How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 24 November 2011: If she lands at your door again don't answer it, just ignore it, if she threatening you then call the police, just do not let her in or communicate with her. Because if you do she will not give up because she knows that she is winning. ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 23 November 2011: Well the posts on here are obviously not helping you no matter how much you try to pretend that they are. You have been advised to break contact with her and you are still talking to her, you are under her thumb again without realising it. Soon she ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 20 November 2011: Am sorry but I really think that you are making the wrong choice here, she is not good for you, no matter what you say to try and convince yourself she is not, who knows she might be lying about all this to get you back. Do not be a fool any more, ... (read in full...)
He never listened and now his family and friends have run out of way to say and how to support him!
Q. Once upon a time a man and woman meet, man and woman became good friends. The man is married to his first love they have three children, but the man starts to fall in love with his friend, and vice versa, though for a while nither says it and they ...
A. 16 November 2011: I don't think that she can help even if she wants to. At the end of the day what he done sounds very serious and therefore he should be punished. It is good that he is going to seek help about his issues but if he hurt his wife and put his children ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 16 November 2011: Seriously all she is doing is making empty threats to you, because she believes she can scare you in to getting back with her. You need to seriously ignore this woman she is dangerous. You need to phone up your telephone service and block her number ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex's sister contact me to tell me my ex and his girlfriend are over for good, and they are happy with this outcome?
Q. I'm a little perplexed about a situation and would like to here what you all think. I have split from my ex-fiance for a little over a yr. now and it has been a very long and hard journey trying to move on from the devastation. My ...
A. 16 November 2011: My guess is that his family did not like his girlfriend for whatever reason, it is probably because they got on really well with you and liked you and probably wanted the both of you to remain together. I guess his sister is just informing you ... (read in full...)
Do you think this might be a sign that we'll get back together?
Q. dear cupid, soo, this is going to be kind of long, buuut hopefully there's somebody here who can help me. it's been three weeks since my boyfriend (we'll just call him craig) and i split. he's the one who broke up with me, and even though he's...
A. 16 November 2011: It does sound like he does care about you, just because he broke up with you doesn't mean that his feelings just disappeared for you. You don't mention what his reasons where for breaking up with you, I guess it would help if you could add that.
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Every time things start getting steamy he backs off!
Q. So i have been in an 8 mth relationship with an amazing guy! We get along so well and really know how to encourage and support eag other emotionally. Our major problem is sex. And i can wait for actual sex but we haven't even gotten past first base! ...
A. 16 November 2011: I know that it is a really hard topic to discuss with him, but it needs to be done, because there is obviously something on his mind that is stopping him getting sexual with you. Just sit down with him and ask him what it is that is stopping him ... (read in full...)
I might have made a decent friend, but ...
Q. I think that I may have FINALLY made a decent female friend. It's been such a long, long time since I've had a loyal, sincere one. She's my boyfriend's best friend's ex girlfriend. The ONLY thing that's putting me a little off is the fact that she ...
A. 16 November 2011: If you like her as a person well that's great, what she does is her business but if you don't feel like you want to drink or smoke well then just be straight with her and tell her you are not interested in that, but you can both find other things to ... (read in full...)
Premature Ejaculation?
Q. Im 16 years old and bi. When i masturbate, it happens fairly quickly. Is this a sign a premature ejaculation? I need to know. I usually come in at about 30 secs. Is this normal?? or is it a phase? thanks :D...
A. 16 November 2011: Try not to worry about it, having sex is completely different to masturbating. Instead of allowing yourself to ejaculate, once you feel yourself near to it stop for a minute or two and then start again and keep trying to prolong it for as much as ... (read in full...)
He only has one friend who clearly is in love with him, am I being selfish for wanting him to stop talking to him?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend is older than me and has no real friends, the only person in his life is his German friend/ex, I say ex because they've had sexual relations before we met, he told his wife a few years ago he was gay and she learnt to live with it, ...
