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writes:Hi,It's really hard for me to admit it, but i really don't know what i should be doing in my relationship. I've been seeing my girlfriend for 6months and it's my first ever serious relationship. I'm 22 and she's 19. We are both virgins and I really don't want to talk about it with her because my theory is that "if I was the one I would know by now". I'm not even sure if it bothers me, but i guess deep down i know it should bother me, guys should always non-stop want sex, and it's definately taboo to be a virgin at 22.We spend almost all our free time together, but we get very little time to be physical. She still lives at home and despite the fact that she's a student her grandmother makes her life miserable if she's back after 11.30. She has never spent the night! Having just graduated I know what you're average "student relationship" is like and this isn't it. It feels like i'm dating someone much younger.There feels like there is so much missing in our relationship, am i right in thinking that wanting to be with someone means putting up with things not always being quite right, or not. Very occationally I've tried talking about it but she starts crying or gets upset.What should I do
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Hi Hunny
You no if I hadnt got married at 19 my mother would still have been the same as in what time I should be home even though Id left home before...When you have an over protective parent or in this case grandmother its so hard to please everyone, I didnt like upsetting my mum but NOW!!!!ONLY NOW! Do I realise that no matter what I would have upset her anyway..I never liked getting thr 3rd 4th n 5th degree oh boy my mothers words were "IF UR STAYING OUT LATER THAN 9"( YEA 9 AT 18)Then phone.. Id phone and she would say get home now! Its such a pain in the rear end..No I didnt want to rebel but in the end I did, No I didnt want to upset my mum but in the end I did..
Yes I lost b/fs because of this, Seriously hunny its no bloody joke. If you can try and get away for a weekend or a holiday, I used to say I was staying at a friends house in the end not honest but its the only thing that I could do, Lucky for me my friends mother was understanding and said "oh its fine I dont mind" It really is hard having an over protective parent as you dont grow like your more independent friends. Talk to her in a good way about this love as Im sure she get very frustrated...TAKE CARE LOTS OF LUCK AND LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 6 months, first ever serious relationship, 22 and 19, both virgins... lol sorry i'm taking notes as i scroll down.
so you don't want to have sex but you want more intimacy? first off, has she asked her grandmother for a later curfew? i'm 19 and my curfew is around 3 in the morning, and i spend nights whenever i want. i think if she is comfortable with the idea she should have the "i'm a legal adult now" conversation with gma.
if that doesn't work out, why not go on day trips? pretend to live together for a day? have a movie day?
sex, cuddling, getting closer doesn't only happen at night!
ps it's not taboo to be a virgin at 22. just rare.
good luck!
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