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writes:I'm an attractive educated female and I'm about to turn 29 years old and I haven't had sex yet. Don't get me wrong, I've done everything but get penetrated. I was waiting till marriage but I have no prospects and I don't want this to be a problem after I turn 30. I can't hire a prostitute and I don't have any male friends in town who are willing, considering all I do is go to work and come home and it doesn't help that I live with family. Plus, I've had some bad experiences where I tried to lose my virginity in a friends with benefits situation but most of the guys aren't interested in having sex with a virgin. I don't know what to do because when I was younger I thought I would find my future husband by now and I would turn men away back in college, but now it's just not happening and I don't want to wait anymore but I have no idea how to find someone. If it were up to me, I'd want to lose it to someone I love and who loves me back but I've had nothing but unsuccessful relationships with men that have left me very heartbroken and chipped at my self esteem too. What makes it more complicated it that as much as I want to lose my virginity, I'd like to at least have my first sexual experience with someone who cares about me. Any advise would be very much appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell guys, after exchanging some pics, I realized the guy I wanted to go ahead and hook up with was not who he said he was (SURPRISE SURPRISE). Turns out his age was A LOT older than he said (I'm talking over the hill). I laughed about it because it makes sense...it was too good to be true I guess. So I'm over that and I'm definitely not going to go see him and I'm back to being a single lady which if I'm honest isn't that bad. But in the mean time, I really appreciate all the advice I was given. Some were supportive, some were super critical, some were a bit harsh, and some gave me some really good epiphanies. So again, I appreciate all the feedback and I'm going to apply it and hopefully it should produce a good results for my future.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (4 June 2012):
You really are desperate, aren't you, OP? A week of e-mails is enough to proclaim he's the "epitome of my dream man"? Yeah, for a naive 14-year-old maybe. Usually they get a reality check from their parents, their friends or both.
Listen, knowing someone through e-mails is not knowing someone at all. On the internet, we all are what we want to be, rarely who we really are. Even on face book people usually put their best pictures and their happiest status updates, all giving the idea of a perfect life. E-mails leave a whole window for lies. Never mind the sex part.
When I was 18 I met up with someone after having exchanged e-mails back and forth for a month. Sex hadn't come up and I was sure I had a good idea of what he was like. Turned out he wasn't at all who he claimed to be. He was a perverted turd who tried to get it on with me and when I turned him down he offered alcoholic drinks he refused to let me see how he made them. I left as quickly as I could, happy it ended well instead of as another sad date rape drug story. I was stupid and naive, even for that age.
At your age, you should know better, I'm sorry to say. You said you wanted to tackle this with as much maturity as possible, so I will tell you now that this is NOT the way to go about it.
If you guys already talked about sex that early on I will bet you my rent money that's all he's really after. Why would a guy want to get involved with you if he can get the sex without working for it? He's not going to. He's going to try and take your virginity and then dump you. It's a recipe for disaster OP, especially since you never met the guy. He could be a creep like in my situation. He could be carrying tons of STD's. And if you came on all hot and heavy in your e-mails he's not going to settle for a cuddle and a kiss when you get together. Plus in the heat of the moment condoms are often an afterthought.
Please look out for yourself. I didn't mean to come across as harsh but your follow up made all the warning bells go off in my head.
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reader, daletom +, writes (4 June 2012):
So after a week of emails you KNOW that he's ". . . all those things I've ever wanted in a man . . ."? I don't believe that!
(And I think I know something about that kind of relationship. The relationship with my wife started by exchanging written letters (there wasn't an internet, or email in those days), and after 3 months we were ready to meet. Yeah, she kissed on the first date - REALLY kissed! - but it was several months after that before either of us felt truly ready for sex, and about 15 months after the first letter when we finally gave each other our virginities. We're still married, almost 38 years later.)
Your first sex partner really needs to know that you're a virgin, and he needs to have some understanding and respect for the physical as well as emotional and mental conditions that come with your virginity.
Have you read the responses from "chigirl"? Carefully? All of them? She has some good advice. She's trying to tell you that if it's "awkward" to explain your "situation" to a guy, then you are NOT really ready to have sex with him.
