How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 24 November 2011: If she lands at your door again don't answer it, just ignore it, if she threatening you then call the police, just do not let her in or communicate with her. Because if you do she will not give up because she knows that she is winning. ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 23 November 2011: Well the posts on here are obviously not helping you no matter how much you try to pretend that they are. You have been advised to break contact with her and you are still talking to her, you are under her thumb again without realising it. Soon she ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 20 November 2011: Am sorry but I really think that you are making the wrong choice here, she is not good for you, no matter what you say to try and convince yourself she is not, who knows she might be lying about all this to get you back. Do not be a fool any more, ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 16 November 2011: Seriously all she is doing is making empty threats to you, because she believes she can scare you in to getting back with her. You need to seriously ignore this woman she is dangerous. You need to phone up your telephone service and block her number ... (read in full...)
Is my ex only using me while he tries and gets back with his ex wife? Should I get rid of him now or wait and see?
Q. My ex partner to whom I have a child has recently broken up with his wife and has come running back to me in order to reinstate a relationship that was never completely finished because he left to marry her. However, during his marriage of about 4 ...
A. 16 November 2011: Well I think that says it all about what kind of man he is, he is a user and doesn't care about anyone but himself. At least your son has you in his life. He does not need his father if he is going to treat him like that. You are doing the right ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 16 November 2011: Find the strength within you. Yes it is hard to ignore someone that you love, but remember that you are doing it for the RIGHT reasons. She sounds manipulative and unstable. She is using empty threats now because she does not know any other way to ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 15 November 2011: I understand that it will be hard, but look at the way she is treating you, you are unwell and she still does not care. Tell her mother to inform her that if she does not return your car you will report it stolen. Don't mess around this needs to be ... (read in full...)
Why does this man act this way and chose to ignore this woman?
Q. There is this man in who sometimes leads my group. Recently, after stating at the beginning of the meeting that he expects all must participate and give a lot of comments by raising their hands, chose to not allow a certain female whom he often ...
A. 15 November 2011: If all of you as a group have noticed this problem with him well then maybe a few should take him to one side and ask him why he is doing this. It is unfair behaviour on his part because he is singling this girl out and ignoring her opinion like it ... (read in full...)
I was a jerk and treated her badly but I can't stop thinking of her!
Q. i don't know what to do i just movied to the city and started at a new school i started dating this girl and after 2 month i became a real jerk to here started making fun of fun they next school year she never showed up know i am older i realized ...
A. 15 November 2011: Sometimes we learn from our mistakes. If you loved her you would not have made fun of her and hurt her feelings. What else was it you done to her to make you such a jerk. It is good to hear that you feel more growing up now and you are sorry for ... (read in full...)
His ex is my friend and I don't know if I should act on my feelings?
Q. Me and my friend have liked each other for a couple weeks now. We've held hands and kissed and hugged but in private not public. Problem here is his ex is my friend and she had broken up with him 5 months ago and I don't know if we should continue ...
A. 15 November 2011: You have both admitted to each other now that you both like each other. Am sure your friendship means a lot to you as well. Girls should always stick together and be honest with each other. So if she is a good friend well then be honest with her, ... (read in full...)
He's waiting for my move and I'm not sure what that move should be!
Q. I met this guy a few months ago at school. We hit it off right away, there was always a spark. Now it is still there and very strong (on both sides) but I'm not sure what to do. Both of us are holding off doing anything because he is only here for ...
A. 15 November 2011: I really don't see this ending very well at all. He is leaving in two months, so if you start something now you will end up really hurt and upset because he is leaving. I really am not sure what you should do here or why you would want to make a ... (read in full...)
I need advice on how to uncover her feelings if there are any, and rekindle the love.
Q. Ok, if you would like the full background to this question then check out some of the others I've asked. Basically 2 months ago me and the girl of my dreams broke up. She ended things on account of she was having doupts if she loved me or not. This ...
A. 15 November 2011: Am guessing she is your first love. First love's are always very hard to let go off. I understand that. But she obviously broke up with you for a reason, if she was happy she never would have done it, she was unsure about how she felt about you so ... (read in full...)
I'm married and now my lover is also married I'm struggling to accept she is physical with another man....I don't want to share her!
Q. I am married and had a relationship with collegaue in office. We got along for couple of years well including physically and now she got married to a guy. She says she wants to continue being physical with me but I am finding it hard to accept now ...
