2011: If you really dislike this girl well then there is no point forcing yourself to be friendly. Look back on the past and ask yourself what made this girl such a good friend and then look back to the time she hurt you and how you felt, ask yourself do ... (read in full...)
My ex is getting in the way of a potential relationship with my crush, what should I do?
Q. Hello, I'm 18, and 'm confused. Recently, I had a crush on this junior(J) . However, we are not that close and I don't know how to approach him about it. It doesn't help that my ex boyfriend (X), who's 3 years my senior wants to get back togethe...
A. 23 June 2011: Why don't you pluck up the courage and tell J exactly how you feel. If he rejects you well at least you know where you stand and you can move forward with your life. As for X well he needs to be told firmly that you are not interested any more. Have ... (read in full...)
I am invisible in her life outside of our relationship
Q. If you have been dating someone 4 months and they have never mentioned your name once in all that time. She has talked about things we did but instead of we she put I did this. I am learning to golf. I spent my b day with my girlfriends. No mention ...
A. 23 June 2011: It does sound like she doesn't want people to know that you are both seeing each other. It might just be a case that she feels it is early days and wants to keep it between the both of you until she is sure that it is going to work out. Tell her how ... (read in full...)
What do men think if a woman asks them out?
Q. Question for the guys; what do you think of girls asking guys out first? It's just that there's this guy in the year above me at 6th form (he's 18, going to university soon, I'm 17). He's most definitely the cocky confident type but I think he's sli...
A. 23 June 2011: I know that am not a man, but I have plenty of male friends who I know love the fact that a girl would pluck up the courage to ask them out no matter what there age are, age is just a number so that is not important. It shows them that a girl has ... (read in full...)
He stopped texting, what's going on?
Q. I met this guy at a gig a couple of weeks ago and we really really hit it off that night but the thing is that we live miles apart with a small stretch of water between us and hes 26 and im 18, we have been texting non stop for a week and he ...
A. 23 June 2011: You need to stop texting him so much as you might scare him off a bit. Wait for him to text you. It could be a possibility that he has realised that nothing will ever happen between the both of you because of the distance. Just give it a week or two ... (read in full...)
Does he still want to be involved with his ex?
Q. What if your boyfriend keeps liking the facebook status of his ex-girlfriend knowing that the status is for him? Does it mean he isnt over his ex and still likes her??...
A. 23 June 2011: It is really hard to tell, maybe he still likes her as a friend. Are they still in contact? Maybe talk to him because only he has the answer.... (read in full...)
Ex-boyfriend advice!
Q. Ok- so my ex and i have been broken up for about 9 months. In these 9 months, (and up til about 3 weeks ago) he's done a lot to get back with me, but i was really not ready. I feel like now i am ready andi want to give it anothet try. He is ...
A. 23 June 2011: Yes I do believe that he still has those feelings. But he has tried for so long now that he has probably given up and now when he has stopped trying you come to him which is going to leave him extremely confused, and really can you blame him. I ... (read in full...)
Why did he write to me again???
Q. My ex boyfriend dumped me for a girl he spoke to online, who lives in America, who he has never met in person. My ex and I live in England. We were together on and off for six years. I haven't contacted him for six weeks ( we've been broken up for ...
A. 23 June 2011: Honestly it sounds like this guy is bad news and I think that you are best to completely avoid him and don't bother contacting him again. It is clear that he doesn't care much about you because if he did he would not have left you for a girl he was ... (read in full...)
What is going on that he wont say?
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up about a week ago. On Saturday he was kinda mean and said we argue and fight too much and he's just done. I am confused because he keeps calling me and says he wants to be friends. If he wants to break up don't they ...
A. 23 June 2011: It's hard to tell what he is thinking at the moment, if he was fed up with the arguing well then it could just be possible that he doesn't see you both having a future together but that he wants to be in your life as a friend. It sounds like he does ... (read in full...)
How do I prepare for this family life after my wedding?
Q. Please i really need advice most especially frm the married ones. Am planning for my marriage soon, but wat is giving me sleepless nite is that afta marriage we will be staying in a family house, were all his sisters nd brothers are stayin and the ...
A. 23 June 2011: This is a tricky situation. I am a firm believer that after you get married to somebody you both need to spend some quality time alone together. Is there no other place that you can go to other than the family home? Could you both not maybe rent out ... (read in full...)
