I feel like I am losing her and don't know what to do. Please help?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm in need of help, I feel my relationship is in serious trouble. Okay so basically I've been with this girl for a year and a bit now and well to be quite honest it's been the best year of my life. We met PURELY out of chance an...
A. 22 November 2011: That's completely understandable that you would want someone to talk to, it is always better than bottling things up. But it really is a lesson to be learned that when you are in a relationship you should also have platonic friendships in your life. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am losing her and don't know what to do. Please help?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm in need of help, I feel my relationship is in serious trouble. Okay so basically I've been with this girl for a year and a bit now and well to be quite honest it's been the best year of my life. We met PURELY out of chance an...
A. 21 November 2011: I am sure you have heard it before but time is the only thing that will heal you, so just take some time out and grieve for the end of the relationship. Then keep yourself busy and occupied. Go out with friends and just distract yourself as much as ... (read in full...)
I've become the jealous snooping boyfriend! How can we work through this?
Q. I had been with my girlfriend for 15 years. She had gone to college for 6 years in order to, "get the job of her dreams."During the last 3 years of our relationship she became addicted to world of Warcraft and there was no sign of her seriously ...
A. 10 November 2011: You do not trust her it is as simple as that. Am not sure if she has done anything wrong or not. As for the first guy Tim well she was dishonest to you about why she was leaving the country. Sure she was single but she was still dishonest to you and ... (read in full...)
Why did he throw everything away by cheating?
Q. Its been a few days since my bf of three years confessed that he cheated on me. I still find it extremely difficult to get through my day, I hardly eat and if it wasn't for my prescription sleeping pills I probably wouldn't get any sleep. It is ...
A. 9 November 2011: Honey nobody can tell you why he cheated on you, because we do not have the answers. I hope that he now feels guilty for what he done, but he is the one that done wrong, so obviously there was something lacking in the relationship for him to go and ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my ex and we're both re-married
Q. I love with my Ex, and both of us are remarried!! Okay, here it goes. We were married for 28 years, and have two beautiful daughters. My wife could no longer handle the kids, and had an affair which let to our divorce. We both got remarrie...
A. 9 November 2011: It sounds like you should follow your heart and maybe go back to your ex wife. These situations are never easy and am sure you do not want to hurt your current wife but you cannot help how you feel. However in regards to your ex wife well not only ... (read in full...)
Should I consider Saving a Long-distance Relationship or Should I let it Sink?
Q. My girlfriend has recently brought up to me that the distance is tearing her apart, and she doesn't know what to do anymore. She talked about upcoming semesters and how much longer it will be until we see one another again. I asked her if she still ...
A. 9 November 2011: I think it would be best to end the relationship face to face so I guess the only time you would be able to do that is thanksgiving. Which really is not that far away now. Tell her that you can understand that it is hard and that you find it hard as ... (read in full...)
My Best Friend Acting Up. What to do?
Q. I sort of like this girl who happens to be my best friend, a week back we had an argument and clash of opinions and i felt she was treating me equal to other people even though I am her best friend, she did not speak to me after that. She and 3 ...
A. 9 November 2011: Some day she is going to meet a guy and want to date him and after the way that you acted towards her talking to this other guy well it scares her to think that you are possessive over her, she likes you as a friend but nothing more. You need to ... (read in full...)
My date is dating someone else! What to do?
Q. Hi all, I met a girl online and struck up a conenction over a few weeks we corresponded one way or another everyday if more than anything she seemed keener so much so she was curious as to how many other people I was chatting with and teasing me a...
A. 9 November 2011: Maybe she just wanted to be straight with you and have it out there. But my guess is that she was looking for a reaction out of you. She was fishing to see if you where seeing other people and I think she wanted to then see how you would feel about ... (read in full...)
Ex may be going to the same college as me, should I try to be friends or ignore her?
Q. Long story short, I was dumped pretty badly the Senior year of my high school twice by the same girl (Junior, now Senior). (I was stupid enough to go back for a second round of beating) Reason being she didn't love me anymore, didn't want a LDR and ...
