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*ingnando17
writes:Hi, i'm 20 years old and I had great sex the night before with my gf for a good 40 minutes, but the next night she wanted to do it again, and i wasnt in the mood, i couldnt get aroused, is that normal? Can a guy really not be in the mood for sex even after a whole day of rest?
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (9 June 2009):
 If you are doing it for so long its unlikely you could keep this up on a regular basis. Guys were not designed to do this. Sex in 'cave man' times was short and quick as they had to be on guard and aware of external dangers. Modern life has changed that but we are hard wired and that is difficult to change. have sex when you want to enjoy it, if you don't feel like it learn some techniques about how to please her sexually in other ways. either way it should be fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): from a guy...
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Both are normal.
We all know that at your age, yes you could physically do it.
She has the right to her desires with you and you have the right not to oblige if you really don't want to. But romance has little to do with rights.
That is a hell of a compliment for you though. I hope you thanked her for the compliment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): There are large variations in both men and women. Both sexes have those who are hard to get into the mood and both sexes have those who want sex all the time. Women tend more to the affection that goes with sex and they have to be in the mood, while men tend more to want sex for the sake of sex, sort of a primal need. Hey, our high levels of testosterone make us that way.
There is nothing wrong with you for not being in the mood the next day. All men probably have those feelings at times. It depends what went on that day, how stressed we are, who bugged us that day, any number of things. Levels of testosterone and DHT also vary sometimes. DHT is the hormone that determines sex drive in men and it can be different on different days.
The other thing is did you have much to drink the second night. Alcohol can either increase libido or decrease it, depending on the man. Enough will also make it difficult to perform.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Well you are a guy and you were not in the mood so i believe, yes, a guy really can not be in the mood after a full day of rest. There's most likely nothing infectious or diseased about you if that's what you're implying. Some people are simply less horny than others.
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