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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): In the long run who's getting the most out of this relationship? He's getting a young eye candy on his arm and your getting an old body on top of you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): If you've nothing in common I wouldn't bother. There are loads of people of your own age out there who it would be nice to kiss.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (11 June 2009):
 I suppose it depends on whether you want a sexual relationship or not...that's all its probably going to be...your friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): I agree with rhythmandblues2. I started seeing a guy who was 10 years older than me (and still seeing him). I thought it would be a 'mature' relationship and I ended up getting too emotionally involved. When he told me he didnt want to take things any further than sex it REALLY hurt me. But I because I liked him so much I couldnt stand the thought of not seeing him so patched things up. Pathetic I know. Now I just wish I had never started anything in the first place.
If you think you can keep emotions out of it completly then go for it. If not then dont - it will save you a lot of hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): You can persue it, maybe learn a thing or 2 (although maybe only guy think this way) but don't forget the old saying, curiousity killed the cat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): No, it is not worth it just for the sex. This guy is old enough to be your father and you are so young that the age gap means more at your age then it would later on.
Don't allow yourself to be used for sex, ever. Women get attached emotionally and bond to their sex partners where men do not. So usually we end up getting used and abused when we allow ourselves to enter into sex only relationships.
And you have admitted that is what his and your intentions are here. I think it is a bad move and he sounds kind of like a dirty old man if you ask me or a man who is in bad need of an ego boost....I see trouble and I am wondering how well you know this guy, is he married? How the heck did you meet some 43 year old guy and he is kissing you?
You obviously do not run in the same crowd, so who does he know that you know? How did you meet him?
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reader, cindy888  +, writes (11 June 2009):
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it's healthy and consensual. I think he should be taking you out though and showing you a good time so it's just not all about sex. Make sure he's not married!
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