A. 9 November 2011: You are over thinking this way to soon and panicking about something that might not happen. Something tells me deep down a part of you wants her to attend your college so you can try and get through to her. You are doing good getting over her you ... (read in full...)
Chatting is fine, but I freeze when they suggest we meet
Q. I posted a question a while back wondering if I was gay or just having a little fetish but now I believe i am bisexual and I am attracted to men. In light if this I decided to join a dating website to try and find a boyfriend or just a a friend t...
A. 9 November 2011: I think it is just your nerves getting the better of you. Yes it is normal. You are just nervous about it, completely normal, believe me. Instead of trying to meet men over the internet why not look in to gay or bisexual groups, at least this way ... (read in full...)
How to motivate myself to stay in school?
Q. I'm in high-school, grade 10. I am supposed to be in Grade 11, but I dropped out of school when I was in grade 8, so I had to re-do it over. I had 3 morning classes, but dropped out of them. So, I lost 3 easy credits. I don't know what I'm going to ...
A. 9 November 2011: Look in to what you would like to do in the future. You must have some idea on what you want to do when you leave school, if so well look at what you need to do in order to achieve your goals in life. If you look at things in black and white well ... (read in full...)
Does he think I'm a liar?
Q. Good day dear friends, my story is fresh and happened on a very short time frame. I met this guy in a business meeting 2 years back we spoke briefly during the meeting and I have never seen him again till my boss asked me to call him a week ago and ...
A. 9 November 2011: He told you straight out that he has no time for liars yet you still chose to lie about something so small and silly. At the end of the day even if the picture was taking in a night club and you told him you didn't like nightclubs it doesn't mean ... (read in full...)
Good Friends..... into lovers despite her parents arranging a marriage?
Q. Hi, Basically, me and my best friend, who I met through a mutual friend, back in October 2010. (Mutual friend is not in contact with us anymore, moved country) We both wanted to be friends, and she is my type, and she is 20 and im 22. Me and he...
A. 9 November 2011: I think she wants to go ahead with her family's plans, not because it is what she wants but because it is what will make her family happy. I don't think she will have a relationship with you while going behind her families back. If you are really ... (read in full...)
Should I continue flirting with her even if I know we can't be together?
Q. I am having problems reading this girl She was visiting my town for 4 weeks by some relatives. When we met we were attracted to each other the first week, we went on a moonlight walk and kissed. She doesn't own a phone but she used one of ...
A. 9 November 2011: You only met this girl for a month, it is more like a holiday romance more than her breaking your heart. You cannot love someone you barely know that well. If you cannot accept being friends with her well then stop all communication with her and ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am losing her and don't know what to do. Please help?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm in need of help, I feel my relationship is in serious trouble. Okay so basically I've been with this girl for a year and a bit now and well to be quite honest it's been the best year of my life. We met PURELY out of chance an...
A. 9 November 2011: Believe me you will cope, after you give yourself some time, I don't understand if she is intending to break up with you and has told you that she does not love you any more I don't understand why you don't be the man that you are stand up to her ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I like him staying with his 'mates' who has a sister!
Q. Hi i have been with my bf 3 months now and i reeeeeli like him were quite close and passionate wen we see eachother! he's the type of guy thats almost too good to be true! he is really busy with uni work so we hardly see eachother maybe 1ce a week ...
A. 9 November 2011: Yes you are being to paranoid. Just because you never had sex one time meeting up does not make him a cheat. There is lots more to a relationship than sex that is just a part of it. So his mate has a sister the same age as him doesn't mean that he ... (read in full...)
How did this backfire?
Q. I don’t understand how one guy, basically a stranger can make me feel so terrible about myself. A guy who complimented me more than any guy, so why am I doing this to myself! I met this very, very good looking guy one night, he went on about ho...
A. 9 November 2011: You probably think that he has high expectations from you, and you are insecure so now you just feel worse about yourself, and you feel that every time you see him you feel like you need to live up to some one that you don't feel you are so it makes ... (read in full...)
How do I get my children back?
Q. i have two son ,but both are leave with my father in law and my husband was death .my sons are scered to come with me beacuase my mother in law is learning wrong .now i want back my children so what can i do ? please give me an answer ...