A. 15 November 2011: I completely agree with anonymous 123 here, what makes you think that you can tell this woman it is hard on you to share her with her husband, you never showed her any commitment all she was to you was a bit on the side while you went home to your ... (read in full...)
After 3 years of having feelings for my coach should I try something?
Q. i cant help but be in love with my coach. i have been on a lot of other teams with a lot of other male coaches so its not like i have a thing for my coaches. but i am 18 years old and a senior in high school. my coach is always giving me signs that ...
A. 15 November 2011: It does sound that there is something there between the both of you. I guess your only option is to try or else you will never know. Maybe invite him out for a drink or lunch or something and just see how you both get on. Am not sure if it would be ... (read in full...)
I told her how I felt and she backed off....is she scared because she thinks I'll change my mind about my sexuality? Or does she simply not want a relationship with me?
Q. i am female and just fallen in love with another girl,she is a lesbian and this is first time i have ever felt anything for a girl. we have kissed a few times and the other day she were holding my hands kissing me then i started getting feelings for ...
A. 15 November 2011: I'm not sure how she truly feels if she does actually like you or she is just enjoying the attention. My guess is she is proud to be a lesbian and she knows who she is. She knows that you are a bit confused at the moment because you have never had ... (read in full...)
Is my ex only using me while he tries and gets back with his ex wife? Should I get rid of him now or wait and see?
Q. My ex partner to whom I have a child has recently broken up with his wife and has come running back to me in order to reinstate a relationship that was never completely finished because he left to marry her. However, during his marriage of about 4 ...
A. 15 November 2011: Have your feelings towards him really changed or are you just trying to convince yourself you don't feel anything so that you do not get hurt. He obviously hurt you in the past by leaving you for his wife. So obviously you are going to have barriers ... (read in full...)
Does my boss want something more from me or is he just being friendly?
Q. hi I am a 30 y/o woman from india and travel often on business. Recently, when i was abroad on a new project, i and my boss on this project went out sightseeing together. He is english and 56 years old. We got along well and a couple of days l...
A. 15 November 2011: The right thing to do is to not cheat on your husband, off course if you are not happy in your marriage and your needs are not being met well then get out of the relationship, but don't become a cheat, it is not fair on your husband or your bosses ... (read in full...)
Mixed feelings from friend and not sure what to do.
Q. i met this guy arround 3 weeks ago a college, i knew one of his friends so when i was talking to his mate we were introuduced. the next day he came up to me and we just started chatting and then a few days later he asked me to hang out on campus. we ...
A. 14 November 2011: You have knowing this guy for 3 weeks and already you look to him as a best friend and you are telling each other you love each other? To be honest when people start telling each other they love each other early on it is never a good sign, because a ... (read in full...)
Are his feelings genuine? Should I tell him of my feelings?
Q. so theres this guy from the same parish i go to and we started chatting randomly about 2 weeks ago. He's 27 and im 18. Ive known him for a long time but this has been the first time we've spoken so much! We're similar in so many ways. We've both ...
A. 14 November 2011: Well he has already made the first move by saying he likes you. Nobody can tell you on here how he feels and if he is genuine or not. But you need to make the next move now, so if you like him then you need to tell him. You have nothing to lose. OK ... (read in full...)
How do I tactfully end a friendship with my ex?
Q. How do you tell your ex you dont wont to be friends anymore? me and my ex have only been broken up a few months. I had a problem concering my daughter. I failed to do a form which caused me to just get her monthly check direct deposited today. h...
A. 14 November 2011: You just need to open your mouth and talk to him. Don't beat around the bush just be honest about him, tell him how you feel and why you want to end the friendship. Just be honest it is always the best way. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my boyfriend compares me to his ex girlfriends
Q. I feel weird about my bfs exes. My bf was my first and I was his fifth and some days I don't think about it, but when I do it makes me very uncomfortable and sad. I worry he compares me and wishes I do stuff like his exs. He particularly finds fi...
A. 14 November 2011: More and more young people are being intimate with more and more people. I guess it is hard for you because he is your first, but every partner is different and everyone has there good and there bad. If he was not happy with you he would not be with ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 14 November 2011: She is controlling you and you know it. You just need to remain strong. Tell her you are sick of letting her use you and you are finished, tell her your mind is made up and not to contact you again, don't listen to anything she has to say just end ... (read in full...)