A. 16 November 2011: No you are not being selfish. It is out of order him having another man texting him sloppy messages, even if he doesn't respond it is still not fair on you. After 12 months of being with him if he is still not willing to ask his friend to stop ... (read in full...)
My wife loves a 65 year old man!
Q. I'm 26, my wife's 26 also . we spend 3 years together Last night she said to me she had something to confess. I listened as she aadmitted to me she love some one a 65 -year-old man and that it was basically just she is crazy about him, and that 5h...
A. 16 November 2011: Am afraid you need to let her go. She has made it clear that she is in love with someone else, if she was happy with you well then she never would have cheated on you. I know that this must be hard to accept and get your head around, but it looks ... (read in full...)
Trust issues with an otherwise perfect boyfriend... help
Q. Ok so i i've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year.. before we started dating i said i didn't want to get into a relationship because i've dated a porn addict in the past and been cheated on several times (not to sound like the victim here! ...
A. 16 November 2011: He has broken your trust by lying to you compulsively. So now he needs to be the one to make it up to you now. If you want to work on it well then it is going to take time to trust him again. However if things don't seem to improve and you keep ... (read in full...)
I hate my boyfriend's son and ex!
Q. I really hate the fact my boyfriend has a 15year old son and i hate his ex even though i dont know her.I have very strong hate feelings towards them and i hate it when his son comes to stay.We have been living together for 2 years and i have my own ...
A. 16 November 2011: It's called jealousy. You cannot seem to handle the fact that he had a life and a family before he met you. This is something that you just need to accept if you want to make this relationship work. His son has never done anything wrong on you for ... (read in full...)
How do I approach the guy I like? He is in a band and I don't want to seem like a crazy groupie!
Q. so theres this guy that I have been watching from a distance for a couple of weeks now. not in a stalker kind of way but he is in a band that often plays close to where i live and i go to watch them when i can. for the last few weeks i have just ...
A. 16 November 2011: Well telling him you like his music is a great start. But you should always ask questions as well to keep the conversation going. Just think of some things that you would like to ask him, how he got in to music, where does he gig ect. Maybe ask him ... (read in full...)
Is my ex only using me while he tries and gets back with his ex wife? Should I get rid of him now or wait and see?
Q. My ex partner to whom I have a child has recently broken up with his wife and has come running back to me in order to reinstate a relationship that was never completely finished because he left to marry her. However, during his marriage of about 4 ...
A. 16 November 2011: Well I think that says it all about what kind of man he is, he is a user and doesn't care about anyone but himself. At least your son has you in his life. He does not need his father if he is going to treat him like that. You are doing the right ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is staying with her baby's daddy for 2 weeks...cause for concern or not?
Q. So I've been seeing a lovely single mom for about a year, was FWB for about 6 months and were good friends for about 2 years before that. She has a 2 year old girl, who is just the most adorable little critter ever. This is not my first ...
A. 16 November 2011: I understand that you trust her, but off course this arrangement is going to make you feel uneasy. That is completely understandable. But if she loves you well then she is not going to let her ex anywhere near her, plus his parents are going to be ... (read in full...)
He feels he needs permission to kiss me?
Q. Hi everyone. Im sort of unofficially dating this guy. We're at the 'getting to know each other' stage, so we're not going out just yet. Im 19 and he's 23. I've known him since January but he's always been just a friend (but we always sort of li...
A. 16 November 2011: He likes you that is clear. Maybe he is unsure that you want him to kiss you. He doesn't want to over step the mark. My guess is that he can see how nervous you are and he does not want to make you feel uncomfortable. If you meet up with him well ... (read in full...)
How can we start over without taking a break?
Q. I'm wondering how me and my girlfriend can start over (without breaking up or having to take a break). We started off good for a few months, and then so many negative things kept happening to our relationship. It might have been a year of just bad ...
A. 16 November 2011: You both just need to sit down and figure out a plan of action. You are both jobless so yes it can cause stress and allow couples to argue all the time about things that are completely irrational. You both need to sit down and talk to each other, ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 16 November 2011: Find the strength within you. Yes it is hard to ignore someone that you love, but remember that you are doing it for the RIGHT reasons. She sounds manipulative and unstable. She is using empty threats now because she does not know any other way to ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my step sister about her health/appearance? I want to help her!