If you meet a guy and ". . . it's over . . . " after you ". . . reveal (your) truth . . ." then there is a problem with what you are telling them, either explicitly or implicitly. As was mentioned - are you bringing sex into the discussions before it's really appropriate? Do you tell the guy you want a serious, long-term, relationship . . . then, on the first date you tell him (between the lines) something like "Come home with me and fuck my brains out and show me everything I've missed for the last 10 years." That Jekyll/Hyde turnabout should scare off ANY sane guy! Or do you come across more like, "Make love to me so I have a reason to cling to you forever!"? Yes, it IS awesome to have a loving wife and life-partner who is always there - both in and out of the bedroom - but that's NOT an idea you want to be working through when you're still wondering if you want a second date.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 June 2012):
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reader, chigirl +, writes (3 June 2012):
Stop talking about sex. If he talks about sex too early then that is unfortunately a sign that sex is what he is interested in. A man who is interested in YOU will wait with bringing up sex.
Don't lie to him, and don't pretend to know more about sex than you do. Generally talking about it, I guess you can do that if it is within your comfort zone. But really, when you haven't even met this man, why would you be talking about sex with him already? I think that is a warning sign.
If he wants to talk about sex just don't participate in that conversation. Change the topic. Or day you are feeling uncomfortable discussing sex and intimate matters when you barely know him. Everyone would feel uneasy about sharing such information so early! Don't think that everyone who has sex goes about talking about sex with strangers, we don't! We keep our sex-lives and private information close to heart! So should you. Such matters do not need to come up for discussion until you are actually in a relationship and moving on to that stage of your relationship where you will have sex. Until then there is absolutely NO need to discuss sex. Really.
If he talks about sex too much, and too early, then that is just a sign that he is predominantly occupied with sex.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (3 June 2012):
When the time is right to tell him, you should tell him. Like I mentioned to a small amount in my previous post, if he cares about you, he will stick around. Similarly, don't just tell him outright. I am sure the discussion about sex will happen sometime sooner or later but in the meantime...just enjoy the moment and leave this thought out. You've put this issue on a high rank and I don't blame you! BUT this is someone new so its just a matter of learning from the past. Don't blame or beat up yourself. Just enjoy this opportunity you have. And just be the normal great person that you are. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo after a weird set of events, I met someone online and he's kind of the epitome of my dream man. He's successful, attractive, classy, romantic and all those things I've ever wanted in a man. We've been exchanging emails for the past days and I think he wants to meet me. I'm a bit nervous because he told me about his past girlfriends and we've already talked about sex, but I haven't told him my "secret". What should I do guys :( I don't want to meet him and have to explain my "situation" to him with the same awkwardness I've encountered with most men and have it be a complete disaster. I know, I know...if he's after me for sex then he's no good and move on. But I really want things to work with this guy or at least have fun with him. I think that's why I wrote this post...because situations like this will always happen to me and I'll reveal my truth and then it's over. What should I do guys?? Or what would you do if you were in my shoes?
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reader, chigirl +, writes (29 May 2012):
"I put out this question because I wanted advise on how to deal with the internal and spiritual struggle of being an adult virgin. "
My two scents is that you're struggle is about as difficult to handle as others "struggle" with being adult non-virgins.
Beg me pardon, but what exactly is this struggle? Are you feeling like less of a human? Less of a woman? Are people making fun of you? Are you being bullied? Being a virgin, by itself, isn't a "struggle", it's a factual thing you either are or aren't. It is something that people can't see, that doesn't limit you in any way, and that doesn't hold you back mentally like a mental illness would.
If you came here saying you're struggling with a mental illness, well then I'd understand. But I don't have a clue what this struggle is about. So for me to be able to help, you'll have to elaborate and not take for granted that people will automatically understand your struggles. We don't know what you are struggling with.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (29 May 2012):
OP, if you wanted "advice on how to deal with the internal and spiritual struggle of being an adult virgin" you should have said exactly that in your original post. Instead, your post is titled: "Still a virgin at 28 and I want to get rid of it." In your post you talk about how you've been unable to do this so far. That's why all of us started listing ways on how to find the right man to lose it to, because we thought that was what you wanted to know. Also, I am not implying anything. I merely told you a way to meet guys that could be more compatible than those you've dated in the past.