My fiance and I really want a baby, but are we ready?
Q. Hello everyone, usually when I find myself on this site I'm having a very depressing problem but now I'm just in a dilema. My fiance and I recently just moved out of a house we shared with room mates into an apartment so we could get along better ...
A. 14 November 2011: Women do go through stages off being broody and wanting to have children, it is completely normal. Off course a baby is not a decision that you should take lightly. If you are serious about having a baby, you need to sit down and think it through. ... (read in full...)
It's been a week since I last heard from my boyfriend
Q. I haven't heard from my boyfriend in a week. We've been in a long distance for almost two years. Every now and then, he'll just disappear until I confront him and he'll tell me something about how he's stressed out and can't handle being a bf right ...
A. 14 November 2011: It sounds to me like he is just giving up on this relationship. He doesn't make an effort because he does not want to. He goes away and comes back again and he doesn't care about how you feel. Am sorry honey but it doesn't look like he is serious ... (read in full...)
With both of us busy, how will we ever get a chance to talk?
Q. Hey everyone, there is this girl I like and she told me that she likes me too, however the problem is that we can't seems to get any time to talk, we want to get to know each other before we go out. We tried to do something this weekend but I'm ...
A. 14 November 2011: Does it need to be the weekend? Am sure you are both not busy 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Can you both not meet up maybe even for a coffee some evening through the week. If you both like each other well then make time to meet up and get to know ... (read in full...)
I left my boyfriend for another man, but now that other man has left me for his ex girlfriend
Q. So I wrote on here a little while ago about cheating on my bf well I ended up doing the right thing and breaking up with him. I continued to see the other guy but now he is back with his slut ex who treats him like shit. Well I have told him I had ...
A. 14 November 2011: Let it go, there is no point fighting for it, he has chose to go back to his ex and now you just need to accept that. I am sorry that you fell for him, but you cheated on your boyfriend with him, so my guess is that he would never have looked at you ... (read in full...)
Other Non-Pregnancy Methods
Q. Hello everyone, I thank you for taking your time reading this, I was only wondering if there is any other way to prevent pregnancy other than condoms and birth control pills. I really appreciate it, thank you....
A. 13 November 2011: Having sex not only brings the risk of pregnancy but also the risk of nasty infections, only condoms prevent you from catching these, so condoms are always the best way to go. ... (read in full...)
GF won't let me walk her home.
Q. I've been dating a girl from work for almost six months now and we have been getting along very well in that time. We don't get to see each other as often as we would like as she also works as a live-in carer looking after a man who is 71 years ...
A. 13 November 2011: Red flags are flying all over this. She is entitled to live her own life, but there is a reason that she does not want you near her home, something tells me that she is not being completely honest with you about her life and this old man. I don't ... (read in full...)
Duped Wife? Or not?
Q. I am married for a little under 4 years. I found out my husband has cheated on me from the beginning. He is one of these people who find it easier to "blame" me rather than to take any responsibility other than "I'm sick" routine. Although he ...
A. 13 November 2011: I am glad that you have a plan and that you are taking control of your life. Cheating is not an illness, he is just using that as an excuse to himself. He doesn't want to feel guilty so he is blaming that and you for his mistakes. I am really glad ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want my ex on my facebook friends list
Q. I am dating a guy who is very jealous. We have been dating for 2 months and during this time he kept on telling me that I should delete my ex from my facebook. Because, my ex called me many times when I was next to my boyfriend and told me that he ...
A. 13 November 2011: Look it sounds like you are very confused about what you want, your boyfriend is not blind he knows that your ex is a threat to you and his relationship, and he is not wrong. You need to make up your mind. Obviously you still have feelings for your ... (read in full...)
Did he tell anyone?
Q. I have Asperger Syndrome and after a current relationship I was in ended. I decided to disclose via letter by email. Now I am concerned or not if has told anyone else and how can i findout?...
A. 13 November 2011: What is that is worrying you? What do you think that he has told people? You need to just let this go and stop worrying about it and what other people think. Try and move on from this relationship and forget about it. ... (read in full...)
Why is this break up so easy for him?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half 2 months ago. Since then, he's been out with his friends every night (usually getting drunk or high, something he didn't used to do as much) while I'm here feeling terrible. I've had depression f...