How do I react when I see her again and we come face-to-face?
Q. I used to be best friends with this girl and we had a very good chemistry, i used to care for her very much. i fell for her, and came open with it, but she was in an other relationship at that time. we were friends for some time after that but we ...
A. 23 June 2011: You just need to try and remain calm, I know that it can be hard and you don't want any awkward situations but your friend was right you need to show her that you don't care and her presence does not affect you. Therefore if you do see her in ... (read in full...)
He spends money on me but doess't ask for sex or even a kiss. Is this true love?
Q. Me and my guy have being dating for six months now. But he has never a day ask for sex or a kiss,but what surprise me is that he spent money on me very well and always beg me not to try to leave him for another guy,except i want him to stay without ...
A. 23 June 2011: You shouldn't have to think about testing him at the end of the day if he tells you he loves you well then you should believe him and not question it. But him spending money on you doesn't mean love as money can not buy love and happiness. You have ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I'm not ready for sex yet and want to wait?
Q. my bf and i are both 15 and virgins and he wants to be a dad so bad, he said the first time we do it he wants to get me pregnant, and i dont want to have a kid till im in my late 20s and i kind of want to wait to even do it. how can i tellm him i ...
A. 23 June 2011: No you don't need to break up with him but you do need to be completely honest and straight with him so that he knows where he stands. Just be straight with him and tell him. The next time you are both alone together tell him you want to talk to him ... (read in full...)
Is he flirting?
Q. I recently started a new job. One of my co-workers has been over the top nice to me, making jokes, and continuously touching my shoulder or back which makes me uncomfortable. Since I'm more shy, I find it difficult to look him in the eye, but he ...
A. 23 June 2011: I am sorry to hear that you are feeling uncomfortable. It is hard to tell without knowing this man if he is just being friendly or if he wants more. But to save yourself embarrassed I wouldn't say anything to him just in case he is just being ... (read in full...)
My husband can't seem to ejaculate during oral. Is there something we can do?
Q. My husband can't seem to ejaculate during oral. As I've researched this it seems like it's a pretty common problem, but the reasons seems to be it's not enough or oral isn't done long enough. I have never timed myself, but I know I have gotten him ...
A. 23 June 2011: I don't really think there is much that you can do some men just don't reach orgasm through oral sex. While you are giving oral sex just make sure you use your hands plenty as well as your mouth probably on its own is just not enough. as am sure you ... (read in full...)
Should I call him back and tell him I have the same feelings for him? He thinks I rejected him!
Q. Ok so im best friends with a man. we met in work and became so close, We told each other everything he was almost like a brother to me! He is a single father of two children. We went on a date last weekend with his children it was really fun and ...
A. 23 June 2011: Yes call him straight away and tell him you are sorry that you never said anything the other night that you where just shocked because you never knew he felt that way and tell him you feel the same. Sometimes being friends before getting in to a ... (read in full...)
Sudden lack of interest...
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been inlove with this guy for 5 years. He said he loved me and he said that he meant it. We have been keeping in touch through the chat (messenger), telephone and writing (for 5 years). I do not get to spend a lot of ti...
A. 21 June 2011: Exactly you have to look out for yourself and look after your own needs and feelings.... (read in full...)
The guy I like told my friend he likes her. How do I get over him?
Q. I have a guy at my school that I like and my friend likes him too, and she didn't know that I like him as well. So today I heard my best friend say my friend that likes him go up to the person I like and say that she likes him and he says that he ...
A. 18 June 2011: Hunny you will get over him a promise. I know that it is hard at the moment and that you will feel jealous when you see him and your friend together. But just try and keep your distance from him. Keep yourself busy with other friends and school work ... (read in full...)
Does this Shy Girl like me? She already knows I like her
Q. I like a shy girl but dont know if she feels the same. I have found that the girl is only very shy, nervous and uncomfortable around me while she is ok with other boys and also talks to them but not with me ( Maybe because of Shyness ). She also get ...
A. 18 June 2011: Well there is obviously a reason why she feels so uncomfortable around you. It could be a case that she feels nervous because she knows you like her, but by the sounds of it I would say that she does like you she just doesn't know how to talk to ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like my ex is trying to patch things up?