Q. My step sister has a few problems that are getting seriously out of control for my parents. The first is that She is a uk size 22 now at the age of 16. She moved in with my mum and her dad (my step dad) because she cant get on with her mother who is ...
A. 16 November 2011: No it is clear that you are not judgemental. Off course you are worried about her. It is obvious she has very low self esteem and she just does not care about how her appearance is. She is extremely over weight so off course you and your parents are ... (read in full...)
Wife emailing old boyfriend--should I be concerned?
Q. My question involved my wife's contact with a boyfriend she had 25 years ago. Recently, my wife noticed that her past boyfriend was divorced. She admitted to sending him an email regarding his recent divorce. At the time she seemed excited b...
A. 16 November 2011: Only your wife knows her reasons as to why she is doing this. I guess she still cares about him, but how deep that goes I really do not know. It is obviously worrying you very much, and I don't blame you. But you need to have this out with her and ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to this good looking stranger on the train?
Q. i go to work everyday in train, there's a guy who travels in same train well in other compartment.. over the days i am fallen head over heels for him. i cant think of anything other than him for rest of day. i cant eat cant sleep i think only ...
A. 16 November 2011: It worries me the amount of time and thought you are putting in to a complete stranger, your behaviour is cause for concern because it is not healthy to think about a stranger this much and to feel you are falling for him without even knowing him. I ... (read in full...)
I find it hard to have feelings for others. Is it normal?
Q. After taking abit of time out and just recalling a few things which have happened over the years I relized something rather strange about myself. Ive always been a rather happy person and I don't wish to ...
A. 16 November 2011: Delayed reactions when someone dies is completely normal because it takes a while for the news to actually sink in and become real, this is called being in shock. Most people take a while to accept that someone they love has passed away. Completely ... (read in full...)
He says I will never change and I need anger management as a piece of advice before I leave
Q. Dear all, My boyfriend just dumped me again and thinks I will never change. I am 27 and he is 28. We've been dating for 1 and half yr. He says he's afraid to miss my call or I will get angry and he's afraid to pick up my phone because he is sc...
A. 16 November 2011: Everything is still very raw at the moment, I understand that and off course you are going to be upset and hurt. You need to take some time out to accept that it is over. Don't contact him because it will only make things worse. If you do believe ... (read in full...)
I don't want to blow chances to go out with girls who could be perfect for me just because I can't get this girl out of my head!
Q. about a year ago i was waiting for my bus to go home from college at the station and this girl walked by and we both stared into each others eyes and smiled at one another we both kept looking at each other as she walked past. me then being a shy ...
A. 16 November 2011: She is in a relationship so the decent thing for you to do is to leave her to it and forget about her, you are pining your hopes on something that probably will never happen. You need to try and get her out of your head now and look for someone else ... (read in full...)
We aren't speaking but I want to wish him a happy birthday!
Q. Ok so a couple months ago I lost someone really really really special to me. And even though its been a couple of months I still miss him a lot. What makes it worst is that his birthday is coming up this Sunday and I'm wondering whether I should ...
A. 16 November 2011: I guess he is mad at the fact that you used to hurt yourself and he was scared. I don't think it would be such a bad thing if you wished him a happy birthday and tell him you are thinking about it, it shows that you still care about him. If he is ... (read in full...)
How do I get over him? He broke up with me through a text
Q. How do I completely move on from this guy I was completely in love with easily???????? We broke up on August 24, 2011. He texted me at 3:30 am saying that it wasnt working out. I have no idea what-so-ever as to why we broke up. So help me please ...
A. 16 November 2011: Am afraid that there is no simple and easy way to recover from a broken heart, it just takes time and effort. First of delete him from your contacts and have strictly no contact with him. If there is anything around you that reminds you of him like ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has rather strange views I don't agree with and I'm not sure if I should be in this relationship
Q. ive been with my current gf for about 3 months. it all seemed great at the begining but as i really got to know her. i found out that her ex husband abused her kids she did not go into it but i assumed sexually. she is now having issues with her...
