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*ntPain
writes:Hey everyone,My problem is getting back with an ex. We broke up about 2 months ago, after a nearly all that time waiting for her I started to move on but then she suddenly wanted me back. I happily said yes as we never broke up for any decent reason, I still really love being around and we still get on really well.My only problem is she is AWFUL at expressing how shes feeling, shes told me she wants to take things slow and be single, we kiss and act like a couple now but we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend but she doesnt actually tell me how much she likes me and hasnt done anything huge to try and win me back and show it.I feel like its unfair on me as I'm falling for her all over again with no guarantee other then what she has said she wants. Its like....I have to trust shes not going to hurt me, but she has before.What should I do? Everytime I pressure for this stuff I feel like I'm being pushy and needy, that I need answer whilst she just wants to "go with the flow" and be spontaneous. I see where shes coming from but I am right in thinking shes not being empathetic at all?Thanks
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 April 2012):
 The only way to sort this out is to talk to her, I know you feel you are being needy but you are not, she is not offering you commitment and you are falling for her again, off course you are not wanting to get hurt again. So you need to talk to her and be honest with her, tell her you feel yourself falling for her again, and even though you respect that she wants to take things slow, explain that you do not want to get hurt again and ask her how she feels about you, if she does not seem that bothered, maybe you should get out now before it gets worse.
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (27 April 2012):
I'm thinking that you should try just relaxing and going with the flow aas well - that may include doing things without her, meeting new people even dating.... if shes not willing to committ then dont waste your time - she's likely never to be very giving or needing you badly
good luck
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reader, unknown2u  +, writes (27 April 2012):
Bud, you're right to look for some guarantee that she's committed. And it isn't happening. In the absence of her committing, you can only conclude that you're being played. Sorry, but that's how it reads from here.
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