Q. So, my ex and I broke up about a few weeks ago for various reasons. In the end, us breaking up was kind of a combined effort so neither of us can blame the other saying 'You ended it' or 'This is your fault'. We've kept contact all througho...
A. 18 June 2011: Yes it does really sound like he is trying to patch things up, by the sounds of things I really don't see any reason why you both should not be together. Therefore talk to him ask to meet up with him and tell him how you feel. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I don't want her back, but I still miss her a lot.
Q. My ex girlfriend broke up with me a little over 2 months ago after dating for 2 yrs...At first, we decided to stay best friends but then a month later,she started dating someone else and I couldnt handle it, so I told her that we shouldnt talk to ...
A. 18 June 2011: Keep going with the no contact rule, its the best way believe me. Give yourself more time to get over her, two months really is not that long of a time to heal, give yourself more time and just don't talk to her. Give yourself more time. Keep ... (read in full...)
He's lied to me before, but now he wants me back.
Q. My ex-boyfriend want me back. I'm 15 years old and he is 26. We met online 2 years back. We started dating when I was 14. After some months he started ignoring me. When we talked last time he told me that his parents are looking girl for him. I was ...
A. 18 June 2011: No I don't think that you should go back to him. He is so much older than you and you are still not legally an adult. He will only mess with your head and probably try and talk to other girls on line behind your back. He is a liar and you cannot ... (read in full...)
I hate feeling clingy and needy and I am struggling with confidence issues
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for 4.5 months. To begin with, he's 19, and I'm 28, but the age difference has never really been something that got in the way. For the first 3-4 months, things were amazing and we were texting 20-40 times a day, see...
A. 18 June 2011: You need to try and get the chase back in to the relationship. You need to try and get independant and not contact him as much let him do some of the work. Start on things by arranging to go out with friends and get a good social life outside of the ... (read in full...)
Sudden lack of interest...
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been inlove with this guy for 5 years. He said he loved me and he said that he meant it. We have been keeping in touch through the chat (messenger), telephone and writing (for 5 years). I do not get to spend a lot of ti...
A. 18 June 2011: I dont think he is looking for a serious relationship at the moment therefore I think you should cut your ties now and lose the contact. If you dont you may end up getting more hurt. Talk to him face to face and ask him what he wants and make sure ... (read in full...)
My mother in law has more say in my marriage than I do, and he hits me@
Q. I really need some atwise. my mother inlaw has a say basicly about everything in my marriage. Well i wanted to do something for fathersday because my husband is a new daddy. I told her we are going to be at at home and im preparing a suprise for him ...
A. 18 June 2011: I think you need to get out of this marriage. He treats you like dirt and I think his whole family just see you as a slave and use you. I think you need to get away from that or you will never be happy. I know it is scary thinking on being a single ... (read in full...)
I'm almost sure that I suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder.Does anyone else experience something like this? Or does anyone have any advice as to how I can calm myself down and prevent it from getting out of hand?
Q. Dear all, I haven't been officially diagnosed, but I'm 99% sure that I suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder. On top of this, I think I have a pretty obsessive personality and I really don't like change. As a result, I end up losing control of mysel...
A. 18 June 2011: I think the best thing that you can do is to go to your doctor to ask for advice and what you should do. I am sure they can give you tips on how to relax in these situations. Another good thing would be to go to a hynotherapist. They can teach you ... (read in full...)
Why does he have to maintain his individualism and separate me from his life or his family?
Q. My boyfriend is stationed at another state. Every weekend, he would drive 35 miles to meet me. He sometimes would come to visit her sister here who's in college now. Why would he rather spend his time alone in the shopping mall, instead of asking me ...
A. 18 June 2011: Does his family know about you? Have you both been together for a long time? Maybe he just likes to keep things separate. Or maybe he is just not ready for you to meet his family yet. I guess he is the only person that can answer this, if it is ... (read in full...)
Why do I only get a boner half of the time we want to have sex?
Q. People I have a biiig problem. Me and my gf have been together for 3 months now and we were both eachtother first time. The sex couldnt be any better ... but lately half of the time when we want to have sex I either don't get a boner from the s...
A. 18 June 2011: Sometimes worrying about it though will be causing your problems. Try and stay relaxed and just see what happens dont put pressure on yourself just take things slowly. ... (read in full...)
