Guy acts strange around me. Does he like me?
Q. There is a guy at work that comes in on his off days to have meetings with me he tries to get close to my friends and family he looks at me often but he never smiles he also is bothered by any other man getting close to me does he like me ...
A. 1 July 2011: It does sound like he is interested in you. But the only way you will know for certain is if you ask him. Off course you are not going to just ask him straight out, but if you like this bloke well then why not flirt a little with him and show him ... (read in full...)
My husband is critical, threatens to leave our extended family and I don't work and now feel trapped. What can I do?
Q. My husband and I have been together for 22 years. He is very critical of just about everything I do. He tells me he loves me and wants to do everything with me. He is constantly accusing me of having affairs. We are a blended family with 5 children, ...
A. 1 July 2011: Just ask yourself are you truly happy? Off course you are not, you sound miserable and depressed. He needs to get out of your life, either that or you will live the rest of your days unhappy. Tell him you both need a break. He needs to see that you ... (read in full...)
Should I send my ex a text to show him I care or leave the ball in his court?
Q. Ok... so i dated my ex for 2 years and i broke up with him about 10 months ago. Throughout the past 9 months, he's been trying to get back with me, but i didn't think it was something i wanted. I recently saw him out with his 2 friends- one of ...
A. 30 June 2011: First off can I ask why you broke up with him in the first place? There must have been some reason that made you finish with him, now whatever that reason was are you sure that it is completely ressolved and that it wont creep back up on you when ... (read in full...)
After 7 years of online friendship we are going to meet, but now I am worried!
Q. I've been talking to a guy online for 7 years, we'll call him Adam we talked pretty much constantly, I had a boyfriend for 5 of the years and I have a 11 month old little boy, me and my boyfriend split up because of problems between us and his anger ...
A. 30 June 2011: This is quite a risky one to be honest. Well he did say he would move which is great. But as you said yourself he is a flirt. You met him on line but you are probably one of many girls that he spends his time talking to on line. You need to be ... (read in full...)
To threesome or not to threesome...mature answers only please!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years now. Recently, we've hit a few rough patches and I'm trying to spice up and revive our relationship. One of his fantasies is to have a threesome with a woman that neither one of us ...
A. 30 June 2011: If you want my honest opinion well then it is not to do it. It is never a good idea to introduce a third person in to a relationship. It will just make things worse believe me. You said yourself you are going through a few rough patches and believe ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship work if both of you alienate your entire family?
Q. One question....Can a relationship survive/work if you alienate your entire family on both sides?? Anyone been in the situation where you have been in a relationship and your entire family are against you?...
A. 30 June 2011: It can be very difficult to abandon both of your families and start somewhere else fresh. You only get one family and off course it is hard to wash your hands of them. It may happen that you both end up resenting each other for it. Think serious ... (read in full...)
The past is ruining our future, how can I leave the past behind me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in a great relationship for five years with my boyfriend. I love him a lot, and most of the time things are really good between us. Unfortunately, we've had a long distance relationship because he moved back to Argentin...
A. 30 June 2011: You are not being immature. It is completely normal to have trust issues and feel insecure once someone has cheated on you. He is the one that needs to earn your trust back. I'm glad that he done the right thing though and told you that he had been ... (read in full...)
This is not your typical FWB situation... I'm in desperate need of advice and insight.
Q. Well, it all started a few years ago when I met this guy. We became instant friends and we have been really close ever since we met. Since we met we have almost been inseperable. Sure, we've had our fall outs, but what longterm friendship wouldn't? ...
A. 30 June 2011: Well it sounds to me like he does care deeply about you, but it is not fair how he is treating his girlfriends by sleeping with you as well. You need to be careful and make sure that you are being safe, because there is a risk of catching an STI ... (read in full...)
How do I stop from always fighting?
Q. DEAR CUPID and everyone else, I've been with my boyfriend for two years now and things are going great I love him with everything but he sometimes does alot of stupid things that really irk me for example he was suppose to meet me and said he was ...