A. 9 November 2011: They are your children, and unless you are an unfit mother then there is no reason or law that can stop you seeing your children. They are YOUR children so go and get them and tell them they are coming home with you. YOU are there mother and you ... (read in full...)
My lover looks after his sick twin sister, but could include me more but is not. Do I end it?
Q. Dear all, Your opinions please. I have been dating a man for around 8 months now. He is seperated has his teenage duaghter living with him and his twin sister who has Downs Syndrome for who he is her full time carer. He is 45 years old. I know he ...
A. 9 November 2011: You are clearly not happy with him, he has a lot of responsibility therefore he is not going to ever put you first in your life, that you can be sure about, if you cannot deal with that, well then cut your losses now before it gets any harder. ... (read in full...)
Need help dealing with jealousy and insecurity.
Q. Hey, I need some advice on how not to get jealous and insecure when girls compliment/flirt with my bf, please! We've been together 1.5 yrs, and are really happy together. He's asked me to move in with him, and has mentioned marriage and a family ...
A. 9 November 2011: Well he broke the trust in the relationship and left you in secure and now when you check up on him you feel even worse because you are finding things that you do not like. Who cares if it is the girls that is starting these conversations he still ... (read in full...)
Not Optimistic about Dates but any Thoughts??
Q. I started going out on dates with an old friend. We've known each other 5 years but things never moved on before now. He pursued me asked me out to a party and we had a great time. He wrote the next day to say thanks and asked me out again the next ...
A. 9 November 2011: Well it seems that up until now he has made all off the effort to arrange date's with you. If you like this guy and want to see how it goes well then why not ring him and ask him would he like to meet up with you. At least then he can see that you ... (read in full...)
She spent the whole time dancing without me. Am I right to be annoyed?
Q. My girlfriend and I both came from relationships where we both were unfaithful. Understanding this we have trust issues. I make every effort to be mindful and respectful of her feelings to insure she is comfortable with my actions. Recently we went ...
A. 8 November 2011: No it is not inconsiderate, she was out and enjoying herself, if you wanted to go and dance well then you should have went up with her am sure she wouldn't have had a problem with you joining her. Dancing is harmless and plenty of people get great ... (read in full...)
I feel something with him, but I think he doesn't.
Q. why do we feel chemistry with some people when we sleep with them and with athers we dont. i felt chemistry with this guy and now am falling for him. i think he doesnt...
A. 8 November 2011: If you think that you are beginning to have feelings for him and he doesn't return then well then stop sleeping with him. Sex should be between two people who care about each other, if it is only one person that cares that person usually will get ... (read in full...)
He chose to watch sexy nurses instead of time with me!
Q. My boyfriend chose watching sexy nurses on TV instead of reading the horoscope with me...what should I do?...
A. 8 November 2011: He likes watching a program you like reading your horoscope simple as really. I don't see why this is a huge problem. If it is though well then talk to him and tell him how you feel. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to let him go, but I need to if he doesn't see a future with me
Q. We've been together just over a year. I know he loves me in some fashion (I am one of maybe 3 people in his life that actually understands him and that he feels totally comfortable with). I asked him the other night if we were going anywhere with ...
A. 7 November 2011: He never said that he does not want to be with you in the future did he? He said he wants to work on his finances at the moment and sort out his life first. That sounds fair enough to me. You have only been together a year, give it some more time ... (read in full...)
Why is my teacher acting like this?
Q. My English teacher and I have been staring into each other's eyes for several times. It's like our eyes were locked and most of the time he would look at me for a long time until I looked away. Also, during morning assembly, I caught him looking at ...
A. 7 November 2011: An important part of a teacher is to connect with there students this includes plenty of eye contact. Also smiling at you is not criminal. It just shows that he is friendly man. Your imagination is going in to over drive and you feel like he is ... (read in full...)
My in-laws have my children and now my alcoholic husband is dead they wont let them come back to me
Q. hi i have two children, 13 and 7 years old. i live seperately and my children live with my father in law, and my husband died 2 year ago. now i want back my children but my mother in law is not agreeing ,she thinking i am responsible for my husbands ...