My pregnant partner seems to have broken up with me over a lost phone! Surely this cant be the real reason?
Q. im 34 and my x partner now for 3 weeks, has after 4 years of a rocky relationship, though very loving when its just us. We have a 2 and half year old daughter together who we love deeply, and a boy each from our previous relationships, her boy 6 ...
A. 17 June 2011: OK have you ever stolen anything in the past? Ever had any suspicious behaviour at all that would make her think that you would steal her phone? Can you get jealous at times with her and accuse her off doing things with other men behind your back? ... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to bleed?
Q. Hi I would like to seek some advice. My bf and I had intercourse for the first time. We're both virgins. But I did not bleed. I thought virgins are supposed to bleed on their first time. Is it normal?...
A. 17 June 2011: Look everybody is different, some people bleed others dont. It doesnt mean that there is anything wrong with you. The bleed is usually caused by a little tear of the skin. But some girls tear this when they are younger without realising, maybe doing ... (read in full...)
First time, split condom, could I be pregnant?
Q. i'm freaking out, i had sex for the first time this weekend and the condom split. how much chance is there that i'm pregnant? i'm on the pill, he hadn't ejaulated yet, and there was no pre-cum because he had ejaculated before we had sex. do i...
A. 16 June 2011: If he never ejaculated well then there is no way that you can be pregnant, even if there was some pre come believe me this wouldn't be enough to make you pregnant. Plus if you are taking your pill on a regular basis daily and don't skip them well ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to time my leaving of the abusive relationship to have the least impact on my kids
Q. I have been with my fiancee for just over 6 years, 5 of which have been abusive. No, he does not hit me or physically harm me in any way, but he is controlling, degrading, insecure, jealous and a host of other things. My two children (ages 9 and ...
A. 16 June 2011: Well done, and yes you will all be more than OK it will be a new start for you and your children, make the most of it. ... (read in full...)
It worries me that I have such a hard time meeting men
Q. Hi there. I'm currently 23 and still in college. I'll be graduating, hopefully, next year. Right now school has been really busy and there hasn't been much time to expand my social circle. There are practically no extracurricular activities where I ...
A. 16 June 2011: Really you may think that this is not normal but believe me for many people it is. Obviously your life is dragging you on another direction and you are over thinking about meeting men, believe me good things comes to those who wait and also it seems ... (read in full...)
I've been without my ex for almost as long as I was with her. Why do I still think about her?
Q. I went through a break up just under four months ago with a girl at university. I was in my final year, she in her first. As much as we were in love and our relationship was intense, it only lasted four months. Our break up was circumstantial in ...
A. 14 June 2011: I guess it is because you just didnt want it to end and you knew deep down she didnt either that she done it because she didnt want to mess up your plans. You know she done it for you and I guess deep down somewhere you might keep thinking that it ... (read in full...)
Do you think it will be possible to pursue her romantically when I get back?
Q. I've just managed to get out of a potentially awful situation, but it's still a big worry for me so any help would be great. I got the dreaded "I like you a lot as a friend, but there's no spark between us" comment from a girl I've been crushi...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi giving what you have wrote no I dont think that it is impossible to get back to it being flirty. But if I am honest it is probably the best thing you can do is leave for three months because it will clear your head up completely and you can come ... (read in full...)
Why do I only get a boner half of the time we want to have sex?
Q. People I have a biiig problem. Me and my gf have been together for 3 months now and we were both eachtother first time. The sex couldnt be any better ... but lately half of the time when we want to have sex I either don't get a boner from the s...
A. 14 June 2011: Are you under any stress with other parts of your life or are you tired or drained? There could be lots of different reasons. Are you worrying about it? This could also effect it. Do you have a healthy life style? If it keeps going and becomes a ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to time my leaving of the abusive relationship to have the least impact on my kids
Q. I have been with my fiancee for just over 6 years, 5 of which have been abusive. No, he does not hit me or physically harm me in any way, but he is controlling, degrading, insecure, jealous and a host of other things. My two children (ages 9 and ...
A. 5 March 2011: First off can i say i admire you for looking out for your children so much, you should give yourself credit for that. I guess my advise would be if you think you can handle staying until the school year is finished then it would be the best way so ... (read in full...)
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