A. 13 November 2011: Maybe it is a front, who knows if he is suffering well you are the last person he is going to want to know if he is or not. Just because he is out all the time does not mean that he is happy. So just remember deep down he might be hurting as well ... (read in full...)
I want my guy to stand up to his ex!
Q. I have been with this guy for 8 months, his life appeared to be going the way i liked it to go for me to get involved, then i moved to be with him. He has kids and an ex that wont go away she is always emailing and texting him to say they need to ...
A. 13 November 2011: No you are not wrong. But if he is allowing her to do this well then it is his choice. You need to sit down with him and explain to him that this is going to end up causing the both of you to break up. You need to let him see how serious you are ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for an addicted womanizer to change?
Q. hi cupids, please i need your advice on what to do.i'm 25yrs and my man is 46yrs old.weve been together almost 4yrs. We even have a boy of 2yrs.this man is caring,kind and the quiet type.last two days,i met one of his relatives and this lady told me ...
A. 13 November 2011: Yes I do believe it is possible for people to change if they meet someone who they really love and care about. But it sounds dodgy that he was having dinner with another woman and didn't think to tell you until he was caught out. If you do not trust ... (read in full...)
Should I wait? How can I know if he is a liar or not?
Q. hello there. i met a 53 years old man at work and i started to go out for lunch break with him - the relationship got stronger and we started to go out for valentine and after one year i asked him to marry me. he started to divorce since 3 ...
A. 13 November 2011: I don't think you should wait no, I think you will be let down and hurt. It sounds like he is using you. Trust what those closest are saying to you, they can see that he is using you for his own selfish reasons and they are warning you so you do not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want to make our relationship official on the social network
Q. My boyfriend doesn't want to make our relationship official on the social network. He's the son of a pastor and the same age as me and he says the reason is because he doesn't want his church members to know. But his family knows! His family doesn...
A. 13 November 2011: Don't stand for this any more. If his family know about the relationship well then there is no need for him to pretend that he is single on social networking sights. My guess is that he doesn't want to be tied down to you and that he is not ready ... (read in full...)
Is this normal in a healthy relationship?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 yrs, we tend to get in huge arguments about 2 times a year, they get to the point one of us is walking out. They usually start over something silly and usually him being annoyed by it (something in the ...
A. 13 November 2011: Off course the relationship can work. You just need to stop taking things so much to heart. Every couple have arguments every now and then and say nasty things to each other, it is part of most relationships, if it was happening on a weekly basis ... (read in full...)
I feel unwanted and under-appreciated!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 3 years, we have 2 children, weren't planned, but we are happy. The problem is he never shows affection to me very much, he will tell me he loves me and wants to be with me forever and sees a future, but ...
A. 13 November 2011: I guess now that you both have settled down and had children that he has just gotten lazy in the relationship and has stopped making an effort. But it is very bad on his part to just let mothers day and your birthday slide without even a small gift ... (read in full...)
Is this a traditional FWB relationship?
Q. A close friend of mine which I have known for the past 3 years, and I have hooked up 4 times in the last 7 months. I'm not sure if it's a FWB relationship... we don't booty call each other (which is what I've read that FWB do), or have long cha...
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Should I find someone that knows he wants me without still considering it five years down the road?
Q. Last night, I was talking to my boyfriend's roommate's girlfriend, and she told me that when him and I were on a break a couple months ago he shared with them that he didn't know if I was the one. (we've been together for almost 5 years). She went ...
A. 13 November 2011: I really don't understand why you took it so personal. At the end of the day the both of you where on a break, so this indicates something was not right in the relationship for you two to be on a break, so obvious he needed to think about the ... (read in full...)
Why did this special connection end?
Q. Hi guys, i'm so confused. And asking you guys on the internet is the last resort I have to get some advice and clear my mind. Anyways, I've been in a FWB relationship with this guys for about 2 months. We started off by hooking up when we were bot...
A. 13 November 2011: It is always bad when something starts at a physical level because it gets confusing and someone usually ends up developing feelings. Have you actually spoke to him about how he feels. It is Ok for his friends to tell you that, but has he actually ... (read in full...)
Why are guys jerks like this?
Q. So I started dating this after finishing school, we live in different states. I went to visit him in his hometown and we fell really hard for each other, he told me that he loved me after about a week. I said that we couldn't have a relationship ...
A. 13 November 2011: I think it was more of a phase he was going through, when someone tells you they love you after about a week this should always make alarm bells ring, because it is obvious he throws the word around way to easily. He met you and am sure he did like ... (read in full...)