A. 7 November 2011: You are the children's mother, so they deserve to be with you unless you are unfit to look after them. Any court in the world would not keep you from your children unless they see you unfit. So get yourself a lawyer and fight for your children, they ... (read in full...)
How did he move on so quickly?
Q. This guy and I were seeing each other for almost 5 months. Everything was going very well, we were compatible, we had great chemistry, we both made each other laugh and enjoyed each others company. He even introduced me to his mom. But he decided ...
A. 6 November 2011: People may say that he shouldn't have let you go and that he has messed up but who knows he may have liked this girl for a long time and he may actually be happier with her. I know that hearing that is hard but it may very well be the truth. She may ... (read in full...)
Why does he act like we're not texting or talking at all?
Q. So there's this guy that I really like and we had been texting for a while but he doesn't act like we talk 24/7 or that we even text at all... I just don't understand. We really hit it off and are always flirting with each other but at school? ...
A. 6 November 2011: Some guys look at texting as a pass time when they are bored, he doesn't see you as a person when he texts you it is more that he is just enjoying this past time without actually making the effort. Maybe he is shy and he just doesn't know how to ... (read in full...)
She said we couldn't be together. Should I bring the subject up when I see her?
Q. I am normally a confident cocky guy who knows it all when it comes to women, but i must admit i need your help. I met this girl and after spending some time with her I could tell she was the type of girl I wanted to be with. I am a guy who often in...
A. 6 November 2011: I understand that you would be hurt again but at least you would know that you tried your hardest. Lets go through her reasons for it not working, one she had just ended a relationship, good point she is scared of it being a rebound and hurting you. ... (read in full...)
Did he lie and cheat, even though he denies it? What would suggest he lied?
Q. I know this is ridiculously long but please, I really really need help. Just skim over it maybe? This guy would wipe my tears away and told me he's not like those guys who use girls for sex, he's in it for long-term, and he'll wait for me for ...
A. 6 November 2011: It sounds to me like you are over reacting a bit, Ok maybe he spoke to this girl the day after he got with you but it was early days and you are making it a huge deal. If you trusted him well then you wouldn't believe that he done that to you. To me ... (read in full...)
Should I try to get rid of my sexual fantasies about my language teacher? Especially as I do have a Bf?
Q. I am 19 years old, I have a boyfriend for 2 years now, I love him and he's very nice with me we also get along very well in bed. He is a german so he wants me to learn his language so I took a course at my university. I have never this type who fall...
A. 6 November 2011: I understand that you cannot help who you think about. But it sounds like you are very happy with your boyfriend which is great. My guess is that this course is not going to last forever. So if the dreams happen well then you do not really have ... (read in full...)
Is my sister taking advantage of my late cousin's husband? Is it OK for them to date just one year after my cousin passing?
Q. My cousin died of cancer one year ago at the age of 46. She was married for 14 years to a wonderful man (whom I will call "Bill"). They decided not to have kids because she was diagnosed with cancer at the beginning of their marriage, but were ...
A. 6 November 2011: It has only been a year therefore it is all still raw and am sure you are still very sad and grieving. This is normal. It is not my place to judge. Maybe your sister feels close to this man because he reminds her of her cousin and the good times you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gets angry when I mention things I want to do. How can I cope better with her reactions?
Q. Hi.. My name is Chris and i am 23 years old.. i have a girlfriend for 1 year and 3 months.. we are happy and in love.. sometimes i feel like i cannot do anything else than seeing her..i feel like i cannot watch soccer or generally do anything ...
A. 6 November 2011: Ok it is clear that you do not want to break up with her, but you need to make yourself happy in life. It sounds like she is insecure and has anger problems and you are quite clingy because you hate doing anything without her. This is unhealthy. Off ... (read in full...)
By having a dream about this guy, does that mean I like him?
Q. So, I have been talking to this guy, L, quite a bit lately. He's called me a few times and we sit at the same table at lunch now. Last night, i had a dream that i kissed him. I remembered it really vividly at first, but now all i can remember is ...
