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*oboaxe
writes:Hello, This is kind of a pathetic story, but I would appreciate any help. When I was in college senior year I spotted this beautiful girl that would routinely eat in the cafeteria around the time I was there. I sadly could never time exactly for the both of us to be eating at the same time, so I couldn't go over to her and ask to sit down and chat. The year was about to end and I saw her walking outside of the cafeteria and decided to go for it. I went up to her, introduced myself, had a really quick chat, about 1 minute long, she said it was nice to meet me, but she needed to get to class, so we parted. I never ran into her again. But I did get her name and found her on facebook about two months later. I messaged her, sent her a friend request, she asked who I was and here is the exchange: Hi,I’m the guy who stopped his bike in front of the cafeteria and spoke to you one time.I know we know each other for all of one minute, but you seem like a great girl to talk too.She responded: haha thanks, of course I remember youAnd accepted my request. I followed up a bit later: I’m glad to hear that. So would you like to go to yogurtland and catch up sometime?To which she said I'm sorry but I leave for study abroad in a week and really don't have time :/ I said no problem have fun. So a whole year and a half passed, life went on, and I found out she had defriended me in that time. But I decided to send her a message just yesterday for the hell of it: Hey! I know it's been really long since we last chatted, but what have you been up to? I'm currently shooting and editing videos for a channel that just launched.And get this. She actually responded. She wrote back:Hi _____! Blast from the past! I've been working with Access Hollywood and just starting my last semester. Exciting stuff! Glad to hear you are doing well :)Which brings me to my question. What should be my next move? Continue to carry on this little fbook conversation, asking her about her life and stuff,and perhaps ask her out again? Or am I really kind of reaching here and she's just being polite? Any help would be much appreciated. I apologize for the ridiculous length. Thank you! Hope you have a great day.
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 Hi,
Thanks for the follow up. It really is helpful to get what happened. So, just remember it was simply because she didn't know you. Forget this one, delete and block and all that. Move on to new people. Keep doing what you are doing because you sound a genuine guy. Best wishes.
P.S. I've received many of those texts in my time so welcome to the club!! :)
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (6 May 2012):
Roboaxe is verified as being by the original poster of the question So I know this happened a million years ago, but in case you're curious, she was indeed just being nice. I asked her
"Congratulations! What do you do with Access Hollywood?
"I'm actually finished with them and starting with Fox News next week"
"Nice! I’d love to shoot you a text sometime so I can hear more about it, what do you say?"
And she sadly wrote:
"I don't feel comfortable with that. I really don't know you, sorry."
Oh well. At least I tried, haha.
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (5 January 2012):
 She is just being nice. I am 35, I've dated many women and trust me on this: when a woman is not interested just leave! If a girl has even the slightest interest in you then you feel it. If you are in doubt then most probably you are right, she is not interested! Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2012): hey man, it never hurts to try. but i'm definitely willing to bet she's just being nice. i honestly wouldn't get my hopes up.
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reader, tobson +, writes (5 January 2012):
I dont see much hope. She never followed up more than one answer on your conversations and never asked a question. However I d ask for that yogurt again. After all you dont have anything to loose. If she says NO you will have your answer.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (5 January 2012):
Hello,
No, it seems a massive long shot to me and no contact has been kept up over the past months. Also, she hasn't initiated anything. However, for what it's worth, try the long shot and see if she would catch up. Nothing to lose at all. If you get another refusal, then just shelf everything and move on. Let us know how things go.
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