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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:There is this man I work with and have been really attracted to for months now.I could tell he liked me too because he always wanted to be around me, watched me constantly and always looked over when making little jokes or talking to someone else,etc, he was literally bumping into me and brushing against me as well.He has defended me in group situations before and blushes all the time around me profusely.He flirts playfully with other girls at work, but never with me, he is totally different with me.The problem I have is that one day he is quite intense and obvious, strong eye contact and watching my mouth a lot, I feel we could have kissed on many occasions, but then another day he acts really distant and I feel that I have been imagining things. I also have a feeling that he likes another girl at work as well whom he flirts playfully with .I have seen him watching her and it is quite obvious she likes him too. I do feel that he has been wanting to talk about things, maybe ask me out or for my number, but does not know how to.I can't bring myself to approach him about it because something just keeps stopping me, I suppose I am feeling that I am being played by him, and maybe the other girl is too, I just don't know.I'm not used to all these games and it's driving me mad to the point where it's affecting how I feel at work.I won't ask him for his number, or offer mine as I won't allow myself to be made a fool of.Do any of you think this is what he is doing or am I over analysing things and he really does like me too??
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reader, SillyB  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 first, read the book "he's just not that into you". YOu're already doing the right thing by NOT asking him out.
He sounds like he likes you, but on some days plays it cool or distances himself to make himself cool down. Thats what I've done in the past - created a little distance, to stop myself from getting carried away.
At any rate, as mentioned in the book, if a guy likes you he will ask you out himself. Don't chase him. If he truly has an interest in you for dating he won't be able to help himself, he will ask you out at some point. Till then, be polite and sweet as usual, but do NOT ask him out.
If it never happens, well then he just didn't like you enough to actually ask. Good luck!
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