A. 6 November 2011: A dream is just your own imagination, yes it might mean that you like him, but you should know deep down how you feel about this guy. Don't let a dream make you think that you must like him because our imagination can be quite funny and play tricks ... (read in full...)
I am addicted to porn!
Q. I am quite badly addicted to porn and it makes me struggle concentrating on anything else properly. If it was happening once in a week , then I guess it would have been okay but I spend most of my time watching porn and getting jerk off in front of ...
A. 6 November 2011: My guess is that you do not believe in sex before marriage. Which is fair enough. It is OK to look at porn and enjoy it, but once it takes over your life well then you need to step back and makes changes before it gets to late. You are still a ... (read in full...)
I don't understand if this guy was genuine or not?
Q. I don't understand if this guy was genuine or not? I met him and we got along and both obviously were attracted to each other.. Then he disappeared during the night and i didn't see him again, so i took the hint he wasn't interested and bailed. ...
A. 6 November 2011: Just give him some time. If he went out of his way to go up and talk to you well then it must mean because he wanted to go up and speak to you. He is probably delaying contacting you because he is plucking up the courage and nervous. Just wait it ... (read in full...)
Family Issues! Am I wrong for being so angry?
Q. Hello! I apologise in advance as this is likely to be a long question and it's a family matter rather than love! It's the first time I have asked for advice so please reply kindly I just need some kind reassurance I think... : S Ok, so a few...
A. 6 November 2011: muso 888 pretty much said it all. You have had a bad start to life and you are making the most of your life now which is great. Off course you have every right to be angry and hurt. But looking at your mother, from your post I do not doubt that she ... (read in full...)
It bothered me that she showed more attention to her new friend than me and I let it show!
Q. I like a girl from my class, and we are best friends, She knows that i like her. Both of us along with my room-mate and his girl friend (we all are in the same class in college) had planned to go on a road trip on motorcycles. In the last minute a...
A. 6 November 2011: You say you don't want to be clingy but that is exactly how you behaved, she see's you as a friend but nothing else, and you need to accept that. She is entitled to have other friends as well as you, but you are letting your feelings for her get in ... (read in full...)
I adore my boyfriend. But what can I do about his rude behavior?'
Q. Hey guys, I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I do love him very much. However, I've really gone off him recently. He's rude to everyone. He yells at his mum and orders her about, he doesn't talk to my parents even when he is ...
A. 6 November 2011: No you have the right to feel the way that you do. Everyone needs affection in a relationship so off course you are going to be unhappy, plus your family is negative towards him so this is going to rub off on you. Maybe he does feel awkward in front ... (read in full...)
Feel like I'm falling apart. Am I a fool to think happiness could be mine?
Q. I have just split up from my partner of nearly 12 years. We have 2 young children. I had stopped loving my partner many years ago although i only told him it was about 2 years ago. It took me a long time to admit it to myself and even longer to ...
A. 6 November 2011: I am sure it took a lot of guts to finish your relationship, but you have invested all your time and thoughts in to this new guy and believe me this is not healthy. You are using him as an escape and it is stopping you from coming to terms with the ... (read in full...)
What do you think he feels for me: love or sympathy?
Q. Dear agony aunts. I am 32 yo female and I have been in love with this guy for about 8 yrs now. I am a charming, caring, and loving person and I have shown him my cares in many ways. I mean my and his friends have also seen it. They have also said he ...
A. 6 November 2011: You need to talk to him and express your feelings towards him, he deserves to know the truth. Am sure that he does care about you, but weather it is just as a friend or else a potential partner I don't know, he needs to answer that. Just be open and ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend psycho or something?
Q. Me and my bf were together for 3 years and 7 months. I am 26 and he is 24. We have been through some wild periods (arguing a lot, broke up several times, got back together). He is a bit difficult to talk to and solve problems, since he does not ...
A. 6 November 2011: I don't think that he is psycho. My guess is that it is just a pass time for him. He doesn't like talking about serious things and this is his way of letting himself go and pretending to be someone that he is not. He is just venting over the ... (read in full...)
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