Now, as for your struggle, most of it is in your head. You're tying most of your negative emotions to your age. I bet if we shaved off ten years you wouldn't view this as a problem at all. So why is it so bad to be a 28-year-old virgin? Supermodel Adriana Lima was one. No-one mocked her for it. Hell, it only raised her appeal because she was one of the few high profile women who still hadn't given it away at that age.
I lost mine at 22 to a relatively inexperienced guy and had a wonderful time. Another time I slept with someone who'd been at it since 16 and it was horrible. So it's all relative. What one consideres great, others don't like. It all comes down to pleasing the current partner you're with. Being the clean slate you are you don't have to get rid of old habits, which can be a huge advantage. Look up retroactive jealousy if you want to know about one of the downsides of losing it young and having several partners since.
The key is not to use age as a measuring stick. Planning out your life like that never works out and only leads to disappointment. So if you want to experience sex, go out and do it. Don't bring up the virginity issue until sleeping with the guy is a real possibility.
With me, I simply got close to a guy over the course of months and told him when the subject came up. Easing into a relationship really helps. So why not focus on finding a guy you enjoy spending time with first, and worry about your virginity later?
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reader, chigirl +, writes (29 May 2012):
Okay let me see if I have got this clear. You have been waiting with sex for marriage. So you want to be married. You are not married yet, so feeling disappointed by that. You are currently not romantically involved with anyone, which also pose a problem not just for your hopes of getting married soon, but also because now you're interested in having sex.
Well, looks to me like the solution is to enter a relationship with a man who loves you and wants to have sex with you. The question is this: if you enter a relationship with a man, and you get along wonderfully, and you are in love, are you going to be willing to have sex with him? Or are you going to tell him you want to be married to him first?
You want to lose your virginity to someone who loves you and who loves you back. Now, what makes you think you aren't going to find such a person for the remaining part of your life? What is it that makes you think that if you haven't met him NOW, you won't EVER?
Having sex is easy, every guy on town is going to bang you without asking questions and without calling you the next morning. If you bleed just tell him you got your period. That is, if you just want to do it and see what happens. It's not going to be romantic or loving or particularly pleasurable in any way though, unless you're so horny you're tearing off the wallpaper and just NEED a man, any man, to do the job.
As that appears to be a choice you aren't interested in.. well at that is left is to enter yet another relationship and see where it takes you. You've had relationships before, you know how to get a boyfriend. Do it again. Maybe have sex with him even if you don't love each other, because at least then you'll be with someone who respects you and will take it slow with you in the bedroom. Which is better than the one night stand option.
As for friends with benefits.. I find it odd that that hasn't worked for you. Maybe it just shows what great friends you have around you, as none of your friends are willing to risk the friendship by mixing it with sex. And they probably care a lot for you too, since they think you deserve to have sex with someone who loves you as more than a friend. It's ironic how others tend to think you are worth MORE than you think yourself, and thus deny you to do what YOU actually want to do. But that's just the way people are.
