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writes:Hello all!I am 20 and my now fiance is 23, so we're pretty young, but we are so excited to get married! My only problem is that I am EXTREMELY nervous to tell my parents. We want to tell everyone and get the plans going (we want to get married next summer), but I have this incredible fear of telling my parents, even though they really like my fiance. We also already live together, so I'm not sure that our life will be much different.I have this guilt complex with my parents, and have a hard time telling them most things in fear of being disapproved of. I know this is childish and irrational, and I should do what I want, but it means a lot to me that they have a positive reaction and are happy for us.Anyone have advice on how to tell them in a way that would get a good response? Particular setting or wording? Thanks everyone :)
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (28 April 2012):
 You could always elope. In fact, I would've rather done that. My small wedding was incredibly stressful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone :) I know I'm being silly, worrying and all. I guess I'm just nervous because I don't like a lot of attention, and this is definitely an attention getter!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (27 April 2012):
You fear telling them because they may disapprove due to your age. 20 is young to get married and you're at that stage in your life of trying to figure out who you are. Being a wife may or may not be it.
Anyways, you need to tell them soon seeing as the wedding is a year away; you need their help physically and maybe financially.
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reader, golddigger99 +, writes (27 April 2012):
 I agree with the other posters here....you already live together, so they'll be expecting this at some point, right?
I would venture to say that you're nervous telling ur parents that you're getting married because you're afraid of what they'll think? Well...how did they react when you told them you were living together? My guess is to expect the same response.
If it was bad...at least you know they'll get over it eventually! lol!
Good luck!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (27 April 2012):
 I cant see why it would get a bad response, no matter what you say! After all they like your partner, and you already live together so it is hardly going to be surprise of the century if you tell them you are engaged.
Setting isnt really important - maybe invite them around to your house, or go round to their house with your fiance. As for wording - the easy way to do it is go 'mum, dad, xxx (fiance's name) asked me to marry him and I said yes!' or 'mum, dad, xxx (fiance's name) and I are engaged!' then show them the ring.
There are only so many ways you can say 'I'm engaged' so you really shouldnt worry about what wording you will use.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (27 April 2012):
You already live together, so this isn't going to be a huge shock, right?
What your parents want is for you to be with someone who loves you, who is committed to making your life the best it can be. Forever.
Have him tell them that. That's all it takes.
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