A. 16 November 2011: To be honest with you no amount of therapy or help is going to make her change who she is. These are her opinions and it looks like you are trying to change her in to something that she is not. Off course you don't agree with her opinions but that's ... (read in full...)
How do I trust him after he broke up to go on a dating site?
Q. Hello, I am writing for advice so I can (hopefully) put this issue to rest. My boyfriend and I had been dating for 3 years when he suddenly decided to break up with me. He said our relationship wasn't going anywhere. I was stunned by this,...
A. 16 November 2011: I understand that you do not want to feel like this and you want things to go back to the way they used to be but unfortunately he caused the damage and now it may never be fixed again. I am sure you know that you need trust in a relationship and if ... (read in full...)
He'd rather search the internet than give me a text or a call!
Q. I'm really confused and a but hurt. I just started dating again after a painful breakup and it seems every guy I date is not serious at all. I finally hit it off with "John ". He texted or called me everyday for 3 weeks while he was out of town on ...
A. 16 November 2011: It sounds like he is a bit of a player. You refused to be intimate with him therefore he chose to just move on. It sounds like those weeks of deep meaningful conversations were all just part of his plan to get you in to bed. My guess is that maybe ... (read in full...)
I thought he cared about me too but when I told him how he felt he hasn't been in touch
Q. So i am separated from my husband. And there is this guy i have been talking to and seeing. We have been friends for over 2yrs. We used to talk about everything and we grew such a connection while we were friends (all this happening while i was ...
A. 16 November 2011: I guess maybe when the conversation took a turn and became awkward he got a bit afraid and now he has backed out and is unsure about how he feels. Maybe he does not feel he is in love with you just quite yet. You are not long out of a marriage so ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 15 November 2011: I understand that it will be hard, but look at the way she is treating you, you are unwell and she still does not care. Tell her mother to inform her that if she does not return your car you will report it stolen. Don't mess around this needs to be ... (read in full...)
How long will boyfriend feel like this? Will he still want me?
Q. There is a guy who got dumped 5 weeks ago very suddenly after two years with his girlfriend. We started talking because I had been through exactly the same thing almost 4 months before and knew how he was feeling. I really helped him out by having ...
A. 15 November 2011: He is just feeling really low at the moment, he is going through a bout of depression and honestly nobody can help him at the moment, you will probably just push him further away all you can do is let him know that you are there for him and leave it ... (read in full...)
How to have the "we need to talk" talk with a guy??? Any help appreciated!!
Q. This guy and I have had an on-again off-again thing for nearly three years now. Nothing physical, but we have a hell of a lot of chemistry. And it isn't just "Oh your attractive let's have sex"-- it's a legitimate I care about you and hope you're ...
A. 15 November 2011: It looks like he has feelings for you but he is confused by many factors. I think that he is listening to his friends and thinks that it is just not worth getting involved with you for what ever reasons. There are definitely things that are holding ... (read in full...)
My bf doesn't work and I pay all the bills. Please help me see this from a different perspective.
Q. I am at a tough point in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year, and have been best friends for 2 years before that. I love him a lot, and I think he loves me too. However, after starting to live together, the ...
A. 15 November 2011: Honey it sounds to me like he is a user. Read over your post again and look at the way he is treating you, if you where to read this and give someone advice well then what would you say after reading that. He is cruel and heartless by what he says ... (read in full...)
Are our conversations boring? Does he still like me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I really really like this guy. Ive had a huge crush on him for 4 years but haven't talked to him until recently. We both are so similar. We like the same things, think the same, we're both kind of reserved and don't open up much. In...
A. 15 November 2011: You are very negative about yourself and you sound insecure, you sound like a girl that will need to be constantly reassured by a man and believe me no man is going to find that sexy. If you like him well that is good, flirt with him, talk the way ... (read in full...)