You do have another option. You care about yourself, right? By a dildo and experiment with yourself. It's not what I would classify as intercourse, and you're still very much a virgin in the sense that you haven't had the real experience (which is quite different). But at least it'll give you a softer start, warm you up to it, ease you into it. Nothing wrong in a little experimentation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTO maverick494:I understand where you are coming from and what you are trying to say when you ask me what are my hobbies. You're implying that I need to meet someone who I have something in common with in terms of common interests and it might lead to me meeting him. But I'm not really looking on advise as to how to meet a guy. I put out this question because I wanted advise on how to deal with the internal and spiritual struggle of being an adult virgin. To iAmHereToHelpYou:Okay, you're digging yourself into a grave here. Now, I really don't appreciate that you think I can't decipher the difference between true love and an imagined love especially considering my age. Honey, I don't open my legs to any man who says "I love you" and I'm wise enough to know love is not enough. In fact, I knew all this when I was 16 years old like you hence why I waiting so long!!! I SAID...I would PREFER to be with someone I loved and who cared for me...not that they were my only prerequisites to having sex with them!! Please don't address me like I'm stupid because I of all people know that a lot goes into making a mature decision to have sex with someone (i.e. personality, compatibility, time, love, patience, the list goes on). I own my destiny and I make the decisions I want in life and whether or not you may consider them impulsive or impatient is irrelevant. You really need to rephrase your choice of words because they come off as personally offensive, rude and insensitive and not at all helpful like your screen name. Maybe you don't mean to come off that way but YOU DO!To CindyCares:In response to your question (and I think this will help a lot of people answering my question...I'm not looking for advise as to how to find the right guy). I guess at my age, I've come to the point where I realized if I meet "the one" great, if not I don't care because life goes on and I'm not going to put my sex life on hold for a stranger whether he be my "soulmate" or not. I've always been a go getter type of person and I realized that if you go out of your way to find love (which I foolishly have)...it usually won't happen so I stopped looking a long time ago. My decision to wait to have sex was made when I was a teenager and young adult due to living in a very religious household. Now I consider entering into 29/30 as being a full adult and I see the world differently and have new viewpoints on life. I want to experience all aspects of life including my sexuality (and whether or not Mr. Right comes in the picture has become a bit irrelevant). And I'm not going to lie to you...I do harbor feelings of regret for waiting so long. If I could go back in time, I wish I didn't wait because now I feel inexperienced and foolish. It's become redundant and humiliating to explain my lack of experience to a man and have see if he'll accept it or run. I wouldn't wish this on anyone because it sucks and has created great awkwardness in my love life. I don't even go on dates anymore because the thought of bringing this up is like a nightmarish deja-vu. So I just want to get it over with and move on with my life. I hate to say it but it's the point where I'm not proud of myself for waiting anymore. I was actually engaged to be married when I was 25 to a guy and he basically dumped me afterwards and he turned out to be a user. It sucked but I'm glad it happened because I was ready to give it up this guy and thank god it didn't work out. So now I want to be more in control and not base sex on marriage or waiting and just have it for my own pleasure at least. I also have a ton of other reasons for changing my mind on waiting but this is one of them.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 May 2012):
 I am not tryng to be argumentative for the heck of it, I am honestly baffled by your question, there's something that I do not understand.
Why was it OK being a virgin at 27 or 28 but it would not be at 30 or 31 ?
I mean, you have remained a virgin not for lack of occasions and suitors, but for a willing choice , right ? which, I suppose, is based upon a religious or moral stance which says " Premarital sex is not OK, sex is only ok when you are married ".
That should not change with age, or at least I have never heard anybody saying :" I don't believe in sex out of marriage so I'll keep my virginity... well, if I can get married early of course, like 22 ,- if not, I'll just go at it like a rabbit ". In theory, if you have a vision of life that disapproves of sex before marriage, ..then you'll have sex when you'll marry : at 30,or 35 or whenever happens IF it happens.
Sure, you may have changed your mind,which is perfectly OK; only fools never change their minds. But actually your quandary has not much to do with getting rid of your virginity per se. If it were about that, you just have to post on a casual encounters site and in a few hours you can take care of the problem. Your question is actually about how to find a mate, a companion, a partner- someone who CARES about you, something where there are feelings and respect and closeness involved.
It's not that yours is not a valid, legitimate question, in fact is a very important one for any woman. But your virginity issue is secondary to it. You are asking how and where ,basically, to find a GOOD guy ,( good guy who also , naturally and consequentially, will want to be physically intimate with you ).
That may take some time. Or it may not, you may meet him tomoeeow. But anyway, if you want an experience of some quality, you should not give yourself any time limit. You should give yourself time to look around, evaluate, and choose right; you should not be anxious to seal the deal with whomever as long as he's game. I think this is what the poster who mentions " impatience " means. You have waited so long, why not waiting some more, as long as it takes to find, if not Mr. Forever, Mr. Nice-guy-who-will-appreciate-you- and won't-use- you - and - abuse - you.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (29 May 2012):
OP, you have to remember our reactions are based on what you gave us to work with. We don't know the exact context of the situation unless you give it to us. You living at home was something I noticed and I brought it up because you didn't elaborate on it in your first post. I'm not judging you for living at home still, but if it's for the wrong reasons (i.e. just being too lazy to move out, like one of my friends was) it could be a contributing factor to your situation.