A. 30 June 2011: Well he obviously has faults as well or else you wouldn't be fighting with him. I guess you both need to meet down the middle somewhere. What he done by lying to you was obviously going to hurt you. He needs to start by being completely honest with ... (read in full...)
My inlaws hate me I've never done anything to them, what can I do?
Q. Since I found out my SIL is moving closer to us my anxiety is outta control. We moved states away from the Inls and I was so relieved for years. My Inls hate me they do not do anything for our son. My husband has stood his ground to these people ...
A. 30 June 2011: I guess they have taking a spite to you for whatever reason and there is nothing that anyone says that will change there mind. But your husband is right here am afraid. They are his family. You need to see it from his point of view, I understand ... (read in full...)
Should I send online boyfriend poem? Or wait till we meet?
Q. Hi, I met this guy a year ago online on a dating website. We're getting along so well. We are from the same country but he lives abroad! So we have the same cultural background and everything. At the beginning he used to call more than once each d...
A. 30 June 2011: I take it the both of you have never spoke to each other about the future, as you do not know if he has plans to come over and meet you. A year of talking is quite a long time. I am surprised the future has never came up in conversation. I think you ... (read in full...)
She doesn't believe that she's beauiful! Should I ask her out?
Q. hi i'm 16 and i am a lesbian, and i am friends with a girl who is also a lesbian (she told me) She is beautiful but doesn't belive me when i tell her, slim, athletic, smart funny and really nice, And she just got dumped by her ex, and she is really ...
A. 30 June 2011: I don't see a problem why you shouldn't. But you said yourself that she has just been dumped by her ex. Did she love her ex. You need to talk to her about it. Because you don't want to be the rebound and she may not be ready to move on. But tell her ... (read in full...)
I allowed an out of town friend to stay at my house and now my boyfriend doesn't trust me!
Q. My friends, am back again yet with another issue, what happened last saturday is something i did without thinking and i didnt now the outcome,we were having drinks with my boyfriend and two of his friends and one of his friend brought another ...
A. 30 June 2011: Well actually he is the one that has the problem here not you, if he cannot trust you well then that is his problem. You were completely honest with him and told him straight away that this guy slept in your house, you didn't hide anything from him ... (read in full...)
Huge strain on our relationship because BF still talks to his ex and I don't know what to do about it.
Q. Hi my name is Mila, I am in a relationship and I am not sure what to do. In January I started talking to a guy in my college, I had seen him before but did not think much of it. After the first day of talking to him he seemed like a good guy ...
A. 30 June 2011: To be honest the excuses he used to you to keep in touch with his ex is excuses that most men use when the want to get out of trouble with there girlfriend. Don't fall for it, you sound like a smart girl so stop letting him treat you like this. You ... (read in full...)
Daughter takes back abusive BF - Why?
Q. I have twin 21 yr old children, Jordan and Jessica. Jordan has been friends with "Luke" since they were kids. I always liked "Luke", he seemed like a good kid. lasy year he started dating my daughter and I was fine with it, until I seen how this ...
A. 30 June 2011: Off course you are going to be extremely angry and upset at this Luke guy for hurting your daughter. It is only natural and you have every right to be concerned for her welfare. When a guy lifts his hand to a girl or even vice versa well then it is ... (read in full...)
Girl in to more guys every day - what do I do?
Q. I'm currently "in love" with a girl I met a few weeks ago. she currently has a boyfriend but she is about to break up the relationship. but she is afraid of throwing away the time they spend together. now she says so also really likes me ("loves"...
A. 30 June 2011: You need to be very careful with this girl. As you said she is currently in a relationship yet she likes you and also another guy. To me this sounds like a girl who is very mixed up and cannot make up her mind about what she wants. It sounds to me ... (read in full...)
Looks or personality?