Why did my girl friend not try harder to talk this through? She wants space. And different things. But could more discussion help?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for a little more than a year and a half. We do everything together, We are both living at my parents house, we work together (because my family has been friends with the GM of a company, so it was a easy job)...
A. 13 November 2011: as you said yourself she said if you were not living together you would probably still be together, yet you are still living with her, does that not tell you something? She is working so am sure she could rent out a room somewhere, you just don't ... (read in full...)
Does my boss want something more from me or is he just being friendly?
Q. hi I am a 30 y/o woman from india and travel often on business. Recently, when i was abroad on a new project, i and my boss on this project went out sightseeing together. He is english and 56 years old. We got along well and a couple of days l...
A. 13 November 2011: Don't do it, you are both married so do not cheat on your husband and hurt him. If you have feelings for him then be kind and leave your husband, don't cheat on him because it is wrong. Also I think this is more about the excitement rather than true ... (read in full...)
Why is he waiting to ask me out? All we are doing is texting!
Q. Hello. I have recently been set up with a guy by a friend. We have not spoken to each other physically or even on the phone. But we text each other. It has now been a week since we have been texting - everyday - but I am wondering how long it will...
A. 13 November 2011: He is probably just taking time to get to know you to see if he is interested or not. He probably just doesn't want to rush things. Just enjoy texting him and see if there are any hints at all that he is interested. I would give it another while ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped me a year ago and I'm unsure what to do now
Q. My girlfriend dumped me last year around same time. We remained in a relationship for two year. Since I couldn't get a good job in given dateline of one year to convince her parents for her hands, she ran out of patience with me and dumped. I don’...
A. 13 November 2011: I think the reason that she dumped you was very shallow, at the end of the day she thought more of money than she did of you. This is not true love. Because if it was she would still be with you and wouldn't care about if you could find a good job ... (read in full...)
How could he change so quickly? He says I'm an awesome friend but he thinks thats all its going to be
Q. my boyfriend just broke up with me out of the blue. (yesterday he was talking to me about going to his dads for dinner and making christmas lists, and the next day i saw him he broke up with me) he says that he feels like nothing has changed betw...
A. 13 November 2011: It can always be confusing and hurtful when someone breaks up with you. My guess is that there was just no spark there for him, am guessing he has tried but it just did not work for him and he just see's you as a friend. Sometimes we can't help what ... (read in full...)
Since the birth of our son he's changed. I want to work things out. How do I cope if he continues to want out?
Q. I been in relationship for five years an just had a baby now my boyfriend says his feelings for me have dropped and he don't want to be in the relationship no more and he cheated on me with 19 year old when I was 8 months pregnant I just found it o...
A. 13 November 2011: I am so sorry that you have to be going through this so soon after giving birth to your son. He cheated on you while you where at home carrying his child, this shows that he is not committed to you or that he doesn't care about how you feel. My ... (read in full...)
Why did my girl friend not try harder to talk this through? She wants space. And different things. But could more discussion help?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for a little more than a year and a half. We do everything together, We are both living at my parents house, we work together (because my family has been friends with the GM of a company, so it was a easy job)...
A. 13 November 2011: Coming straight out a relationship and trying to be friends never works. Especially as you are wanting more than friendship you need to tell her that. Maybe she should try and find somewhere else to live so that you both have the space that you ... (read in full...)
Does my boss want something more from me or is he just being friendly?
Q. hi I am a 30 y/o woman from india and travel often on business. Recently, when i was abroad on a new project, i and my boss on this project went out sightseeing together. He is english and 56 years old. We got along well and a couple of days l...
A. 13 November 2011: It sounds to me like he does like you. Obviously he does enjoy the company. If you are afraid of leading him on well then just make it clear to him that you enjoy his company as a friend and nothing more. If you are straight with him at least then ... (read in full...)
Why did my girl friend not try harder to talk this through? She wants space. And different things. But could more discussion help?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for a little more than a year and a half. We do everything together, We are both living at my parents house, we work together (because my family has been friends with the GM of a company, so it was a easy job)...
A. 13 November 2011: It can not be healthy for the both of you to be still living under the same roof if you are no longer together. It is clear she needed some space to decide what she wants. But to me it sounds like she just no longer wants to be in a serious ... (read in full...)
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