If I may ask, when are you planning to move overseas? I mean, if you're going to find a man you like and it turns out things are going so well it leads to a relationship, it would be a bummer if you have to leave him behind.
Okay, so bars are out of the question. To be honest, where I live people of all ages go to them. It's not limited to 18-year olds. Mind you, I never implied you should just hook up with someone there. I simply noted the possibility you might encounter someone there you may click with.
Whenever I meet a cute guy at a bar, I don't let him take me home, I arrange to meet up somewhere on another day when we're both sober and take it from there. Finding someone in establishments like that all depends on how you go about it. After a certain hour everyone is drunk, but if you visit before that, who knows. But anyway, since you do not want to do that, let's visit other options.
For one, you haven't talked about any hobbies you have and sports you may (want to) do. These things offer you the possibility to meet a lot of new people that share at least one of your interests. I met my first serious boyfriend during sports (which was martial arts).
So what are your interests, OP? What are you most passionate about?
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reader, Xearo +, writes (29 May 2012):
I understand your problem. I had feared this same situation myself so I took the opportunity when I was younger. A decision like this is better to be based on the future rather than experiences from the past.
The problem with FWB is that most guys don't want that type of responsibility coz they fear the emotional back lash from the girl or themselves.
If you are indeed attractive and you do sound level headed then try to find a sort of liberal, open minded guy-friend. This sort of person can understand and if he is attracted to you, then he may choose to take the responsibility. On the flip side you can try to find a guy who is a virgin as well and develop a friendship from there.
Also do not let the decision cloud who you are...this might seem unnecessary of me to say but I will still say it. Don't let the problem cloud you and affect who you are. It is always important to go out there in life and try new things. Sometimes other things bother us like stress from work etc that it can affect these sort of decisions people can have. By no means am I warning you, but I think it is worth looking into with some relaxing meditation and reflection...things needed to gain a good peace of mind.
I have some friends who are girls...26-30 and are still virgins. They are in the same boat you are but there ARE guys that do like them but they refuse to engage. I feel like they have become addicted to being virgins and only continue to constantly put themselves in these weird mind sets. Maybe they are waiting for someone who will care for them a lot but....you can't really have your cake and eat it too. I fear that they do not understand the situation like I do and expect the best of all worlds. Oh well, sex is fun I can say that for sure.
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (29 May 2012):
Kiddo, just chill. You are making a life for yourself. You've said that you're saving money so you can move overseas, so I'll assume that you've been studying to be a professional -- in medicine, engineering, something like that. Regardless, you're aiming to make something of yourself, a career that speaks to you. Good for you. You have a good sense of your calling, which is an incredibly precious thing. For goodness sake, carry on with that.
What attracts a soul mate is when you're doing what you ought to be doing. When you're one with your destiny, when your soul is settled, that's when the right person comes along. Virginity has nothing to do with it.
Carry on doing what you know is right for you. One day a guy will come along who recognizes the perfect harmony of you and your vocation, and sees how he will fit. Then your virginity will be not only a gift, it will be the key to an amazing future.
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reader, daletom +, writes (29 May 2012):
You are much different from the teens (both guys and girls) who post something like, "I'm 16 and want to have sex so I can be like all of my friends . . . ".
Re-read what you wrote. Admittedly, you want to have the physical experience of sex - and that isn't all bad! - but you REALLY want to be in a loving, considerate M/F relationship that includes sex. As others have mentioned, you should be working toward this objective.
Sex REALLY IS better when it's a natural result of love. Your sexuality is something significant and valuable to you - and I agree that it SHOULD be. Based on what you have said, a random, one-time romp wouldn't be much more than using a guy's penis to masturbate with - perhaps briefly satisfying on a purely physical level, but mentally and emotionally it's likely likely to leave you even more sad and disappointed than you are now.