Q. Hello, would you say looks is more important than personality? I have had this boy who has been asking me out for the last week or so, i didnt no what to say because to me he is not very good looking at all, and looks realy matters to me! But his ...
A. 30 June 2011: Sweetie you really shouldn't judge people by the way that they look. As you said he has a great personality. True you need to be attracted to somebody if you are going to be in a relationship with them. But there really is no harm in meeting up with ... (read in full...)
Has anybody else dealt with feelings of resentment? What did you do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years. I travel a lot for work, and for the last few months when I return from a trip, instead of enjoying each other's company after the long break, we seem to just be arguing. I think the troubl...
A. 29 June 2011: You have everything spot on. Just let go off all the baggage and when you are feeling stressed out about things either talk to your dad or avoid your boyfriend. Your dad's advice was spot on. Time to let go of the past and look forward to a happy ... (read in full...)
Has anybody else dealt with feelings of resentment? What did you do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years. I travel a lot for work, and for the last few months when I return from a trip, instead of enjoying each other's company after the long break, we seem to just be arguing. I think the troubl...
A. 28 June 2011: It sounds to me like you do love and care about your boyfriend and it would be a real shame to end a relationship just because of your resentment and off course a bit of distance. The distance will be hard but by the sounds of it you both are doing ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is suffering from PTSD and won't seek professional help, any suggestions?
Q. My boyfriend is a Marine and worked in Bosnia back in 1999 as a "peacekeeper". He's 33 now and is still having some issues...he can't go into cities, he still carries a gun on him, and he has horrible nightmares time to time. I'm the only person h...
A. 28 June 2011: It must be very hard for you to deal with this, especially when he will not accept that he needs help with it. Most men are the same they are in denial and they think that if they keep brushing it under the carpet it will go away. He is in denial ... (read in full...)
My good friend is into my fiancé, I think he loves her. What should I do?
Q. I think my good friend is in love with my fiance for a number of reasons : 1. We went out as a group for her birthday and he bought her drinks and they were talking most of the night ( they both speak french) then when it came to leaving and goin...
A. 28 June 2011: Well it does sound from what you have wrote that he is interested in her. But if he is a good friend well then am pretty sure he wont act on his feelings. However if it is bothering you I guess the only thing that you can do is have a chat with him ... (read in full...)
Cheating on my girlfriend was a mistake, but this other woman wont leave me alone! What should I do?
Q. I decided to stop masturbating then I started cheating on my girlfriend. I have a girlfriend of 3 years now she lives far away from me and we cannot have sex as often as we want. There is a girl next door whom I slept with two times, this new girl ...
A. 28 June 2011: OK so we all make mistakes in life, and at least you now know that you have made a mistake with this other girl. You just need to tell her firmly that you made a mistake and that you love your girlfriend and don't want anything more to do with her. ... (read in full...)
Is uni worth it or should I quit and live life like my brother?
Q. I have a question about university and the point of it, because I'm a first year, just finished my first semester and I'm studying for a Bachelor of Arts, majoring in history. Lately it just seems that, for starters, if I did get my degree then ...
A. 28 June 2011: Personally I feel that yes uni is worth it. If you are confused about where your course can lead you to well am sure there is a career guidance counsellor at your uni where they will talk through options for you. I know that it seems hard at the ... (read in full...)
Will he take me back or is he playing mind games?
Q. Do you think my ex and i will get back together? Okay so we have been broke up for a month went 2 weeks or so no contact but we are talking again . The first week of the break up i was stupid and BEGGED for him to take me back .. He didnt . But ...
A. 28 June 2011: He actually kind of contradicted himself with what he said. If am honest no I don't think you should keep trying because it will come across as desperate and it will just push him further away. I don't think he wants you to try and get back with ... (read in full...)
Intimidated by my teacher
Q. My chemistry teacher makes fun of me. Constantly. He treats me like I'm incompetent, dangerous in practical lessons, or otherwise stupid and inferior to the other people in my class. Only I get this treatment. He apparently doesn't realise ...