I can't tell by the signs if my housemate may be interested or not?
Q. I'm a gay woman and I've recently started fancying my house-mate. I don't know i) if she's intertested in women or ii) if she likes me. But here's what's happened: 1. We were out one-night with a group. And for pretty much the whole night she ...
A. 15 November 2011: My guess is that she just looks to you as a female friend. Some girls can be very touchy feely with girl in a pure platonic way. Off course with you being a lesbian this is going to confuse you. But if am honest my guess is she is not attracted to ... (read in full...)
How long will boyfriend feel like this? Will he still want me?
Q. There is a guy who got dumped 5 weeks ago very suddenly after two years with his girlfriend. We started talking because I had been through exactly the same thing almost 4 months before and knew how he was feeling. I really helped him out by having ...
A. 15 November 2011: If you do not want to get back with your ex boyfriend well then you need to drop all contact with him, he is probably just jealous now because you are with someone else. Stop all the contact and tell him to leave you alone.
As for this other gu... (read in full...)
How do I fix the relationship with my in-laws?
Q. I would like to ask how to fix my relationship with my in-laws who are against me at the very beginning? My 33 year old husband is a Mama's Boy. The rich mother doesn't want to give us a chance to loan from a bank for us to have our own home, the ...
A. 15 November 2011: He needs to stand on his own two feet if he is wanting to move with you to your own place. His mother cannot hold his hand for the rest of his life. It is her little boy and she probably just does not want to let him go but he needs to start living ... (read in full...)
3 years ago and I'm still thinking of my cousin
Q. Hey people, I posted a similar question related to this like in September. But I want new answers. Also, I really appreciate you guys and girls for helping me out and I have a problem. Please don't say ewwwwww, or anything rude. Be mature, if not ...
A. 15 November 2011: I'm sorry but I have to agree. My guess on this would be that she knew you where falling for her, she said she was to tired because she simply did not want to give you her email address. She did not share your feelings so she tried to avoid you, she ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else think my colleague fancies me?
Q. dear cupid, soo, there's this guy at work (the college newspaper)that i've kind of taken a liking to. i'm not sure whether or not he knows how i feel--i haven't actually told him, buuut sometimes, people can just figure that sort of thing out for...
A. 15 November 2011: Well you don't know how he feels about you, and vice versa. Why not give him a little text and ask him would he like to go out with you for a drink some night, just get to know him a little better outside of work, flirt with him and show him you are ... (read in full...)
I'm told the girl I like likes me too, but she hasn't given me any signs
Q. I really like someone and one of my friend told me that she likes me too but I dont seem to be getting any signs off her. we're really good friends and told a couple of weeks back but she didnt make much of it but thats not something that I would ...
A. 15 November 2011: Take the lead and ask her out, ask her out for a drink or maybe to go and watch a movie together. ... (read in full...)
Why does this man act this way and chose to ignore this woman?
Q. There is this man in who sometimes leads my group. Recently, after stating at the beginning of the meeting that he expects all must participate and give a lot of comments by raising their hands, chose to not allow a certain female whom he often ...
A. 15 November 2011: If all of you as a group have noticed this problem with him well then maybe a few should take him to one side and ask him why he is doing this. It is unfair behaviour on his part because he is singling this girl out and ignoring her opinion like it ... (read in full...)
Is my ex only using me while he tries and gets back with his ex wife? Should I get rid of him now or wait and see?
Q. My ex partner to whom I have a child has recently broken up with his wife and has come running back to me in order to reinstate a relationship that was never completely finished because he left to marry her. However, during his marriage of about 4 ...
A. 15 November 2011: Have your feelings towards him really changed or are you just trying to convince yourself you don't feel anything so that you do not get hurt. He obviously hurt you in the past by leaving you for his wife. So obviously you are going to have barriers ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 14 November 2011: She is controlling you and you know it. You just need to remain strong. Tell her you are sick of letting her use you and you are finished, tell her your mind is made up and not to contact you again, don't listen to anything she has to say just end ... (read in full...)
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