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writes:Hi all,Can you advise please. i am separated for 4 months now and i met a guy beginning of may, not my usually type so i reckon that was a good omen. Anyhow we have met a few times, he makes me laugh and we generally get along very well. Only thing is i has sex with him last weekend and am now wondering if it was to soon!! I have been with my husband for 8 years prior to this and he has been the first guy since i separated.we live about 100 miles apart, he has come to see me a few times and then eventually i went to visit him.However, upon saying our goodbyes last weekend he said it was his turn to visit me (howver there is a local football game on and i had a feeling he would choose that over me) he said he hurt himself and could not make it up so said we will do it the weekend after (i feel this was just an excuse) i think if a guy really wants to see you, then he would. I am angry, as i feel now it every second weekend, will i just call it a day with this guy as i reckon it is just a casual thing he is looking for and i dont do casual...i tend to get to emotionally involved. i dont think i am up to it..can you spread light on this, was i a fool to sleep with him just after a month of meeting him?I thought this part of my life was over with and here i am again....thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (12 June 2009):
 As long as you enjoyed sleeping with him then that is fine, but the real issue is that it is not likely that you are going to have a long term relationship if he lives 100 miles away. You need to be realistic, be glad you met someone nice and now go out and find another nice person...who lives closer.
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reader, TheNerd  +, writes (12 June 2009):
Not at all! Did you have fun? Then no regrets. :)
A guy who has respect for you won't stop respecting you after sex, just like a guy who doesn't love you won't suddenly love you after sex. You do what feels right for YOU, and don't worry about what he thinks. After all, it takes two to tango, so he's just as "guilty" as you are.
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