A. 28 June 2011: How awful you poor girl. You shouldn't have to put up with this from a teacher and it has to stop. I bet deep down he doesn't even mean to cause you upset and probably thinks you take everything as a joke. But you don't and he needs to remember that ... (read in full...)
He still wants to see me even though we made a huge mistake !
Q. Me and a guy friend from school used to have a causal thing, when we were both single. We'd meet up and sometimes sleep together. I stupidly ended up liking him more than i should, like these things tend to happen. Anyway, that ended and he got...
A. 28 June 2011: I think the best thing that you can do is to avoid him. It does sound like he cares about you. But he is now in a relationship and so are you and I really don't think staying friends would be the best situation because I really don't think that you ... (read in full...)
Dumped me because I'm poor, now she's moved on, should i?
Q. I have seen my ex-girl friend recently and she was smiling and happy in her life, whereas I am still struggling to get over her. She dumped me 8 months back as she thought I was too poor guy financially to propose her officially as she belonged to ...
A. 28 June 2011: If she really loved you well then she would not have broken up with you just because you are not rich. Love means so much more than money in life but she obviously didn't see that. She sounds like she is quite stuck up and looks down at people who ... (read in full...)
Were married, I don't want her meeting up with him !
Q. Back in April I caught my wife texting a friend of hers in ways I did not think were appropriate. They were arranging to meet for dinner and drinks without me knowing, for instance. I sat her down and asked her what the deal was. She told me that...
A. 28 June 2011: OK I understand that you are worried that this man has feelings for your wife. I don't blame you for this but do you trust your wife? If you do well then let her have this platonic friendship with this guy. But it does sound like she is trying to ... (read in full...)
Loving my vibrator, am I a nympho ?
Q. Okay so im starting to ask myself if im a sex addict because I want sex all the time, anywhere. I do have a boyfriend and I only have sex with him, I don't cheat. But anyway, every single time im home alone or almost everynight I use my vibrator. ...
A. 28 June 2011: Hi well if I were you I wouldn't panic about it and think there is something wrong with you. It is just obvious that you have a high sex drive and there really is nothing wrong with that. You are not harming anyone so don't worry about it. It would ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried by his behaviour when he is back in his home town?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about three months now. We're in a long distance relationship but we see each other fairly often, usually for weekends. I have just spent two weeks with him (he came to my town and lived in my apartment for that ...
A. 28 June 2011: You could try talking to him. You say you never see him using his phone to keep in contact with people. Therefore it could just be a case that he doesn't like text messaging or ringing people. You should ask him about this though because it is ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to tell me?
Q. ok, so theres this guy who ive liked for 2 yrs now. We talked we hung out and then it seem like he fell off the face of the earth. Then about 5 months ago we ended up hanging out with mutal friends and he was telling strangers i was his wife, but we ...
A. 27 June 2011: OK well it could be possible that this man likes you as a friend and wants to be there for you for that reason. But I guess your feelings run deeper than that. It could be a case as well that he does like you but that he is scared to take the plunge ... (read in full...)
I think he thinks I hate him or something
Q. So last winter break, by chance, my friend and I ended up hanging out together for a whole day. We really got to know each other and I mean, I had always had a tiny crush on him so things moved fairly quickly, but it was the worst timing. The next ...
A. 26 June 2011: Don't put all the blame on to yourself am sure some of his behaviour did show that he was only interested in one thing. Even though he didn't get anything from you it would still make you wonder was he just wanting to use you.
I think the best... (read in full...)
I hate his family like they hate me!
Q. hi. im abou to moan abou tmy boyfriends family cos im so nice like they are too me :) basically me and my boyfriend have been going out for ages and he has 2 sisters and a brother. his brother is fine i guess its just his finace! my boyf...
