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female
age
30-35,
*ecebaby
writes:My boyfriend is becoming a jerk. Hes getting on facebook a lot changing his password and talking to some of his exes. Im not mad at all about it but hes lieing to me when i ask. I dont know if this is a sign but im scared to find out. I confronted hm and he turned everything around on me . I am confused hurt and ready to say goodbye . Weve been going out for 10 months almost 11 and the first couple of months were great. We got used to each other starting having sex and hes only my 2nd sex partner. Then after that we starting arguing a lot it got bad we hit each other. Now all we do is argue no more hitting but we dont stop fighting Hes hurting my heart more and more each day but in his own little way he does things that make me forget whay im mad at him i dont know what to do im scared of losing him but is the good days worth going through the bad ones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): when has it ever been acceptable for a boyfriend & girlfriend to hit each other?
take a step back & look at the mess your in.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 Hello. No the good days arent worth the bad days. If he lies to you and hits you and hes sneaky on FB and talking to his ex's, then hes not worth the bother. You say you have been with him for ten months but only the first couple of months were good. Thats not goodctime. Every day would be good if you were with the right person. Dont put up with second rate. Can you honestly see yourself still with him like he is in say, 5 years? It would be a nightmare The longer you stay with him the more damage it will do to you, until you cant trust a guy any more and violence becomes normal to you. I would leave him to his FB and find yourself a nicer boyfriend x
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reader, Dekten  +, writes (9 June 2010):
This is only going to get worse.
The only option is to get on with your life, as painful as it is going to be at first.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 June 2010):
I think the jerk in him is far bigger than the good man in him. Best to move on now, before you get hurt.
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reader, chiggy  +, writes (9 June 2010):
Leave him dear,that's the best you can do,never let a person hurt you. Adios for him girl!!
You got to be strong!
All the best! :)
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reader, SillyB +, writes (9 June 2010):
 You have to be a strong girl and do the right thing for you. Whenever a person makes you uncomfortable, upset, anxious, distrustful, etc - it signifies that your internal boundaries are being pushed. Whenever that happens, listen to you 'gut' (those feelings) and do what is the best thing for you.
A happy relationship is one that makes you feel happy, trusting, open and loved. Once you feel negative feelings more than 25% of the time in a relationship, you know its time to respect yourself and walk away.
good luck! be strong! You are young, have no children or ties to this boy...think about yourself ;)
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