"maverick494" gave you some good advice. (Though I'm not sure your living at home is as big a factor as she claims.)
The "anonymous male reader" also said something very notable: guys with integrity (the only kind you should consider as a potential partner) know that a 28 year old virgin (either male or female) doesn't take sexual relationships lightly, and they will refrain from coupling with you unless they are similarly serious.
Look at my reply to the question "Is it a turn off/negative thing for a male to be a virgin?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-a-turn-off-negative-thing-for.html , and the links from it. (It's the 4th from the bottom of the replies.) Essentially the same comments apply to you.
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reader, lover06 +, writes (29 May 2012):
wow it is a nice thing to hear that you are still a virgin, which doesnt happen much. you havent found that one love , which may just come in at anytime right, but then times flys too. :) you could just wait as you said you want him to love and aleast know you . If you were interested in woman then I Could have been able to help which would be a honor . lol.
take is slow love coz you never know that one could be at the next turn . think about it. Take care and Good luck . :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh dear, I'm beginning to wish I never posted this question. Okay #1, I'm living at home because I'm saving up to move overseas. #2, I don't appreciate being called "impatient" or "impulsive" because if I were those things I wouldn't be posting this question. #3, I'm at an age where I've outgrown the bar and club scene because I don't like talking to strangers I will never see again when I'm drunk. #4, This situation is something that I am thinking about addressing in the safest smartest and maturest way possible. I'm not going to run to the streets and try to sleep with total strangers. Unwanted pregnancies and STDs are a serious reality of which I am very aware. I have too many friends in those same predicaments and I have no desire to make any bad decisions. Again, I'm looking for GOOD ADVISE...NOT CRITICISM!!! So please, if you have anything to say that is judgmental or critical...take it somewhere else! And thank you to those who have been supportive because you are helping me see things in a new and positive light :)
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (29 May 2012):
Two things stand out from your post:
#1. You still live at home
#2. Apart from work, you have any social activities.
In this situation you've set up for yourself, you're not going to meet a lot of men, let alone one that rocks your world. It doesn't help that you limit yourself to the town you live in. That's a really small pool to fish in.
- So start by becoming more independent. Why are you still living at home?
- Take up hobbies. Do things that interest you, even if you think you're too old. I had my first ballet class at 22. Yup. Sounds crazy huh? At 24 I'm on pointe, something I never thought possible. Plus I met some great people there that are now friends. So go out think of what you really want to do. And do it.
- Put yourself out there. How is the right man going to be aware of your existence if you don't show up in social gatherings like bars, etc.?
- Let go of the stigma. You're 28, not ancient. Sure, you're later than most, but what's the fun of being part of the herd anyway?
Only try online dating once you've exhausted the above options. Online dating can be tricky and attract shady characters, which is the last thing you need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): hey there, i promise there are lots of decent men out there who would have no issues with you being a virgin, i understand that it bothers you but there is nothing to be ashamed about or make an issue out of, if anything you should be proud that you have waited for someone you love because i wish i had, i lost my virginity at 17 to a complete moron and i wish i had waited. have you thought about trying online dating? that way you can meet men who you know are looking for love and go from there?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): hey there, i promise there are lots of decent men out there who would have no issues with you being a virgin, i understand that it bothers you but there is nothing to be ashamed about or make an issue out of, if anything you should be proud that you have waited for someone you love because i wish i had, i lost my virginity at 17 to a complete moron and i wish i had waited. have you thought about trying online dating? that way you can meet men who you know are looking for love and go from there?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): The only reason some guys don't want to sleep with you is because they don't want the potential baggage. This is NOT the same thing as them thinking your virginity is unattractive. It's VERY attractive to most guys, that is why they don't feel worthy of spoiling it on something meaningless.
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reader, portiaconn  +, writes (28 May 2012):
Maybe you could try internet dating? Alot of guys on there would be very willing to have sex with you! But don't just choose any one, make sure you pick your favorite! Oh and I remember reading something about a woman who auctioned her virginity off for A LOT of money!.. Not that I'd suggest this behaviour or anything ;) Hahaha Good luck honey, hope everything turns out okay! xxx
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