A. 26 June 2011: OK so they are obsessed with her more than you, but maybe they like you as well it just might be a thing that they look up to her like a big sister figure or something like that. Just try and keep back and not allow it to get to you. Just remain ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend is a girl, and I feel jealous when they hang out!
Q. My boyfriend's best friend is a girl. She's a good friend of mine and really nice and we're pretty close. I don't want to, but every time he hangs out with her (which is like everyday) I get jealous. Recently, I've been on a 9 day trip and every day ...
A. 26 June 2011: Off course you don't like feeling jealous. But I do understand where you are coming from it must be hard for you when you know that she did used to like him and now she is available again. I think what you both need is to spend some quality time ... (read in full...)
I hate his family like they hate me!
Q. hi. im abou to moan abou tmy boyfriends family cos im so nice like they are too me :) basically me and my boyfriend have been going out for ages and he has 2 sisters and a brother. his brother is fine i guess its just his finace! my boyf...
A. 26 June 2011: I don't think you should let it bother you that they seem to like his brothers fiancée more. Don't let it get you down. Maybe if you made more of an effort with his two sisters then they would do the same. Have you spoke to your boyfriend about how ... (read in full...)
I never think about my girlfriend sexually any more!
Q. I'm 21 and bisexual and I have a girlfriend of 1 year, she's 25. She is my first lesbian relationship and at the beginning it was perfect. Things are still good now, I love her more than ive ever loved anyone, and I love spending time with her but ...
A. 26 June 2011: When you look at her are you sexually attracted to her? Is it possible that you love her more like a friend other than a lover. There could be loads of reasons why you have went off her sexually. Maybe there is just a dip in your sex drive at the ... (read in full...)
I just found out my ex cheated, but I'm still in love!
Q. me and my girlfriend were dating for 3 years. i found out that she liked and was talking to this kid she was going to college with. i freaked out and we broke up. 3 weeks later she started dating him. now were talking again after 8 months and ...
A. 26 June 2011: I think it would be very hard for you to trust this girl again if you got back with her. You need to have a proper talk with her and ask her how she feels. It sounds to me like she likes this other guy and has no intentions of leaving him for you. ... (read in full...)
She tells me she was seeing another guy for the week we were broken up!
Q. my girlfriend keep breaking up with me and saying she cant do this anymore but then a week later she come back to me and then tells me she was seeing another guy for that week we were broken up i dont know what to do i lover but i dont think she ...
A. 26 June 2011: It sounds to me like she has both you and this other guy in her life and she doesn't know which one of you she wants to be with. This is very selfish of her. Tell her she needs to make her mind up soon or else you are walking out of her life. As she ... (read in full...)
He packed up and moved out without an explanation!
Q. my boyfriend of almost 3 years packed up all his stuff and moved out while i was at work, then called me after he had already moved out, supposidly he is living with a guy from his work but he didn't really tell me much except that he loved me but ...
A. 26 June 2011: He packed and left you while you were out at work because he is a coward and couldn't handle telling you to your face that he was leaving. He just didn't have the courage for that, which makes him not a very nice person in one sense as he didn't ... (read in full...)
Calling while he's traveling? Just being a guy, or not into me?
Q. He's away on business - he doesn't call unless asked. Does that mean he's not into me? We've been dating exclusively 7 months. He rarely emails or texts me. Communication really isn't his thing. But when we're together he's wonderful! Should I be ...
A. 26 June 2011: Well when he is away in business is he away for long periods of time and is it often? If you feel that it is a problem for you well then talk to him about it. Everyone handles these situations differently and it really does just depend on you as a ... (read in full...)
He doesn't trust me and I don't know what to do about it?
Q. Ok, so I feel like I have a little dilemma here. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now. We have known who each other was for over 10 years now, but ran into each other again last year and started dating. We are both divorced, ...
A. 26 June 2011: It is really unfair of him to treat you like this as you are left hanging around not knowing what is going to happen or where your future is going. I believe that he may need space to sort out his head but it is unfair of him dropping by every now ... (read in full...)
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